Virgo man help please. (Long message)

So my Virgo and I (Cancer) met in high school at ages 15 and 16. He made it known a little he liked me, I was with someone. It never happened even though I did like him a little I just couldn't go there with him but we were friends throughout high school. Always felt comfortable with him.

After high school we talked some and maintained a friendship for a few years and he wanted to become more than friends. At the time he was enlisting into the army and I could not date a solider worrying about him 24 hours a day, I was 18, 19 and he told me he wanted me to take his virginity. That scared me.

In that space he got married and had 2 kids and I got into a serious relationship and had 2 kids. We kept in touch and always were friends and continued our connection. We lost contact because he was mean a few times with what he said to me and we hadn't talked in 4 years but I always thought about him. Sent messages here and there but he never replied so I took a hint and kept living my life. Always had some regrets and

Recently I reached out again and he replied. We talked for a little and it was cool like old times. we spoke on the phone for like an hour and in that time he told me he had someone in his life and said we could be friends. I said fine. We continued to talk and later that night he asked me to face-time him. We facetimed and it was like old times. he was blushing the whole time and kept calling me my nickname from high school, we were laughing and giggling and everything was good. He confessed he lied about being with someone he just didn't want to get sucked back in by me especially since I hurt him back in high school and he doesn't trust me or anyone because he doesn't feel he knows me anymore. So he said he didn't want to get strung along by me again. Told him I wasn't trying to string him along, I have genuine interest now.

Flip the next day he didn't answer my texts or email and when I called the phone went straight to voicemail. I was confused but left him alone.

Today he told me not to call him with a private number, mind you I have not called him for 2-3 days. I said so and informed I won't call you if you wish me not to. he called me right after I sent that text but couldn't answer at the moment. he sends me a text right after telling me not to call him anymore and that "he doesn't need this shit" and to have a nice life, thank you".

I am confused as hell. Any insights on this from Virgo guys or women or anyone who knows about Virgos. His b-day is Sep 7.

Is this the infamous Virgo pull away or push away or is this a serious F off? LOL

LMAO. Really? As a crab I can volunteer to kill you. They say us crabs have homicidal tendencies. 🙂

Nowhere in there did anything say drama.

this isn't your diary ... you could have at least been more concise .. who in the hell wants to read a wot

Here it is in a nutshell for others .....

girl hooked up with boy who only wants fwb, when she didn't want fwb, she wanted him to have feelings for her ... now she is crying and upset because he treats her like a fwb, and is upset because he isn't treating her like a gf

Seriously ..... why hasn't high school started back up yet, how are people suppose to handle this kind of bullshit for 2 more months

SensitiveBlues, just a little clarification. I did tell him that. I said the comment about not calling again if he wishes because he's had my number on the send to voicemail list but still calls me.

It's like he can call me at a time of his choosing when he wants to talk but if I call it goes to VM.

I don't understand most of you who reply.... are you actually reading what she's saying?

Her issue is that the fucking guy is acting all interested and opens up and things seem fine. Then all of sudden "he can't deal with this shit"

Really? He's the fucking crying and upset one because he can't get over something that happened like 4+ years ago.

To @HeavenlyLilz I'd say just leave him alone. He said he can't deal with it. So let him have that. Just do you. If he comes back then he comes back. If he doesn't then he doesn't.

P-Angel, There was no hooking up if you read you'd know that. There was never any fwb. Very confused about what you think you read but my above scenario isn't it.

If you have nothing helpful or sensible to comment then please exit and don't come back. Thanks.

Oh my goodness CurlyAries I was confused as to what they were reading. Honestly thought I was the idiot who wrote this wrong. LOL

Thank you for actually reading the post and and replying I am definitely going to try to listen.

So hard because sometimes I can be impulsive, I know might be out of character for a Crab.

Posted by zFlavor
The problem is the 6th paragraph.

You sent a text to him and he calls and and you can not answer his call.

Do you see the problem now?

Wait, so I'm supposed to be at his beck and call? Especially when he pushes and pulls? Is that how the Virgo thinks?

What if I had something important I was doing? Which I did. I literally called him back less than 5 min later.

Sounds like he ran out of Adderall, xanax, weed, trimedal.

Block him.

Posted by SensitiveBlues
ooooooooooooooooooooooo i know what this is...this is motherly crab coming...oooooooo what's wrong little wittle Virgo....do you want me to cater to you.let me just make soup and scones for you..and cuddle you to my bosom....ooooooooooo

man treetruk this mental case. Drop his azz quick. before you're the one seeing a therapist

Is that what they want? They want a mommy to take care of them?

Posted by P-Angel

this isn't your diary ... you could have at least been more concise .. who in the hell wants to read a wot

Here it is in a nutshell for others .....

girl hooked up with boy who only wants fwb, when she didn't want fwb, she wanted him to have feelings for her ... now she is crying and upset because he treats her like a fwb, and is upset because he isn't treating her like a gf

Seriously ..... why hasn't high school started back up yet, how are people suppose to handle this kind of bullshit for 2 more months

Old woman, since when does school start in June? Most schools start back up in August or September.
Do us a favor and take your cogniboost pills, 'cause we ALL know high school was decades ago for you.

Posted by HeavenlyLilz
So my Virgo and I (Cancer) met in high school at ages 15 and 16. He made it known a little he liked me, I was with someone. It never happened even though I did like him a little I just couldn't go there with him but we were friends throughout high school. Always felt comfortable with him.

After high school we talked some and maintained a friendship for a few years and he wanted to become more than friends. At the time he was enlisting into the army and I could not date a solider worrying about him 24 hours a day, I was 18, 19 and he told me he wanted me to take his virginity. That scared me.

In that space he got married and had 2 kids and I got into a serious relationship and had 2 kids. We kept in touch and always were friends and continued our connection. We lost contact because he was mean a few times with what he said to me and we hadn't talked in 4 years but I always thought about him. Sent messages here and there but he never replied so I took a hint and kept living my life. Always had some regrets and

Recently I reached out again and he replied. We talked for a little and it was cool like old times. we spoke on the phone for like an hour and in that time he told me he had someone in his life and said we could be friends. I said fine. We continued to talk and later that night he asked me to face-time him. We facetimed and it was like old times. he was blushing the whole time and kept calling me my nickname from high school, we were laughing and giggling and everything was good. He confessed he lied about being with someone he just didn't want to get sucked back in by me especially since I hurt him back in high school and he doesn't trust me or anyone because he doesn't feel he knows me anymore. So he said he didn't want to get strung along by me again. Told him I wasn't trying to string him along, I have genuine interest now.

Flip the next day he didn't answer my texts or email and when I called the phone went straight to voicemail. I was confused but left him alone.

Today he told me not to call him with a private number, mind you I have not called him for 2-3 days. I said so and informed I won't call you if you wish me not to. he called me right after I sent that text but couldn't answer at the moment. he sends me a text right after telling me not to call him anymore and that "he doesn't need this shit" and to have a nice life, thank you".

I am confused as hell. Any insights on this from Virgo guys or women or anyone who knows about Virgos. His b-day is Sep 7.

Is this the infamous Virgo pull away or push away or is this a serious F off? LOL

I'm a Virgo. But can you give me a sparknotes version of this?

Posted by themagnetoreborn

Posted by HeavenlyLilz
So my Virgo and I (Cancer) met in high school at ages 15 and 16. He made it known a little he liked me, I was with someone. It never happened even though I did like him a little I just couldn't go there with him but we were friends throughout high school. Always felt comfortable with him.

After high school we talked some and maintained a friendship for a few years and he wanted to become more than friends. At the time he was enlisting into the army and I could not date a solider worrying about him 24 hours a day, I was 18, 19 and he told me he wanted me to take his virginity. That scared me.

In that space he got married and had 2 kids and I got into a serious relationship and had 2 kids. We kept in touch and always were friends and continued our connection. We lost contact because he was mean a few times with what he said to me and we hadn't talked in 4 years but I always thought about him. Sent messages here and there but he never replied so I took a hint and kept living my life. Always had some regrets and

Recently I reached out again and he replied. We talked for a little and it was cool like old times. we spoke on the phone for like an hour and in that time he told me he had someone in his life and said we could be friends. I said fine. We continued to talk and later that night he asked me to face-time him. We facetimed and it was like old times. he was blushing the whole time and kept calling me my nickname from high school, we were laughing and giggling and everything was good. He confessed he lied about being with someone he just didn't want to get sucked back in by me especially since I hurt him back in high school and he doesn't trust me or anyone because he doesn't feel he knows me anymore. So he said he didn't want to get strung along by me again. Told him I wasn't trying to string him along, I have genuine interest now.

Flip the next day he didn't answer my texts or email and when I called the phone went straight to voicemail. I was confused but left him alone.

Today he told me not to call him with a private number, mind you I have not called him for 2-3 days. I said so and informed I won't call you if you wish me not to. he called me right after I sent that text but couldn't answer at the moment. he sends me a text right after telling me not to call him anymore and that "he doesn't need this shit" and to have a nice life, thank you".

I am confused as hell. Any insights on this from Virgo guys or women or anyone who knows about Virgos. His b-day is Sep 7.

Is this the infamous Virgo pull away or push away or is this a serious F off? LOL

I'm a Virgo. But can you give me a sparknotes version of this?

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I may have hurt him in high school completely unintentionally and without knowing. 10 years ago.
We never got together, it never worked out that way. We got with different people.
We lost touch for 4 years.
I recently reached out and he replied.
We were talking and everything was good. We facetimed and it was like old times. It was clear there were feelings and a connection like always.
After I called and my calls went straight to VM and suspected he had put me on block.
He told me when we were talking he lied about being with someone and didn't wanna get sucked back in by me.
I told him I was interested now but he doesn't trust me because of how long it's been and how I hurt him.
So next day he didn't text and when I called it went straight to VM again.
He then sent message today not to call on private I said I didn't but if you want I can stop calling altogether.
He called me, I couldn't answer was still at work.
Called back 5 min later and my call went to VM.
Then he sent text telling me to not call him again and have a good life.

I hear about Virgos being good at disappearing and that they push and pull a lot especially when they are catching feelings and need to regroup and think.
I'm confused.

Posted by HeavenlyLilz

We facetimed and it was like old times. It was clear there were feelings and a connection like always.

Posted by HeavenlyLilz

He confessed he lied..., didn't want to get sucked back in by me...,he doesn't trust me.

Flip the next day he didn't answer my texts or email and when I called the phone went straight to voicemail.

he sends me a text right after telling me not to call him anymore and that "he doesn't need this shit" and to have a nice life, thank you".

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You 'see' a connection that doesn't exist. He doesn't want to be a part of your life. Let this one go.

There's no doubt in my mind that she will continue to smother the fuck out of this .... after all, she has said TWICE in here that now she is ready.

Since she is now ready ..... she will continue to make a fool out of herself, and keep contacting him.

And we know this to be true, because she came to make a thread about it.

if she actually realized that she is in error, then this thread wouldn't exist.

So, that means that she plans on continuing with her invading of his personal space without any considerations of him.