Telling a Virgo how you feel? Good or bad idea?

I hate being impatient! Is impatience a Cap thing? Gah!

Anyway, now that that's out of the way... My virguy keeps going hot and cold on me and I'm trying not to get frustrated and I'm trying to just go with the flow, but it's tough. I have a nice excuse to go out with him this week because my friends gave me 1st row tickets to a sporting event and if he's not busy that night I know he'll accept (he's accepted every invitation from me so far). Since we met completely by chance in the office elevator I was thinking of saying something towards the end of the evening like 'I'm really glad I caught that elevator with you' to let him know that I like him and am happy with him, but I don't know if that's too soon or if that's a good move to pull with a Virgo; as in, if I should wait until he says something first or if I should just try to go out with him more first. Would it help if I wait until he sees me in a bikini first? :p (we live in FL and we both like beach/ocean stuff, so it's a possible outing for January)

I'm a virgal going out with a capguy... he complains about my hot/cold moods all the time!
We've been together nearly two years now, so I dont think you should let that aspect of his personality get to you...
Just be yourself and and say whatever you feel is appropriate to say... it wont affect anything if he likes you.

You should mention the elevator situation. He remembers it as clear as day but he probably doesn't want to say anything as he might feel it would be too soon to "reminisce". Don't take it the wrong way, its NOT a Virgo thing, just a guy thing. :p

What exactly are you in a rush for, is what you gotta sit down and figure out. Is it a rush for him to be as excited as you are? If so, then what?

Also, I read where you complained about him not initiating. You are setting him up to where he never will, as you will always do it. Thats fine if you are not bothered by it, but you are.

I personally think you should relax. Part of the process of actually enjoying him is also enjoying the amount of time he takes, and how he moves when he's interested. I dont think your impatience is allowing you to see how he pursues, or what he does. If you fear that he wont step up if you step back, then thats not something to ignore.

Posted by lnana04
What exactly are you in a rush for, is what you gotta sit down and figure out. Is it a rush for him to be as excited as you are? If so, then what?

Also, I read where you complained about him not initiating. You are setting him up to where he never will, as you will always do it. Thats fine if you are not bothered by it, but you are.

I personally think you should relax. Part of the process of actually enjoying him is also enjoying the amount of time he takes, and how he moves when he's interested. I dont think your impatience is allowing you to see how he pursues, or what he does. If you fear that he wont step up if you step back, then thats not something to ignore.

With everything in life (not just people), if I get excited about it then I want to learn everything about it. Like, when I got into Game of Thrones I ended up reading all the books, reading interviews with the author, reading internet blogs about people's interpretations of it, etc. I dunno, when I get into something (or someone) I love learning more about it (or them).

I just don't know how much of an initiator he is, period. We connected on FB this weekend and his wall is full of comments from people saying things like 'hey, I miss you', or 'we should get together', or 'call me'. Hell, whenever I ask him what he did over the weekend he either spent time alone or says he got invited/called to do something.

I think once we caps set our sights on something we are gung ho to achieve our goals. That said, once we decide we like/want/love someone we can get impatient waiting for them to realize they like/want/love us too! lol!

Be a little more subtle and let him take the lead some. It might be fustrating, but probably worth the fustration. And when he does stip up, it will verify for you that he likes you back.

About the tickets, go ahead and ask him. You've got a deadline before the event to find a date! lol! Do it in a cute way, adorable way that he won't forget.

Yeah, I'm terrible about goals in that sense - once they're in sight, I go for them no matter what. Not just in love, but in work and studies as well.

Trust me, I'm *trying* to chill, I swear! It's probably a bad combination of lack of business at work and my hobby activities slowing down (both due to time of year) and my mind being less occupied. Just to make it worse, my boss denied my vacation request for Christmas months ago so guess who gets to spend x-mas alone? Yeeeaaah, that doesn't help 😢

Ok, quick conclusion to this mini-saga...

I was taking what everyone said into consideration and thought, nahh, I'll just invite my friend to the game and not contact him for a bit. I guess fate wasn't sufficiently happy with that decision and decided that the post office carrier would have to deliver a letter addressed to him in my mailbox. Great. I wait 'til the end of the day and head over, thinking I'll just give him the letter and that's it, but he very happily engages me in conversation. He apologizes for not having called recently and I play it off like it's no big deal and we talk for a bit. At that point I'm like 'what the hell, why not?' and ask him if he wants to join me for the game. He says yes before I even finish my sentence but immediately hesitates and pulls up the calendar on his computer. I glance over and see a dreaded 'busy' block for tomorrow evening; apparently there's a big company dinner about one of their products that he can't miss. I just smile and tell him it's ok, but as I'm about to leave he stops me and tells me that next time I have tickets again that he'd love to go. I tell him that if I gets tickets again I'll let him know.

So, not the answer I was hoping for, but if I get tix again I'll try him again. For now, me and my best friend are going to go and enjoy the game 🙂

I think I'll take it easy with him. He doesn't seem to be in any rush, so I'll just keep using these opportunities to let us continue to get to know each other better and do some fun activities in the process (and let him see me in a damn bikini!)