Are Virgo men sexuallyl inept?

I just recently started dating my first Virgo (I'm a Taurus). He told me one night that he is a sexual person and that sex is important to him, yadda

I've never had good sex with a Virgo.......and I've had maybe 3. I dont think being good in bed is their strong point. They are pretty good with foreplay, but the actual act itself is lacking.

houstonpeach74: What is wrong with being a sexual person?

He says he has got the libido of an 18 year old (we're both 31). Our conversation got a little steamy about some of the things he's done with his ex girlfriend of 7 years.

That brings up another question: are Virgos faithful or should I be concerned he might stray?

Never said anything was wrong with being sexual. I'm very sexual, but everything I've read about Virgo contradicts what he's saying...

Some people will tell you that Virgo's are faithful and the ones I have been with were but other's will tell you that they aren't. Both of the ones I knew were very sexual but they were private about it. When they are comfortable with you they will try new things. Some Virgo's like to brag just to make themselves look more appealing. How long have you known him?

But, I'm a Sag and my sex drive was always higher than theirs and I'm in my 30's and the two that I dated where in their 30's too.

I've known him for about 6 months, but we recently starting dating about a month ago. I'm just out of a relationship and so is he. But it just seems to me that he's still playing the field. He dated his last serious girlfriend off and on for over 7 years, then dated two girls both for about month, then we started hanging out and dating. So part of me thinks I'm part of the rebound phase although he says he's over his serious girlfriend. When I asked him why he stopped dating those other 2 girls, he said it was because he realized soon that neither were the ONE. I've read that Virgos are generally the committed type, but he also said that he needs to know early on if he's sexually compatible with someone...I don't know, what to do, what to do...

I would be careful because it sounds like he may still be playing the field. I would take it slow with him if you really like him otherwise I would move on because he probably isn't ready to settle down yet (If that is what you are looking for then go for it) but if you want more than I would probably just be his friend and see what develops.

That's what I was thinking, too. He told me that he joined eharmony to find himself someone to settle down with, but then when he started talking about these sexual fantasies, it made me wonder why he joined a site like eharmony. I also think he's just not sure what he's looking for and like most of us, figure it out when it hits us in the face!

He swears he's over her and the relationship was over before they broke up. He's a pilot and was only seeing her once a month for the last 4 or 5 months of their relationship. He tried to date her a bit when he moved here to Houston, but HE decided (not a mutual thing) that they needed to end it. I personally dont' see how he carried on a long distance relationship that long.

I would be worried about him being a pilot because he travels all over the place. I once dated a Flight Attendant (not a Virgo) and I found out later that he was dating a lot of women in different cities.

No matter what you do don't try to measure yourself up to what he has already done with other women. Be confident with yourself because if you feel that you have to measure up to that then you will never be happy.

I asked him if he had connections or hook ups in other cities, and he said NO. He said that he's faithful to fault. He likes sex but with one person at a time. He's called me almost every night that he's been flying, tells me his schedule, has even had me get into the Continental Pilot portal and search for his schedules for him...so I don't think he's seeing other people.

But you're right about measuringup. I don't think I'm worried about that, but just fighting with my Taurus intuition and over-analyzation. LOL

I would give it more time since it has only been a month because he only dated the others for about a month. If he sticks around longer then that is a good sign but don't set yourself up for getting hurt. I think most Virgo Men do like to have sex with only one women at a time because they are faithful usually but if he is insecure then I would be careful.

The last Virgo Male I dated used to text me every day about 5 times a day at least for the first 3 months and we saw each other at least 4 to 5 times a week. He was so sweet and attentive to my needs. Then, nothing. He started not returning my calls and would dissapear and wanted to be left alone. The weird thing is that we never, ever fought. We were getting along so well. He told me later that he doesn't want to date anyone right now. Well, I guess he could of told me that at the beginning.

Yes, he could have!

I've been reading all of these posts about Virgo men and I must say that I'm leary about jumping into anything with him, although the charts say that the Virgo/Taurus combination is very compatible. Too many people have shared what they have gone through with the VirGuy and although it's been a short time, I've seen some of these characterisitcs in him already! Yikes...

I'll wait it out - I'm not ready to be married, but I definitely don't want to be led on either!

You know your Virguy the best and I would go with your instincts. About all the post on here well, I think everyone here is looking for answers too because they have gone through so many issues with Virgo Men but, the ones that are happy will most likely not be on these boards so, you don't get to hear about the good relationships with them only the confused ones. There are a few people on here to give you better understanding of how some of them operate but you can only learn from your own experience.

I had dated an Aqua before and the charts say that Sag/Aqua are very compatible but it was a very difficult relationship. So, don't always believe the charts either. Just be cautious until his actions truely show that he wants to be with you for more than a few months. Get to know him if you really like him and see where it goes.

Thanks for the awesome advice, Sweethearts!

Your welcome, I hope it helps. Maybe some other's on here will come around later and give their opinions too. I know we are all trying to figure things out here and we need to apply them to our own relationships the way we feel fit but, there is a lot of good advice on here from a lot of different people and I think it helps us understand more about a certain sign but not about the overall person. Only you can do that.

**** Our conversation got a little steamy about some of the things he's done with his ex girlfriend of 7 years.

This would axe him in my opinion. That is private information. This man has no discretion. What he did to her, he will do to you.

**** but he also said that he needs to know early on if he's sexually compatible with someone...I don't know, what to do, what to do...

This is such a line. He is a player and manipulating/guilting you into sex too soon.

This is not a good guy.

Branh0913 and Dyrstr8Z have good insight since they are Virgo Males and different types of opinions too. Branh0913 is the younger one who can give you more insight on the immature virgos and he is sweet but can be a little trouble maker because he likes to put contraversal questions out there for people just to see how them react and boy do they react but, I think he has a lot of good qualities about him and will give an honest opinion. Dyrstr8Z is the older one who has probably been through the immature stage already and can give you insight on a mature virgo which I don't think that is what you are dealing with but he has experience on his side and has helped many of the people on here.

We haven't had sex, nor am I ready. I told him this. He responded with "I'm OK with that, but hopefully I won't have to wait 2 or 3 months". I definitely prefer someone with more substance than having sex on the brain. I did tell him that I will not be his private sex goddess. Also told him that just because he's saying that he needs to know if he's sexually compatible with someone early on doesn't mean I'm going to bite my nails and worry that he'll drop me like a hot potato just because I don't give in early. At that point, he said that he's more interested in me now than before...could it be because I've just given him a chance for a chase? LOL

Thanks, but I do plan to do a little teasing - give him an idea of what he MIGHT get 😉

That's the Taurus in me I suppose.

Ldybg377: I think Branh is just misunderstood by some. He actually has some great insight and is not to intentionally out to start a reaction. WE CHOOSE how we react to people.

I know Branh has some great insight and I wasn't putting him down. Yes, we do choose how we react to things but he likes to put a bug in someones ear just to see how it plays out and of course we play. (If that makes sense)🙂

Houston: I think he will respect you more if you wait and which in return you will respect yourself more. If he decides he doesn't want to be with you because of not having sex right away then you know for sure that he wasn't worth it....

Ldybg377: Ok, I agree to disagree with you 🙂 I wasn't blaming Branh for anything just giving my opinion and it was not meant as a negative thing which apparently you see that it was. I think we are all responsible for the way we react to whatever anyone does.

**Perhaps he has caused something in oneself to get uncomfortable about oneself**

Not at all...I like his feedback because he is straight forward about his opinions and doesn't care what everyone thinks...

He didn't see these girls simultaneously - he dated one for about 3 weeks and decided that she wasn't someone he was in tune with. The other one he dated for about a month after a 2 month break from dating anyone.

I don't plan on sleeping with him; as I mentioned, I think I'll do a bit of teasing...just give him a taste of something he MIGHT get.

Yes, we're pretty groovy, huh?

Well he did use those exact words to me a last week, that he was trying to "feel me out" because he was not getting a vibe that I was intested in him. I've invited him to go to 3 Astros baseball games, 2 movies, and a concert - if i wasn't interested, why would I invite him?

what subject could he be trying to get information on that's not related to sex? I don't understand that comment.

Are VirGuy's controlling and do they like to manipulate situations?

Here's why I ask:

He just called me and I couldn't talk at the moment so I asked if I could call him back. He seemed put off by it, but he said "Yeeeeaahhh, suuure." So I did call him back in about 15 minutes. Well it seemed like I was doing ALL of the talking, so I came up with an excuse to get off the phone, but he again felt put off that I was ending the phone call. Do VirGuy's play this game of this often? He was so chipper with me until I asked if I could call him back, then you got the Eyore voice.

Earlier this week, I invited him to go the an Astros game this Saturday and he said he'd like to go. My friend thinks that he is going to control the situation by calling me at the last minute and telling me that something's come up and that he won't be going. She thinks he'll be manipulative that once he breaks these plans, he'll come to me on his terms with something that's HIS idea. Thoughts anyone?

Strings... itsa wonder where u come up with this material..Truly priceless!
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Hey, Strings. I totally agree with you. He hasn't done much to be controlling of me. But my personality is the No-BS type and I call it and say it as it is.

He hasn't cancelled any plans yet, but like I mentioned, my friend thinks he will. I'm not sure. Just by reading someo of the posts, it seems like Virgos are the HARDEST people to understand.

Any advice you can give to help me keep my Taurus hot air from rising with this VirGuy is definitely appreciative.