To All Women Interested in Virgo Males...

Almost all women interested in a virguy suffer from the virgic yo-yo treatment. And we all know that it is human nature to want what you can't have. So my question is, is your interest in the virguy based on real factors of attraction or is it just that we get more and more interested in them, in some obsessional way, because they are hard to get?

Hard to get doesn't seem to be a problem with me .. I attract them like a magnet. I guess because I'm put things in opposition and it gives them something to sort out, which of course, they LOVE to do.

However, you do have an excellent point. At first, there is attraction to them for their physical characteristics .. then once you bed them, you're like .. ok, was it good for me? lol

But, does anybody make a decision based off of one experience (besides b) .. no, so we begin to look at the person inside. We realize then that there is much more to this person, than just his eyes, or whatever the attraction was. Once we comprehend that they are incredible people (other than sexual prowess), we do become obsessed because a "F" we can find anywhere .. a real man is much more difficult to capture.

Unfortunately, likely because of our programming, be base our initial opinion on the person's sexuality .. this is screwed up and we shouldn't do it, but, we do.

The V is much more than that ..

This yo-yo treatment, I really don't get from my Virgo. I certainly understand it's there and most other people get it from them .. but, I really don't, for the most part.

My Virgo, as much problems as we have, and he ignores a lot that he shouldn't .. he doesn't pull away from me, from his perspective .. perhaps, from mine .. but, he's not me, he's him and from where he stands and how he processes things .. he doesn't back away from me.

lol, yeah, that's why the only thing you can compare to is ONE woman in your whole life and you're what?

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Can't say I've noticed any yo yo method with the Virgo guys I know..they seem pretty straight forward folk..

Bran: "I may take some time to myself, or I may be concerned a lot with work which makes me unavaiable. I do, however let people know that I will be unavailable."

Yep thats true..they do that..

I have to agree .. when my Virgo needs time away .. he doesn't just abandon me, he tells me what's going on. People make it sound like he just vanishes off the side of the earth. Seriously, I think the problem is more that these women just want attention all the time and when the Virgo needs space, they freak out and say it's a yo-yo.

So, he needs time and space .. why's that so difficult to comprehend and accept?

P-angel, at least in my case, there is no real relationship yet. And most women complaining about the yo-yo are in some similar situation. It's not that I want attention all the time. I am trying my best to start a new relationship, but the virgo acts inconsistent. I told him twice that he was confusing me and I was giving up on him. That's exactly when he starts acting more interested and he always blames his busy-ness.

In a relationship, I do understand one's need of alone time. As a crab, I need that myself - you know some time in my shell.

Yeah, I know about the crab's shell ... I have my own, it's called dream-world.

FFV, it takes a long, long, long time for Virgo's .. most people run out of patience before the V is finished contemplating, unfortunatley.

I am surprised that I am still patient with him... I didn't know I had such a big adundance of patience! LOL!

LOL @ Shaka

branh, thanks for the comments. It was a good reality check for me.

On the one hand, there is my logic, saying that this guy and I might not be the best match exactly because of the things you say. On the other hand, there are my instincts, which say that once this weird initial step is over, everything is going to be real good. For some reason, I can't seem to move on... Maybe it's because I'm clingy by my crabby nature. I don't know. I guess I am afraid that by moving on I will lose something that has a chance of developing into a very fulfilling relationship and I will regret my decision later.

Branh, I am afraid you might be right... I'll think about what you say?

Ok, what do I like about him...

I like that he acts modestly. Where we work, everyone has enormous egos and it makes me sick when people compete over the smallest things. He is not like that. He is accomplishing stuff with his work, but he never shows off. Again, this is rare in our profession.

He is VERY intellectual. Whenever we have chats, we end up discussing philosophy, social sciences, movies, etc. And I am very much turned on by intelligence.

The few times we spent alone, he was very sweet and warm. He tried to make me feel comfortable with him and was pretty good at that! He was pretty romantic, too.

He is a gentleman. He is very polite to everyone. People usually think he is very cold, but once they start to know him, he is very friendly. I like the fact that he is reserved. And he is not flirting with just anybody!

He has a very good sense of humor.

Well, these are the things that come to my mind for now...

Bran: "I am a Virgo who loves to stay busy, and I have no problem going to work on-call at the drop of a hat. But, if I really like someone, I'll give them a call, if only to speak for 5 minutes. I'll leave them a text message occassionally, or shoot them an email."

COOL..I got myself a good virgo then!..woohoo

"No woman is interested in me"'

oh, i don't know about that

ive come to the conclusion that if someone likes you they will get it across some way or another,....when they're just playing games that also becomes clear i.e.,when i find myself pouring over other peoples posts, posting my own posts, trying to get answers as to y this person is confusing me, a real man worth the time wouldn't confuse u.....im not confused anymore, im annoyed at myself, angry that i fell for a guy i already knew had his own agenda, and stupid for still liking him rite now.....and to top it off i keep drunk texting him at 3am like an idiot lol he probably thinks im an idiot rrrrrrrr......

this is my two cents..... Virgos pursue, run away, get close, need space... not because they are not into you, but becuz they are into you.... and they are AFRAID of their feelings/emotions that you have stirred up in them..

we are talking here of people in the beginning of a relationship whether that is first few months or years.... we are not talking about people in a 20-year marriage -- that is why you haven't experienced that P.... you married him after 3 months, right? so yeah, you didn't date for 3 years and deal with the push-me pull-me type of relationship....

and branh -- you even admitted yourself -- 'i text occasionally' -- occasionally is the key word.... when someone txts you - they expect a response -- not a response two days or two weeks later.... it's like WTF? why do you need to analyze it for so long?

I have come to the conclusion that VIRGOS are ALL ALIKE... they all seem to be attractive, intelligent, good sense of humour, kinda shy/modest, but can be fun, etc.... but responsibility/job/committment will ALWAYS come first...

OMG libra lis i just read your last post here.... that was me exactly.... hating myself for liking him, while he was trying to 'cool things off' txting him or leaving him drunk voice mails at 2 am telling him i like him, want him or whatever... i thank god did stop that... but it took awhile...

i know don't you just want to kick yourself in the ass and say WTF are you doing—?

no, i don't mean that... i wouldn't respect a man who didn't work and have some ambition.... i mean they can even use that as excuse tho....

and with my situation it was his 'other life' that came first, which of course, i didn't blame him or judge him for.... but did expect him to make some time for me....

another quality virgos seem to bave in common is an unreasonable? worry over money

ohh puhleez, if you only knew me..... farthest thing from my background -- i have worked my Ass off for EVERYTHING in my life.... and i have achieved ALOT but all out of my own determination, perseverance, intelligence and hard work....

anyway, i know about hard work, excellent work ethic, etc., that's me....

i am just talking about my situation and you don't know what that is -- my experience with a Virgo, can't go into all that detail....

it's just that he pursued me and when i responded and the feelings got too heavy, he had to 'cool things off' (i.e., if i can't leave her i have to stay and lie in my bed and 'work on it') but he didn't really.... anyway... so it gets to a point where you were in love, but he 'can't do it anymore' .....

so now you can judge me for what a horrible person i am.... whatever, i'm over it

lindawin YES ive been kickn myself allllllll day....i woke up this afternoon lookd at my phone and wanted to die....this is what i txt "U.....make me want u.?" im like whats the question mark for..lol....im beyond mortified today and i hope he's not thnk geeez this girl is crazy....do u think it's a good idea to lay low for a week or so and not take his call IF he does call?

damn br...that pretty much sums everything all up.....

Gosh ladies I relate so well to all you have been posting... But figuring out a Virgo man has been so hard that I am just about given up!

Whether he is a Virgo or not, I am of the position, that if my man was really interested in me, he would make the true effort to show it, So no more games of pull-push for me!

Tutto finito...

NEXXXT! (my trade mark meaning I am ready to get this Virgo man out of my life and find a man that can really show me he cares without all the B.S.)

Here I am wondering, will I really let it go?

Linda, I have read so much about your saga with your Virgo man, that I hope I can learn from your experiences and let my Virgo man really go, but as Scorpios we are, uffffffff so intense, that sometimes even though we know better, we still continue to push it forward. I hope I won't.

Wish me luck! 😛

I personally think this is the best advice Bran has ever given on Virgo relaionships etc and also Notso..

LOL @ Notso..Yeah he made good and fair points..

Excellent post notso!

It should be a sticky on ALL the boards for all of us ladies who come in here wondering about that Aries/Taurus/Gemini/Cancer/Leo/Virgo/Libra/Scorpio/etc. guy who doesn't seem to like us/want us/want the same thing we want.

Of course if that happened, there would be like what, 3 posts here? 😛

right on notso,

I believe it very much. I also feel that a man is the one to make the most important move which is scary as hell but a must all the same.

I believe a real woman cannot do anything. She must wait to see if her man makes the move because as men we will take it for granted if the woman makes the initial move first. Its just to easy that way for men.

I believe in the order of things and feel most people have forgotten about this.

aloha & mahalo.

mauicountry

"I personally think this is the best advice Branh has given..."

Me, too, Miss Morals.

He sounded..well..almost human...

*bleep bleep*

He gave an excellent breakdown of the virgo guy..true 100% ..and Notso explained how a female should be like in relationships..brilliant..

Them two should get married, wouldn't you say Eaglegirl?

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I didn't come off as some commando psycho.... it was MUTUAL and he pursued me at first.... i'm just saying.... too long/too much to go into.... after it got intense and i think we both 'fell in love' (we are both in other relationships -that's what i meant about the judging, but anyway).... he basically said we had to cool it down becuz he wasn't going to leave his wife.... he wanted to keep me in his life but on his schedule, his rules, if i overstepped the 'rules' like contacted him by txt or phone or email one time too many or pushed to see him... then he would get upset and say don't contact me anymore....

so now Escorpiona I AM DONE as well!! I mean i am fabulous... WTF am i doing pursuing a guy who says don't contact me further.... FORGET IT... it hurts cuz i know he's saying that cuz it's too emotional too many feelings for him -- he can't do 'relationship' with me and have 'other life'.... but yeah, it hurts and its hard, but i have to think of my own pride and dignity....

anyway LL -- yeah, you wake up the next morning and just want to die of embarassment... but that's what drives you crazy -- at one point they liked it and used to respond.... then they don't but WE CONTINUE to send it trying to get them 'back' into the way it was.... it drives you crazy.... and i don't think they are worth it.... but yes, LAY LOW for awhile... don't txt him or anything...

i am not going to contact Virgo any further.... i am going to get over him.... already on my way.....

you need to not judge others when you don't know all facts, all their life, all their story.... I NEVER SAID I DIDN"T FEEL BAD -- i just didn't get into all that -- i came on this site only a month or so ago just to discuss Virgos and all their virgoness.... i know it was wrong -- but you don't know my life or his life so you have no room to judge....

I have no time either for people who cheat. And women who allow themselves to be in that situation..Then ask why the guy is not giving them 100% ..why do you bloody well think!!!

I know you're already on your way to overcome this, linda .. and I think talking in here about how your emotions are working through all this has helped you. It helps me a lot, too. It would be one thing to judge someone if this was the first time you've posted about this situation, but, for people who have been hear listening to how you have processed different viewpoints to help pull you through .. I thank you for everything you've helped me with and I hope some things that I have to say, have helped you too.

You can do this, you know you can .. does it hurt? Yes, but, you've decided that you're doing the right thing in walking away .. and if it's right for you, then it's the right thing to do .. period.

I wouldn't worry too much about Branh .. he's not really here. He made his point perfectly clear that he no longer talks to people about relationships .. so, to keep him honest to true to himself .. ignore.

Make sure you have a bucket load of patience then because you sure are going to need it. However, it's a worthwhile experience and one you'll never truly forget.

I'd have to agree with you honeycoe .. Taurus is too sensual for thier own needs and desires, Virgo's seem to lack this passionate sensuality altogether .. complete opposites. Whereas the Cappy is evenly distributed. They have it in abundance and desire to give to their partners.

Being a Capricorn can I just say all Earth signs (Virgo, Taurus, Capricorn) rock in their own unique ways, and it sure takes one to know one.....

lol, notso ..

nobody wants to take me on .. I'm too wise for them .. I win everytime, lol

Just kidding ..

So, how is your girlfriend? You had to take her to the hospital the other night. Is she ok?

Oh, an allergic reaction .. that's easily resolved with meds .. I'm glad she's ok, or will be once they figure her blood situation out.

lol, Dyr .. you're so funny.

Actually, there are a lot of Pisces in this community .. however, I'm the only one who posts regularly .. so, let's see .. that would mean that all the other ladies who agreed with me would NOT be fish-girls .. but, that's ok ..

You may continue ..........

Rant away ... although, I figured you would be too tired.

thank you P-angel for your kind words and wisdom.... yes, i am doing better and feeling better, it's hard, but i know i will survive and be stronger for it all...

bran, brandon is it? i think you are probably an intelligent, younger man, but please don't judge people based on your small world of morals and life experience...

until you and all of you have been through a 20-year marriage, unhappiness, loneliness or whatever other circumstances, you can't judge....

i mean you can do whatever you like, but i have my own morals and values and judgments for myself... we all have to face God at the end and he is the Ultimate Judge... not you or notso - how dare you say they should all be thrown in some pit, i think until you've walked in someone else's shoes for awhile (a year maybe) don't even start to throw that first stone.

but whatever, i won't bother you anymore...

I figure since two guys are with an Aries & Scorpio Girls then that's where they are getting their passion. They seem to think that they have passion since their partners are giving it to them?

aloha

anyways, passion is mostly misunderstood by people who think of it in a superficial manner. Passion comes from way down deep. where virgos don't like to go. So.
hmm...

This isn't true. I have had two very long term relationships with Virgo men. Neither of them did this yo yo treatment. They were very consitent in their attention and affection up until the end. Near the end one of them did do the yo yo thing but the other never did, even in the end.

ya if they're so yo-yo'e (lol) i think its because they just arent thaaat interested but don't want to drop u all togehter....lately thats what im startin to think...

OOH GIRL YES.....the last time i saw my friend he said UR NEEDY HUH? i was like waaaaaaaaaaat EXCUSE ME—? because ive totally done nothing to show my needy side... i was shocked when he said that.....all because i told him to put his carmex on my lips for me...i was going to do it myself but he didn't want me to make a mark on it w/my nails....so im needy how?? I HAAAAAAAAATE THISSSS wish i woulda never met him 😢

Another one?

I'm thinking that we need and DESERVE a forum all for ourselves . . there's so many of us now and we grow everyday.

You're not alone, Stuck .. if that's any consolation.

"It's like we are all dating the same man in some way" lol, that's both funny and scarry at the same time.

Charmers?

Tanya .. what you smoking? The impression I get from women in here, these men are quite the opposite .. charming would be nice .. where did you find one of those?

Well, if you found a male Virgo that hasn't left you feeling blaaaahhhhhhh and dejected, then I suggest you snatch ahold and don't let go because he's rare.