Virgo Man/Aries Woman

Hello you lovely Virgos! I've been dating a Virgo guy for about 9 months. He is very charming. We have great chemistry and the sex is great! We communicate all day and it's always fun, light-hearted and sweet. I really appreciate how attentive he is with checking in with me and hanging out when we can. Neither of us have cars and he lives about an hour and a half from me.

So here's what I'm concerned about.... when he opens up, it's very rare but I give him my full attention. I've never met anyone in his life. No friend or family. He says that he cares for me a lot but he's slow to develop feelings of love. Am I just being foolish sticking around or is this typical Virgo behavior? He has a Capricorn moon which I think adds to his inability to move quickly the way that I'm accustomed to.

Interestingly enough, when we were having ups and downs, both of us starting talking to other people but wound up back together again. He made it clear that he’s not interested in dating anyone else. He just wants to spend time with me. I just can’t figure out if he’s just passing the time and this is really going nowhere. I’m so confused.

Posted by starwars
yes they are very slow at developing love, and that cap moon wont help lol! I think its what he has told you, if youre having fun then keep doing it. good luck

Thanks for replying! I will just keep having fun with my Virgo!

How do you mean? I like the idea that we split and could have gone out separate ways but just couldn't get enough of each other. Maybe that's my dreamer side looking for the fantasy. Please explain what you mean. I'm all ears. 🙂 I've never been with a Virgo until now so this is new territory for me.

Posted by wateryram
How do you mean? I like the idea that we split and could have gone out separate ways but just couldn't get enough of each other. Maybe that's my dreamer side looking for the fantasy. Please explain what you mean. I'm all ears. 🙂 I've never been with a Virgo until now so this is new territory for me.

The way you wrote it originally, made it sound like your first course of action (as soon as you hit a rough patch) was to run to another, instead of dealing with the issues in a healthy/mature fashion...

Just a guess as to why she said that.

As an aries, i'm pretty surprised that you're that patient with him. I guess virgos can be really charming as i'm involved with one who disappeared on me. We aries usually wants things fast and i'm really bossy. I would already be pushing him for a commitment. I guess it's not the dreamy part but more of a flirty part. Aries loves attention and we do flirt well. I like the idea of him only talking to me but at the same time i love talking to many people too (but i am VERY faithful)... Honestly i agree with TaureanVirgo, when you hit a rough patch, you shouldn't take flight to others, instead you should solve it in a mature way, communication.

Yes! You are both right. My reaction was to run and move on when I realized things weren't moving at a pace I was familiar with AND he wasn't communicating his feelings. I'm not sure if that hiccup will make or break us but I think we need to talk more about what we want. I'm very up front about my feelings but he only really opens up when I get so frustrated that I want to walk away.

On another note, he does not run or disappear. He's very attentive. It's rare that we go a day without talking. He initiates daily communication before I even get a chance to. I guess he's still waiting to completely open up.

Thank you all for your input.

Posted by wateryram

Neither of us have cars ....

What the hell?

So, what ... you ride a donkey to the grocery store?

Maybe your thoughts should be focused on getting out of the inner city .... you know, a place where people drive cars.

Posted by wateryram

He just wants to spend time with me. I just can’t figure out if he’s just passing the time and this is really going nowhere.

Clarify, "going nowhere" ..... because so far you've stated that he's charming, he's attentive, he's always fun, sweet, sex is great.

Oh, I get it .. you're looking for drama. You're looking for what is wrong. So, if your time is ruined here, or anywhere, it is because you looked for your life experiences to be bad.

If a person wants to spend time with you, then of course they are passing time with you .. that is spending time, time passes.

It seems apparent to me that you have expectations on him, in how he is suppose to express himself to you, because like I said, thus far, he's been a very good boyfriend, according to what you wrote. You don't seem to appreciate HIS way of showing you care. You have a lot to be thankful for with the one you have, he sounds really nice.

People find what they look for. You will no doubt find failure, since this is what you seek.

I do have a Pisces moon. We did talk just now and he said he doesn't want to be in a relationship so I guess that's that. Thanks again for your thoughts and opinions. I think I am doomed to just be single. I can't get this relationship thing right.

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by wateryram

Neither of us have cars ....

What the hell?

So, what ... you ride a donkey to the grocery store?

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Lol no I shop for groceries every couple of days. It's light enough to carry and keeps me in shape.

Posted by wateryram
Yes! You are both right. My reaction was to run and move on when I realized things weren't moving at a pace I was familiar with AND he wasn't communicating his feelings. I'm not sure if that hiccup will make or break us but I think we need to talk more about what we want. I'm very up front about my feelings but he only really opens up when I get so frustrated that I want to walk away.

Yes virgo drives us crazy. I knew exactly that i HAVE to run because i am not happy with the pace but i was stuck... Virgo can be so bad at communicating feelings and they are very secretive. I feel like there is no right or wrong but it depends on what we want. If you want more and he's this way, it wouldn't work out as it might cause resentment in you. I am very upfront about my feelings and confessed my feelings to him. I think they do appreciate but they don't express it at all and it also frustrate me to the point of leaving. But like what you said, he's been really active with his communication by talking to you daily. They show love in a different way and if you feel like you can't handle it, i think it;s time to talk to him.

I know what are your worries and we aries can be really impulsive at times. But again they say virgo is the one of the most faithful sign and they will be worth it in the end... if you can tolerate their shits haha!

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by wateryram

He just wants to spend time with me. I just can’t figure out if he’s just passing the time and this is really going nowhere.

Clarify, "going nowhere" ..... because so far you've stated that he's charming, he's attentive, he's always fun, sweet, sex is great.

Oh, I get it .. you're looking for drama. You're looking for what is wrong. So, if your time is ruined here, or anywhere, it is because you looked for your life experiences to be bad.

If a person wants to spend time with you, then of course they are passing time with you .. that is spending time, time passes.

It seems apparent to me that you have expectations on him, in how he is suppose to express himself to you, because like I said, thus far, he's been a very good boyfriend, according to what you wrote. You don't seem to appreciate HIS way of showing you care. You have a lot to be thankful for with the one you have, he sounds really nice.

People find what they look for. You will no doubt find failure, since this is what you seek.

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Maybe you're right. I don't know. It was very hard for me to come on here and even ask this. I honestly don't like drama. I just like to know what I'm getting myself into. I guess that's what you mean? I'm setting expectations and I shouldn't?

Posted by kitkatleen

Posted by wateryram
Yes! You are both right. My reaction was to run and move on when I realized things weren't moving at a pace I was familiar with AND he wasn't communicating his feelings. I'm not sure if that hiccup will make or break us but I think we need to talk more about what we want. I'm very up front about my feelings but he only really opens up when I get so frustrated that I want to walk away.

Yes virgo drives us crazy. I knew exactly that i HAVE to run because i am not happy with the pace but i was stuck... Virgo can be so bad at communicating feelings and they are very secretive. I feel like there is no right or wrong but it depends on what we want. If you want more and he's this way, it wouldn't work out as it might cause resentment in you. I am very upfront about my feelings and confessed my feelings to him. I think they do appreciate but they don't express it at all and it also frustrate me to the point of leaving. But like what you said, he's been really active with his communication by talking to you daily. They show love in a different way and if you feel like you can't handle it, i think it;s time to talk to him.

I know what are your worries and we aries can be really impulsive at times. But again they say virgo is the one of the most faithful sign and they will be worth it in the end... if you can tolerate their shits haha!

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Interestingly enough, he told me about not wanting to settle down and be serious unprompted. I thought he was just calling to say goodnight. He said he still wants to see me but he's afraid that if someone else wants his attention, he'll give it to them. That's enough for me to be walk away feeling ok about things.

Posted by wateryram

Posted by kitkatleen

Posted by wateryram
Yes! You are both right. My reaction was to run and move on when I realized things weren't moving at a pace I was familiar with AND he wasn't communicating his feelings. I'm not sure if that hiccup will make or break us but I think we need to talk more about what we want. I'm very up front about my feelings but he only really opens up when I get so frustrated that I want to walk away.

Yes virgo drives us crazy. I knew exactly that i HAVE to run because i am not happy with the pace but i was stuck... Virgo can be so bad at communicating feelings and they are very secretive. I feel like there is no right or wrong but it depends on what we want. If you want more and he's this way, it wouldn't work out as it might cause resentment in you. I am very upfront about my feelings and confessed my feelings to him. I think they do appreciate but they don't express it at all and it also frustrate me to the point of leaving. But like what you said, he's been really active with his communication by talking to you daily. They show love in a different way and if you feel like you can't handle it, i think it;s time to talk to him.

I know what are your worries and we aries can be really impulsive at times. But again they say virgo is the one of the most faithful sign and they will be worth it in the end... if you can tolerate their shits haha!

Interestingly enough, he told me about not wanting to settle down and be serious unprompted. I thought he was just calling to say goodnight. He said he still wants to see me but he's afraid that if someone else wants his attention, he'll give it to them. That's enough for me to be walk away feeling ok about things.

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Omg that is just plain bullshit. "He's afraid if someone else wants his attention.he'll give it to them". I'll be soooooo furious and go off on this guy. Haha and you can walk away feeling ok. I'm not a bunny boiler but i will definitely give him a good scolding and then say good bye. But i guess sometimes aries can be soft hearted too.. I tend to forget my anger in a few minutes. You deserve so much more girl, 9 months is way too long not to commit. My advice is to follow your heart.

Thank you kitkatleen. I completely agree. I just don't have the energy to argue. I'd rather move on to happiness.

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Posted by wateryram
Thank you kitkatleen. I completely agree. I just don't have the energy to argue. I'd rather move on to happiness.

🙂

Yes i've learned over time that if a guy doesn't want you, let him go. What's yours will eventually be yours. The right one is waiting for you out there! I know it can be hard after 9 months but take it as a lesson learnt. You're so positive, i will have a hard time letting go!

Yeah it will be hard but I'll live lol!

Curiousram my friend said the same. She thinks he's just saying these things out of fear because his actions don't match his words. At this point I'm just confused and pretty uninterested in pursing him. My wandering eye has awoken.

Sounds like your only position in his life is being fuckable ... perhaps in your next relationship, you should place yourself in a higher position.

Or maybe not ... maybe you enjoy being a piece of meat, rather than a soft spot in a heart.



whatever floats your boat .........

Wow that was harsh but point taken.

9 months...if a virgo wants you they will make it official

This situation he made himself very clear that he does not want what you want...

Issue is a virgo will treat you how you allow them to
You gave him your body and time and attention and effort and he did not deserve it because he did not make it clear what he wanted

When someone is ambiguous with you be ambiguous with them and always have options...don't put all your eggs in a basket especially no commitment after 9months...

Posted by balblair
9 months...if a virgo wants you they will make it official

This situation he made himself very clear that he does not want what you want...

Issue is a virgo will treat you how you allow them to
You gave him your body and time and attention and effort and he did not deserve it because he did not make it clear what he wanted

When someone is ambiguous with you be ambiguous with them and always have options...don't put all your eggs in a basket especially no commitment after 9months...

Thanks for replying. After being single for so long I forgot the rules. Lesson learned.