what're the chances? (Page 2)

Posted by venusianbull
Oh gosh. LOL Isn't sounding each other out FUN? Utterly maddening, butterflies in tummy roller coaster ride. Wheeeee! I have my fingers crossed for you lady. 🙂 I like your style though, relaaaaax. Slow things down.

Posted by sorti-fantastic poney
yuechan, this is pretty common. Eventhough he may say something that seems hard and cold-hearted, he is just summing up everything that he has viewed and done within his past relationships. Virgo\'s would never say this unless they are still disturbed by past experiences. Remember virgos go through moments when they are calm and silent, they are reliving previous conversations, moments, time, and events to give them time to begin another thought process in order to make sense of the events that are currently happening. You should look pass this and consider what he is really telling you. He\'s telling you that he wants to satify you, but he thinks that he is unworthy of being able to do it, so he would like to remain friends because he cherish your friendship as much as how you cherish his.

Why would you think he is said all of that and still touches you, well remember how you felt when he pulled away by the teasing of colleagues, well he more than likely noticed this and he doesn\'t want you to be left in this situation with him so what better way is there for him to have you close to him without feeling confused? Friendship.

But why does he continue to touch you, to show that he cares about you...

Think about it this way, a virgo love is companionate love, ( refers to the feelings of intimacy and affection we feel for another person when we care deeply for the person but do not necessarily experience passion or arousal in his or her presence. Companionate love, as in the love between two best friends, grows out of a mutual enjoyment in companionship and the intimacy of a close friendship. This love develops slowly and a significant amount of comfort develops between the partners )

If it isn\'t any of this, he\'s simply stalling until he gets an answer from either his gut or mind to take the \"leap of faith\", and these guys can beat themselves up for a bit.

Posted by venusianbull
Absolutely. LOL And tell those butterflies this: Ssssshhh, be vewwy vewwy quiet, I'm hunting Virgo. 😉

Posted by yuechan

@sorti:

hmm.. i should keep this in mind. i keep on focusing on the words that he said and the disconnect with his actions. 🙂) which is to be believed? i think both should, but they just cancel each out. 🙂)

i almost one arm hugged him this morning, but caught myself mid-impulse.

just glimpsed his wallpaper this morning and it says: disconnect to reconnect. in big red and black letters. hmm.

I think a companionate love is better than a romantic lo

Posted by venusianbull
That is why it is so important to like someone, as well as love them. When the fire dies down to embers, does one not want to look over at their dearest friend and just be thankful that they are who they are? I do.

Posted by yuechan


got cut off:

i think a companionate love is better than a romantic love. 🙂 less awkwardness and expectations.

i guess i'll just have to wait this one out, huh? 🙂)

thanks for the much insights, sorti! it sure makes more sense now. 😄

*lives in hope*

Posted by sorti-fantastic poney

Your welcome, dude. 😄

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@sorti and vb:

i have just come to know that the period where in we had that friendship fall off, not only was it partly caused by the environmental teasing, but by also him missing his ex badly enough that he has finally made a decision big enough to go and make steps to eventually be with her. (which i had a gut feel about, last few months ago, it's good to see that my intuition is still not wonky 🙂 and it would've been nice if he said something about it at all)

in this light, i guess it might be better for me to just maintain the foundation of friendship and just wait out for my like-liking of him to eventually fade off. 🙂

no more confusion there upon knowing that fact. 😄