Which One Decan Is He —

So, Idk if any of you remember me but I was on here sometime last year about a Virguy I used to talk to ; didn't end up working out too well & I still care for him but not sure if I'd ever go back to trying to work things out. Anyway, I'm just wondering which decan he is b/c I've read up on each one & he fits the 3rd decan . His birthday is Sept. 11th & I also saw sites that said he'd be a 2nd decan. So which one is right ??

My topic is suppose to say "Which Decan Is He" by the way , lol .

I say 2nd decan ....idk maybe there are cusps to decans?

Yeah , that's what I was thinking. The one I read abour 3rd decan Virgo's says they lack self confidence and something about having trouble w/ balancing the heart and mind. My Viguy was very insecure & off balance but it didn't show until after losing his brothers. Plus, he'd talk about how he was hurt by a previous girlfriend. So, I'm wondering if he's just going through a phase & actually is a 2nd decan or is he a 3rd and some people have the dates mixed up ? I've heard Virgo's are usually very good w/ Capricorns & we understand eachother well ; better than any other's would. Making a Virgo/Cap relationship one of the best. My birthday is Dec. 24th , so I'm a 1st decan Capricorn & according to most, compatibility goes beyond just the sun sign & expands into other areas . Decan being one of them.

Most virgos are insecure...no matter what decan etc. Hes probably just going thru a phase. Idk much about caps in rl unfortunately :/

Yea, I'm hoping it's just a phase. Either way, I'm keeping my distance though. We spoke on my birthday last year, he wanted to come over but it was late & I still live w/ my parents so I knew they wouldn't have like that. Plus, I'm not the kind of girl that allows guys to come over all hours of the night anyways. On Christmas morning he wished me a Merry Christmas & I did the same. Later that day, I found out he'd still been around the other girl that was popping up before while we were talking & I told him about it and that I didn't like the fact that he invited himself to my house knowing how I felt about her. It didn't come out nice, I'll admit. I felt bad for the way it was said so I rephrased it. Couple days went by ; nothing from him. New Years came & I wished him a happy New Year, but he didn't respond. So, I asked if he was upset w/ me. Still no response. After about a day or 2 later, he told me to lose his number. So clearly he was pset w/ me but he culdn't even tell me what I did wrong. B/c of that, I don't really care that he's upset & I feel I'm not even the person he's really mad at. He's just been taking it out on me. I told him, it's strange how he can poke his chest out at me & I've always been there for him ; never betrayed him in any way. Whereas he'll pretty much fold up when others who don't care about him see him down & put their foot on him instead of helping him up. This was only about a week ago & I haven't spoken to him since. I'd be lying if I said I don't care for him anymore, but I don't wanna go another year crying about the same things again.

He's a 2nd Devan Virgo. I know of one 2nd decan, sep 3rd, and although he project a strong, loud character inside, he has just as much self doubt, and emotions as all us Virgos do. Once Virgos have confidence there is no stopping them, that's why we need a lover who's going encourage, and motivate us.

That's understandable. I can come off as a bit aloof, I admit, but that's just how I am. Maybe he felt as if I didn't care as much as I said I did ? Idk. But I know I've been very encouraging and tried to motivate him time & time again, he just wouldn't budge. Based off the fact that he was mourning his loss, I tried not to smother him. I expected some mood swings & him wanting space at times ; that I can handle. He seemed as though he didn't know who to trust; he pushed me away a lot. I'm just not too fond of a guy claiming he wants to be with me, but he's out gassing up other females & then when he thought I'd abandon him, he'd throw them in my face even though they were treating him like trash. Not me. We bumped heads a lot b/c he'd always act so skeptical of me, but I wasn't even doing anything & didn't give him reasons to doubt me. So obv it all was coming from something else. He's only opened up and shown his vulnerable side to me once that's how I know he's a good person. But I feel like it isn't fair for me to wait around for something I'm not sure will even happen ; that's what I feel he wanted me to do. I can only take so much of being pushed away when all I'm trying to do is help someone I care for pick themselves back up.

And back in November, we got into it & he told me to lose his number. But clearly he kept mine if we we're speaking over the phone on Christmas Eve. And why he invited himself to my house that night, I still don't know. B/c we hadn't spoke to eachother in over a month. It's strange to me.