Virgos marrying their best friends

The virgo who I am head over heals for,(I am taking it nice and slow and giving him lots of space)....told a mutal friend of ours he wants to marry his best friend.

Please enlighten me

A Virgo man will marry his best friend typically. Or at least a strong friendship is paramount as a basis of a marriage.

He seems to be trusting me more and more by sharing things with me. He once told me how "information is power" so with this being said it seems he thinks I am safe and will not hurt him.

Archer are you saying after 10 1/2 years you divorced or that someone would have to wait another 10 1/2 years for him to be "illusioned" again? LOL

A Virgo who marries a good friend is probably doomed to divorce - one or both will get bored with the situation...

LibraEx and I were good friends before we married - had a terrific mental connection! - but we erred in thinking those good vibrations meant good chemistry, or emotional compatibility, over the long haul...

Whether a Virgo Man will admit it or not, he needs a strong passionate bond with a woman - took me 30 years to figure that out...

Can someone tell me what is likely to happen here in this situation....A girl from work - a Sagi is currently dating a Virgo..has been about 3 and bit months...she seems to be heavily involved but I don't know if its going to last..she's going to be wreck if he splits with her...She's a wreck at the best of times..

Here is the problem:
She's 28, not divorced yet (husband is a cappy messing her around), has 2 girls...one is 6 and the other one 8..

He is 22, just finished uni and started work.

Isn't that a lot of responsibility for a 22 year old to take on?

Missy,

Odds are, the SagGal & VirGuy won't make it long term - she's too unsettled in her life, and he's too young.

But SAGs sure are FUN!

"A Virgo who marries a good friend is probably doomed to divorce - one or both will get bored with the situation...

LibraEx and I were good friends before we married - had a terrific mental connection! - but we erred in thinking those good vibrations meant good chemistry, or emotional compatibility, over the long haul...

Whether a Virgo Man will admit it or not, he needs a strong passionate bond with a woman - took me 30 years to figure that out..."

Dy... I am in complete agreement with this statement. I stand corrected and I'm a Virgo. Whether non-Virgos are willing to admit it or not, we may seem like dead calm equilibrium on the surface, but deep down we want ... passionate chemistry and someone who understands us on an emotionally deep deep level.

We are seething with emotions people, if you popped us we'd explode like an emotion zit! LOL We protect emotions deeply with our very lives... because if you're not found to connect as our true compatible, we show you the door truthfully and quickly. We don't mess around.

I had 2 astrologers give me readings over the years. Both looked at me and knew me right off the bat, only 1% ever get close to my inner core... It's filled with passion, vast deep emotions and a love I only want to share with the one who gets me mentally, emotionally and can give me that passionate bond.

Hmm no wonder we are so damn stubborn and picky. But once you find what Dy is talking about... at least for me it's like a white hot explosion of mind, body and soul - privately of course.

Archer I get what you say, but disagree... you are wrong so yes smile. LOL Age does not an evolved Virgo make. Seen the breakups as late as 40's-50's.

Yeah i guess shall just leave them to it...not really my concern but was just wondering...

Ah well...life is strange indeed...

"Can someone tell me what is likely to happen here in this situation....A girl from work - a Sagi is currently dating a Virgo..has been about 3 and bit months...she seems to be heavily involved but I don't know if its going to last..she's going to be wreck if he splits with her...She's a wreck at the best of times..

Here is the problem:
She's 28, not divorced yet (husband is a cappy messing her around), has 2 girls...one is 6 and the other one 8..

He is 22, just finished uni and started work.

Isn't that a lot of responsibility for a 22 year old to take on?"


Sorry Miss ... didn't mean to exclude your question. Here is what I see... and best you stay far away from it.

Her 28, delusional...scared to be alone... latching onto a "rebound victim", should be standing up for herself if cappy husband is messing her around... stop being a doormat and be a mother to her kids. She is not doing those girls any good having an emotional or physical affair.

If it's not working, leave...get yourself together and be alone for a while to gather your life back. She clearly cannot do this, she is either dependent or codependent. She HAS to be with someone. Probably why she married her husband in the first place. Again I reiterate...everyone's grabbing what they can as fast as they can so they don't have to be alone = divorce = pain for all, mostly the kids.

Him 22, lots going for him...should know better, but alas an emotionally undeveloped Virgo being helpful and of service as always. Sex? If any? Eventually he will move on. Wreck or not for her.

Bottom line, it takes two well rounded, intelligent, emotionally sound, secure and capable adults to enter into a legally contracted institution. One that is almost impossible to get out of without many detrimental ramifications... financially and emotionally. However, you cannot control emotions gone amuck. Hmmm how non-Virgo of people indeed.

🙂

The chemistry is definitely there, has been for some time...then began the emotional bond.

Started off as just two people talking, then some flirting. I began to realize I have feelings for this man which ran deeper than friends. For once in my life someone seemed to care about knowing me as a person. As the connection deepened I found I was very nervous during our nightly phone calls...I had knots in my stomach. Things just felt so intense, he would call and after a few moments we would just sit and listen to one another breath.... A few weeks ago he invited me to meet him at a sports bar and to meet one of his best friends and his wife, so we are beyond that now and seem VERY comfortable around one another; sharing plates of food and banter have now replaced the knots in my stomach. He says he has another friend he grew up that I can meet sometime, which I think I can do without freezing up. He even invited me to play pool the night I met his best friend and wife but I really suck at it. It was great to see him in his natural setting, relaxed and happy with people who care for him. I believe time has proved the emotional compatibilities is there. Friends now for 3 years, have had at least 4-5 good fights,when the last one was over and we talked it out...no emotional explosion on my part... he told me he feels closer to me, and I shared I was sorry and told him what I would do different. He said "I know how we do things by now in this relationship, I am good". Nothing physical yet.

tondalea: We are seething with emotions people, if you popped us we'd explode like an emotion zit! LOL We protect emotions deeply with our very lives...

Yes, because we fear "The Beast that will rend us in the sight of all" (as Edna St. Vincent Millay wrote), and that fear & dread is behind some of the kooky shit we do... It's also why we're extra cautious, plodding, and slow to trust a person with our hearts - most of the time.

But we are Human, and we'll get involved with someone when we shouldn't...

Bottom line, it takes two well rounded, intelligent, emotionally sound, secure and capable adults to enter into a legally contracted institution.

I don't see that with the SAG & VG Missy described, and so I don't see a future together...

I agree, Shaka.

One thing I have seen with Virgo Men, though, is that they tend to "loosen up" as they grow older - not be such reserved, up-tight, sticks-in-the-mud...

My Virgo Dad is a prime example - I rarely see/hear him fuss & grump & reorganize & come right behind you and redo what you just did like he would in the days of my youth. But, he had 5 kids, and work, and you know how seriously we take our responsibilities, so maybe that's part of it, too. The kids are grown, he's retired, and there's very little left for him to fuss over...

Tondalea..your analysis is spot on.
She is still married to the cap, slept with all of her male friends, was dating another cap for 2 years before the virgo came along. That cap didn't give her the attention she needed so she started sleeping around until eventually she met this virgo in a bar. Cap has been in touch with her and bear in mind has met her 2 girls and accepts this..wants to get back together and try again..but she is now with the virgo although she went to see the cap for a long weekend. The virgo got insecure cos he found text messags from the cap. All very confusing and sounds messy.

Virgo is also scared of what the ex husband Cap will do if he finds out about this relationship. She is emotionally very insecure and needs constant attention. She can't be alone. I just don't see this lasting. Those 2 girls are seeing random men!...they are grown up girls..its not like they are too young and won't understand. I swear if it wasn't for her mum caring for those girls, they would be all over the place. What kind of upbringing is this. She spends more time with the virgo than she does with her girls. Her girl did actually say to her last week "mummy, will you be spending this weekend with us". How sad is that?

They are sleeping together.

Hmmm...anyways not any of my concern. I was just wondering if Virgo's are so analytical and want the perfect relationship, this is far from perfect in my eyes...

Posted by Shaks
I dont know how often this has been said (pretty often IMO) but age is definitely NO indicator whatsoever of emotional maturity (at least from the age of 18 and onwards IMO), Ive met 17 year old girls that are more mature than 27 year old ones, same story for men.

I agree age is no indicator of maturity levels however does anyone want to take on that level of responsibility at such a young age...a loose woman with 2 kids from the age of 19 almost!

Theres maturity, then theres stupidity!...

"Hmmm...anyways not any of my concern. I was just wondering if Virgo's are so analytical and want the perfect relationship, this is far from perfect in my eyes..."

Missy is it? I think the Virgo is simply trying to be himself and he should err on the side of caution as Dy says they plod along slowly. If she's got her messy business on the street with the Cap and is running all over neglecting responsibilities, he's going to see right through it. However a combo like this astrologically doesn't typically survive.

She has some serious emotional problems. Sounds like she was neglected or abandoned in some way by the parents emotionally. This is normally what causes adults to sometimes chase, beg and plead to have what they want despite the consequences.

Unfortunately, there's another human involved here and he's too young to be getting involved with her. Most guys would say hit it and run, but I have no doubt a "child to keep a man" scenario is on the horizon. Why do I come to this conclusion? She's already been married, dumped her responsibilities on her own mother and is off chasing ex husband #2. I find the more insecure they are, the more they try entrapment as a means of not having a man leave, NOT!

Virgos are quite analytical, however I do believe they know a "perfect relationship" is far from humanly possible. Our cross to bear I guess. 🙂 However, again they will take their very sweet looooong time testing, analyzing, testing some more, analyzing, file cabinet'ing the emotions...controlling them... giving shallow peeks of emotions to the meek...more analyzing... trying to find the one that gets them, has the patience of a saint, understands the depth of his passion and unspoken hidden love... allows the gentle criticisms to be a way of making you even more attractive to him (he's not trying to destroy your self-esteem ... truly) and well, being his trusted friend too.

Hope this helps. 🙂

Who needs maturity anyway...

With AGE comes EXPERIENCE and with experience comes WISDOM, the most important thing in this universe and beyond.

Also this WISDOM is dictating who is in or out in one's life! Not the maturity level.

True, I agree Qbone.

I frankly do not find anything wrong with the 22 yr old Virgo in the case Archer. I suppose I was trying to point out that this girl he's involved with is a loose cannon. Thanks for the compliment about the statement of marriage. 🙂

My older step-brother is a virgo, and he married his high school sweetheart, a scorpio before he went to the navy. She helped him alot when he moved out, paying for his apartment and helping him with bills.

They have been thru some difficult situations, and she can come across kinda domineering to him, but he is as cool as a cuc when she does that, and when you look at them, you can sense thier deep love and connection.

My virgo has actually hooked up with a few of his close girl friends but hasn't been able to get into a proper relationship and i know it's because of the emotional side of things. He really does run away from them

Yet...i think he can do it if he just stops listening to that little voice in his head that says "don't" and steps up to the plate.