Mixed Signals

So I’ve been seeing this cap for a little over a month & a half. I fell for him hard & he knows this. I told him on Tuesday. Well, I’ve known that this girl who he used to date was still lurking around. He is 32, she is 21 & I’m 35. He owns a business & she works for him. So it was a secret. She also lives with her parents & is still in school. When we started talking, he told her & he even told her when we got intimate. It sounded to me that he was letting her go. BUT, she is still texting & he insists on having a friendship with her. Well, I come to find out that she’s been in his apartment, finishing a collector set they were working on. I was furious.

Also, he told me two weeks ago that he had commitment problems. We have not made our “thing” official. The day after our talk, his father dies. One of the last convos with his father is about commitment & his mom said how she wants to see him with kids. He told me all of this, so I started thinking that maybe he was coming around. But after hearing about that girl still being around, I’m furious. I started to not answer his texts right away & he started to show his interest by actually initiating.

Well, Friday, he comes over (I live an hour away) after I have dinner with my friends. We only spent a few hours together but he learned that I was furious about that girl being in his apartment bc he offered me a cut of a new business he’s working on. I felt like he wanted me to do this work with him but I’m not sure bc I’m questioning his character. He was talking in circles about how he feels about me. In fact, he actually said they she & me are both friends. He will not commit. So I decided not to text him & he hasn’t reached out. It’s been only a day but we usually text ever day.

We have a wedding next week that he wants to take me to bc I honestly think he’d be embarrassed to take this girl. What is going on here? Do I reach out? I feel like it’s a competition & I’m not into that.

Move all the way on