Speak Up Plz

I have a september virgo guy friend and he told me that he likes me and wants to go out wit me etc but he wont say he his opinion about anything and when i asked him about it he says he has nothing to say. I just want to hear how feels about things and seems to be not that opionated why is this? Can any of you virgo males help me with this?

Can you figure it out by yourself..??... I mean it is your responsibility to know what the hell is going on with your relationship?. right..??

If you cant do it by yourself.. its better to leave the damn thing?

I asked him shouldn't that be enough Qbone

"I asked him shouldn't that be enough Qbone"


No?. you got to show him what you mean and how you mean? asking..(talking ) is not enough

Ok so how do i go about doing that

And forgive this psycho pussycat (Kris)?! He's been raped by a Virgo woman?? !

Ok so how do i go about doing that

I wish I could help you with it?I don?t know.. its your relationship and your private love affair, you know much better than anyone else?

Brahn

Maybe you can help me

I am totally shocked that a Virgo has no opinion?

I have never met a more opinionated sign in all my life. Very odd.

This would frustrate me right out the door.

And Kris..get a life. Your comments are always so IDIOTIC

Help

Help66

He is very opionated *but* he like talk about his feelings i have to keep buggin him about his feelings for me. *It does frustrate me cuz i just want him to know that he can talk to me i guess it is that scorpio moon that makes him kind of secertive.
This is his chart

sun= virgo
asc= ?/ think that its capricorn
moon scorpio
venus aries
jupiter=virgo
mercury=pisces

My chart

sun=pisces
asc=leo
moon=capricorn
vens=aries
mercury=pisces

Brahn

I know that i am young but i also know that the way i think is beyond my years. I know that he likes me, or so he says, but anyways, why do men do that i mean why don't you just say what you feel i have basically poured my heart out to him and i want him to do the same, tell me, is that too much too ask?

:O you shouldn't be dating yet, men are evil... keep that in mind. anything and everything, "guilty until proven innocent" 😛

if he's not talking maybe it's just disinterest... most of us earth signs are that way including the virgos. find someone who's interested orrrrr more interesting lol

*don't believe everything they tell you UNLESS it's bad (they don't lie about bad)
*don't pour your heart out. there really is no use in it unless it's serious and circumstances require it etc.
*don't insist on making him talk, he'll either LIE or RUN
*let things be and don't get too involved

he must be young too, likes you and wants a girlfriend. nothing complicated there. maybe with time he'll open up.

This makes me sad 😢

BG3434,

Find a common denominator, something you both can talk about together. Do you have classes together? If he's attracted to you there must be something substantial there. Even the young ones don't like to waste their time on a girl they are not interested. Or, just ask point blank what drew him to you? Slow and steady though. My VirGuy ascendent is also in Capricorn which make him very ambitious and will most likely put his interests ahead of the relationship. So, be prepared NOT to be the center of his Universe, but a close orbiting planet.

He told me that he likes that i keep things interesting and that i am a cool person. We don't have classes together he is like 2 years going on 3 years older

No, don't be sad. I wasn't referring to him specifically just thought I'd throw out some junk on the male species as a whole 😛 I get nervous when young ones start talking about relationships lol I feel like their is some basic stuff that should be stuck in the back of their mind 🙂 My little brother is 14 and I talk to him about EVERYTHING, I started pounding his little brain with info and insight ever since he started talking. And to this day he comes to me with any concern he's had or has. Geeeeeeeeez some of the stuff is like WOW I just keep my cool lol You'd be amazed at the ton of stuff I've had to set straight... you'd never imagine just how totally wrong you can be at that age. I myself don't see it until my lil' bro surprises me with some very serious question, from serious to not so important... surprisingly he's very smart too lol Just needs a lil' insight sometimes.

Anywhooooo, babygurl...It's not complicated, really isn't. He already said he likes you, my point is that you shouldn't pressure him into talking. I think he'll come out of his shell on his own. Just takes time. As to him not having an opinion on anyyything, maybe he just isn't interested in the same things you are (so far). As you get to know each other you'll find some common interests and communication will get easier. No sweat, don't worry... things just need to evolve on their own 🙂 So stop worrying!


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Thanks tauruschic 🙂

BG3434

BG3434,

Tauruschic has sage advice. Just remember, take it slow, learn to learn and be patience, don't rush into anything you're not comfortable with.

Thank you to catfish i will try to remember what you guys said because i can get caught up in the moment

You're not alone.

babygurl3434 - "why do men do that i mean why don't you just say what you feel i have basically poured my heart out to him and i want him to do the same, tell me, is that too much too ask?"

Yes, that is too much to ask. He's male, not female. You pour your heart out and expect the same in return. Men don't do that. They aren't emotional like females and to expect him to behave as a female is asking too much.


babygurl3434 - "I know that i am young but i also know that the way i think is beyond my years" That's not apparant, for a woman, verses a child, would understand that the male does NOT respond the same as a female when it comes to the heart. If you want to believe that your thinking is beyond your 13 years, then come to the realization that men (boys, in your case), not only don't like pouring their heart out, but will also shrug off a female who is too sappy.

I'm not saying that men can't be sweet and emotional, because they can, and do. What I am saying is that you are expecting him to behave as you would, you are expecting him to sit and just let all his feelings out for you. You said that you just liked each other, like isn't enough. You'll understand all this when you grow up.

He's a BOY - not a girl.

P-Angel

I understand what you are saying about boys but I just want him to know that I am there if he needs to talk about anything. I want him to open up to me so that i can get a better understanding of how he thinks and feels. That way he knows that he is not alone because i tend to be a very deep person and it is hard for me to talk to others because i know that they wouldn't understand. And I know that i would like someone to talk to and i want to offer him something that i don't have. He makes me smile when i am sad and i want the same for him.

BG3434

Don't worry Babygurl he knows, Don't push him to talk it will only make him uncomfortable. Reserve your comments until he comes to you ready to talk and ready to hear what you have to say. Men respond better to communciation if you let them lead when they are ready. He will appreciate that you have backed off and it will make him come forward.

BG3434,

I understand about you wanting him to know that you are there for him. I'm a Pisces too, and one of the main aspects about us is that we feel a need to let the whole world know that we will drop whatever we are doing if we encounter suffering in any form. We are always there for him, no matter what. That's apart of who we are. However, males don't process feelings the same as girls. If you get too sappy with him, and push him too hard on opening up - he'll run away from you. It's not that men don't feel, because they absolutely do. They just aren't as comfortable with verbalizing sentiment like females are. And anyone, you, me, him, anyone will run away when we aren't comfortable.

One of the biggest problems I've noticed over the years with the male/female union, is that the other expects them to behave different from their gender. Men do the same to us everyday, they say, "What'ya crying for?" And sometimes will get quite irritated because we are so emotional. They don't comprehend that we have to cry to find release in all the troubles of this world. The tears wash away our doubt, our confusion, our frustration - everything. They don't understand this, anymore than the female understands that the male can't just babble about their feelings.

The age-old curse: Can't live with them, can't live without them

Thanx 25thDecan! And I luv anyone who luvs Taurus Chics! 😛

babygurl, you could try by making him KNOW WITHOUT A SHADOW OF A DOUBT that he can trust you. He has an opinion if I know Virgo males, (I AM ONE!) He just needs to know you VALUE his opinions, and find them IMPORTANT. He needs to feel that you luv him even if he says something dumb....he thinks he'll be criticized unfailingly, and it will make him do the worst thing in the world...cry. If he's like me he dosen't want to show his emotions becuase he's afraid of the SENSITIVITY, and VULNERABILITY YOU COULD BRING OUT IN HIM. I am... but as a pisces if you are, you can bring out that side, you can revolutionize his life. Take him look him deep in the eyes and tell him he is of value to you, tell him he mean something to you, he may pull away at first, but just smile softly, and he may melt or wait, then melt later on sometime...HANG IN THERE BABYGURL HE'S WORTH IT!!!.