virgo just up and vanished

Hi all, my first time posting, yes, it's long but I am not sure how to shorten what it is I am trying to convey here... thank you in advance to all who read and reply to this...

My Virgo man has been so loving and gentle with me, we have been dating for about 3 months, things have been really heating up in the bedroom (he and I are both Virgos and kinky is our middle name).
lots of passion and loving moments had been happening between us. He was always so attentive, and kind, caring, sweet and generous.
We've had some good laughs together since he stayed, and he has been opening up to me. Slowly.
We were both booked to stay in a hotel in the city together this weekend, we were both packed, ready to go, but when it came time, he took my suitcase out of the boot of his car and I started to cry, I was upset we weren't going, and also that earlier that day he had snapped at me in the cinema for laughing too loudly (the movie was Dumb and Dumber To, so how could I not lol? he lol'd)
I was quiet on the way home, but when he took my suitcase out of his car boot, i cried. He was so loving, and looked sorry for it, his eyes softened at me, and he grabbed me and pulled me in tight to his chest, kissing my forehead, very lovingly for a few minutes, then he said I (me)needed to rest, pulled away and headed for the door, he said he was going home cos he wanted to.
I got more upset and said that that was wrong, he couldn't just leave when i am clearly upset like that, and he told me not to talk to him that way.
As he got into his car, I cried out "typical guy, f**k me and run" (which i have profusely apologized to him for and didn't mean, it was purely reactive and i make no excuses for it)
he said, no that's not what is happening here and drove off, no goodbye.

Its been three days since I have heard from him and this event occurred, he even blocked me on Facebook and i cannot dial his number as i just get a disconnection tone.
he hasn't replied to my email or text, but i haven't sent too many, just a few, I don't want to bug him.

Will he come back? its odd behavior to me and I am a Virgo like him. I am Virgo sun/Scorpio Ascendant/Libra moon.. Im not sure of what other alignments are in his chart, although he is doing a very Pisces disappearing act... i've seen them do that before.

Do Virgo men return? and why did he disappear like that? how could he be so loving and gentle and then run?

I have no inclination or intuition that its another woman, n

my intuition says he is running scared of his feelings.. what i wanted to know was, will he come back? and why exactly would he run from how he feels.. I get it make and female Virgos are somewhat different in expressing their emotions, but this complete disappearing act just has me worried something is going on inside of him he just cannot express at all...
All thoughts and advice on this would be greatly appreciated thank you 🙂

Typical Virgo man. when they get emotions involved, they run. Emotions scare the hell out of them and they can't deal.

There are zillions of threads about this same thing on here and other sites. If you want a good education on VM, read this and see if you
can see parallels in this compared to your VM.

BTW, do they come back? apparently they do when they need sex or realize they lost a good woman. but it seems most don't. they live in their heads and are often married to themselves.

http://www.keen.com/CommunityServer/UserBlogPosts/MsLisaM/Virgo-Men/624707.aspx#comments

reading that just makes me sad...
*sigh

Your post made no sense. It looks like you copied and pasted a bit twice.

WHY did he take your bags out of the car? What was the reason for that and you guys not going to the hotel?

i have no idea!

and yeah, i wrote it out, and then copied it because the first time i wrote it all out, I lost it from accidently opening a new link..

So are you going to answer the unanswered questions? Still trying to comprehend what's going on here...

sorry bout the "messiness" of my post

unanswered questions?

geez... not alot of positive things written anywhere about Virgo men...
Until he disappeared, he was very sweet, kind, very generous and helpful.

I just hope whatever is going through his mind, he is ok.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Your post made no sense. It looks like you copied and pasted a bit twice.

WHY did he take your bags out of the car? What was the reason for that and you guys not going to the hotel?

This. It jumps from being all loving and laughing to the bags being removed from the car. He didn't say anything at all between planning a hotel stay and removing your bags from his car? Un hun....

Posted by jodiemaree

I was quiet on the way home, but when he took my suitcase out of his car boot, i cried. He was so loving, and looked sorry for it, his eyes softened at me, and he grabbed me and pulled me in tight to his chest, kissing my forehead, very lovingly for a few minutes, then he said I (me)needed to rest, pulled away and headed for the door, he said he was going home cos he wanted to.

^^^This seems like a scripted scene from a Harlequinn romance novel.^^^^^

A few questions?
1) Was this an exclusive relationship?
2) Was this a long distance relationship?

I don't know the entire story, because something about the introduction to your story presents itself like a 'dreamlike sonnet',(a little bit too over-romanticized) but there were a few subtle factors that were obvious. Giving further insight to his true character.

1. I didn't see the point in him snapping at you because you were laughing at a comedy.
2. The fact that you were obviously upset that he offered no explanation as to why there was a sudden change in plans was justifiable, and he quietly shut you up by telling you not to speak to him like that.
3. Deleting you from FB was a bitch move.

My intuition tells me he was waiting for little excuses to cut you off, felt bad about it, but needed you to feel guilty for it instead.

Move on and count your losses. There are plenty of real men out there that will offer you real love, and not the fake fantasy world-wind romance you have encountered.

Why would you want a douche like him to come back? 3 months and you are petting, breathing hard, having kinky sex and planning a wedding while all he wanted was some pussy and got it...HE didn't want anymore and decided to move on because you seem like a clinger...Don't confuse his disappearing with him liking you. If he was always so attentive, and kind, caring, sweet and generous he would not have taken your suitcase out of the trunk, kissed you on the FOREHEAD and tossed your ass out like a piece of garbage. Let him go...no one should be treated as such.

My intuition tells me he was waiting for little excuses to cut you off, felt bad about it, but needed you to feel guilty for it instead.

Move on and count your losses. There are plenty of real men out there that will offer you real love, and not the fake fantasy world-wind romance you have encountered.

^^^^^^^

Yup!

Have encountered enough of them on a personal level to know they often have major issues including:

Often FAKE...lots of Insecurity, lying, cheating, self absorbed, manipulators, betrayers, often alcoholics, loners, sociopaths and married to themselves....
they will use you and make you believe they appreciate and love you, then turn on you faster than a venomous snake. they are experts at pulling in women then cutting them off.

FIND a real man. A man who knows who is is, what he wants and loves you for you and not some illusion he makes up in his head that he wants YOU to live up to. there is NO happy with these guys. it's something they rarely find.

Yup, what the last three members posted. All good points well made.

It's just not the behaviour from a proper man. His mother and father should be ashamed of him.

Planning a wedding? hell no! YIKES!
(and my style of writing is allover the place, im new to this thing)

and you are all right... I now believe I have been played.
I wont go asking why do men do this etc etc, wrong blog for that I guess.

but thanks everyone for your replies.

planning a wedding? hell no! YIKES!

I guess I got played after all.

Omg is English your second language? Do you know how to use a keyboard??

I'm getting frustrated trying to even UNDERSTAND wtf you're saying. Cannot give any input if it cannot be comprehended what you're saying. :/

Your story isn't adding up. Sounds like you're leaving out details to play the martyr. Why would he just take your shit out of his car for NO REASON at all? Doesn't make sense.

Posted by jodiemaree
my intuition says he is running scared of his feelings..

Your intuition is wrong this time Hun. That's NOT it at all.

Sounds like a burst of a buildup of resentment and he ran in the other direction, don't wait around on this one. Why would you.. what he did was so rude! For the sake of your heart Thank God he left you now and not on your wedding day, doesn't sound like that wedding planning was mutual. Don't give it up so soon next time. Virgo men rarely come back if they don't have true feelings for you, they don't like to play around.

Posted by jodiemaree
Planning a wedding? hell no! YIKES!
(and my style of writing is allover the place, im new to this thing)

and you are all right... I now believe I have been played.
I wont go asking why do men do this etc etc, wrong blog for that I guess.

but thanks everyone for your replies.

You may not want to admit that in your mind you already had the both of you walking down an isle..at three months you should still be enjoying each others company while keeping your options open and enjoying life. You already called him MY virgo. staking claim on a man while still dating is red flags about yourself. Whatever really went on for your sake take a moment and love yourself first before looking for another to love you.

"My Virgo man has been so loving and gentle with me, we have been dating for about 3 months, things have been really heating up in the bedroom (he and I are both Virgos and kinky is our middle name).
lots of passion and loving moments had been happening between us. He was always so attentive, and kind, caring, sweet and generous.
We've had some good laughs together since he stayed, and he has been opening up to me. Slowly."

Posted by jodiemaree

but when it came time, he took my suitcase out of the boot of his car and I started to cry, I was upset we weren't going, and also that earlier that day he had snapped at me in the cinema for laughing too loudly (the movie was Dumb and Dumber To, so how could I not lol? he lol'd)
I was quiet on the way home, but when he took my suitcase out of his car boot, i cried. n

A virgo won't go cold on a woman he cares about because she laughed too loud at a movie intended to be comedy.

You are leaving out the MAJOR part that enticed him to remove your luggage. Until you share that with us...your thread makes no sense at all other than you wanting to play the role of VICTIM.

...and others obliging to your cries.

Virgo's vanished to me at the site of boredom. Mostly all virgo's I know personally have told me that. I also do it because of boredom guess its a trait that won't ever leave.