Virgo Saga Continues......

My Virgo decided to text me after 5 days of silence and sent this:

'I don't want you to think I forgot about you or care any less of you, I just think we are on two different pages. You are a great woman but I think I bit off more than I can chew. What I mean by that is that you are a lot of woman and its not you, its me. Its all my fault. The reason why I know its my fault is because we were moving forward fine, then I wanted to move faster and you fell back, which made me fall back. Then you wanted to move faster than me and I was hesitant and things got out of control. I thought I was prepared to handle a relationship with you, but I'm not'

OK...... So I cried. And cried..... And yeah cried some more. Then today (which is two days later) I sent him a message and basically said I was disappointed. That I was very hurt and how could he say he wasn't ready for me when we planned a whole life together? We planned kids, a career, a family a whole life style . I told him that I think he just wanted someone to have sex with and kick it with and if that was the case why not just say that in the beginning? I told him that I was sad because I opened up to him. Something I haven't done in a while. I told him that I would let go because clearly he already has and that I'll figure things out somehow on my own.

After about a couple hours he sent back: 'imma come visit you soon' —

Is he coming to visit for a final farewell or does he just feel bad? I feel so lost with this man. Why come visit if you're saying you're not ready for me? He told me once before if we couldn't make it relationship wise then he couldn't be friends with me, so what is he trying to do by coming over?

Maybe I sounded wounded and he just wanted to come comfort me. I hear Virgos love saving people and cater to people who are down and out. Or maybe he just wants to say goodbye in person. Or maybe he just said that to seem like he cares but really doesn't. Its frustrating to keep writing about this man. Almost like I have no clue what to do in a relationship, but truly with him I don't.

He is more difficult and hard to figure out than any man I have ever dated. Its all just a frustrating mess.

Gross. Even if he does keep circling back like a shark drawn to blood in the water, why would you want to be with someone who promises you the moon and can't deliver.

I think it would do some good to get everything out in person instead over text/phone.

He probably do want to say it person... Be cautious tho..

If he really care, want to get marry etc... his action would show it. Not promising by words.

When a guy say he not ready for a relationship. PLEASE take that in consideration.

Just try to focus on u. Don't contact him. Just keep them cordial.

Wish u the best. Sorry things didn't work out ☹️. Keep ur head up.

Posted by LadyNeptune
Gross. Even if he does keep circling back like a shark drawn to blood in the water, why would you want to be with someone who promises you the moon and can't deliver.

I honestly think it's because I feel invested. I really opened myself up to him and I haven't opened myself up to anyone in a long time. I shared a lot of things with him. We planned things together and I did a lot for him and I feel like for him to be able to just walk away from everything it's kind of unfair. I don't know what it is that he plans on saying to me or if he plans on saying anything at all. The truth is and honestly the only truth that I know is that it hurts and the whole 'it's not you it's me' thing just seems like a slap in the face.

Posted by Lovelyx
I think it would do some good to get everything out in person instead over text/phone.

He probably do want to say it person... Be cautious tho..

If he really care, want to get marry etc... his action would show it. Not promising by words.

When a guy say he not ready for a relationship. PLEASE take that in consideration.

Just try to focus on u. Don't contact him. Just keep them cordial.

Wish u the best. Sorry things didn't work out ☹️. Keep ur head up.

and you know something... you are right A lot of times people say exactly what they mean and you choose to hear what it is that you want to hear. He did say that he wasn't ready for a relationship with me which means that even if he does come over and he still wants to continue dating me that he wants to casually date. That means that we are looking for different things which is probably the reason why he said we are on two different pages.

I know that he just got his career and he wants to work. He wants to work a lot and even though I have a full-time job too and I'm in school, I have time and I was willing to make time for him and he wasn't. I really think he just wanted me to be okay with being casual, him coming over or me coming over, us kicking it, watching a movie, hanging out, going on dates here and there, having a lot of sex and just not committing to each other.

That's not what I want, however, and that's not what we talked about in the beginning. He switched up in the middle of us dating. It's just kind of weird and I know that they say that Virgos tell it like it is and whatever they say thats what they mean. So maybe he does just want to say exactly what he wants to say in person, which is we are done, and I'll just have to accept it

Posted by desilove333

Posted by Lovelyx
I think it would do some good to get everything out in person instead over text/phone.

He probably do want to say it person... Be cautious tho..

If he really care, want to get marry etc... his action would show it. Not promising by words.

When a guy say he not ready for a relationship. PLEASE take that in consideration.

Just try to focus on u. Don't contact him. Just keep them cordial.

Wish u the best. Sorry things didn't work out ☹️. Keep ur head up.

and you know something... you are right A lot of times people say exactly what they mean and you choose to hear what it is that you want to hear. He did say that he wasn't ready for a relationship with me which means that even if he does come over and he still wants to continue dating me that he wants to casually date. That means that we are looking for different things which is probably the reason why he said we are on two different pages.

I know that he just got his career and he wants to work. He wants to work a lot and even though I have a full-time job too and I'm in school, I have time and I was willing to make time for him and he wasn't. I really think he just wanted me to be okay with being casual, him coming over or me coming over, us kicking it, watching a movie, hanging out, going on dates here and there, having a lot of sex and just not committing to each other.

That's not what I want, however, and that's not what we talked about in the beginning. He switched up in the middle of us dating. It's just kind of weird and I know that they say that Virgos tell it like it is and whatever they say thats what they mean. So maybe he does just want to say exactly what he wants to say in person, which is we are done, and I'll just have to accept it

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Understandably you're hurt and you deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you. Here's some tough love though, you two weren't in a relationship. He apparently told you that he wasn't ready for one either. So he gave you all of the warning signs (and himself all of the outs).

For him, he was just having fun and wasn't completely ready to commit. The other thing to know is that until you are in a relationship, it's best not to focus too much on future plans. It only makes things harder if those plans don't pan out.

That all being said, you can definitely find a better guy. The whole "it's not you, it's me" speech is pretty transparent. He just wasn't that into a commitment is all. He's probably going to see you to hook up and for closure. It's your decision if that's cool for you or not.

Posted by desilove333

Posted by LadyNeptune
Gross. Even if he does keep circling back like a shark drawn to blood in the water, why would you want to be with someone who promises you the moon and can't deliver.

I honestly think it's because I feel invested. I really opened myself up to him and I haven't opened myself up to anyone in a long time. I shared a lot of things with him. We planned things together and I did a lot for him and I feel like for him to be able to just walk away from everything it's kind of unfair. I don't know what it is that he plans on saying to me or if he plans on saying anything at all. The truth is and honestly the only truth that I know is that it hurts and the whole 'it's not you it's me' thing just seems like a slap in the face.

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Your not the first person to invest in the wrong person. You can't get back the time you've already spent on him. But you can choose more wisely in the future.

Or go ahead and cling to someone who who hurts you from one breath to another.

This man will waste your time. Be careful. My Virgo planned a future with me, had me planning a wedding-contacting all the relevant ministries etc, and it was ALL BS! I had the ring, everything. He was wasting my time basically. Don't get upset-they cave, feel guilty and do what they think you need at the time, say what they think u need to hear etc but longterm there is still going to be nothing, they are time wasters. SO glad I walked!

Now he msgs me things like oh this Aussie girls she has her own motorbike she contacted me to go on a date. Oh my bro and I have went inon business together and bought a $ 10mill builsing in Switz etc etc LOL! All because i've moved on 🙂

Posted by desilove333

That I was very hurt and how could he say he wasn't ready for me when we planned a whole life together? We planned kids, a career, a family a whole life style .

Here's the funny part ......

Posted by desilove333

Our first date he brought over roses, took me to a play and we ate at a great Italian restaurant. I loved every minute of it. Me, being a true Leo adored his pampering and he felt an instant connection to me. We talked about living together, marriage, kids, moving out of state, you name it.

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first date ..... rflmao



You really brought his all on yourself, Leo, by being so thirsty and desperate.



I can't feel sorry for a woman this stupid, in where she causes her own grief by not thinking about what she is doing, and not paying attention to what is really going on around her because this guy clearly has no faith in you at all .. and you're completely clueless to it.

Posted by Chuckcem

Posted by desilove333

Posted by Lovelyx
I think it would do some good to get everything out in person instead over text/phone.

He probably do want to say it person... Be cautious tho..

If he really care, want to get marry etc... his action would show it. Not promising by words.

When a guy say he not ready for a relationship. PLEASE take that in consideration.

Just try to focus on u. Don't contact him. Just keep them cordial.

Wish u the best. Sorry things didn't work out ☹️. Keep ur head up.

and you know something... you are right A lot of times people say exactly what they mean and you choose to hear what it is that you want to hear. He did say that he wasn't ready for a relationship with me which means that even if he does come over and he still wants to continue dating me that he wants to casually date. That means that we are looking for different things which is probably the reason why he said we are on two different pages.

I know that he just got his career and he wants to work. He wants to work a lot and even though I have a full-time job too and I'm in school, I have time and I was willing to make time for him and he wasn't. I really think he just wanted me to be okay with being casual, him coming over or me coming over, us kicking it, watching a movie, hanging out, going on dates here and there, having a lot of sex and just not committing to each other.

That's not what I want, however, and that's not what we talked about in the beginning. He switched up in the middle of us dating. It's just kind of weird and I know that they say that Virgos tell it like it is and whatever they say thats what they mean. So maybe he does just want to say exactly what he wants to say in person, which is we are done, and I'll just have to accept it

Understandably you're hurt and you deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you. Here's some tough love though, you two weren't in a relationship. He apparently told you that he wasn't ready for one either. So he gave you all of the warning signs (and himself all of the outs).

For him, he was just having fun and wasn't completely ready to commit. The other thing to know is that until you are in a relationship, it's best not to focus too much on future plans. It only makes things harder if those plans don't pan out.

That all being said, you can definitely find a better guy. The whole "it's not you, it's me" speech is pretty transparent. He just wasn't that into a commitment is all. He's probably going to see you to hook up and for closure. It's your decision if that's cool for you or not.

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See that's the thing...... He told me he did want a relationship in the beginning. Actually he was trying to move together in the first month. That's why he said he wanted to move fast and I didn't, because I really didn't. There was no way I could move with someone I just met. I thought he has fell too hard for me and I told him to just wait to make sure he could handle the bad side of a relationship with me. After me saying that it slowed him down. Almost like hurt his feelings that I wasn't rushing like he was rushing. Then when I was ready and moving fast he slowed down. We traded spots in the dating process.

You right he probably do want to hook up one last time and to close it out. Maybe do it more maturely like face to face than texting. No problem with that.....but as far as sex, no. There's no point and I'd rather not get anymore deep into him than I am.

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by desilove333

Posted by LadyNeptune
Gross. Even if he does keep circling back like a shark drawn to blood in the water, why would you want to be with someone who promises you the moon and can't deliver.

I honestly think it's because I feel invested. I really opened myself up to him and I haven't opened myself up to anyone in a long time. I shared a lot of things with him. We planned things together and I did a lot for him and I feel like for him to be able to just walk away from everything it's kind of unfair. I don't know what it is that he plans on saying to me or if he plans on saying anything at all. The truth is and honestly the only truth that I know is that it hurts and the whole 'it's not you it's me' thing just seems like a slap in the face.

Your not the first person to invest in the wrong person. You can't get back the time you've already spent on him. But you can choose more wisely in the future.

Or go ahead and cling to someone who who hurts you from one breath to another.

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Perfect sense and you are right. Its really the leverage that I have with this considering its only been 6 months. I'm not trying to force someone's hand or be with for potty purposes. I don't want that. So its just time to bury the situation, unless he proves otherwise.

Posted by LibraLovesHim
This man will waste your time. Be careful. My Virgo planned a future with me, had me planning a wedding-contacting all the relevant ministries etc, and it was ALL BS! I had the ring, everything. He was wasting my time basically. Don't get upset-they cave, feel guilty and do what they think you need at the time, say what they think u need to hear etc but longterm there is still going to be nothing, they are time wasters. SO glad I walked!

Now he msgs me things like oh this Aussie girls she has her own motorbike she contacted me to go on a date. Oh my bro and I have went inon business together and bought a $ 10mill builsing in Switz etc etc LOL! All because i've moved on 🙂

Yes, I do feel like he fed off of everything I said I wanted. Perhaps maybe a time waster. I hate to group them, but I hear so many similar stories its crazy. Like they get all super invested (or so you think) then they pull away. My Virgo is naturally cold-hearted because he said he has been lied too and cheated on so much in his past, so he turns cold shoulder out of no where. But to me it shouldn't have happened, especially since I did nothing for him to really do this.

Im trying not to feel like my time has been wasted because I like to think you can learn from everything, but truth is he could have saved me the drama. I'm not into wasting more time especially since I am older now. I want a family, kids and a life with someone and if he is saying that's not what he wants then I'm good.

I'm sorry you went through that whole thing only for nothing to happen. That's crazy..... Makes me wonder did I really dodge a bullet.

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by desilove333

That I was very hurt and how could he say he wasn't ready for me when we planned a whole life together? We planned kids, a career, a family a whole life style .

Here's the funny part ......

Posted by desilove333

Our first date he brought over roses, took me to a play and we ate at a great Italian restaurant. I loved every minute of it. Me, being a true Leo adored his pampering and he felt an instant connection to me. We talked about living together, marriage, kids, moving out of state, you name it.

first date ..... rflmao



You really brought his all on yourself, Leo, by being so thirsty and desperate.



I can't feel sorry for a woman this stupid, in where she causes her own grief by not thinking about what she is doing, and not paying attention to what is really going on around her because this guy clearly has no faith in you at all .. and you're completely clueless to it.

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How am I being stupid— And what is so funny about a first date?? Yes, we had a first date..... Like everyone does and we talked and had great conversation. Then yes, conversation about the future came up later and it was something we both wanted. How does that make me desperate— You just clearly want to be negative. Even if that's the case....... Shed light instead of dissing me. You could say why you think I am clueless instead of just calling me clueless. Its all for feedback..... But if you can't be human for a change, go be a animal on someone else's thread. Thanks.

Posted by LibraLovesHim
This man will waste your time. Be careful. My Virgo planned a future with me, had me planning a wedding-contacting all the relevant ministries etc, and it was ALL BS! I had the ring, everything. He was wasting my time basically. Don't get upset-they cave, feel guilty and do what they think you need at the time, say what they think u need to hear etc but longterm there is still going to be nothing, they are time wasters. SO glad I walked!

Now he msgs me things like oh this Aussie girls she has her own motorbike she contacted me to go on a date. Oh my bro and I have went inon business together and bought a $ 10mill builsing in Switz etc etc LOL! All because i've moved on 🙂

What do you think would happened, if you showed interest in him again?

So he's virgo sun...what about his moon and venus?

Posted by desilove333

Posted by LibraLovesHim
This man will waste your time. Be careful. My Virgo planned a future with me, had me planning a wedding-contacting all the relevant ministries etc, and it was ALL BS! I had the ring, everything. He was wasting my time basically. Don't get upset-they cave, feel guilty and do what they think you need at the time, say what they think u need to hear etc but longterm there is still going to be nothing, they are time wasters. SO glad I walked!

Now he msgs me things like oh this Aussie girls she has her own motorbike she contacted me to go on a date. Oh my bro and I have went inon business together and bought a $ 10mill builsing in Switz etc etc LOL! All because i've moved on 🙂

Yes, I do feel like he fed off of everything I said I wanted. Perhaps maybe a time waster. I hate to group them, but I hear so many similar stories its crazy. Like they get all super invested (or so you think) then they pull away. My Virgo is naturally cold-hearted because he said he has been lied too and cheated on so much in his past, so he turns cold shoulder out of no where. But to me it shouldn't have happened, especially since I did nothing for him to really do this.

Im trying not to feel like my time has been wasted because I like to think you can learn from everything, but truth is he could have saved me the drama. I'm not into wasting more time especially since I am older now. I want a family, kids and a life with someone and if he is saying that's not what he wants then I'm good.

I'm sorry you went through that whole thing only for nothing to happen. That's crazy..... Makes me wonder did I really dodge a bullet.

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Yes, you did! 🙂

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by desilove333

That I was very hurt and how could he say he wasn't ready for me when we planned a whole life together? We planned kids, a career, a family a whole life style .

Here's the funny part ......

Posted by desilove333

Our first date he brought over roses, took me to a play and we ate at a great Italian restaurant. I loved every minute of it. Me, being a true Leo adored his pampering and he felt an instant connection to me. We talked about living together, marriage, kids, moving out of state, you name it.

first date ..... rflmao



You really brought his all on yourself, Leo, by being so thirsty and desperate.



I can't feel sorry for a woman this stupid, in where she causes her own grief by not thinking about what she is doing, and not paying attention to what is really going on around her because this guy clearly has no faith in you at all .. and you're completely clueless to it.

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....apparentyl so am I (clueless), so why don't you elaborate, please.

Posted by Cherrylips

Posted by LibraLovesHim
This man will waste your time. Be careful. My Virgo planned a future with me, had me planning a wedding-contacting all the relevant ministries etc, and it was ALL BS! I had the ring, everything. He was wasting my time basically. Don't get upset-they cave, feel guilty and do what they think you need at the time, say what they think u need to hear etc but longterm there is still going to be nothing, they are time wasters. SO glad I walked!

Now he msgs me things like oh this Aussie girls she has her own motorbike she contacted me to go on a date. Oh my bro and I have went inon business together and bought a $ 10mill builsing in Switz etc etc LOL! All because i've moved on 🙂

What do you think would happened, if you showed interest in him again?

So he's virgo sun...what about his moon and venus?

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he is a Pisces moon and Cancer venus

Posted by desilove333

Posted by Cherrylips

Posted by LibraLovesHim
This man will waste your time. Be careful. My Virgo planned a future with me, had me planning a wedding-contacting all the relevant ministries etc, and it was ALL BS! I had the ring, everything. He was wasting my time basically. Don't get upset-they cave, feel guilty and do what they think you need at the time, say what they think u need to hear etc but longterm there is still going to be nothing, they are time wasters. SO glad I walked!

Now he msgs me things like oh this Aussie girls she has her own motorbike she contacted me to go on a date. Oh my bro and I have went inon business together and bought a $ 10mill builsing in Switz etc etc LOL! All because i've moved on 🙂

What do you think would happened, if you showed interest in him again?

So he's virgo sun...what about his moon and venus?

he is a Pisces moon and Cancer venus

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Who is? The one you're talking about, or the one LibraLovesHim talks about? Cos I'm interested in hers 😉

Posted by Cherrylips

Posted by desilove333

Posted by Cherrylips

Posted by LibraLovesHim
This man will waste your time. Be careful. My Virgo planned a future with me, had me planning a wedding-contacting all the relevant ministries etc, and it was ALL BS! I had the ring, everything. He was wasting my time basically. Don't get upset-they cave, feel guilty and do what they think you need at the time, say what they think u need to hear etc but longterm there is still going to be nothing, they are time wasters. SO glad I walked!

Now he msgs me things like oh this Aussie girls she has her own motorbike she contacted me to go on a date. Oh my bro and I have went inon business together and bought a $ 10mill builsing in Switz etc etc LOL! All because i've moved on 🙂

What do you think would happened, if you showed interest in him again?

So he's virgo sun...what about his moon and venus?

he is a Pisces moon and Cancer venus

Who is? The one you're talking about, or the one LibraLovesHim talks about? Cos I'm interested in hers 😉

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Lol no mines. Not sure about hers.

Posted by desilove333

Posted by Chuckcem

Posted by desilove333

Posted by Lovelyx
I think it would do some good to get everything out in person instead over text/phone.

He probably do want to say it person... Be cautious tho..

If he really care, want to get marry etc... his action would show it. Not promising by words.

When a guy say he not ready for a relationship. PLEASE take that in consideration.

Just try to focus on u. Don't contact him. Just keep them cordial.

Wish u the best. Sorry things didn't work out ☹️. Keep ur head up.

and you know something... you are right A lot of times people say exactly what they mean and you choose to hear what it is that you want to hear. He did say that he wasn't ready for a relationship with me which means that even if he does come over and he still wants to continue dating me that he wants to casually date. That means that we are looking for different things which is probably the reason why he said we are on two different pages.

I know that he just got his career and he wants to work. He wants to work a lot and even though I have a full-time job too and I'm in school, I have time and I was willing to make time for him and he wasn't. I really think he just wanted me to be okay with being casual, him coming over or me coming over, us kicking it, watching a movie, hanging out, going on dates here and there, having a lot of sex and just not committing to each other.

That's not what I want, however, and that's not what we talked about in the beginning. He switched up in the middle of us dating. It's just kind of weird and I know that they say that Virgos tell it like it is and whatever they say thats what they mean. So maybe he does just want to say exactly what he wants to say in person, which is we are done, and I'll just have to accept it

Understandably you're hurt and you deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you. Here's some tough love though, you two weren't in a relationship. He apparently told you that he wasn't ready for one either. So he gave you all of the warning signs (and himself all of the outs).

For him, he was just having fun and wasn't completely ready to commit. The other thing to know is that until you are in a relationship, it's best not to focus too much on future plans. It only makes things harder if those plans don't pan out.

That all being said, you can definitely find a better guy. The whole "it's not you, it's me" speech is pretty transparent. He just wasn't that into a commitment is all. He's probably going to see you to hook up and for closure. It's your decision if that's cool for you or not.

See that's the thing...... He told me he did want a relationship in the beginning. Actually he was trying to move together in the first month. That's why he said he wanted to move fast and I didn't, because I really didn't. There was no way I could move with someone I just met. I thought he has fell too hard for me and I told him to just wait to make sure he could handle the bad side of a relationship with me. After me saying that it slowed him down. Almost like hurt his feelings that I wasn't rushing like he was rushing. Then when I was ready and moving fast he slowed down. We traded spots in the dating process.

You right he probably do want to hook up one last time and to close it out. Maybe do it more maturely like face to face than texting. No problem with that.....but as far as sex, no. There's no point and I'd rather not get anymore deep into him than I am.

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Him wanting to move in THAT soon, was a huge red flag. Shows that he's impulsive and probably doesn't have much in the way of foresight. So of COURSE you pulled back in the beginning, that was an emotionally smart thing for you to do.

If he was THAT serious about you, he would have understood why you were hesitant to move in together after the first month. Saying that he pulled away when you pulled away is just a convenient excuse for his own poor decision making. His idea on relationships is skewed to say the least. Think about it. A guy who wants to move in with you, wouldn't have an issue seeing you more than once a week.

I'm calling shenanigans. I think this guy KNEW you were going to reject his initial proposal to move in together. He also knew you were smitten with him and wouldn't run for the hills. He figured you'd see this move as an act of passion instead of INSANITY. I think this guy was using you for companionship and sex, but didn't actually want the responsibility of being with you.

Posted by desilove333

Posted by Lovelyx
I think it would do some good to get everything out in person instead over text/phone.

He probably do want to say it person... Be cautious tho..

If he really care, want to get marry etc... his action would show it. Not promising by words.

When a guy say he not ready for a relationship. PLEASE take that in consideration.

Just try to focus on u. Don't contact him. Just keep them cordial.

Wish u the best. Sorry things didn't work out ☹️. Keep ur head up.

and you know something... you are right A lot of times people say exactly what they mean and you choose to hear what it is that you want to hear. He did say that he wasn't ready for a relationship with me which means that even if he does come over and he still wants to continue dating me that he wants to casually date. That means that we are looking for different things which is probably the reason why he said we are on two different pages.

I know that he just got his career and he wants to work. He wants to work a lot and even though I have a full-time job too and I'm in school, I have time and I was willing to make time for him and he wasn't. I really think he just wanted me to be okay with being casual, him coming over or me coming over, us kicking it, watching a movie, hanging out, going on dates here and there, having a lot of sex and just not committing to each other.

That's not what I want, however, and that's not what we talked about in the beginning. He switched up in the middle of us dating. It's just kind of weird and I know that they say that Virgos tell it like it is and whatever they say thats what they mean. So maybe he does just want to say exactly what he wants to say in person, which is we are done, and I'll just have to accept it

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I think you just answered your own question.. I would move on and find a guy ready to comitt. If that is what you want then that's what you deserve, a serious relationship. He seems like he only wants a FWB. It was nice of him to be honest with you and not string you along. But let him go with your head held high. Don't beg. Mr right will came along.

Posted by Cherrylips

Posted by desilove333

Posted by LibraLovesHim
This man will waste your time. Be careful. My Virgo planned a future with me, had me planning a wedding-contacting all the relevant ministries etc, and it was ALL BS! I had the ring, everything. He was wasting my time basically. Don't get upset-they cave, feel guilty and do what they think you need at the time, say what they think u need to hear etc but longterm there is still going to be nothing, they are time wasters. SO glad I walked!

Now he msgs me things like oh this Aussie girls she has her own motorbike she contacted me to go on a date. Oh my bro and I have went inon business together and bought a $ 10mill builsing in Switz etc etc LOL! All because i've moved on 🙂

Yes, I do feel like he fed off of everything I said I wanted. Perhaps maybe a time waster. I hate to group them, but I hear so many similar stories its crazy. Like they get all super invested (or so you think) then they pull away. My Virgo is naturally cold-hearted because he said he has been lied too and cheated on so much in his past, so he turns cold shoulder out of no where. But to me it shouldn't have happened, especially since I did nothing for him to really do this.

Im trying not to feel like my time has been wasted because I like to think you can learn from everything, but truth is he could have saved me the drama. I'm not into wasting more time especially since I am older now. I want a family, kids and a life with someone and if he is saying that's not what he wants then I'm good.

I'm sorry you went through that whole thing only for nothing to happen. That's crazy..... Makes me wonder did I really dodge a bullet.

Yes, you did! 🙂

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Yeap you dodged a bullet. They will whisper sweet nothings into your ear but when it comes down to the action they will pull away if they are not ready and not sincere. Be thankful he let you go in the beginning before you invested anymore time into the relationship.

Posted by desilove333
My Virgo decided to text me after 5 days of silence and sent this:

'I don't want you to think I forgot about you or care any less of you, I just think we are on two different pages. You are a great woman but I think I bit off more than I can chew. What I mean by that is that you are a lot of woman and its not you, its me. Its all my fault. The reason why I know its my fault is because we were moving forward fine, then I wanted to move faster and you fell back, which made me fall back. Then you wanted to move faster than me and I was hesitant and things got out of control. I thought I was prepared to handle a relationship with you, but I'm not'

OK...... So I cried. And cried..... And yeah cried some more. Then today (which is two days later) I sent him a message and basically said I was disappointed. That I was very hurt and how could he say he wasn't ready for me when we planned a whole life together? We planned kids, a career, a family a whole life style . I told him that I think he just wanted someone to have sex with and kick it with and if that was the case why not just say that in the beginning? I told him that I was sad because I opened up to him. Something I haven't done in a while. I told him that I would let go because clearly he already has and that I'll figure things out somehow on my own.

After about a couple hours he sent back: 'imma come visit you soon' —

Is he coming to visit for a final farewell or does he just feel bad? I feel so lost with this man. Why come visit if you're saying you're not ready for me? He told me once before if we couldn't make it relationship wise then he couldn't be friends with me, so what is he trying to do by coming over?

Maybe I sounded wounded and he just wanted to come comfort me. I hear Virgos love saving people and cater to people who are down and out. Or maybe he just wants to say goodbye in person. Or maybe he just said that to seem like he cares but really doesn't. Its frustrating to keep writing about this man. Almost like I have no clue what to do in a relationship, but truly with him I don't.

He is more difficult and hard to figure out than any man I have ever dated. Its all just a frustrating mess.

fuck that dude he sounds like a dumbass and a fuckin' bock-bock chicken.