@bad_at_usernames
6 Years
I texted him, we talked for a bit, now I'll take it slow from here.
When you feel happy and upbeat and positive it’s a sign that you experience great unhappiness in the near future.
😂
But text him. What does it hurt?
See you're putting me down. I'm going to be thinking about this now, and I've already started crying. Thanks so much. You're mean.
When you feel happy and upbeat and positive it’s a sign that you experience great unhappiness in the near future.
😂
But text him. What does it hurt?
See you're putting me down. I'm going to be thinking about this now, and I've already started crying. Thanks so much. You're mean.
I’m not putting you down I’m telling you from life experience. Anything I gave no fucks things worked out and any time I cared they never went the way I wanted.
So just breathe and do it. Whatever happens happens. At least then you won’t be stuck.
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From my life experience, anytime I feel anxious AF for no apparent reason, something actually does go wrong, and when I feel peaceful inside my heart, things eventually fall into place. Touchwood🤞 hope the same thing happens this time too. And as I said, I'm not giving too many fucks. Just taking it slow from here.
Why do you both keep arguing?
Why do you both keep arguing?
Me and Scheherazade? Difference of opinion.
Why do you both keep arguing?
Me and Scheherazade? Difference of opinion.
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No, the boyfriend...
Why do you both keep arguing?
Me and Scheherazade? Difference of opinion.
No, the boyfriend...
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When we don't, we don't at all, it's all butterflies and magic for some months, and then one day something happens and even then we don't argue per say, sometimes the littlest of thing happens and he starts ignoring me. Not healthy I know, but I can't control the way he thinks.
Why do you both keep arguing?
Me and Scheherazade? Difference of opinion.
No, the boyfriend...
When we don't, we don't at all, it's all butterflies and magic for some months, and then one day something happens and even then we don't argue per say, sometimes the littlest of thing happens and he starts ignoring me. Not healthy I know, but I can't control the way he thinks.
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Ignoring you? You need to find out why that is happening....
....look at your synastry, you may just be incompatible
Why do you both keep arguing?
Me and Scheherazade? Difference of opinion.
No, the boyfriend...
When we don't, we don't at all, it's all butterflies and magic for some months, and then one day something happens and even then we don't argue per say, sometimes the littlest of thing happens and he starts ignoring me. Not healthy I know, but I can't control the way he thinks.
Ignoring you? You need to find out why that is happening....
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Why are you talking like you've don't know anything about my situation. You've been commenting on all my posts.
Why do you both keep arguing?
Me and Scheherazade? Difference of opinion.
No, the boyfriend...
When we don't, we don't at all, it's all butterflies and magic for some months, and then one day something happens and even then we don't argue per say, sometimes the littlest of thing happens and he starts ignoring me. Not healthy I know, but I can't control the way he thinks.
Ignoring you? You need to find out why that is happening....
Why are you talking like you've don't know anything about my situation. You've been commenting on all my posts.
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Fair enough....was going to offer to look at your synastry but no problem
Good Luck!
....look at your synastry, you may just be incompatible
Honestly I'm tempted, I just don't want to go that deep. Anyway how is finding out we're incompatible going to help
I commented on all your posts.....really.....?
This lockdown must be affecting my memory lol 🙃
I commented on all your posts.....really.....?
This lockdown must be affecting my memory lol 🙃
Haha may be
If you don’t want to be sad or hurt by people’s honesty opinions then definitely don’t post on here.
You should just text how you normally text with him. Don’t “wait a few days” if that’s not what you used to do.
It will lead to less and less communication, if you keep distancing yourself. I’m not saying to bombard him. But just act normal. You’re still being cautious and there isn’t a reason to be.
Anyways what did you guys talk about? How did he sound?
You should just text how you normally text with him. Don’t “wait a few days” if that’s not what you used to do.
It will lead to less and less communication, if you keep distancing yourself. I’m not saying to bombard him. But just act normal. You’re still being cautious and there isn’t a reason to be.
Anyways what did you guys talk about? How did he sound?
Just a normal good morning text, how we were doing and all. He sounded okk, not too enthusiastic. I want to give him some more space, he's still very busy with work. I want him to start making an effort and don't want him to get habitual of me being the only one doing it, but for that he has to be not that busy and I feel the need to give him a little more time.
You should just text how you normally text with him. Don’t “wait a few days” if that’s not what you used to do.
It will lead to less and less communication, if you keep distancing yourself. I’m not saying to bombard him. But just act normal. You’re still being cautious and there isn’t a reason to be.
Anyways what did you guys talk about? How did he sound?
Just a normal good morning text, how we were doing and all. He sounded okk, not too enthusiastic. I want to give him some more space, he's still very busy with work. I want him to start making an effort and don't want him to get habitual of me being the only one doing it, but for that he has to be not that busy and I feel the need to give him a little more time.
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ah cool, cool.
Glad you were able to chat with him and things were good 🙂
Question 1: What did he say when he responded?
Question 2: Would he agree with the boyfriend label if someone asked him what his relationship to you was?
Answer 1 - good morning
Answer 2 - yes
You should just text how you normally text with him. Don’t “wait a few days” if that’s not what you used to do.
It will lead to less and less communication, if you keep distancing yourself. I’m not saying to bombard him. But just act normal. You’re still being cautious and there isn’t a reason to be.
Anyways what did you guys talk about? How did he sound?
Just a normal good morning text, how we were doing and all. He sounded okk, not too enthusiastic. I want to give him some more space, he's still very busy with work. I want him to start making an effort and don't want him to get habitual of me being the only one doing it, but for that he has to be not that busy and I feel the need to give him a little more time.
ah cool, cool.
Glad you were able to chat with him and things were good 🙂
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Yes, thanks. For now I'm okay with this. Hoping to make progress slowly 🙂
You should just text how you normally text with him. Don’t “wait a few days” if that’s not what you used to do.
It will lead to less and less communication, if you keep distancing yourself. I’m not saying to bombard him. But just act normal. You’re still being cautious and there isn’t a reason to be.
Anyways what did you guys talk about? How did he sound?
Just a normal good morning text, how we were doing and all. He sounded okk, not too enthusiastic. I want to give him some more space, he's still very busy with work. I want him to start making an effort and don't want him to get habitual of me being the only one doing it, but for that he has to be not that busy and I feel the need to give him a little more time.
you don´t sound very well versed in sub-text reading ....what are you? a fixed sign?
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Well versed in sub text? I'm not a native speaker. That's doesn't have anything to do with signs I believe.
You should just text how you normally text with him. Don’t “wait a few days” if that’s not what you used to do.
It will lead to less and less communication, if you keep distancing yourself. I’m not saying to bombard him. But just act normal. You’re still being cautious and there isn’t a reason to be.
Anyways what did you guys talk about? How did he sound?
Just a normal good morning text, how we were doing and all. He sounded okk, not too enthusiastic. I want to give him some more space, he's still very busy with work. I want him to start making an effort and don't want him to get habitual of me being the only one doing it, but for that he has to be not that busy and I feel the need to give him a little more time.
you don´t sound very well versed in sub-text reading ....what are you? a fixed sign?
Well versed in sub text? I'm not a native speaker. That's doesn't have anything to do with signs I believe.
sometimes in communication ....there are people who are very direct, and others, are more evasive/passive and give you very short responses hoping you will get the message/hint.
we don´t know this guy, but everything you have been describing here is pointing in the direction of "not interested".
you seem to be very rigid and fixated ....that is why i asked what energy your sign has.
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During all my time with him, one thing that has been felt by me always is that his short responses never mean he isn't interested. He said the same to me in the beginning but back then I also I had the same point of view as you so I didn't take his word for it. But over time I understood that with him, the length of the response doesn't define his level of interest.
Anyways, good news. We talked and everything is feeling normal. We were talking about normal stuff, how the past days have been, what I did, what he did, flirted a bit. He was behaving his normal self. Moreover, I feel normal. So I'm gonna leave this discussion here 🙂❤😍
You should just text how you normally text with him. Don’t “wait a few days” if that’s not what you used to do.
It will lead to less and less communication, if you keep distancing yourself. I’m not saying to bombard him. But just act normal. You’re still being cautious and there isn’t a reason to be.
Anyways what did you guys talk about? How did he sound?
Just a normal good morning text, how we were doing and all. He sounded okk, not too enthusiastic. I want to give him some more space, he's still very busy with work. I want him to start making an effort and don't want him to get habitual of me being the only one doing it, but for that he has to be not that busy and I feel the need to give him a little more time.
you don´t sound very well versed in sub-text reading ....what are you? a fixed sign?
Well versed in sub text? I'm not a native speaker. That's doesn't have anything to do with signs I believe.
sometimes in communication ....there are people who are very direct, and others, are more evasive/passive and give you very short responses hoping you will get the message/hint.
we don´t know this guy, but everything you have been describing here is pointing in the direction of "not interested".
you seem to be very rigid and fixated ....that is why i asked what energy your sign has.
During all my time with him, one thing that has been felt by me always is that his short responses never mean he isn't interested. He said the same to me in the beginning but back then I also I had the same point of view as you so I didn't take his word for it. But over time I understood that with him, the length of the response doesn't define his level of interest.
Anyways, good news. We talked and everything is feeling normal. We were talking about normal stuff, how the past days have been, what I did, what he did, flirted a bit. He was behaving his normal self. Moreover, I feel normal. So I'm gonna leave this discussion here 🙂❤😍
Good luck on your journey!
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Thankss❤❤
After years of experience, one thing I've learnt is that all this getting-to-know-you bullshit means very little, in the greater scheme of things.
IMHO, it should be renamed, 'being-on-our-best-behaviour-until-we-finally-fuck'...
What has this got to do with my post.
Sometimes I don't reply to a greeting text for like 4 hours
It doesn't have to mean anything
I might've been having a nap or smthg
Sometimes I don't reply to a greeting text for like 4 hours
It doesn't have to mean anything
I might've been having a nap or smthg
Thanks.
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Still posting in the Capricorn forum coz that's where all my posts have been.
Hello everyone. It's me again. Today I'm happier than I've been in days. I had a feeling from the bottom of my heart that I should text my boyfriend. It'd been so many days and at this point it just felt weird. I felt in my heart that he wants me to text him. Although my brain and self respect still asked me to wait. Anyway I did, we talked for a bit, he replied after almost an hour, but that's okk. I'm not going to overthink this. I'm just happy we talked at least a bit. At least it tells me he still wants me, he isn't over me. It's almosst a pattern. He doesn't text me first after an argument or ignoring incident until I do. Then it resumes to normal a few days later. Hope the same happens this time too. I'm going to take it slow from here. Won't text him for a few days now again, see if he does it, hopefully he will🤞🙏Most importantly I won't rush anything now, neither will I obsess over how fast or slowly we're going back to normal. For now I'm happy we talked and he's not over me❤
Anybody who wants to make negative comments or anything that's down putting, please pass. I'm happy today and I don't want to start over thinking 🙂