Question for Virgo Ladies

this is my first post on this site and it seems pretty interesting so i thought i would get some opinions on my situation. long story short i am a cancer man who was with a virgo lady for a year and a half but were friends for 5 years before we started dating. she had just come out of a divorce and the first year was great then we started having communication issues the last five months. she wasn't sure if she wanted to be in a serious relationship and might want to date other people so we broke up. she then called me back and we got back together and this happened off and on a few times which totally frustrated me. the straw that broke the camel's back was that she gave me the silent treatment one day we were suppose to hang out and i was so tired and frustrated that i broke up with her. we did not speak for a month then i sent her an email apologizing and we made our peace but have since gone our seperate ways but she did say in her email that maybe we could have a beer sometime and maybe look back and laugh at this and she still does care for me. i still think we are good together and that it was just timing and bad communication that broke us apart. ok and also her indecision as to what she wanted. so maybe my story wasn't short but now my question to you virgo ladies is do yall ever come back or do yall just cut ties if it is not working and move on?

cansir .. I'm not a Virgo lady, but, I can tell you that what you wrote is moving WAAAAAAYYYYYYY too fast for a Virgo .. from her perspective, it likely hasn't even gotten started, much less an end.

Cansir Hi, and Welcome. We are of course, all different. It will depend on where her heart is as to wether she will, as you say "come back". To me, when she said maybe you two could have a beer, it sounds pretty much like she is cutting the romantic ties. (sorry 😢 ) She may have got together too soon on the rebound from divorce. I know I got together with someone quickly after a break-up of a long relationship. I should have waited though because when I realised it wasn't REALLY what I wanted, I ended up hurting someone who cared alot for me. She seems to care for you and want to remain friends. I can only speak for myself, but I would not leave someone, to date others, if I was that into the guy. The only times I have "come back" is if there was a bad fight that split us or it wasn't my choice in the first place. I think she wants to be friends with you though and thats all. Good luck.

Virgo ladies can move too fast if someone is pushing too hard. If someone comes on really strong,we might hook-up, and then find a way out later. I have actually gome out with someone to keep from hurting their feelings. It doesn't work that way tho. It ends up hurting them worse. (In My younger/greener years)lol.

all thanks for your replies and jwalker as much as i don't want to admit it you might have hit the nail on the head. i guess it will just take time to see where it goes and who knows we might have a friendship again.

I hope you do have a friendship...I Love my cancer friends 🙂

after her divorce i was trying to take it slow and was very patient with her but then she starting having doubts about rushing into a relationship and dating others to make sure that is what she wanted since she was married for a while. i never knew what she was thinking or feeling so as a cancer i put my guard up so i wouldn't be hurt and the communication just stopped. i guess rebound might be a good word.

thanks jwalker, you posts have given me a lot of insight.

do virgo ladies ever come back just for sex?

oh.you stopped communicating...blah .not good. We tend to keep so much inside. We don't like to appear vulnerable. Like we could stand alone (and we can for some time) without any helping hand or understanding ears. I guess that's pride. We want to be strong and independant, and unfortunately that leads to poor communication. (We know that certain people, when they find your weak spot, hammer away at that when it's opportune for them) so we protect those jewels. Gawd I can't say how many times I have decided to trust my intimate thoughts with someone I trusted, and had those thoughts/feelings used against me later. I am just starting to realise that my fear of being WEAK in an area IS the real weakness. The fear all by itself is what gives them ammo. I digress (SORRY). Anywayz;P, just putting out some female virg attitude!

that was sposed to be anywayz 😛

Not this one...I'm sure some do tho.

i totally understand since i am the same. i hate to feel vulnerable. so in your opinion when the time is right do you think she will contanct me or should i make the first move? i don't want to seem pushy or needy by contacting her.

I have given it serious thought on occassion, but no.

i guess i am just feeling bad cause i know we were good for each other but it wasn't until recently that i started to finally see her true personality. i should have taken things slower and i should have not let my emotions get in the way. i guess just a lot more understanding of how she is.

Well, you COULD call her up and keep it casual. Go out for wings and beer at a sports pub or you know, something low pressure, and just get caught up with each other. I think you should be able to tell if a spark was still there. I get kind of electrifide around someone I'm interested in. Don't show it outwardly as much as some, but it comes out of me kind of like a microwave LOL!

Sweetheart, that's what relationships are all about. Finding out who each other is and where they are coming from. So much more than just initial attraction. The people that stay together for a long time, fought for the relationship against alot of odds. Things get tough sometimes. That's where the sex gets put aside and the compassion and understanding take first place. When you get the two of them together, then wow, you've found something!

i did ask her to dinner before i found out she had gone out on some dates. i told her she gave me the answer i was looking for so now my friends are telling me to stay away and give it time. we both said we didn't want to be around if either decided to date other people so it is hard. she did seem interested in going but it was easter weekend and she had family coming into town.

Oh yeah and we Virgos WILL grow on you !(kinda like that pretty mold you get on a potted plant) 😉

i don't want to give up on us but i also don't want to push her away.

i told my friend that i have never felt this way about anyone before. i told him she has cast a spell on me cause i can't figure out why i am so hung up on her.

r there any other good boards for like this one to just talk about us?

Well...it's NOT easter week-end anymore. Try again! I do have another peice of advice Cansir. Don't be sarcastic and flippant when you are dealing with your feelings. Be simply true to yourself. People say nasty things when they are hurt, and I know a crab just like that, and he only made matters worse, because to a Virgo that's like a child telling mommy they hate her because they didn't get their way.

caprigirl what do you mean?

i just hope i have not caused to much damage cause i did hold in a lot of feelings and when i got upset i would say things and then she thought that was how i felt about her. so now she probably has this resentment or feeling that i don't highly of her.

I mean I would like to know about more boards like this with new/additional people with opinions/questions about virgos and in fact all signs..

caprigirl, this is my first post here and i just seemed to hit it off with my new virgo friend jwalker so i am not sure. i do know of other boards that deal with relationships but not strictly astrolgy signs. if you would like more insight on a cancer man then i might be able to help you. so ask away.

ok sounds like you have the dirt on us cancers already 🙂

good question about guys being so angry. if i only knew myself then i might not be in this position but i am learning to control the negative emotions and that is when it hit me about what i had done in the relationship and what i need to fix about myself.

Yeah..I guess that's what I mean.. Virgo's can recall what you said to them the 1st Sunday of March 2001, and it reverberates like yesterday. Apologies have to be sincere and expressed. If you said some wrong things in the heat of the moment (she probably did too), get it off of you. Even if you are to be just friends, you need a good closure on the past.

That's not to say that she may not owe YOU an apology as well.

March 2001,??

They can remember things from past life if yiu said them any thing!! :-)

The thing is they do not remember what they told to others but not the other way around!! It's a perfect (im)balance!

:-)

yeah she does have a good memory and so do i. so do you think an apologetic letter or should i call her up? i am thinking a letter since i can get my ideas out more on paper than by saying it. so do yall hold a grudge or normally how long does it take to get over something?

yeah no offense jwalker but she did seem to have a lot of double standards. i couldn't do things but she could.

against us!

I have no problem with cancers they are just moody and

very emotional.

so caprigirl, i am not to clear so you are saying to send an apologetic letter?

yes i would have to agree with your assesment of cancers. we are like that as i am getting older i am trying to not be as moody and to control my emotions a lot more.

Wrong on insensitive. Really! Very Very Sensitive. We just don't let it show easily. Like I said, to let someone know just HOW sensitive we are takes mucho trusto. The Achiles heel if you will. That's OUR secret. We only want you to know that if it's SAFE for us. (Which it never is haha). Sooooooo. I may be guilty of the double standard thing. I have caught myself, and try to correct it. I tie myself to the whippin' post more than anybody else does it TO me. So when YOU bring it up, it's shining a light on a WEAKNESS OH GAWD FORBID (that I know I already have) BUT YOU'RE NOT SUPPOSED TO KNOW! LOL!!

so caprigirl, i am not to clear so you are saying to send an apologetic letter?
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I generally do not write sorry letters.
Any ways sorry should be said in person /by call. These has emotional and logical reasons. That's how I think. Others obviously can thing otherwise.

yeah again i learned the hard way about the double standard thing 🙂

NoW Capgirl we are insensitive AND game players? HMMMMMMMM trying to get us Virgs riled up huh? Oh well...No games here. Just a horse of a different color.

see cansir - the last IMPLICIT post from jwalker being subtle? It's a headache if we have to analyze evry thing on a daily basis with BORING virgos...

:-))))

yeah i understand caprigirl but i am not sure if i am ready for any type of rejection so i was thinking of a letter. i know the chicken way out.

come on ladies yall know i am a cancer and hate confrontation

unless i am upset or in a bad mood..haha

Are you sure you are not hooked tp a SCORPIO with the black and white thingy? By the way that would be Palamino. Now IMPLICITLY. I adore ALL SHADES of GREY!!! 😛


CANSIR: CALL HER!!

I am just playing Cansir. Not confrontational, BUT I'm SURE CAPGIRL WON'T agree hehehe 🙂

caprigirl, can you please write that letter for me seeing how you know how to handle these virgos better than i..just kidding.