The Virgo man and gift giving - is this typical?

Yesterday (Friday) I received a gift from the object of my affection (V male 44). In the late afternoon he walked up to me as I'm standing at our receptionist's desk (in front of our receptionist) and hands me a card; it was a gift certificate for a vegan (which I try to be) restaurant in the amount of my lucky number (which I had told him about the previous day). I was stunned. I've totally memorized the look on his face when he handed it to me, and the look he gave me as he walked away. This feels like a good thing (progress), but before I read too much into it I'm wondering if this was simply a kind gesture given it was in response to a token of appreciation (a piece of the most amazing chocolate cheesecake with homemade whipped cream) I bestowed upon him the day before (when I handed it to him I said it was "For all you do," since he's our IT guy). Are Virgo men just nice, thoughtful guys in general? My dad and brother are both Virgos (and great men) and I'm trying to decide if this is something they would ordinarily do as a response to a gift of cheesecake.

P.S. A few weeks ago I was able to tell V-guy my husband and I filed for divorce; he asked me a question that was a perfect segue. He's not so "shy" anymore, if anything now I'm the one who's nervous and shy.

"a kind gesture given it was in response to a token of appreciation .. I bestowed upon him the day before"

Before you bestowed this gift upon him, had he ever given you a gift before? If not, then I would say that the restaurant present was just being curteous.

If you didn't have a crush on him, would have bestowed this gift on him the day before?

This sounds to me like you're reading more into it than it is. That's not to say that he isn't fond of you .. however, if you give a person a gift and then they feel obliged to give one back, then you can't then make this gesture more than what it is .. which is having good manners.

Yes, he has good manners and is kind, that's why I asked. I had a feeling I was reading more into it. As for giving him the gift if I didn't have the crush, yes, I would have anyway. He's been a big help to me and he's not the first person I've thanked with baked goods, only the first to reciprocate.

So let me get this right... he helped you out with something-so you brought him in homemade goodies to say thanks. Technically-you would have been even, right? Then he goes and brings you in a GC from your favorite place in the amount of your favorite number—

That is a very nice, above and beyond gift. Who gives another gift in response to a thank you gift— That could go on and on forever. A nice note would have been fine. This shows that he likes you.It also shows that he listened to you and remembered those little details.

Well....let me see if I have this right. You brought the Virgo gentlemanin some homebaked goodies because he did something for you at work. And then in return....he brings you a GC from a favorite place in a number that is your favorite number— First-you were 'even' after you gave him the dessert. It was a thank you for a job he did for you. He could have responded w/a note but really nothing was necessary at that point (If it were you both would still be trying to thank each other!).

His gesture tells me that he definitely likes you. He went out of his way to remember the store you liked as well as a trivial fact about your fav. #. Very sweet gesture. Sounds like a nice guy : ) Good Luck!!!

Sorry for the double post. I thought I lost the first!!!

Hi CC- Yes, you got it right, his gift was in response to my thank you gift, and totally unnecessary, which is why it caught me completely off guard. The amount and the restaurant was totally thoughtful too, especially since he likes to get me going regarding my reasons for not eating meat. Thanks for giving me hope. 🙂

What you have to question is ...

... IF you had not given him a gift in the first place, then WOULD he have given you the restuarant one. If the answer is NO, if he has never given you gift like this before .. then his so doing is likely just being thoughtful because you were.

To say that the reason why you gave him a gift was as a "thank you", is pretty illogical, since he's the IT man and it's his JOB to assist you with technical issues.

You like him, so therefore you want it mean more ... and there's nothing wrong with wanting it to mean more .. but, if you allow yourself to be blinded by a gesture of plain curtesy, then you might go and do something "forward" that might later regret.

I see your point P-A, but whenever anyone goes above and beyond on my behalf, work or not, I like to say thank you with special baked goods (I give what I like, what can I say). I do this with my assistant and co-workers as a way of saying ?I really appreciate your extra effort.? V-guy has been my biggest ally recently and I wanted to acknowledge the effort he's made to streamline my job. In all my years I have never received anything in response to such a thank you gift, nor would I expect to, we're ?even? as Confused Cancer pointed out. I was especially surprised because I never would have expected such a response from a male co-worker (female maybe), much less one I fancy. This is why I asked if this is typical of Virgo men? I think I could see my dad making such a kind gesture and I'd ask him if he were alive. I can't say I could see my brother doing such a thing, and I'd ask him, but I haven't mentioned my crush to anyone since the divorce is not final. So, I find myself back at the DXP.

Ok...another thought on this.

First...how in the world could you know if he would have given you the gift IF you hadn't given him the baked goodies? If I remember, didn't you say that things were progressing some with him? He may have taken note of the place you mentioned you liked and was looking for the perfect time to give it.

The Virgo man I see is not extremely romantic-but he doesn't miss a thing. When I mentioned I hated to run in my fleece jacket-he sent me 3 different nylon ones with a note to try them all and keep the one(s) I liked. He will take my car and fill it, when he runs to get coffee in the a.m., will send books by the box full if I talk about something I think is interesting that I just heard etc...I love that he listens to me and his gifts reflect his thoughtfulness. It sounds like your guy at work has a very sweet streak in him as well : ).

"I love that he listens to me"

This is the single greatest things about this man (well, this and the eye contact are probably tied), he remembers things I've said that I barely remember mentioning and he's always curious. After being married to someone who barely noticed if I chopped all my hair off (which I did a few years ago), it's nice to be around someone who takes note of the smallest things. Even if this was nothing more than a kind gesture, I'm happy; he made my weekend. As for the sweet streak, I'm seeing it and I love it. I hope it lasts. You're a lucky woman CC. Thank you for the words of encouragement. 🙂

Hi ma'am,

I can't vouch for the guy in question, but speaking for myself I absolutely put effort and thought into something I'm giving a gal I'm chasing or am with. Thinking back to some of the posts in the V-forum, one of the things mentioned was that V-guys tend to "show" their affections towards you by their actions rather than words. Part of that is thoughtfulness in what we give our chic. If I was giving just a thank you gift to a co-worker, I don't think I would of put thought into the details like that guy did.

To put it in perspective, I've literally spent the last month and a half putting together the details and perfecting the gifts I'm giving to my chic for Christmas. And its not necessarily about it being the most expensive thing out there either as much as making sure I've put thought into her tastes, things she's said she likes, and still trying to surprise her as well... basically details that I hope she's going to dig and know that I just didn't grab the quickest shiny thing from the mall, slapped down my CC, and rushed back to watch football and down beers with my buds.

Hi Starfish and VirgoHero,
Your posts made my evening. 🙂 VH- I've read about virgos "showing" their affection and this was my father to a T. He would've done anything in the world for my mom (also a virgo), and now that I think about it, I honestly can't remember ever hearing him tell her he loved her (yikes!), BUT! he'd move mountains for her. As for my V-guy, I guess only time will tell. I'll continue to trust my instincts and follow my heart. I have no choice, he captivates me.