virgo men (Page 2)

What I'm saying is that sexual drive prompts us to make contact... even if we don't get sex in the process.

If the guy has a strong sexual drive, he wouldn't wait three weeks to contact you. Even if he had no assurance of sex with you. He'd call, write a letter, email, something to keep in touch. If he was into you... he wouldn't leave you hanging for three weeks.

If the guy has no sexual drive, or is getting satisfied elsewhere, then he'll feel no rush to contact you. He may only see you only as a "nice" friend. Someone to hang out with. Someone to have sex with every now and then... no big deal. Instead of someone he's serious about.

OR He's not satisfied with you, and has withdrawn.

Speaking for myself... the longer I go without sex, the more desperate I become. Self pleasure is only good to a point, never fully satisfying. From past experience, once a whole month has gone by, I start thinking my horse has a sexy butt, lol. It's HORMONES. The huge amount of testosterone we guys manufacture feels like a curse sometimes.

I have female friends. My best riding buddy is female (a Sagi) and I get lonely and call her and we chat... about horses what else. But it helps with my loneliness. I'm also friends with her husband (a Cappy) so am very careful to not do or say anything that might make him jealous.

Sagigoat: Depends on if we had a lot in common... it would be love. If nothing in common but sexual desire... lust.

I like commonality I need someone who thinks like I do for the most part. I need someone who cares about animals especially horses the way I do. And of course sees eye to eye on sexual matters. Some are attracted by opposites. Not I.

And at the ripe old age of 47, I no longer am interested in a sex only relationship. In part because I fear falling in love with someone who is not a horsewoman.

So, FC, from your perspective ... if your woman stopped sexing you up, how long would you stay with her?

And if you did stay, eventhough you weren't getting any .. why would you? What would make you stay with her?

they can one minute act like they are completely smitten by you brainlessly and then after they realize it's more than casusul or friends they act like you carry a variety of deadly viruses

Yes! There was this leo/ virgo guy that I got close to and all of a sudden he began to back-off after we started "feeling" each other. So yeah, they do this. It's beyond me why but yes they do this.

LOL, sometimes I wonder how aries, pisces and scorpio women land the virgo guys 😛

** Written today during my 1 hour civil service lunch period. **


P-Angel: "DAMMIT VIRGOS .. STOP EQUATING LOVE BY MEASURING SEX .."


Yeah, y'all cut it out! That's P-Angel's job!!


Ferghus: "Speaking for myself... the longer I go without sex, the more desperate I become. Self pleasure is only good to a point, never fully satisfying." & "The huge amount of testosterone we guys manufacture feels like a curse sometimes."

Thank you for being so candid and straightforward. I don't understand the shock / outrage of some DXP'ers -- as though Virgo Men are the only men who can separate Love from Sex. Hell, Freud (a TAURUS) opened up this whole dialog over 100 years ago! Desmond Morris (an AQUA), the famous zoologist & ethnologist, and author of The Naked Ape, would say that men's sex / love dichotomy is REQUIRED by our biology -- more sex (and sex partners!) means a better chance of preserving his DNA in offspring, while a woman will always have hers preserved in her children. A man can never be 100% sure that the kids are his - short of a DNA test - but that technology is way more modern than our instincts! And with birth control, and more relaxed cultures, women are starting to view sex as recreation, too.

This attitude towards sex (and sexual equality between the genders) doesn't bother me. What does bother me is the decline in intimacy - people just don't seem to have time (or will take time) to develop those strong interpersonal bonds like they used to when I was a kid. (I grew up in a neighborhood where any Mom could spank any kid - no questions asked. But imagine that today! Hell, the lawyers would be paratrooping in by the hundreds to defend the child's right to be an absolute brat!) We've put so much emphasis on the individual that we've forgotten how to be a group, much less a community. As for couples, we have such high expectations, and such a strong need for immediate gratification, that it's a wonder anyone gets married and stays married...

Okay, sermon over - don't forget about the offering plate on the last pew!

katout,

I hope the responses from us Virgo Men have given you some insight into how we look at women and relationships. As for the comments from the non-Virgos - I'd definitely take those with a big pinch of salt. I was married to a Libra woman for 20+ years, but I don't claim to be a Libra expert. My younger brother, my wife, and my two daughters are Scorps, and ditto that statement for Scorps as well.

Want to know what Virgos think? Ask us! We can be very open & candid - especially on an anonymous web site...

Ferghus, I honestly don't know what my sexual withdrawal period is. I married my Libra right after college, and stayed married and faithful for over 20 years. After my divorce, I only stayed single for about 3 years before I met my Scorp. I had some "dry spells" -- but none were so long that a horse's butt started looking good! I guess after 3-4 months, I'd have a high enough white count to get me dating again...

* My younger brother, my wife, and my two daughters are Scorps, and ditto that statement for Scorps as well.

Holy sh1t! Am I getting senile? (rhetorical question) I forgot to list my new Scorp son in that mix -- glad he's too young to read this stuff!

What does bother me is the decline in intimacy - people just don't seem to have time (or will take time) to develop those strong interpersonal bonds like they used to when I was a kid. (I grew up in a neighborhood where any Mom could spank any kid - no questions asked. But imagine that today! Hell, the lawyers would be paratrooping in by the hundreds to defend the child's right to be an absolute brat!) We've put so much emphasis on the individual that we've forgotten how to be a group, much less a community.

I know this is off topic but I agree with you 100% LOL, but my mom didn't care! If she felt the need to spank me, she darned anyone to say otherwise, hahaha!!!! I love my mommy 🙂 Descipline seems strange to people nowadays, its like they don't know what to do when there own child tells them to "shut the hell up" LOL, I know what my mom would do 😉

And yes, I still agree with you on how intimacy is lacking big time right now. My grandmother consisting says that she is glad to be old because she wouldn't want anything to do with my generation. Hahaha!!!

As for couples, we have such high expectations, and such a strong need for immediate gratification, that it's a wonder anyone gets married and stays married...

Yeah, I've noticed that too! My last two relationships haven't worked because of the above statement. Things are just really different and there's nothing that can be done because this is the pop culture of the freaking decade. LOL, sometimes I feel I was born 45 years early and I'm stuck in a generation that doesn't fit me. I'm good with all the human rights stuff but when it comes to relationships, I'm so out of touch.

I don't know if my sexual drive is in my genes, or sign. But at my ripe old age of 47, I desire sex at least three times a week. When I was in my twenty's, it was more like three times a day. So if he's in his twentys or thirtys, and hasn't needed sex in three weeks.... he must have another lover.

Okay my dear, you have a HIGH sex drive lol. Goodness, I could never keep up with you. There's nothing wrong with that but it's good to find someone with the same sex drive.

I know Sagi, I know! Bad DY, bad, bad DY!

I'm just not used to having a Son. In fact, I never really cared to have one - me and my brothers drove our folks nutz! Debra was much more interested in having a daughter, but she'd never had one, and wanted one, and she got one (seems like what a Scorp wants is what a Scorp gets)...

Well I guess if you sex him up good and "show" that you have enough of commonality that would do it

LOL!!! Maybe that's it!

He's actually "prettier" than his sister - go figure (Lord, let him be hetero!)...

(No, I'm not homophobic, I just know that's a complication he doesn't need. But here's one of my pet peeves: Homophobic is used WAY TOO MUCH. Very few people have an irrational fear (phobia) of homosexuals. I, and others like me, have every right to find the behavior abhorrent, without some politically-correct ding-a-ling pasting that label on me. Live and let live. Don't try to brainwash me, and I won't try to rehabilitate you. 'nuff said.)

Anyway. Yeah, it's gonna be fun to have somebody to do GUY stuff with, and somebody to take my side against the females in the house. It's going to be an interesting dynamic -- will our gender sameness overcome our Sign differences? Will it truly be us Guys vs. the Girls?

"yeah Dy and your scorp son WILL DEMAND..."

True. He's already a demanding little cuss!

** If I don't see y'all again before TUES - Happy New Year!!

hi,
im a virgo girl that really like a virgo guy and need advice. I have another post regarding a picture that was sent to me from him. Im a virgo so of course im super cautious and making more out of a moe hill than is. But for us virgo's to be attracted to someone a lot its a big deal, because as many say we are so locked up in our own worlds, and trying to keep from being hurt. But have a chance to visit him and see them but want to tell how i feel, but of course scared of looking and feeling stupid. Actually would love to spend some one on one mind time with him. Then maybe some other kind of time. Just scared of approaching him the wrong way, and running him away. Any man virgo help out there?

Thank you Sagigoat! Happy New Year To You TOO!!!! 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂

Wouldn't work out too well, I'm afraid, vl ... we're way to controlling over ourselves AND defy against any type of another person attempting to control us .. even if the "love" is felt.


However, to sound like a complete hypocrite .. we like domineering people when it's expressed without trying to control .. IF we feel the other person, and the person comes across as tough they are operating from the soul .. we'll respond.

For instance, to say, "You're mine, baby. I'm not leaving this world without you. You can kick and scream all you want .. but, you're my soulmate and I'm not leaving you." ..... we'll respond accordingly because it's dominating from love.

However, "I'm taking you. Pack up your bags, you're coming with me." Such as I did with my husband (in different words) .. we would see this as a "power/control" trip over us and would defy against the person, even if we were deeply in love.

I know this thread is old as sin but it helped me immensely! Kudos!

Posted by P-Angel
"I say you go and date a couple of other Virgos at the same time so that every time one chooses to pull away another one will be stepping forward . . . and when this one decides to get back in the mix they'll all play calculative mind games with each other to win you over."


Hahaha .. never thought of that one before. Good idea !!!! If a person is looking to hook a Virgo, just get a harem of them.

P angel you have said some real things in this thread ... I actually like the part where you sayyou went by and made him pack cause I actually thought of tryin that once I move to my new house in a few weeks... My guy kept pullin and backin off for over the last 6months. same issues you faced in your relationship, i noticed that he acts like my mom because she' a virgo, so I understood him instant connection , i know things with out him sayin it , the longest we have done this push/pull thing is 9 days...it began to kill both of us cause when we did finally did speak ,he was excited to talk nothing was goin on...what I noticed is once they get feelings, they communicate with the woman about their feelings, that is a change and they are simple so it gets crazy then

wowww that sounds like me!

Posted by P-Angel
"If you really believe that giving him space will bring you closer...try it...but I would see other people in the meanwhile as well."

When Virgo's pull away, it's because they have strong feelings for somebody and while they are on thier retreat, what they are pondering is whether you are worthy to trust, worthy to give all their love to, worthy that you will stand by them, no matter what .. the way they would stand by you.

One thing I can tell you .. this is perfectly normal for a Virgo to do this, so don't feel like you've done something wrong .. it's not YOU, it's the Virgo way to pull back when they start feeling really close to somebody. Rest assured that if he's gone MIA, then he does indeed like you very much .. if he didn't go missing, then you aren't that special to him.
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