Are Capricorns actually the most fake?

I fell hard for a Capricorn. He was quiet, humble, and had a gentle disposition that made me believe that he was a person of deep insight and understanding. He always appeared attentive, listening thoughtfully to what others had to say and reserving judgment. It is for these reasons that that he was surrounded by people who respected and wanted to be around him.

As I got to know him better, I started to see a self-absorbed, egocentric and controlling side to him that nobody suspected him of having. When others comment on how level-headed and calm he is, I can only think of how he's putting on a lifetime performance to mask his emotional instability. If I so much as complimented or showed intellectual interest in someone else, instead of confronting me about his insecurities, he would go out of way to ignore my existence or even worse, teach me lesson by spending time with someone I clearly didn't like. Worse yet, when I made gains in my professional life, I got this sinking feeling that he was not happy for me. He was talented but because he was always waiting for the right moment, things just did not happen for him and he seemed bitter for it.

I was initially drawn to him from our meaningful, deep conversations. I could tell he wanted someone he could relate to. Because he was observant, I figured he was very discerning about who his friends were. What I started to notice is that he "liked" others based not on character, personality (or anything substantive) but on whether they complimented him. If anyone complimented him, that would override all their negative traits and win him over. He always alluded to feeling alone but it seems very self-imposed. If you value others simply based on a personal agenda of a ego boost, there's no chance of meaningful relationships.

He's just one person but I am starting to think that many Capricorn men are the same way. They are very focused on controlling and projecting a respectable image of calm and composure and this comes with the heavy price of a very superficial life. I know I just raked Capricorns over the coals but I am genuinely interested if there are any of you out there who have deep relationships with others that have more to do with connection than what little external validation you feel you get?

This doesn't apply to many?

There's usually layers to people, and its rare you initially meet someone in raw form.

If the people he puts on his "face" to are associates, then they'll probably never see the real him, and he probably doesn't care.

You are only seeing him for who he is because he is comfortable around you, but if this is an energy you can't deal with then part from him because its not worth being around someone that makes you not feel good.

I won't say most caps are fake, but I will say that many have issues that they don't care to walk out everyday and show the world.

State ur sign please

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Posted by Revenge

i'm having a reflexion right now and its been a long time i havnt got a compliment from my friend, i dont know i choosed my friend because they could bring me some action in my life that is how i'm choosing my life,

Posted by Revenge

i dont even understand your whole point

I see you don’t understand often.

Maybe you need to watch some Dora the Explorer?

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Posted by Revenge

i'm having a reflexion right now and its been a long time i havnt got a compliment from my friend, i dont know i choosed my friend because they could bring me some action in my life that is how i'm choosing my life,

You drinking and dxping tonight?

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I think it’s him sober...jezoos! 🤦‍♀️

Posted by Arielle83

If he feels alone it’s probably because he can’t connect to people.

If they show him he has value, he feels comfortable to let them in.

YOU let him IN! I am done...he is OUT! Lol

Posted by Revenge

but we arent the most fake we are the most violent

no. that would be us Scorpios.

sounds like you just didn't know him and made a huge assumption on his character too soon lolol

Posted by besarlalluvia

sounds like you just didn't know him and made a huge assumption on his character too soon lolol

If it's anything like what I have experienced, she did know him, as one person he portrayed to her purposely for a long time to gain something. Then maybe he quit of got what he wanted, and only then began to be his true self in front of her.

The guy I know, I witnessed him literally change his whole character in front of me to get a girl. Not just being louader or funnier or trying to impress her. Literally change his whole demeanor. Into how he was when I first met him. Some people are just like that I guess.

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Posted by besarlalluvia

sounds like you just didn't know him and made a huge assumption on his character too soon lolol

If it's anything like what I have experienced, she did know him, as one person he portrayed to her purposely for a long time to gain something. Then maybe he quit of got what he wanted, and only then began to be his true self in front of her.

The guy I know, I witnessed him literally change his whole character in front of me to get a girl. Not just being louader or funnier or trying to impress her. Literally change his whole demeanor. Into how he was when I first met him. Some people are just like that I guess.

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ah well

I find caps to be really honest. They think really basically and I appreciate it.

I genuinly wonder, if the cap guys I knew insist on being friends on paper but not action and think that maybe he just for the life of him can not let me be right when I have called him out on having lied to be to get sex. Must be that.

A special breed that's for sure.

I used to concider him fake, but now it's more calculating. Same same but still different.

I don’t see this as a fake. It’s more like a protective layer. When you get to know them, you see more of who they are.

When Caps are controlling it is typically when they feel out of control. I think if you get through that layer, you get to the soft, sweet and easy to hurt layer. If you don’t deserve their trust, you won’t get there.

So here's the thing I do not understand. Why is having a public image considered fake??

I think we are just in a weird era of social media of constant intimate exposure of ourselves that few outside people care about.

There is great value in having a public image and then your intimate self who you share with people who are close to you or people you trust. Why would you want people you do not trust knowing parts of you that are sensitive and vulnerable?

I don't think people who have a public image and then their intimate selves are fake at all. I think they're practicing discretion and are actually considerate not to subject just anyone to their drama. Also, not everyone deserves to see your intimate self.

Posted by stillstillwater

So here's the thing I do not understand. Why is having a public image considered fake??

I think we are just in a weird era of social media of constant intimate exposure of ourselves that few outside people care about.

There is great value in having a public image and then your intimate self who you share with people who are close to you or people you trust. Why would you want people you do not trust knowing parts of you that are sensitive and vulnerable?

I don't think people who have a public image and then their intimate selves are fake at all. I think they're practicing discretion and are actually considerate not to subject just anyone to their drama. Also, not everyone deserves to see your intimate self.

As always- Well said, Still.

Majority of people, just do not understand us.

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Posted by besarlalluvia

sounds like you just didn't know him and made a huge assumption on his character too soon lolol

If it's anything like what I have experienced, she did know him, as one person he portrayed to her purposely for a long time to gain something. Then maybe he quit of got what he wanted, and only then began to be his true self in front of her.

The guy I know, I witnessed him literally change his whole character in front of me to get a girl. Not just being louader or funnier or trying to impress her. Literally change his whole demeanor. Into how he was when I first met him. Some people are just like that I guess.

Perhaps she only knew what he portrayed, before he got what he wanted.

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Yeah that's what I mean. Is that not what I am saying?? 😂😂😂 I think maybe I need to take english lessons again.

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Posted by besarlalluvia

sounds like you just didn't know him and made a huge assumption on his character too soon lolol

If it's anything like what I have experienced, she did know him, as one person he portrayed to her purposely for a long time to gain something. Then maybe he quit of got what he wanted, and only then began to be his true self in front of her.

The guy I know, I witnessed him literally change his whole character in front of me to get a girl. Not just being louader or funnier or trying to impress her. Literally change his whole demeanor. Into how he was when I first met him. Some people are just like that I guess.

Perhaps she only knew what he portrayed, before he got what he wanted.

Yeah that's what I mean. Is that not what I am saying?? 😂😂😂 I think maybe I need to take english lessons again.

Well that would mean she did not really know him...only what he portrayed.😛

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Ah. Yeah, which is probably why it's so uncomfortable.

It's still being if not fake then not real.

When I think about it, I believe I know 5 caps. Only one guy.

One of the cap ladies have been in a relationship for years, but is not happy. She is with him for safety, as she says herself. She kissed another guy.

One of the other cap ladies is pure ice to me.

She has a family, 4 kids, young mom, picture perfect on social media. Beautiful kids, they all model, she bakes and makes family dinner and lives a seemingly good muslim life.

But she has been having an affair with a guy for years now. Her husbond knows something is up, but other people tell me, that the cap Lady have both her husbond and the guy she cheats with in the palm of her hand. She sometimes even put the other guy on her social media (portray him as a friend ofcours). I don't know how she has the heart to do this. Truly.

People that know her better, says she's got poor selfesteem.

She knows the young cap I hooked up with. She was trying to I guess expose all that, but her way og doing it, was to ask him, if he would rather fuck me or her. And she is losely related to this guy (not by blood in any way though) . 👀👀👀👀👀 Something has gone terribly wrong that's for sure. I mean young cap probably also flirts with her, but as a married woman... I mean. Just wauw! There def. is a sense of : my needs before everyone elses. But I think they take care of other people, like this woman takes care of her kids and her family, and so she feels like she outs their needs first. Other cap lady who kissed another guy feels like she takes care of her family and alcoholic mother as well. The guy who knows, but looking from outside and in it seems they feel like they are totally in their right to betray some people. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Not fake but extremely stubborn and can be cold unless they've a warmer moon placement...

Posted by Revenge

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When I think about it, I believe I know 5 caps. Only one guy.

One of the cap ladies have been in a relationship for years, but is not happy. She is with him for safety, as she says herself. She kissed another guy.

One of the other cap ladies is pure ice to me.

She has a family, 4 kids, young mom, picture perfect on social media. Beautiful kids, they all model, she bakes and makes family dinner and lives a seemingly good muslim life.

But she has been having an affair with a guy for years now. Her husbond knows something is up, but other people tell me, that the cap Lady have both her husbond and the guy she cheats with in the palm of her hand. She sometimes even put the other guy on her social media (portray him as a friend ofcours). I don't know how she has the heart to do this. Truly.

People that know her better, says she's got poor selfesteem.

She knows the young cap I hooked up with. She was trying to I guess expose all that, but her way og doing it, was to ask him, if he would rather fuck me or her. And she is losely related to this guy (not by blood in any way though) . 👀👀👀👀👀 Something has gone terribly wrong that's for sure. I mean young cap probably also flirts with her, but as a married woman... I mean. Just wauw! There def. is a sense of : my needs before everyone elses. But I think they take care of other people, like this woman takes care of her kids and her family, and so she feels like she outs their needs first. Other cap lady who kissed another guy feels like she takes care of her family and alcoholic mother as well. The guy who knows, but looking from outside and in it seems they feel like they are totally in their right to betray some people. 🤷🏼‍♀️

whatever starlord the whole dxp know you'll end up with a cap zick at the end

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I don't think anybody here think I'll end up with anyone 😂😂😂😂