@PoloChat
7 Years
Need advice on cap crush
Not sure if he's into you by this point as the contact made. I think caps take things slow.
I think occasional initiations of texts would be fine. Like maybe once per 2 weeks. Do it just because, not getting your hopes up. I mean, to take him as a friend, if you can.
Unless you want to really pursue him then you could probably just forget the crush if the possibility of being left midway more than 2 times.
But if you want to pursue him then you need to find a way to get to know him better perhaps by showing appreciation to his music then try to find topica related to that then go to another areas of himself.
Not sure if he's into you by this point as the contact made. I think caps take things slow.
I think occasional initiations of texts would be fine. Like maybe once per 2 weeks. Do it just because, not getting your hopes up. I mean, to take him as a friend, if you can.
Unless you want to really pursue him then you could probably just forget the crush if the possibility of being left midway more than 2 times.
But if you want to pursue him then you need to find a way to get to know him better perhaps by showing appreciation to his music then try to find topica related to that then go to another areas of himself.
Okay...thanks for the advice...very confused with him right now. Will follow your tips.
Another thing coz you mentioned, a friend of mine who has dated lotss of guys advised me not to appreciate him or his work way too much. Like in the last chat i had appreciated his work even though he was like i don't think i sing very good and i was like i have heard few and i have liked them and stuffs about his cooking.
My friend says he will go crazy and won't work hard to get my appreciation. I mean does this make sense?
Not sure if he's into you by this point as the contact made. I think caps take things slow.
I think occasional initiations of texts would be fine. Like maybe once per 2 weeks. Do it just because, not getting your hopes up. I mean, to take him as a friend, if you can.
Unless you want to really pursue him then you could probably just forget the crush if the possibility of being left midway more than 2 times.
But if you want to pursue him then you need to find a way to get to know him better perhaps by showing appreciation to his music then try to find topica related to that then go to another areas of himself.
Okay...thanks for the advice...very confused with him right now. Will follow your tips.
Another thing coz you mentioned, a friend of mine who has dated lotss of guys advised me not to appreciate him or his work way too much. Like in the last chat i had appreciated his work even though he was like i don't think i sing very good and i was like i have heard few and i have liked them and stuffs about his cooking.
My friend says he will go crazy and won't work hard to get my appreciation. I mean does this make sense?
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Maybe or maybe not. But really play hard to get isnt my kind of thing. But I think I get what she is saying, not to give too much of appreciation so much so it loses the value.
What I was saying is that its good to appreciate his music (and best to be genuine about that) to make ways for getting to know him.
Games are not a good idea with a Cap. They are very slow, and yes some initiation is ok. If interested, he’ll come to you. But sometimes they take forever and your initiation will help to progress whatever this is.
Games are not a good idea with a Cap. They are very slow, and yes some initiation is ok. If interested, he’ll come to you. But sometimes they take forever and your initiation will help to progress whatever this is.
Yesss he is very slow..
I guess i will have to text him sometime soon or he will take another 2 months. Uhhhh
Games are not a good idea with a Cap. They are very slow, and yes some initiation is ok. If interested, he’ll come to you. But sometimes they take forever and your initiation will help to progress whatever this is.
Yesss he is very slow..
I guess i will have to text him sometime soon or he will take another 2 months. Uhhhh
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Yes, I’ve learned this the hard way.
Games are not a good idea with a Cap. They are very slow, and yes some initiation is ok. If interested, he’ll come to you. But sometimes they take forever and your initiation will help to progress whatever this is.
I'm a Cap and I take a long time to open up. A person needs to be persistant with me and get to know me..and definitely Not rush me!
Games are not a good idea with a Cap. They are very slow, and yes some initiation is ok. If interested, he’ll come to you. But sometimes they take forever and your initiation will help to progress whatever this is.
I'm a Cap and I take a long time to open up. A person needs to be persistant with me and get to know me..and definitely Not rush me!
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Lol yes. Imagine when it’s two cap mercury/cap Venus and one is a Cap sun. Omg the struggle 😂🙃 both saying prove it to me with their actions!
Games are not a good idea with a Cap. They are very slow, and yes some initiation is ok. If interested, he’ll come to you. But sometimes they take forever and your initiation will help to progress whatever this is.
I'm a Cap and I take a long time to open up. A person needs to be persistant with me and get to know me..and definitely Not rush me!
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I can be persistent with him. I definitely want to know him more.
It's just that i am scared to initiate or even if i do initiate how frequently should i do that like what if he thinks okayyy we just chatted once and now she is all over me.
I don't want to scare him off.
It just sounds like he’s talking to you as a friend.
Not sure how you would create interest over text.
Seems bland.
Honestly right now i am not looking for creating interest. I just want the conversation to flow even if it's just like as a friend.
I just don't know how should i go about now, initiating things or not.
It just sounds like he’s talking to you as a friend.
Not sure how you would create interest over text.
Seems bland.
Honestly right now i am not looking for creating interest. I just want the conversation to flow even if it's just like as a friend.
I just don't know how should i go about now, initiating things or not.
Anything common between you and him?
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I guess we attended the same college, graduated in the same year, have some common friends, both have never talked about it, so not 100% sure.
Then we worked in the same office.
Apart from that i don't know.
so you people have never chatted for real? like at max 10 messages total?
is that even a crush?
It just sounds like he’s talking to you as a friend.
Not sure how you would create interest over text.
Seems bland.
Honestly right now i am not looking for creating interest. I just want the conversation to flow even if it's just like as a friend.
I just don't know how should i go about now, initiating things or not.
Anything common between you and him?
I guess we attended the same college, graduated in the same year, have some common friends, both have never talked about it, so not 100% sure.
Then we worked in the same office.
Apart from that i don't know.
Do you both attend work functions? Or gatherings with coworkers? College reunions? You could always start with asking for his advice on something work related.
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Now that's a problem coz he has switched jobs. And college reunions i have no idea about.
so you people have never chatted for real? like at max 10 messages total?
is that even a crush?
I saw him at work and that's where the crush started. We had chatted just once there. Apart from that we chatted once on texts for a couple of hours. More than 10 messages though 😐
The first time i texted him, he left the conversation after 2 messages just like that. No reply no update nothing.
So i ignored him.
How can you ignore someone who has already checked out. You didn’t ignore him, he ignored you and you decided to stop texting him.
I think he sees you as only a coworker at this point.
Send him a message with the words below.
“Hey dummy. I like you. When are you going to ask me out for lunch?”
😬😬😬
The first time i texted him, he left the conversation after 2 messages just like that. No reply no update nothing.
So i ignored him.
How can you ignore someone who has already checked out. You didn’t ignore him, he ignored you and you decided to stop texting him.
I think he sees you as only a coworker at this point.
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I ignored him in the sense i didn't do anything about it. Like if he wants to he will, if he doesn't want to, i won't bother kind of ignore!
Send him a message with the words below.
“Hey dummy. I like you. When are you going to ask me out for lunch?”
And here goes to the end of the story (before it could even begin) *smh
It just sounds like he’s talking to you as a friend.
Not sure how you would create interest over text.
Seems bland.
Honestly right now i am not looking for creating interest. I just want the conversation to flow even if it's just like as a friend.
I just don't know how should i go about now, initiating things or not.
Anything common between you and him?
I guess we attended the same college, graduated in the same year, have some common friends, both have never talked about it, so not 100% sure.
Then we worked in the same office.
Apart from that i don't know.
Do you both attend work functions? Or gatherings with coworkers? College reunions? You could always start with asking for his advice on something work related.
Now that's a problem coz he has switched jobs. And college reunions i have no idea about.
I would look into college reunions or any kind of gathering where both of you are present with other people, if possible. The idea here is what you ultimately wanna go for is finding things you can do with the Cap together as friends, and less on texting and messages.
I have this Cap friend that I don't really message much, but we often talk over food with a Leo and an Aries friend. I think with my late Cap friend, we often went for sushi buffets. Things of that sort.
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I totally understand what you are saying but i don't think gatherings will happen anytime soon☹
It just sounds like he’s talking to you as a friend.
Not sure how you would create interest over text.
Seems bland.
Honestly right now i am not looking for creating interest. I just want the conversation to flow even if it's just like as a friend.
I just don't know how should i go about now, initiating things or not.
Anything common between you and him?
I guess we attended the same college, graduated in the same year, have some common friends, both have never talked about it, so not 100% sure.
Then we worked in the same office.
Apart from that i don't know.
Do you both attend work functions? Or gatherings with coworkers? College reunions? You could always start with asking for his advice on something work related.
Now that's a problem coz he has switched jobs. And college reunions i have no idea about.
I would look into college reunions or any kind of gathering where both of you are present with other people, if possible. The idea here is what you ultimately wanna go for is finding things you can do with the Cap together as friends, and less on texting and messages.
I have this Cap friend that I don't really message much, but we often talk over food with a Leo and an Aries friend. I think with my late Cap friend, we often went for sushi buffets. Things of that sort.
I totally understand what you are saying but i don't think gatherings will happen anytime soon☹
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What are your placements? Do you usually make guys chase you? I know I do. I am dominant Cap but Sag sun and seriously if you both do the same thing how can you connect? Especially if you won’t run into each other anywhere. One has to make an effort. And he has a couple times. If he has any interest at all, he will be happy you initiated. Stop overthinking. You have to find a way to get more texting at least, to get to know each other.
It just sounds like he’s talking to you as a friend.
Not sure how you would create interest over text.
Seems bland.
Honestly right now i am not looking for creating interest. I just want the conversation to flow even if it's just like as a friend.
I just don't know how should i go about now, initiating things or not.
Anything common between you and him?
I guess we attended the same college, graduated in the same year, have some common friends, both have never talked about it, so not 100% sure.
Then we worked in the same office.
Apart from that i don't know.
Do you both attend work functions? Or gatherings with coworkers? College reunions? You could always start with asking for his advice on something work related.
Now that's a problem coz he has switched jobs. And college reunions i have no idea about.
I would look into college reunions or any kind of gathering where both of you are present with other people, if possible. The idea here is what you ultimately wanna go for is finding things you can do with the Cap together as friends, and less on texting and messages.
I have this Cap friend that I don't really message much, but we often talk over food with a Leo and an Aries friend. I think with my late Cap friend, we often went for sushi buffets. Things of that sort.
I totally understand what you are saying but i don't think gatherings will happen anytime soon☹
What are your placements? Do you usually make guys chase you? I know I do. I am dominant Cap but Sag sun and seriously if you both do the same thing how can you connect? Especially if you won’t run into each other anywhere. One has to make an effort. And he has a couple times. If he has any interest at all, he will be happy you initiated. Stop overthinking. You have to find a way to get more texting at least, to get to know each other.
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You know i was eagerly waiting for this kind of advice. I will initiate this time.
And yes you are right if he's interested he will be happy to see my text otherwise i know how to stay away.
But what should i ask a guy who i have chatted with just once, i mean i don't want to ask him about his day or plans.
And yes I usually like it when guys chase me 😐
It just sounds like he’s talking to you as a friend.
Not sure how you would create interest over text.
Seems bland.
Honestly right now i am not looking for creating interest. I just want the conversation to flow even if it's just like as a friend.
I just don't know how should i go about now, initiating things or not.
Anything common between you and him?
I guess we attended the same college, graduated in the same year, have some common friends, both have never talked about it, so not 100% sure.
Then we worked in the same office.
Apart from that i don't know.
Do you both attend work functions? Or gatherings with coworkers? College reunions? You could always start with asking for his advice on something work related.
Now that's a problem coz he has switched jobs. And college reunions i have no idea about.
I would look into college reunions or any kind of gathering where both of you are present with other people, if possible. The idea here is what you ultimately wanna go for is finding things you can do with the Cap together as friends, and less on texting and messages.
I have this Cap friend that I don't really message much, but we often talk over food with a Leo and an Aries friend. I think with my late Cap friend, we often went for sushi buffets. Things of that sort.
I totally understand what you are saying but i don't think gatherings will happen anytime soon☹
What are your placements? Do you usually make guys chase you? I know I do. I am dominant Cap but Sag sun and seriously if you both do the same thing how can you connect? Especially if you won’t run into each other anywhere. One has to make an effort. And he has a couple times. If he has any interest at all, he will be happy you initiated. Stop overthinking. You have to find a way to get more texting at least, to get to know each other.
You know i was eagerly waiting for this kind of advice. I will initiate this time.
And yes you are right if he's interested he will be happy to see my text otherwise i know how to stay away.
But what should i ask a guy who i have chatted with just once, i mean i don't want to ask him about his day or plans.
And yes I usually like it when guys chase me 😐
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Stop worrying about it. Just reach out and say hi & ask how he’s doing up, etc. let the conversation evolve. Like I said I’ve learned the hard way. I do exactly the same with my ex-bf when I get pissed I say screw you ( to myself) and am quiet. It soooooo doesn’t work!
You are right if he doesn’t seem to care you initiated, then that’s the end of it. But warning, they overthink too & take awhile to process. Don’t be surprised 😉 just realize that if he reaches out, it means he’s thinking about you for whatever reason. It’s hard to tell why, until you get to know each other better.
It just sounds like he’s talking to you as a friend.
Not sure how you would create interest over text.
Seems bland.
Honestly right now i am not looking for creating interest. I just want the conversation to flow even if it's just like as a friend.
I just don't know how should i go about now, initiating things or not.
Anything common between you and him?
I guess we attended the same college, graduated in the same year, have some common friends, both have never talked about it, so not 100% sure.
Then we worked in the same office.
Apart from that i don't know.
Do you both attend work functions? Or gatherings with coworkers? College reunions? You could always start with asking for his advice on something work related.
Now that's a problem coz he has switched jobs. And college reunions i have no idea about.
I would look into college reunions or any kind of gathering where both of you are present with other people, if possible. The idea here is what you ultimately wanna go for is finding things you can do with the Cap together as friends, and less on texting and messages.
I have this Cap friend that I don't really message much, but we often talk over food with a Leo and an Aries friend. I think with my late Cap friend, we often went for sushi buffets. Things of that sort.
I totally understand what you are saying but i don't think gatherings will happen anytime soon☹
What are your placements? Do you usually make guys chase you? I know I do. I am dominant Cap but Sag sun and seriously if you both do the same thing how can you connect? Especially if you won’t run into each other anywhere. One has to make an effort. And he has a couple times. If he has any interest at all, he will be happy you initiated. Stop overthinking. You have to find a way to get more texting at least, to get to know each other.
You know i was eagerly waiting for this kind of advice. I will initiate this time.
And yes you are right if he's interested he will be happy to see my text otherwise i know how to stay away.
But what should i ask a guy who i have chatted with just once, i mean i don't want to ask him about his day or plans.
And yes I usually like it when guys chase me 😐
Stop worrying about it. Just reach out and say hi & ask how he’s doing up, etc. let the conversation evolve. Like I said I’ve learned the hard way. I do exactly the same with my ex-bf when I get pissed I say screw you ( to myself) and am quiet. It soooooo doesn’t work!
You are right if he doesn’t seem to care you initiated, then that’s the end of it. But warning, they overthink too & take awhile to process. Don’t be surprised 😉 just realize that if he reaches out, it means he’s thinking about you for whatever reason. It’s hard to tell why, until you get to know each other better.
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Can you tell me anything negative about caps, i need to fall out of lovey dovey love 🙈 with him
It just sounds like he’s talking to you as a friend.
Not sure how you would create interest over text.
Seems bland.
Honestly right now i am not looking for creating interest. I just want the conversation to flow even if it's just like as a friend.
I just don't know how should i go about now, initiating things or not.
Anything common between you and him?
I guess we attended the same college, graduated in the same year, have some common friends, both have never talked about it, so not 100% sure.
Then we worked in the same office.
Apart from that i don't know.
Do you both attend work functions? Or gatherings with coworkers? College reunions? You could always start with asking for his advice on something work related.
Now that's a problem coz he has switched jobs. And college reunions i have no idea about.
I would look into college reunions or any kind of gathering where both of you are present with other people, if possible. The idea here is what you ultimately wanna go for is finding things you can do with the Cap together as friends, and less on texting and messages.
I have this Cap friend that I don't really message much, but we often talk over food with a Leo and an Aries friend. I think with my late Cap friend, we often went for sushi buffets. Things of that sort.
I totally understand what you are saying but i don't think gatherings will happen anytime soon☹
What are your placements? Do you usually make guys chase you? I know I do. I am dominant Cap but Sag sun and seriously if you both do the same thing how can you connect? Especially if you won’t run into each other anywhere. One has to make an effort. And he has a couple times. If he has any interest at all, he will be happy you initiated. Stop overthinking. You have to find a way to get more texting at least, to get to know each other.
You know i was eagerly waiting for this kind of advice. I will initiate this time.
And yes you are right if he's interested he will be happy to see my text otherwise i know how to stay away.
But what should i ask a guy who i have chatted with just once, i mean i don't want to ask him about his day or plans.
And yes I usually like it when guys chase me 😐
Stop worrying about it. Just reach out and say hi & ask how he’s doing up, etc. let the conversation evolve. Like I said I’ve learned the hard way. I do exactly the same with my ex-bf when I get pissed I say screw you ( to myself) and am quiet. It soooooo doesn’t work!
You are right if he doesn’t seem to care you initiated, then that’s the end of it. But warning, they overthink too & take awhile to process. Don’t be surprised 😉 just realize that if he reaches out, it means he’s thinking about you for whatever reason. It’s hard to tell why, until you get to know each other better.
Can you tell me anything negative about caps, i need to fall out of lovey dovey love 🙈 with him
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Haha you’re not in love! Infatuated maybe, but really you don’t even know him. They can be very detached, closed off, and negative/moody and it’s hard to let someone in. Does that help? 😂
It just sounds like he’s talking to you as a friend.
Not sure how you would create interest over text.
Seems bland.
Honestly right now i am not looking for creating interest. I just want the conversation to flow even if it's just like as a friend.
I just don't know how should i go about now, initiating things or not.
Anything common between you and him?
I guess we attended the same college, graduated in the same year, have some common friends, both have never talked about it, so not 100% sure.
Then we worked in the same office.
Apart from that i don't know.
Do you both attend work functions? Or gatherings with coworkers? College reunions? You could always start with asking for his advice on something work related.
Now that's a problem coz he has switched jobs. And college reunions i have no idea about.
I would look into college reunions or any kind of gathering where both of you are present with other people, if possible. The idea here is what you ultimately wanna go for is finding things you can do with the Cap together as friends, and less on texting and messages.
I have this Cap friend that I don't really message much, but we often talk over food with a Leo and an Aries friend. I think with my late Cap friend, we often went for sushi buffets. Things of that sort.
I totally understand what you are saying but i don't think gatherings will happen anytime soon☹
What are your placements? Do you usually make guys chase you? I know I do. I am dominant Cap but Sag sun and seriously if you both do the same thing how can you connect? Especially if you won’t run into each other anywhere. One has to make an effort. And he has a couple times. If he has any interest at all, he will be happy you initiated. Stop overthinking. You have to find a way to get more texting at least, to get to know each other.
You know i was eagerly waiting for this kind of advice. I will initiate this time.
And yes you are right if he's interested he will be happy to see my text otherwise i know how to stay away.
But what should i ask a guy who i have chatted with just once, i mean i don't want to ask him about his day or plans.
And yes I usually like it when guys chase me 😐
Stop worrying about it. Just reach out and say hi & ask how he’s doing up, etc. let the conversation evolve. Like I said I’ve learned the hard way. I do exactly the same with my ex-bf when I get pissed I say screw you ( to myself) and am quiet. It soooooo doesn’t work!
You are right if he doesn’t seem to care you initiated, then that’s the end of it. But warning, they overthink too & take awhile to process. Don’t be surprised 😉 just realize that if he reaches out, it means he’s thinking about you for whatever reason. It’s hard to tell why, until you get to know each other better.
Can you tell me anything negative about caps, i need to fall out of lovey dovey love 🙈 with him
Haha you’re not in love! Infatuated maybe, but really you don’t even know him. They can be very detached, closed off, and negative/moody and it’s hard to let someone in. Does that help? 😂
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Kinda! 😂
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So i have a crush on this Capricorn guy at my workplace. He has shifted his job now.
He kind of knows that i am interested in him as i found out his name, searched him on social media and added him there.
The first time i texted him, he left the conversation after 2 messages just like that. No reply no update nothing.
So i ignored him.
One month later he sent me a link to one of the songs he played. Casual "you sing well, thank you" and the end.
Two months after that, on new year he again texted me and we chatted for a couple of hours.
And nothing since then.
What should i do like should i initiate any chat or let him do that coz i don't want to be left midway just like the 1st time.
Advice please?