Speaking With Capricorn Ex Again

Hey guys. So I'm back on speaking terms with my Cap ex. We were together for nearly 3 years. Once he got his first full time job everything changed. He broke up with me twice. He said everything was perfect except the sex part and that I was being too annoying/needy. He said I never initiated it and we didn't have it as much. So when we got back together the 2nd time I started initiating it and having it more, but then he said I was faking wanting to have sex just to keep him. So then that's when he broke up with me again. He then started seeing a girl (he's bisexual) and then kept me around as a friend with benefits after I initiated contact 2 weeks later. (even though he broke up with because of the sex part?? lol). Then, an altercation happened between us and he told me that we're done for good. We didn't talk for 5 weeks after that. I reached out first and apologized for my part in the altercation. He said we can speak again as friends when he has the time. Almost 2 weeks later I re-added him on Facebook, he accepted, and we started chatting. We then video chatted 2 days ago and it felt normal and like nothing ever happened. We agreed to hang as friends and I asked about the possibility of it turning into something more and he said maybe (he said the same thing after we got back together the 2nd time). He said we can hangout soon and told me to not act crazy. He then told me he hasn't seen the girl he's talking to in awhile either and that she's just his f*ck buddy. I heard that once Caps are completely done, they're done. They don't give 2nd chances or go back to exes even as friends even if you beg/initiate. So, does my ex keep letting me back in because he knows I'm one of the only people who genuinely loves and cares for him? I was the first person he ever said I love you to and I was the first romantic interest in his life to never leave him, always be there for him, always take an interest in his jobs/work, etc. I definitely know what didn't work out before and I can and will be less annoying/needy especially knowing that he's extremely stressed with work and school. I'm doing my best to be patient and respect his wishes. I know you have to be EXTREMELY patient with Caps. If you were in my shoes, what would you do? Thanks!

I'd buy new shoes

Listen to these two ^^^

Hold your head up and leave that idiot high and dry!

I've been going on dates, meeting new people and hanging out with my friends....however I still miss and love him dearly. This sucks :-/

I've noticed a trend with bi people. They may have flings with same sex, but will want to settle down with opposite sex long term. Call it societal norms/pressures, idk. Not sure if thats the case here, but its pretty gross how he dismissed you with the excuse of lack of sex... then continued a fuck buddy relationship on the side.

He seems selfish and dismissive of your feelings, time, and energy. And you've allowed him to do this by keeping the communication and legs open.

Cut him off for good. Let him understand what he's missing.

Yeah he does steroids and vapes/smokes pot everyday. What do I do to get him back together with me? 😓

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Yeah he does steroids and vapes/smokes pot everyday. What do I do to get him back together with me? 😓

Nothing.

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Why do you say that 😩

Can I get advice from a Cap man regarding his behavior/actions?

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If he wanted to get together with you, he would have done so long before this. He knows what he's doing.

IMO 🙂

What exactly is he doing? lol. Well we were together for nearly 3 years. I was his first relationship ever. He pursued me non-stop and said I love you first. He said he loved spending every day with me and that I changed his life for the better and made him so happy -_- Then everything changed when he got this stressful job.

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Yeah he does steroids and vapes/smokes pot everyday. What do I do to get him back together with me? 😓

Nothing.

Why do you say that 😩

Well I mean I suppose nothing is impossible, but it just seems, at the moment, he's not cutting things off so you'll keep being his FWB.

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True. But he hasn't initiated a set day/time to hangout yet. Guess he's just super preoccupied with work and school.

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If he wanted to get together with you, he would have done so long before this. He knows what he's doing.

IMO 🙂

What exactly is he doing? lol. Well we were together for nearly 3 years. I was his first relationship ever. He pursued me non-stop and said I love you first. He said he loved spending every day with me and that I changed his life for the better and made him so happy -_- Then everything changed when he got this stressful job.

I don't doubt that. It does sound like the first time was the real deal, but right now, it sounds like you're a convenience to him...maybe because you've always been there.

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Yeah you're definitely right. I think he didn't want to be committed to someone anymore, especially someone like me. He probably felt like I was in the way and he wanted to put all his focus on his career. I was too needy/annoying/clingy and I know Caps don't like that. Oh well.

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Yeah he does steroids and vapes/smokes pot everyday. What do I do to get him back together with me? 😓

boy, i s2g, may the good lord bless you on this journey. cuz you are gonna need it.

literally go for a walk. pet a dog. bake a cake. go swim. do some jumping jacks. learn to suck your own dick. clean the house. take up journaling. start a new hobby.

this cap is struggling in his personal life & you are over here worrying about getting back together?! you sound selfish. if you really cared, you’d find ways for him to go to rehab & be support WITHOUT an underlying motive. not sitting here wondering how to get him back.

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Oh trust me, I've tried getting him to stop doing all the steroids he does when we were together. There's no stopping him. He's going to do whatever he wants. Caps are stubborn as hell. I would love nothing more than for him to cut out all 3 things (steroids, vaping, pot), but we're not together anymore so that would be an even bigger challenge. You're right, that should be the last thing on my mind. I honestly would just love to hangout with him with no motive whatsoever but it's like pulling teeth.

Posted by Hamsthetics

Hope this helps a little...

 LIBRA MAN + CAPRICORN MAN

the dignity

CHEMISTRY

Libra man is like a Capricorn junior. The Scales looks up to the Goat, and Cap likewise regards the Libra as someone special, a would-be star. Libra is attracted to Cap’s quiet power, a strength mixed with grace and refinement, not to mention finding the Cap physically appealing, typically more manly than himself. Cap prizes Libra’s ethereal quality and his lightness of spirit, which, being often weighed down by his own emotions, he finds enviable. Cap is a knowing, masterful character, an autodidact who possesses a range of expert skills, and this inspires awe in Libra, a self-professed Renaissance man, whom others label a dabbler; here, he feels like anything but. Capricorn’s knowledge and command of myriad areas of interest inspire proficiency in the Libra, while Cap can be defeatist despite his trademark mastery.

COMPATIBILITY

Both men may have unresolved father issues that play out in this relationship—Libra gets a form of paternal guidance here, while Capricorn may sort through a kind of my-father-myself dynamic. Both being dandies to some degree, they make a social twosome, though the more hollow-legged Cap will typically keep a watchful eye on relatively lightweight Libra. For all his taking the lead in this relationship, and his comparatively accomplished skill set, Cap might see the Libra as the more successful of the two, prizing and praising Libra’s ability to strike out on his own in the world and live by his wits. The Goat can look at life as half empty too much of the time, and he may fear busting out on his own without the protection of a steady paycheck, despite his genius abilities. This can frustrate Libra, who can’t abide Cap selling himself short. And Cap’s being dour can see Libra sour on the bond.

CARNALITY

Sexually, there can be a disconnect, despite the inherent love each feels. Cap’s appetites run deep, and Libra may be cast in the role of seducer, for better or worse. Cap loves to explore virgin territory and here that may be focused on Libra’s posterior, which, if not as pure as driven snow, will likely not have received the once-over that Cap is wont to give it. This can be a bit much for Libra, who, even on the first date, can find himself bent over the Goat’s knee. At least Cap could’ve bought him a drink first; indeed for Cap, sex often requires both real and metaphoric lubrication. Libra likes to start out slow with artful kisses. But even with that, Cap might swallow Libra’s face whole, the Goat being so all-or-nothing here. So just as in life, where Cap is either riding high, purchasing everything in sight, or in deepest doldrums, he has a hard time trailblazing a middle road along which Libra can follow him down into a certain degree of debauchery while still seeing the light.

All of that is spot on. It's funny, we both have issues with our dads and also I was a virgin when I met him. He waited over a year to take it because I was nervous.

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Posted by Hamsthetics

Hope this helps a little...

 LIBRA MAN + CAPRICORN MAN

the dignity

CHEMISTRY

Libra man is like a Capricorn junior. The Scales looks up to the Goat, and Cap likewise regards the Libra as someone special, a would-be star. Libra is attracted to Cap’s quiet power, a strength mixed with grace and refinement, not to mention finding the Cap physically appealing, typically more manly than himself. Cap prizes Libra’s ethereal quality and his lightness of spirit, which, being often weighed down by his own emotions, he finds enviable. Cap is a knowing, masterful character, an autodidact who possesses a range of expert skills, and this inspires awe in Libra, a self-professed Renaissance man, whom others label a dabbler; here, he feels like anything but. Capricorn’s knowledge and command of myriad areas of interest inspire proficiency in the Libra, while Cap can be defeatist despite his trademark mastery.

COMPATIBILITY

Both men may have unresolved father issues that play out in this relationship—Libra gets a form of paternal guidance here, while Capricorn may sort through a kind of my-father-myself dynamic. Both being dandies to some degree, they make a social twosome, though the more hollow-legged Cap will typically keep a watchful eye on relatively lightweight Libra. For all his taking the lead in this relationship, and his comparatively accomplished skill set, Cap might see the Libra as the more successful of the two, prizing and praising Libra’s ability to strike out on his own in the world and live by his wits. The Goat can look at life as half empty too much of the time, and he may fear busting out on his own without the protection of a steady paycheck, despite his genius abilities. This can frustrate Libra, who can’t abide Cap selling himself short. And Cap’s being dour can see Libra sour on the bond.

CARNALITY

Sexually, there can be a disconnect, despite the inherent love each feels. Cap’s appetites run deep, and Libra may be cast in the role of seducer, for better or worse. Cap loves to explore virgin territory and here that may be focused on Libra’s posterior, which, if not as pure as driven snow, will likely not have received the once-over that Cap is wont to give it. This can be a bit much for Libra, who, even on the first date, can find himself bent over the Goat’s knee. At least Cap could’ve bought him a drink first; indeed for Cap, sex often requires both real and metaphoric lubrication. Libra likes to start out slow with artful kisses. But even with that, Cap might swallow Libra’s face whole, the Goat being so all-or-nothing here. So just as in life, where Cap is either riding high, purchasing everything in sight, or in deepest doldrums, he has a hard time trailblazing a middle road along which Libra can follow him down into a certain degree of debauchery while still seeing the light.

All of that is spot on. It's funny, we both have issues with our dads and also I was a virgin when I met him. He waited over a year to take it because I was nervous.

Best of luck for both of you ❤

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Thanks, I really appreciate it!

So I video chatted with him again. It was me who initiated it. He said we can maybe hang Sunday. Once again can't give me a definitive answer -_-

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Can I get advice from a Cap man regarding his behavior/actions?

Cap here. Leave the dude to his mess.

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What do you think of his actions? My feeling is that if he didn't like me at all he wouldn't be responding to me or saying we can hangout. I really do feel like he is consumed with work and school. Like I said, we video chatted again today and he said maybe we can hang Sunday and that we would just go with the flow (regarding friends/FWB).

So we were supposed to hang Sunday. We video chatted in the morning, but only because I initiated it of course. First of all he was naked...and I said why are you showing me your junk lol....and he said he wasn't. Then we were talking about what each of us were going to do that day and I brought up hanging out. He said it's a possibility. Once again, he couldn't just say yes and give a set time. It's like he's punishing me and playing games on purpose. So basically he strung me along the whole day. Everything he said was a lie and I know it. He said people were over his house for lunch and that they were staying til 6-8pm....I call BS. Nobody ever goes to his house on a Sunday and stays that long. I'm pretty sure his best friend was over and so was the girl (his tree trunk buddy). He told me I can still come (said it like 3 times), but only when the people leave. I asked why I couldn't just come over and he said because there will be people in the kitchen (the opening to his bedroom is right by the kitchen) I literally would go over his house all the time when we were together and meet his family and family friends and it wasn't an issue. It's like he's trying to keep me a secret now. I asked him if he was going to bed early and he said around 8ish....LOL. So then he texts me that he's tired and that we'll hangout one day this week and that's he sorry. That was it. I literally just wanted to curse him out and tell him that I know for a fact that he's a liar. Even if there WERE people over, why the heckl couldn't I come over?! He's a 32 year old grown man....

I think you want someone to say he loves you and he’s behaving this way because he still wants to be with you. Okay. Maybe he’s attached to you, but doesn’t respect you. He doesn’t want to let go, but he wants other people. Sounds like he’s doing the same thing with the girl. His patterns are toxic to you. Do you feel good with him in your life?

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I think you want someone to say he loves you and he’s behaving this way because he still wants to be with you. Okay. Maybe he’s attached to you, but doesn’t respect you. He doesn’t want to let go, but he wants other people. Sounds like he’s doing the same thing with the girl. His patterns are toxic to you. Do you feel good with him in your life?

I honestly don't know what to believe. He's so wishy washy, it's making me go crazy. Yes, part of me does feel good wit him in my life.

Can any Cap man tell me what you think regarding his behavior?

lol thanks! -_- I'm smart, I just don't want to believe everything, but I guess I have to.

Good luck trying to get an answer from a Cap man lol

I think maybe you should try to work on yourself. He told you you're acting crazy, that bothers him. I get being crazy, I'm a Libra and I used to do some crazy shit in love when I was younger, but it gets old pretty quickly. Why do you need him that badly? You should let him be for a while and stop contacting him and he will come back (Caps often do). If he won't come back... Well, you will get your answer.

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Good luck trying to get an answer from a Cap man lol

I think maybe you should try to work on yourself. He told you you're acting crazy, that bothers him. I get being crazy, I'm a Libra and I used to do some crazy shit in love when I was younger, but it gets old pretty quickly. Why do you need him that badly? You should let him be for a while and stop contacting him and he will come back (Caps often do). If he won't come back... Well, you will get your answer.

You're right. Us Libras are too emotional and crazy sometimes, I admit it lol. There's only so much I can take. Plus, the mind games and wishy washy behavior from him only make it worse. I caved in and texted him again today asking if he was free Friday night....even though he said he was going to let me know when we can hang this week. I need to work on not being impulsive. I just always have a gut instinct though and that's telling me he's lying about that and that he won't contact me this week. So after the message today, I am literally done hitting him up. I know I've said this a few times, but this time I truly, truly mean it. There's just no point anymore. He knows how I feel, he has me on Facebook, he has my number, now I need to just stop initiating any contact and just live my life. It's obviously going to be really hard, but it's for the best.

Hey guys. So I messaged him Wednesday and we finally hung out. He texted me and said I could come over, but just as friends. I spent around 2 hours at his house. We talked like everything was normal. I was cool and chill and didn't get emotional once; didn't even think about crying. I think to him that was a surprise, because last time I was full on sobbing and begging. He asked me tons of questions about how I've been and everything in between and I did the same. There were was some joking, laughing, sarcasm, etc. I brought up the relationship one more time and he said things were over well before he broke up with me, which I definitely can see looking back. I apologized again for being complacent in the relationship and for taking him for granted. Also, apologized for being too needy. So he said he's attracted to me, but doesn't have feelings anymore. He did say he missed me and thought about me a lot though. He was also showing me new things he got, telling me about his stresses at his job, etc. He slipped up once and called me "babe". I didn't say anything. Also, I did ask him about the girl he's seeing and he just kinda played it off that he's just treetrunking her. I know she's his main priority know now (after work & the gym), which sucks. So any free time he has, she'll be first in line. I know Caps are all about work and their career, so I got him a nice planner and quality pen and he LOVED it, couldn't stop thanking me. He said we can continue to hangout and see where things go. I asked if he was going to start initiating contact and he said yes, but that he's still very busy, so he doesn't know when. It definitely went better than I expected and I am going to just let things flow from now on and not initiate. What do you guys think?

At least he doesn't owe you money!

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At least he doesn't owe you money!

ha, yeah -_-

Posted by kenny17995

Can I get advice from a Cap man regarding his behavior/actions?

Alright. Most Caps can't give a relationship what it deserves if they feel like a failure/not-enough in their own life which usually has to do with security/money/work - this is especially true for the males.

There's nothing you can do to get him into a faithful/loving/committed relationship because he's just not in that place (ex you AND that new girl he met - he ended up friend zoning her because it's not YOU or HER, it's him as he cannot commit).

I know you love him and it hurts to be away from the person you love but just know that it has nothing to do with you and you can be the most perfect of a partner carved by God to meet his needs and he will still push you away. Trust me.

Best thing you can do is focus on your own life - if a day comes where he is ready to be an equal give/take relationship and you still have love in your heart you can give it a try again.

Also Caps like independent people who always work on their own progress so it's actually a win/win for you to focus on your own growth as well. And you're doing great, keep dating others because you never know the doors that may open for you.

Also the more you try the more he will feel caged in and resent you. 😢

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Can I get advice from a Cap man regarding his behavior/actions?

Alright. Most Caps can't give a relationship what it deserves if they feel like a failure/not-enough in their own life which usually has to do with security/money/work - this is especially true for the males.

There's nothing you can do to get him into a faithful/loving/committed relationship because he's just not in that place (ex you AND that new girl he met - he ended up friend zoning her because it's not YOU or HER, it's him as he cannot commit).

I know you love him and it hurts to be away from the person you love but just know that it has nothing to do with you and you can be the most perfect of a partner carved by God to meet his needs and he will still push you away. Trust me.

Best thing you can do is focus on your own life - if a day comes where he is ready to be an equal give/take relationship and you still have love in your heart you can give it a try again.

Also Caps like independent people who always work on their own progress so it's actually a win/win for you to focus on your own growth as well. And you're doing great, keep dating others because you never know the doors that may open for you.

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Thanks for the input! I appreciate it. Yeah, I've definitely been working on myself and going out and having fun. I'm showing him that I don't NEED him. However, when I saw him the last time, I asked about the girl and he said he wasn't putting a label on it, but that all they're doing is tree-trunking and would joke that they do it 4 times in a day. So, she is definitely his top priority now. I guess since he's getting everything he needs for her now, why does he need to hangout with me? I tried hanging out with him again on Sunday and he said "Hey what's up? I don't know what I'm doing yet. I'll let you know later. Maybe tonight." Well, I didn't hear back from him....lol. The old me would have texted him again, but I left it alone and didn't say anything.

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Posted by kenny17995

Can I get advice from a Cap man regarding his behavior/actions?

Alright. Most Caps can't give a relationship what it deserves if they feel like a failure/not-enough in their own life which usually has to do with security/money/work - this is especially true for the males.

There's nothing you can do to get him into a faithful/loving/committed relationship because he's just not in that place (ex you AND that new girl he met - he ended up friend zoning her because it's not YOU or HER, it's him as he cannot commit).

I know you love him and it hurts to be away from the person you love but just know that it has nothing to do with you and you can be the most perfect of a partner carved by God to meet his needs and he will still push you away. Trust me.

Best thing you can do is focus on your own life - if a day comes where he is ready to be an equal give/take relationship and you still have love in your heart you can give it a try again.

Also Caps like independent people who always work on their own progress so it's actually a win/win for you to focus on your own growth as well. And you're doing great, keep dating others because you never know the doors that may open for you.

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Also, as for her, he makes out with her and she doesn't have a time limit on how much time they spend together. As for me, he said no making out and that we can do oral, but that he's not doing anything to me. That is so one-sided. Does he think doing that will make me catch more feelings again? Both times he broke up with me, he said it was because of the lack of sex, initiating it and him thinking I wasn't enjoying it (that's a lie). Having sex with a girl is obviously easier and like I said, they do it multiple times a day. Oh well. My only fear is that he'll fall in love with her and then never look my way again. He said he shows his love through sex, so idk -_- also, she's 22 (he's 32) AND they're co-workers lol

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Posted by kenny17995

Can I get advice from a Cap man regarding his behavior/actions?

Alright. Most Caps can't give a relationship what it deserves if they feel like a failure/not-enough in their own life which usually has to do with security/money/work - this is especially true for the males.

There's nothing you can do to get him into a faithful/loving/committed relationship because he's just not in that place (ex you AND that new girl he met - he ended up friend zoning her because it's not YOU or HER, it's him as he cannot commit).

I know you love him and it hurts to be away from the person you love but just know that it has nothing to do with you and you can be the most perfect of a partner carved by God to meet his needs and he will still push you away. Trust me.

Best thing you can do is focus on your own life - if a day comes where he is ready to be an equal give/take relationship and you still have love in your heart you can give it a try again.

Also Caps like independent people who always work on their own progress so it's actually a win/win for you to focus on your own growth as well. And you're doing great, keep dating others because you never know the doors that may open for you.

Also, as for her, he makes out with her and she doesn't have a time limit on how much time they spend together. As for me, he said no making out and that we can do oral, but that he's not doing anything to me. That is so one-sided. Does he think doing that will make me catch more feelings again? Both times he broke up with me, he said it was because of the lack of sex, initiating it and him thinking I wasn't enjoying it (that's a lie). Having sex with a girl is obviously easier and like I said, they do it multiple times a day. Oh well. My only fear is that he'll fall in love with her and then never look my way again. He said he shows his love through sex, so idk -_- also, she's 22 (he's 32) AND they're co-workers lol

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may be..even tho he's bi, he's more comfortable with girls and doesn't really see a future with you?

Regardless he's treating you like a second class citizen. He's def not showing you he desires you, loves you, wants you in the long-term. May be all those feelings were cuz you helped him through some stuff and now hes over it. smh.

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Can I get advice from a Cap man regarding his behavior/actions?

Alright. Most Caps can't give a relationship what it deserves if they feel like a failure/not-enough in their own life which usually has to do with security/money/work - this is especially true for the males.

There's nothing you can do to get him into a faithful/loving/committed relationship because he's just not in that place (ex you AND that new girl he met - he ended up friend zoning her because it's not YOU or HER, it's him as he cannot commit).

I know you love him and it hurts to be away from the person you love but just know that it has nothing to do with you and you can be the most perfect of a partner carved by God to meet his needs and he will still push you away. Trust me.

Best thing you can do is focus on your own life - if a day comes where he is ready to be an equal give/take relationship and you still have love in your heart you can give it a try again.

Also Caps like independent people who always work on their own progress so it's actually a win/win for you to focus on your own growth as well. And you're doing great, keep dating others because you never know the doors that may open for you.

Also, as for her, he makes out with her and she doesn't have a time limit on how much time they spend together. As for me, he said no making out and that we can do oral, but that he's not doing anything to me. That is so one-sided. Does he think doing that will make me catch more feelings again? Both times he broke up with me, he said it was because of the lack of sex, initiating it and him thinking I wasn't enjoying it (that's a lie). Having sex with a girl is obviously easier and like I said, they do it multiple times a day. Oh well. My only fear is that he'll fall in love with her and then never look my way again. He said he shows his love through sex, so idk -_- also, she's 22 (he's 32) AND they're co-workers lol

may be..even tho he's bi, he's more comfortable with girls and doesn't really see a future with you?

Regardless he's treating you like a second class citizen. He's def not showing you he desires you, loves you, wants you in the long-term. May be all those feelings were cuz you helped him through some stuff and now hes over it. smh.

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That would really suck :-/ I thought Capricorns don't keep in contact with exes though and ignore them?

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Can I get advice from a Cap man regarding his behavior/actions?

Alright. Most Caps can't give a relationship what it deserves if they feel like a failure/not-enough in their own life which usually has to do with security/money/work - this is especially true for the males.

There's nothing you can do to get him into a faithful/loving/committed relationship because he's just not in that place (ex you AND that new girl he met - he ended up friend zoning her because it's not YOU or HER, it's him as he cannot commit).

I know you love him and it hurts to be away from the person you love but just know that it has nothing to do with you and you can be the most perfect of a partner carved by God to meet his needs and he will still push you away. Trust me.

Best thing you can do is focus on your own life - if a day comes where he is ready to be an equal give/take relationship and you still have love in your heart you can give it a try again.

Also Caps like independent people who always work on their own progress so it's actually a win/win for you to focus on your own growth as well. And you're doing great, keep dating others because you never know the doors that may open for you.

Also, as for her, he makes out with her and she doesn't have a time limit on how much time they spend together. As for me, he said no making out and that we can do oral, but that he's not doing anything to me. That is so one-sided. Does he think doing that will make me catch more feelings again? Both times he broke up with me, he said it was because of the lack of sex, initiating it and him thinking I wasn't enjoying it (that's a lie). Having sex with a girl is obviously easier and like I said, they do it multiple times a day. Oh well. My only fear is that he'll fall in love with her and then never look my way again. He said he shows his love through sex, so idk -_- also, she's 22 (he's 32) AND they're co-workers lol

may be..even tho he's bi, he's more comfortable with girls and doesn't really see a future with you?

Regardless he's treating you like a second class citizen. He's def not showing you he desires you, loves you, wants you in the long-term. May be all those feelings were cuz you helped him through some stuff and now hes over it. smh.

That would really suck :-/ I thought Capricorns don't keep in contact with exes though and ignore them?

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always an exception to the rule. I personally don't... but this man sound sketchy.

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Posted by kenny17995

Can I get advice from a Cap man regarding his behavior/actions?

Alright. Most Caps can't give a relationship what it deserves if they feel like a failure/not-enough in their own life which usually has to do with security/money/work - this is especially true for the males.

There's nothing you can do to get him into a faithful/loving/committed relationship because he's just not in that place (ex you AND that new girl he met - he ended up friend zoning her because it's not YOU or HER, it's him as he cannot commit).

I know you love him and it hurts to be away from the person you love but just know that it has nothing to do with you and you can be the most perfect of a partner carved by God to meet his needs and he will still push you away. Trust me.

Best thing you can do is focus on your own life - if a day comes where he is ready to be an equal give/take relationship and you still have love in your heart you can give it a try again.

Also Caps like independent people who always work on their own progress so it's actually a win/win for you to focus on your own growth as well. And you're doing great, keep dating others because you never know the doors that may open for you.

Also, as for her, he makes out with her and she doesn't have a time limit on how much time they spend together. As for me, he said no making out and that we can do oral, but that he's not doing anything to me. That is so one-sided. Does he think doing that will make me catch more feelings again? Both times he broke up with me, he said it was because of the lack of sex, initiating it and him thinking I wasn't enjoying it (that's a lie). Having sex with a girl is obviously easier and like I said, they do it multiple times a day. Oh well. My only fear is that he'll fall in love with her and then never look my way again. He said he shows his love through sex, so idk -_- also, she's 22 (he's 32) AND they're co-workers lol

may be..even tho he's bi, he's more comfortable with girls and doesn't really see a future with you?

Regardless he's treating you like a second class citizen. He's def not showing you he desires you, loves you, wants you in the long-term. May be all those feelings were cuz you helped him through some stuff and now hes over it. smh.

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Lol at second class citizen 🤣...but I agree with you. He's making out with another girl while telling you that you guys can have oral. Are you for real? 😂

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Can I get advice from a Cap man regarding his behavior/actions?

Alright. Most Caps can't give a relationship what it deserves if they feel like a failure/not-enough in their own life which usually has to do with security/money/work - this is especially true for the males.

There's nothing you can do to get him into a faithful/loving/committed relationship because he's just not in that place (ex you AND that new girl he met - he ended up friend zoning her because it's not YOU or HER, it's him as he cannot commit).

I know you love him and it hurts to be away from the person you love but just know that it has nothing to do with you and you can be the most perfect of a partner carved by God to meet his needs and he will still push you away. Trust me.

Best thing you can do is focus on your own life - if a day comes where he is ready to be an equal give/take relationship and you still have love in your heart you can give it a try again.

Also Caps like independent people who always work on their own progress so it's actually a win/win for you to focus on your own growth as well. And you're doing great, keep dating others because you never know the doors that may open for you.

Also, as for her, he makes out with her and she doesn't have a time limit on how much time they spend together. As for me, he said no making out and that we can do oral, but that he's not doing anything to me. That is so one-sided. Does he think doing that will make me catch more feelings again? Both times he broke up with me, he said it was because of the lack of sex, initiating it and him thinking I wasn't enjoying it (that's a lie). Having sex with a girl is obviously easier and like I said, they do it multiple times a day. Oh well. My only fear is that he'll fall in love with her and then never look my way again. He said he shows his love through sex, so idk -_- also, she's 22 (he's 32) AND they're co-workers lol

may be..even tho he's bi, he's more comfortable with girls and doesn't really see a future with you?

Regardless he's treating you like a second class citizen. He's def not showing you he desires you, loves you, wants you in the long-term. May be all those feelings were cuz you helped him through some stuff and now hes over it. smh.

Lol at second class citizen 🤣...but I agree with you. He's making out with another girl while telling you that you guys can have oral. Are you for real? 😂

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lol well reading everything that's what came to mind as everything is on his terms and he just uses him as he pleases.

And the fact that OP has no self esteem and allows him to do so. Also where are your morals? So it’s ok to be sucking someone off that is in a relationship with another person because it’s a girl? Or would you try to steal someone’s partner regardless?

Says a lot about you and why he has no issues treating you this way!

They're not in a relationship. They're just FWB

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Can I get advice from a Cap man regarding his behavior/actions?

Alright. Most Caps can't give a relationship what it deserves if they feel like a failure/not-enough in their own life which usually has to do with security/money/work - this is especially true for the males.

There's nothing you can do to get him into a faithful/loving/committed relationship because he's just not in that place (ex you AND that new girl he met - he ended up friend zoning her because it's not YOU or HER, it's him as he cannot commit).

I know you love him and it hurts to be away from the person you love but just know that it has nothing to do with you and you can be the most perfect of a partner carved by God to meet his needs and he will still push you away. Trust me.

Best thing you can do is focus on your own life - if a day comes where he is ready to be an equal give/take relationship and you still have love in your heart you can give it a try again.

Also Caps like independent people who always work on their own progress so it's actually a win/win for you to focus on your own growth as well. And you're doing great, keep dating others because you never know the doors that may open for you.

Also, as for her, he makes out with her and she doesn't have a time limit on how much time they spend together. As for me, he said no making out and that we can do oral, but that he's not doing anything to me. That is so one-sided. Does he think doing that will make me catch more feelings again? Both times he broke up with me, he said it was because of the lack of sex, initiating it and him thinking I wasn't enjoying it (that's a lie). Having sex with a girl is obviously easier and like I said, they do it multiple times a day. Oh well. My only fear is that he'll fall in love with her and then never look my way again. He said he shows his love through sex, so idk -_- also, she's 22 (he's 32) AND they're co-workers lol

may be..even tho he's bi, he's more comfortable with girls and doesn't really see a future with you?

Regardless he's treating you like a second class citizen. He's def not showing you he desires you, loves you, wants you in the long-term. May be all those feelings were cuz you helped him through some stuff and now hes over it. smh.

Lol at second class citizen 🤣...but I agree with you. He's making out with another girl while telling you that you guys can have oral. Are you for real? 😂

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Yeah. When I tried making out wit him he said no. Then he said we can do stuff, but he's not doing anything to me....

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Posted by kenny17995

Can I get advice from a Cap man regarding his behavior/actions?

Alright. Most Caps can't give a relationship what it deserves if they feel like a failure/not-enough in their own life which usually has to do with security/money/work - this is especially true for the males.

There's nothing you can do to get him into a faithful/loving/committed relationship because he's just not in that place (ex you AND that new girl he met - he ended up friend zoning her because it's not YOU or HER, it's him as he cannot commit).

I know you love him and it hurts to be away from the person you love but just know that it has nothing to do with you and you can be the most perfect of a partner carved by God to meet his needs and he will still push you away. Trust me.

Best thing you can do is focus on your own life - if a day comes where he is ready to be an equal give/take relationship and you still have love in your heart you can give it a try again.

Also Caps like independent people who always work on their own progress so it's actually a win/win for you to focus on your own growth as well. And you're doing great, keep dating others because you never know the doors that may open for you.

Also, as for her, he makes out with her and she doesn't have a time limit on how much time they spend together. As for me, he said no making out and that we can do oral, but that he's not doing anything to me. That is so one-sided. Does he think doing that will make me catch more feelings again? Both times he broke up with me, he said it was because of the lack of sex, initiating it and him thinking I wasn't enjoying it (that's a lie). Having sex with a girl is obviously easier and like I said, they do it multiple times a day. Oh well. My only fear is that he'll fall in love with her and then never look my way again. He said he shows his love through sex, so idk -_- also, she's 22 (he's 32) AND they're co-workers lol

may be..even tho he's bi, he's more comfortable with girls and doesn't really see a future with you?

Regardless he's treating you like a second class citizen. He's def not showing you he desires you, loves you, wants you in the long-term. May be all those feelings were cuz you helped him through some stuff and now hes over it. smh.

Lol at second class citizen 🤣...but I agree with you. He's making out with another girl while telling you that you guys can have oral. Are you for real? 😂

Yeah. When I tried making out wit him he said no. Then he said we can do stuff, but he's not doing anything to me....

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Why Kenny— Why are you allowing yourself to be treated this way? Take a good look at yourself and learn to love yourself. Nobody is worth making you feel like a second class citizen or an option!

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Posted by kenny17995

Posted by stillstillwater

Posted by kenny17995

Can I get advice from a Cap man regarding his behavior/actions?

Alright. Most Caps can't give a relationship what it deserves if they feel like a failure/not-enough in their own life which usually has to do with security/money/work - this is especially true for the males.

There's nothing you can do to get him into a faithful/loving/committed relationship because he's just not in that place (ex you AND that new girl he met - he ended up friend zoning her because it's not YOU or HER, it's him as he cannot commit).

I know you love him and it hurts to be away from the person you love but just know that it has nothing to do with you and you can be the most perfect of a partner carved by God to meet his needs and he will still push you away. Trust me.

Best thing you can do is focus on your own life - if a day comes where he is ready to be an equal give/take relationship and you still have love in your heart you can give it a try again.

Also Caps like independent people who always work on their own progress so it's actually a win/win for you to focus on your own growth as well. And you're doing great, keep dating others because you never know the doors that may open for you.

Also, as for her, he makes out with her and she doesn't have a time limit on how much time they spend together. As for me, he said no making out and that we can do oral, but that he's not doing anything to me. That is so one-sided. Does he think doing that will make me catch more feelings again? Both times he broke up with me, he said it was because of the lack of sex, initiating it and him thinking I wasn't enjoying it (that's a lie). Having sex with a girl is obviously easier and like I said, they do it multiple times a day. Oh well. My only fear is that he'll fall in love with her and then never look my way again. He said he shows his love through sex, so idk -_- also, she's 22 (he's 32) AND they're co-workers lol

may be..even tho he's bi, he's more comfortable with girls and doesn't really see a future with you?

Regardless he's treating you like a second class citizen. He's def not showing you he desires you, loves you, wants you in the long-term. May be all those feelings were cuz you helped him through some stuff and now hes over it. smh.

Lol at second class citizen 🤣...but I agree with you. He's making out with another girl while telling you that you guys can have oral. Are you for real? 😂

Yeah. When I tried making out wit him he said no. Then he said we can do stuff, but he's not doing anything to me....

Why are you even giving him your time? It's all for his pleasure and he's not even thinking about you and your feelings.

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Sigh, I know. I'm a fool.

He's still being hot and cold. Liking my pics, saying we can hang, but then cancels. How do I win him back? I really do need to stop initiating. He's not initiating at all. That should be a sign right there..... -_- I know he's still talking to/hanging out with the girl. He said he's extremely busy with work and school. It's been almost 3 months since he met her at work. He hasn't posted any pics of them together. When him and I first met, he basically love bombed me and would always post pics of us and take me places to meet his friends, etc. Every time I ask about hanging out, it's "maybe", "probably", "at night", "I'll let you know", etc. He said we'll hangout more once school is over, but I just don't know if I believe him. How do I win him back? Like I said, I hung out with him for the 1st time in 2 months, 2 weeks ago, it went really well and he was his normal self. However, through texting, he's a totally different person.

hahaha -_-

no one is to busy its just a matter of priority

read my sentence! it doesnt take a cap man to know that hes playing you im so sorry but a cap knows what he or she wants as in we plan ahead even in relationship and it looks like your not in his future plan,so dont beat yourself up and move on do the things you like and eventually someone will love you just like how you deserve to be loved

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no one is to busy its just a matter of priority

read my sentence! it doesnt take a cap man to know that hes playing you im so sorry but a cap knows what he or she wants as in we plan ahead even in relationship and it looks like your not in his future plan,so dont beat yourself up and move on do the things you like and eventually someone will love you just like how you deserve to be loved

You're right. I'm not his priority anymore and I have to accept it

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I was about to write some tips about how to keep him interested, but then I thought....why the hell do you want that cold piece of sht back? No, you deserve better, please.

Thanks, I appreciate it. Can I still hear them though? haha

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I was about to write some tips about how to keep him interested, but then I thought....why the hell do you want that cold piece of sht back? No, you deserve better, please.

Thanks, I appreciate it. Can I still hear them though? haha

Sure. Post some pics with you and your friends on social media faking how happy you are without him. Don't look for him anymore. Ignore him, act like he's invisible to you. Make him beg for you.

Still, I hope you won't do that and you will forget about him. Focus your energy on someone who deserves it.

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He’s now going to do exactly that!

And in return he’ll get crumbs because he doesn’t know how to not be so needy and desperate and you can smell desperation a mile off!

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I was about to write some tips about how to keep him interested, but then I thought....why the hell do you want that cold piece of sht back? No, you deserve better, please.

Thanks, I appreciate it. Can I still hear them though? haha

Sure. Post some pics with you and your friends on social media faking how happy you are without him. Don't look for him anymore. Ignore him, act like he's invisible to you. Make him beg for you.

Still, I hope you won't do that and you will forget about him. Focus your energy on someone who deserves it.

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Thanks! I've been giving him space. He never initiates though. He just likes my posts on Facebook

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Posted by G6

I was about to write some tips about how to keep him interested, but then I thought....why the hell do you want that cold piece of sht back? No, you deserve better, please.

Thanks, I appreciate it. Can I still hear them though? haha

Sure. Post some pics with you and your friends on social media faking how happy you are without him. Don't look for him anymore. Ignore him, act like he's invisible to you. Make him beg for you.

Still, I hope you won't do that and you will forget about him. Focus your energy on someone who deserves it.

He’s now going to do exactly that!

And in return he’ll get crumbs because he doesn’t know how to not be so needy and desperate and you can smell desperation a mile off!

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And what exactly do you think i should do...

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Posted by kenny17995

Posted by G6

I was about to write some tips about how to keep him interested, but then I thought....why the hell do you want that cold piece of sht back? No, you deserve better, please.

Thanks, I appreciate it. Can I still hear them though? haha

Sure. Post some pics with you and your friends on social media faking how happy you are without him. Don't look for him anymore. Ignore him, act like he's invisible to you. Make him beg for you.

Still, I hope you won't do that and you will forget about him. Focus your energy on someone who deserves it.

He’s now going to do exactly that!

And in return he’ll get crumbs because he doesn’t know how to not be so needy and desperate and you can smell desperation a mile off!

And what exactly do you think i should do...

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Kick him to the curb and start loving yourself.

Then you’ll find someone that deserves you!

I get that he was your first love but he’s not treating you like anything NOW but an option... and not even that! You’re just sitting in the background hoping he’ll come back to you and sounds like you’ll be waiting a long time.

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And in return he’ll get crumbs because he doesn’t know how to not be so needy and desperate and you can smell desperation a mile off!

I don't share the same view.

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Do Caps just block everyone out when they are stressed with things like work and school?