Virgo guy

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I met a Virgo guy online. He added me on Facebook. We talked and got along pretty well. He then asked me for my number and we talked on the phone. We are in two different places (due to our work scenario) but we come from the same hometown.

So both of us were open.. he said he wants to settle down and I said me too. One night he got pretty drunk after a party and told me he really likes me and I found it very endearing. And I told him I like him opening upto me. And a few days later he told me he loves me. It caught me by surprise.. because we had been talking for a few days and I told him I wasn't ready to say it. He got distant when I said that. I felt bad so I told him I loved him too.

We decided to meet a few days later. And it was pretty nice. We kissed and made out.. which was not what I wanted. I wanted to give myself some time but he was being very aggressive and I gave in..

He then told me we could get married and continue a long distance marriage. I wasn't expecting that. And I did not respond properly after that. I told him I needed time to figure things out.. he was patient at first but then he said we should end it and go our own ways.

We had a fight after that.. I was angry because I felt I was being pushed. And he was not addressing the issue of us living apart as he said after marriage.

We decided to talk about things.

Then the next day I don't pick his call because I was busy and he demands why I didn't pick his call. I wasn't expecting that.

It was not like him.

I ended things there. Told him he wanted us to live alone after marriage but I don't want to live like that. He was surprised at first but then agreed if there is no solution then there is no need to continue.

I felt sad but said goodbye. The next day he had blocked me on facebook. Don't know if he blocked my number. But I don't think he had.

I still think of him. My friend asked him what happened.. and he said that I didn't want to live alone and that I had ended it.

I felt that wasn't the whole truth. But I haven't bothered him since.

I don't understand why he was okay with us living separately after marriage.

He would get angry if I don't call him sometimes.

And sometimes I felt like he didn't want to talk to me.

He's a virgo. I'm a leo. Any clarity would be appreciated.
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Posted by Goodmorning
Posted by Weeds
Damn that's a good plan!



A good plan if you don't really want to get married? click to expand
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Compromising the dual nature of virgo.

One half being the forever loner.

The other half wanting to share a life with someone.

I think it's a good plan but I don't see many women being up to the idea... or even lasting in such a situation.
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Posted by Weeds
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Posted by Weeds
Damn that's a good plan!





A good plan if you don't really want to get married? click to expand



Compromising the dual nature of virgo.
One half being the forever loner.
The other half wanting to share a life with someone.
I think it's a good plan but I don't see many women being up to the idea... or even lasting in such a situation. click to expand
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Yeah. I thought he was just being ignorant. Sad to know that might not be it.
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Posted by Weeds
Posted by Goodmorning
Posted by Weeds
Damn that's a good plan!





A good plan if you don't really want to get married? click to expand



Compromising the dual nature of virgo.
One half being the forever loner.
The other half wanting to share a life with someone.
I think it's a good plan but I don't see many women being up to the idea... or even lasting in such a situation. click to expand
click to expand

I thought the whole point of marriage is to stay together.. Maybe he is more of a free spirit than I thought he was.
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Posted by LostinmyMind11
You knew him a couple of days and he was already telling you that he loves you and wants to get married—



ummm...you dodge a hella of a bullet...be thankful!!
Yeah. To be specific we were talking for a few days.. he said he loved me... then two months later we meet and he has decided he wants us to get married.

I then told him I needed time.... and he flipped out.

And we are working in two different places and he wants us to continue working in these 2 places... while we get a court marriage. And he said he would come to meet me every 3 months.

He did say he wanted me to move where he was... but when I said I wanted him to move where I am... which is closer to our home... he said he couldn't.

It all seemed a bit rushed. I needed time.

And then he basically yelled at me for not picking my phone.
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Posted by LostinmyMind11
You knew him a couple of days and he was already telling you that he loves you and wants to get married—



ummm...you dodge a hella of a bullet...be thankful!!



Yeah. To be specific we were talking for a few days.. he said he loved me... then two months later we meet and he has decided he wants us to get married.



I then told him I needed time.... and he flipped out.



And we are working in two different places and he wants us to continue working in these 2 places... while we get a court marriage. And he said he would come to meet me every 3 months.



He did say he wanted me to move where he was... but when I said I wanted him to move where I am... which is closer to our home... he said he couldn't.



It all seemed a bit rushed. I needed time.



And then he basically yelled at me for not picking my phone. click to expand
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Still way toooooo soon for any of that....

my comment still stands...you dodged a bullet on this one...