Taurus man pulling away

So I am into a relationship with a Taurus guy who's extremely sweet and seems like the perfect guy for me. Everything is going really well and we've been hanging out seeing each other often texting calling everything possible. But now, he's starting to pull away. I'm a Virgo Woman and it's really hard for me to stay away from someone after am emotionally attached. He's stopped replying to my msgs, is not making any effort to call or text or meet me. I'm trying to do everything I can, understand whTs wrong..and today I surprised him by showing up at his workplace.. he was surprised and asked me why I did so but was really sweet until I left and he's doing the same, not calling or msgng.. please help.. am I being too needy or clingy? Or is it because am taking away all his time...Should I ask him if there's anything wrong and try speaking to him about it ?

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We've been seeing each other for the past nine months, and everything has been going really well. Yes I felt he did stop making effort when he used to ask me.when we would meet again if we met say today, as it's only been me.making plans always...ive had a taurus crush earlier who did act this way, played a lot of mind games but thankfully I wasn't in a relationship with him though it did hurt me real bad. And my guy mentioned to me once long back that he would play mind games to check if I would be there for the long run and would do so until I would break out completely... Should I take this as a sign of that ? Or is it because am.being too needy that he's distancing himself...

Now I know I shouldn't have gone to see him 😞...

He's been starting to pull away since the last two three days...as it almost seems like he got used to me when I met him over the weekend recently...is it normal for taurus men to behave like that when u overdo it or am I being taken advantage of.. pulling away as in he's not responding back to my texts and stopped calling me as how he used to earlier...

bro you need to stop worrying. Reading your posts is giving me anxiety. I mean, yes, these are decent observations of taurus man behavior; IMO we get a little lazy/passive, can stop initiating, and get used to you hitting us up when you want to hang. For me, I think its also a matter of needing less interaction and not a sign necessarily that anything is wrong. I just try to always be receptive/open to whatever but if dating someone I am totally fine going a week or two without seeing them. I am starting to think Virgos are much needier than I did previously. Not a bad thing, unless you are expecting him to have the same needs, or initiate to the same degree. I think you probably need so much contact bc you have separation anxiety in the interim. I'd say you need to occupy yourself - take up a hobby, organize something, etc.

Its a yes for me wrt mind games to check for long-term sustainability but I don't even do it consciously. Still, I don't think this is that. You might just be stressing him out with your anxiety. We prefer more chillness from a partner I think and take things very slow. Work on relaxing lol. Take up meditation/yoga maybe. I have a couple male and female Virgo friends that expect me to do all the initiating and then try to guilt me out when I don't and I've never understood it at all, bc they don't actually initiate much unless its with guilt about how I haven't, lol. Most of my other friends just understand that I'm generally content, BUT I'm also very receptive and open if you reach out. IMO, it would seem to be ideal. I don't pressure you, and then I'm open when you have the desire. I suppose its different from your POV bc its dating, but I typically date women with a good deal of fire so they have no issues with initiating when they want to hang or vocalizing what they want in general. Like GC10 said, you definitely have to be direct with us; you'll get much better results.

Hey sweetie...

Taurus female here, dating Taurus man

You are freaking out for no reason, but trust me if you keep up your anxious and constant need for validation/confirmation that he still is interested in you, you will have reason to panic

Pump the breaks. Take a chill pill. Everything you are describing is normal. There is an ebb and flow when it comes to relationships. My bull and I when we first got together were non stop texts all day and night. I wouldn't wanna go an hour let alone a day without seeing him. He had to sit me down about 3 months in and explain the endless texts and sleepovers weren't sustainable and it was nothing personal just wayy to much energy for him. Of course I took it personal and thought it meant he was losing feelings.

He was right though. The texting got limited to good morning texts and nigh time phone calls. During "business hours" he wouldn't be able to respond. And I got use to it. Tbh it was better for us. Made the bond stronger and we had more to share when we did see each other. We are almost 2 years in an more solid than ever. We probably text 3xs a day. (Morning, afternoon, night) he always calls me on his way home from work and we save the important things for in person. And I enjoy my alone time or a day off from seeing each other on occasion.

We are both a little more on the lazy side so when it comes to dates and doing things it's few and far between. I mostly plan if it is something like a trip. I usually have to coax him for a date night once a month. But he always does and he is always present during it.

It's a lot of give and take. If you don't think you can handle the hot and coldness (which is a matter of opinion) then find someone who will be at your beck and call.

My best advice, like metatron said...get involved in something. Taurus men find it attractive when women work hard and are goal oriented and focus on themselves.

Just relax. Please and no more showing up to work...that's is a big no, no in Taurus world!

Posted by Melody14

He's been starting to pull away since the last two three days...as it almost seems like he got used to me when I met him over the weekend recently...is it normal for taurus men to behave like that when u overdo it or am I being taken advantage of.. pulling away as in he's not responding back to my texts and stopped calling me as how he used to earlier...

all this because he was a little less talkative for two days?!

Hello sweetie,

Thank you so much for the advise. He did mention to me once that he wants to take it slow and I made a huge mistake by asking him repeatedly as to what's wrong and what I could do better but he ended up saying he was quite disturbed etc and said so but then everything got back to normal. And just yesterday, he was on the call with someone constantly and kept disconnecting mine and said he would call back later but kept talking on the other call... And I got really doubtful about that and asked him to send me a screenshot of the call log. He did but the number was missing and he had apparently deleted it. He gave me vague answers and explanation denying everything he could to it... Anyways I got really pissed off and he says he hasn't got anybody else and to stay away if I want to keep doubting him..is that wrong ? Do Taurus men get pissed off with doubting them or their love ? But he deleted which was very clear and me asking him.about it has only made my suspicion even stronger..

Posted by MareInfame

WTF?!?? This is the WHEN A TAURUS MAN IGNORES YOU forum?!?!

OMG... I’m dying here.... this is hilarious 🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂

And also sad, that there is enough demand for a separate category. We need to be nicer.

Posted by Melody14

Hello sweetie,

Thank you so much for the advise. He did mention to me once that he wants to take it slow and I made a huge mistake by asking him repeatedly as to what's wrong and what I could do better but he ended up saying he was quite disturbed etc and said so but then everything got back to normal. And just yesterday, he was on the call with someone constantly and kept disconnecting mine and said he would call back later but kept talking on the other call... And I got really doubtful about that and asked him to send me a screenshot of the call log. He did but the number was missing and he had apparently deleted it. He gave me vague answers and explanation denying everything he could to it... Anyways I got really pissed off and he says he hasn't got anybody else and to stay away if I want to keep doubting him..is that wrong ? Do Taurus men get pissed off with doubting them or their love ? But he deleted which was very clear and me asking him.about it has only made my suspicion even stronger..

this is not going to end well.

Screen shots—🤦‍♀️

Oh boy

Posted by dilettante

this thread is so stressful my god

Pray she doesn’t demand screen shots! 🤦‍♀️

THAT would be stressful...