Well....wasn't expecting that

I know in all of my other posts everyone's. advice was "talk to him, tell him how you feel" the thing is, I have.. It never went anywhere.. And I was in denial and trying my hardest to keep us going.

But.. The other day I kindof said something and he said "yeah I need to smarten my act up hey" (cause he knows he's been a s.hit boyfriend) he said that he thinks he might have been acting like a jerk last few months cause he hasn't had a job (he broke his leg 5 months ago and hasn't been working but he's still been getting paid from his insurance companies) anyway, I think it came down to the fact that he wasnt at work which means he couldn't be very productive (mind you, he often still found little projects to keep himself busy around his home) he also said he doesn't really want us to break up but if things don't get better then he will break up with me cause I don't deserve to be so emotionally abused. (I don't show it much around him cause I don't think he or virgos in general like to see much drama Etc) but obviously we can both sense that the relationship is a bit bleh.

Anyway, during our talk I told him that a little bit more effort will make a huge difference, I told him I don't mean gifts and stuff but just the way he is to me. I also pointed out to him that hes critical towards me (which i take as a good thing) but pointed out to him that he too could be a better person if he tried that little extra bit. The next couple of days he was sooooo good to me, the way he speaks to me even changed. I hope it stays that way! I'm nervous/don't want to be too full on/lovey Dovey. I feel better but still worry it will go back to how it was 😢 but I guess if it goes back to how it was then that's just life.

Thoughts?

you're crazy

Um okay.

Posted by HouseCleaning
you're crazy

You have no idea who I am. You only know me by a few of the posts I have written so f.uck off 🙂 thanks.

"Anyway, during our talk I told him that a little bit more effort will make a huge difference, I told him I don't mean gifts and stuff but just the way he is to me. I also pointed out to him that hes critical towards me (which i take as a good thing) but pointed out to him that he too could be a better person if he tried that little extra bit. The next couple of days he was sooooo good to me, the way he speaks to me even changed. I hope it stays that way! I'm nervous/don't want to be too full on/lovey Dovey. I feel better but still worry it will go back to how it was but I guess if it goes back to how it was then that's just life.

Thoughts?"

Ok..he's acknowledged, you've told him what's bothering you. Leave it at that, and just go nice and easy. No expectations, if he falls short don't react..walk away from it. Save your energy and use it on yourself.
Yes, you are correct that's just life. Life goes on. Good luck.

i wish i could stop over thinking. it is actually KILLING me.

Posted by HouseCleaning
you're crazy

Lol!

You're in an emotionally/mentally abusive situation and it's making you appear as if you're crazy. Now that he's doling out some crumbs of sunshine you're still a complete wreck as if you have post traumatic stress disorder.

Posted by scorpio24

I know in all of my other posts everyone's. advice was "talk to him, tell him how you feel"

That's a lie.

Not everyone told you to do that.

The fact that he's throwing you bone isn't as disgusting as your eagerness to have it, as if it's an amazing gift.

There's no doubt he's with his friends, laughing at you this very moment ... and I doubt you would even realize you're the fool.

we need to remember scorpio24 is 22 and is acting like a 22 yr old would. I know I won't expect things now that I expected at 22. we see the world wearing rose colored glasses at that age. scorpio24 all the advice is well meant n u will understand when u get older. meantime u can listen and decide for urself.

I don't agree with that, at all ... maturity comes from comprehending what you are experiencing, and not from the quantity of time.

A person could live a 100 years and still be in complete denial of themselves, so therefore, would have spent a lifetime learning nothing about the life they just lived ....... while another person could live to be 10 years old and have taken in everything about themselves, about the world and was aware that their quality of life depended on them putting it in the proper perspective for growth.

Posted by scorpio24

Posted by HouseCleaning
you're crazy

You have no idea who I am. You only know me by a few of the posts I have written so f.uck off 🙂 thanks.

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That's quite correct and judging on them threads and posts ' housecleaning ' nice name by the way 🙂 come up with that assumption . Judging your classy completely over the top response I wouldn't mind betting that quite a few posters thought the same thing .

Glad you made some headway in your relationship though , have you dropped the " need to feel in control " attitude ??

I witness women in their 40's and 50's doing the exact same thing as Scorp24. At her age she has options so there really is no reason to stay in that situation when the world is at her feet.

He admitted to knowingly abusing her/mistreating her and she clings to him. That's emotionally unhealthy and toxic. If she can gather the inner strength to get out she won't have to regret wasting her whole damn life on a broke leg insecure loser.