Speaking With Capricorn Ex Again (Page 2)

I'm like his biggest supporter and always have been, yet he can never stick to plans anymore and never initiates. I know I'm his ex, but still. He really doesn't have anyone else in his life that supports him like I did/do. It hurts. He doesn't even talk to/hang out with his best friend anymore and his best friend told me he gave up on him (my ex)

I hung out with him again on Thursday. This time we didn't hookup and I'm never going to again until he's no longer talking to and seeing the girl. We hung out for 2 hours while he was doing school online. We talked about a lot of things, joked and laughed, smoked, etc. It felt normal. He asked about my job, what I've been doing, etc. He said I looked good and to continue going to the gym.

You could tell he's stressed out because of work and school. I still brought up questions about the girl and our relationship. He said it'll probably never work out with her anyway because she's young, yet he says he's happy and that they're sort of serious. He kept saying he still has some feelings for me and doesn't know if him and I will get back together. He told me it's up to me to wait for him or not. This sucks -_-

He said I lost him to the girl and that he's willing to give things another chance, but not right now. All he says is "we'll see what happens". I beat myself up everyday, because I know why he left me. It was sex. He wasn't getting what he wanted from me sexually, so he found someone who gives him what he wants.

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He said I lost him to the girl and that he's willing to give things another chance, but not right now. All he says is "we'll see what happens". I beat myself up everyday, because I know why he left me. It was sex. He wasn't getting what he wanted from me sexually, so he found someone who gives him what he wants.

Boy, my advice for you is to start appreciate your own person more cause clearly you have a low self esteem since you still want the iceberg.

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True, thanks -_-

Caps, should I just give up?

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😢 You deserve better than what this guy is offering. I think he's being selfish, tbh.

Thanks! Do Caps mean what they say though? If he really means all of that, then he's probably going to come back at some point. Like I said, I heard Caps tend to ditch relationships for the slightest flaw. However since I keep reassuring him, and working on what went wrong, he always seems to open back up slowly.

How exhausting and heartbreaking though... bet you’re feeling it!

I hope you wake up soon, it’s painful just to hear what you’re putting yourself through 😢

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How exhausting and heartbreaking though... bet you’re feeling it!

I hope you wake up soon, it’s painful just to hear what you’re putting yourself through 😢

thank you!

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Hey guys. So I'm back on speaking terms with my Cap ex. We were together for nearly 3 years. Once he got his first full time job everything changed. He broke up with me twice. He said everything was perfect except the sex part and that I was being too annoying/needy. He said I never initiated it and we didn't have it as much. So when we got back together the 2nd time I started initiating it and having it more, but then he said I was faking wanting to have sex just to keep him. So then that's when he broke up with me again. He then started seeing a girl (he's bisexual) and then kept me around as a friend with benefits after I initiated contact 2 weeks later. (even though he broke up with because of the sex part?? lol). Then, an altercation happened between us and he told me that we're done for good. We didn't talk for 5 weeks after that. I reached out first and apologized for my part in the altercation. He said we can speak again as friends when he has the time. Almost 2 weeks later I re-added him on Facebook, he accepted, and we started chatting. We then video chatted 2 days ago and it felt normal and like nothing ever happened. We agreed to hang as friends and I asked about the possibility of it turning into something more and he said maybe (he said the same thing after we got back together the 2nd time). He said we can hangout soon and told me to not act crazy. He then told me he hasn't seen the girl he's talking to in awhile either and that she's just his f*ck buddy. I heard that once Caps are completely done, they're done. They don't give 2nd chances or go back to exes even as friends even if you beg/initiate. So, does my ex keep letting me back in because he knows I'm one of the only people who genuinely loves and cares for him? I was the first person he ever said I love you to and I was the first romantic interest in his life to never leave him, always be there for him, always take an interest in his jobs/work, etc. I definitely know what didn't work out before and I can and will be less annoying/needy especially knowing that he's extremely stressed with work and school. I'm doing my best to be patient and respect his wishes. I know you have to be EXTREMELY patient with Caps. If you were in my shoes, what would you do? Thanks!

Sounds like you want this relationship more than he does. Being friends with exes can get complicated if you add sex to the friendship. If I were you. I’d be upfront and ask him where his head is and where I am & go from there.

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Hey guys. So I'm back on speaking terms with my Cap ex. We were together for nearly 3 years. Once he got his first full time job everything changed. He broke up with me twice. He said everything was perfect except the sex part and that I was being too annoying/needy. He said I never initiated it and we didn't have it as much. So when we got back together the 2nd time I started initiating it and having it more, but then he said I was faking wanting to have sex just to keep him. So then that's when he broke up with me again. He then started seeing a girl (he's bisexual) and then kept me around as a friend with benefits after I initiated contact 2 weeks later. (even though he broke up with because of the sex part?? lol). Then, an altercation happened between us and he told me that we're done for good. We didn't talk for 5 weeks after that. I reached out first and apologized for my part in the altercation. He said we can speak again as friends when he has the time. Almost 2 weeks later I re-added him on Facebook, he accepted, and we started chatting. We then video chatted 2 days ago and it felt normal and like nothing ever happened. We agreed to hang as friends and I asked about the possibility of it turning into something more and he said maybe (he said the same thing after we got back together the 2nd time). He said we can hangout soon and told me to not act crazy. He then told me he hasn't seen the girl he's talking to in awhile either and that she's just his f*ck buddy. I heard that once Caps are completely done, they're done. They don't give 2nd chances or go back to exes even as friends even if you beg/initiate. So, does my ex keep letting me back in because he knows I'm one of the only people who genuinely loves and cares for him? I was the first person he ever said I love you to and I was the first romantic interest in his life to never leave him, always be there for him, always take an interest in his jobs/work, etc. I definitely know what didn't work out before and I can and will be less annoying/needy especially knowing that he's extremely stressed with work and school. I'm doing my best to be patient and respect his wishes. I know you have to be EXTREMELY patient with Caps. If you were in my shoes, what would you do? Thanks!

Sounds like you want this relationship more than he does. Being friends with exes can get complicated if you add sex to the friendship. If I were you. I’d be upfront and ask him where his head is and where I am & go from there.

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He said he still has feelings for me and is willing to give it another shot, "but not right now". He says I can wait or move on. He said we can be friends and "see what happens". He's currently seeing a girl and just using her for sex

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Hey guys. So I'm back on speaking terms with my Cap ex. We were together for nearly 3 years. Once he got his first full time job everything changed. He broke up with me twice. He said everything was perfect except the sex part and that I was being too annoying/needy. He said I never initiated it and we didn't have it as much. So when we got back together the 2nd time I started initiating it and having it more, but then he said I was faking wanting to have sex just to keep him. So then that's when he broke up with me again. He then started seeing a girl (he's bisexual) and then kept me around as a friend with benefits after I initiated contact 2 weeks later. (even though he broke up with because of the sex part?? lol). Then, an altercation happened between us and he told me that we're done for good. We didn't talk for 5 weeks after that. I reached out first and apologized for my part in the altercation. He said we can speak again as friends when he has the time. Almost 2 weeks later I re-added him on Facebook, he accepted, and we started chatting. We then video chatted 2 days ago and it felt normal and like nothing ever happened. We agreed to hang as friends and I asked about the possibility of it turning into something more and he said maybe (he said the same thing after we got back together the 2nd time). He said we can hangout soon and told me to not act crazy. He then told me he hasn't seen the girl he's talking to in awhile either and that she's just his f*ck buddy. I heard that once Caps are completely done, they're done. They don't give 2nd chances or go back to exes even as friends even if you beg/initiate. So, does my ex keep letting me back in because he knows I'm one of the only people who genuinely loves and cares for him? I was the first person he ever said I love you to and I was the first romantic interest in his life to never leave him, always be there for him, always take an interest in his jobs/work, etc. I definitely know what didn't work out before and I can and will be less annoying/needy especially knowing that he's extremely stressed with work and school. I'm doing my best to be patient and respect his wishes. I know you have to be EXTREMELY patient with Caps. If you were in my shoes, what would you do? Thanks!

Sounds like you want this relationship more than he does. Being friends with exes can get complicated if you add sex to the friendship. If I were you. I’d be upfront and ask him where his head is and where I am & go from there.

He said he still has feelings for me and is willing to give it another shot, "but not right now". He says I can wait or move on. He said we can be friends and "see what happens". He's currently seeing a girl and just using her for sex

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If he cared about you. You would be the only person he had eyes for. Unfortunately he’s choosing to have sex with her.

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Hey guys. So I'm back on speaking terms with my Cap ex. We were together for nearly 3 years. Once he got his first full time job everything changed. He broke up with me twice. He said everything was perfect except the sex part and that I was being too annoying/needy. He said I never initiated it and we didn't have it as much. So when we got back together the 2nd time I started initiating it and having it more, but then he said I was faking wanting to have sex just to keep him. So then that's when he broke up with me again. He then started seeing a girl (he's bisexual) and then kept me around as a friend with benefits after I initiated contact 2 weeks later. (even though he broke up with because of the sex part?? lol). Then, an altercation happened between us and he told me that we're done for good. We didn't talk for 5 weeks after that. I reached out first and apologized for my part in the altercation. He said we can speak again as friends when he has the time. Almost 2 weeks later I re-added him on Facebook, he accepted, and we started chatting. We then video chatted 2 days ago and it felt normal and like nothing ever happened. We agreed to hang as friends and I asked about the possibility of it turning into something more and he said maybe (he said the same thing after we got back together the 2nd time). He said we can hangout soon and told me to not act crazy. He then told me he hasn't seen the girl he's talking to in awhile either and that she's just his f*ck buddy. I heard that once Caps are completely done, they're done. They don't give 2nd chances or go back to exes even as friends even if you beg/initiate. So, does my ex keep letting me back in because he knows I'm one of the only people who genuinely loves and cares for him? I was the first person he ever said I love you to and I was the first romantic interest in his life to never leave him, always be there for him, always take an interest in his jobs/work, etc. I definitely know what didn't work out before and I can and will be less annoying/needy especially knowing that he's extremely stressed with work and school. I'm doing my best to be patient and respect his wishes. I know you have to be EXTREMELY patient with Caps. If you were in my shoes, what would you do? Thanks!

Sounds like you want this relationship more than he does. Being friends with exes can get complicated if you add sex to the friendship. If I were you. I’d be upfront and ask him where his head is and where I am & go from there.

He said he still has feelings for me and is willing to give it another shot, "but not right now". He says I can wait or move on. He said we can be friends and "see what happens". He's currently seeing a girl and just using her for sex

I think that "not right now" and/or "someday" basically means never. Are you getting out there and seeing other people?

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True. He dumped me once and came back a few days later though. However, that same day he need my pee to pass a drug test....lol. We then were together for another month and he dumped me again. I guess he'll only come back again when he needs something or when he has nobody to hookup with -_-

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Hey guys. So I'm back on speaking terms with my Cap ex. We were together for nearly 3 years. Once he got his first full time job everything changed. He broke up with me twice. He said everything was perfect except the sex part and that I was being too annoying/needy. He said I never initiated it and we didn't have it as much. So when we got back together the 2nd time I started initiating it and having it more, but then he said I was faking wanting to have sex just to keep him. So then that's when he broke up with me again. He then started seeing a girl (he's bisexual) and then kept me around as a friend with benefits after I initiated contact 2 weeks later. (even though he broke up with because of the sex part?? lol). Then, an altercation happened between us and he told me that we're done for good. We didn't talk for 5 weeks after that. I reached out first and apologized for my part in the altercation. He said we can speak again as friends when he has the time. Almost 2 weeks later I re-added him on Facebook, he accepted, and we started chatting. We then video chatted 2 days ago and it felt normal and like nothing ever happened. We agreed to hang as friends and I asked about the possibility of it turning into something more and he said maybe (he said the same thing after we got back together the 2nd time). He said we can hangout soon and told me to not act crazy. He then told me he hasn't seen the girl he's talking to in awhile either and that she's just his f*ck buddy. I heard that once Caps are completely done, they're done. They don't give 2nd chances or go back to exes even as friends even if you beg/initiate. So, does my ex keep letting me back in because he knows I'm one of the only people who genuinely loves and cares for him? I was the first person he ever said I love you to and I was the first romantic interest in his life to never leave him, always be there for him, always take an interest in his jobs/work, etc. I definitely know what didn't work out before and I can and will be less annoying/needy especially knowing that he's extremely stressed with work and school. I'm doing my best to be patient and respect his wishes. I know you have to be EXTREMELY patient with Caps. If you were in my shoes, what would you do? Thanks!

Sounds like you want this relationship more than he does. Being friends with exes can get complicated if you add sex to the friendship. If I were you. I’d be upfront and ask him where his head is and where I am & go from there.

He said he still has feelings for me and is willing to give it another shot, "but not right now". He says I can wait or move on. He said we can be friends and "see what happens". He's currently seeing a girl and just using her for sex

If he cared about you. You would be the only person he had eyes for. Unfortunately he’s choosing to have sex with her.

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Yeah, but I think towards the end of the relationship I was becoming too needy and annoying and he felt suffocated. Earlier this year he got his first full time job and he also just finished up school. So, he probably didn't want a commitment anymore and dumped me so he could be free and then have sex with whomever he wants.

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Hey guys. So I'm back on speaking terms with my Cap ex. We were together for nearly 3 years. Once he got his first full time job everything changed. He broke up with me twice. He said everything was perfect except the sex part and that I was being too annoying/needy. He said I never initiated it and we didn't have it as much. So when we got back together the 2nd time I started initiating it and having it more, but then he said I was faking wanting to have sex just to keep him. So then that's when he broke up with me again. He then started seeing a girl (he's bisexual) and then kept me around as a friend with benefits after I initiated contact 2 weeks later. (even though he broke up with because of the sex part?? lol). Then, an altercation happened between us and he told me that we're done for good. We didn't talk for 5 weeks after that. I reached out first and apologized for my part in the altercation. He said we can speak again as friends when he has the time. Almost 2 weeks later I re-added him on Facebook, he accepted, and we started chatting. We then video chatted 2 days ago and it felt normal and like nothing ever happened. We agreed to hang as friends and I asked about the possibility of it turning into something more and he said maybe (he said the same thing after we got back together the 2nd time). He said we can hangout soon and told me to not act crazy. He then told me he hasn't seen the girl he's talking to in awhile either and that she's just his f*ck buddy. I heard that once Caps are completely done, they're done. They don't give 2nd chances or go back to exes even as friends even if you beg/initiate. So, does my ex keep letting me back in because he knows I'm one of the only people who genuinely loves and cares for him? I was the first person he ever said I love you to and I was the first romantic interest in his life to never leave him, always be there for him, always take an interest in his jobs/work, etc. I definitely know what didn't work out before and I can and will be less annoying/needy especially knowing that he's extremely stressed with work and school. I'm doing my best to be patient and respect his wishes. I know you have to be EXTREMELY patient with Caps. If you were in my shoes, what would you do? Thanks!

Sounds like you want this relationship more than he does. Being friends with exes can get complicated if you add sex to the friendship. If I were you. I’d be upfront and ask him where his head is and where I am & go from there.

He said he still has feelings for me and is willing to give it another shot, "but not right now". He says I can wait or move on. He said we can be friends and "see what happens". He's currently seeing a girl and just using her for sex

I think that "not right now" and/or "someday" basically means never. Are you getting out there and seeing other people?

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and yeah I've been on a few dates, but nothing major. I honestly still love him with all of my heart and know that we are meant to be together. I stopped being annoying and needy and I promised him we would have sex more, so now the ball is in his court.

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Hey guys. So I'm back on speaking terms with my Cap ex. We were together for nearly 3 years. Once he got his first full time job everything changed. He broke up with me twice. He said everything was perfect except the sex part and that I was being too annoying/needy. He said I never initiated it and we didn't have it as much. So when we got back together the 2nd time I started initiating it and having it more, but then he said I was faking wanting to have sex just to keep him. So then that's when he broke up with me again. He then started seeing a girl (he's bisexual) and then kept me around as a friend with benefits after I initiated contact 2 weeks later. (even though he broke up with because of the sex part?? lol). Then, an altercation happened between us and he told me that we're done for good. We didn't talk for 5 weeks after that. I reached out first and apologized for my part in the altercation. He said we can speak again as friends when he has the time. Almost 2 weeks later I re-added him on Facebook, he accepted, and we started chatting. We then video chatted 2 days ago and it felt normal and like nothing ever happened. We agreed to hang as friends and I asked about the possibility of it turning into something more and he said maybe (he said the same thing after we got back together the 2nd time). He said we can hangout soon and told me to not act crazy. He then told me he hasn't seen the girl he's talking to in awhile either and that she's just his f*ck buddy. I heard that once Caps are completely done, they're done. They don't give 2nd chances or go back to exes even as friends even if you beg/initiate. So, does my ex keep letting me back in because he knows I'm one of the only people who genuinely loves and cares for him? I was the first person he ever said I love you to and I was the first romantic interest in his life to never leave him, always be there for him, always take an interest in his jobs/work, etc. I definitely know what didn't work out before and I can and will be less annoying/needy especially knowing that he's extremely stressed with work and school. I'm doing my best to be patient and respect his wishes. I know you have to be EXTREMELY patient with Caps. If you were in my shoes, what would you do? Thanks!

Sounds like you want this relationship more than he does. Being friends with exes can get complicated if you add sex to the friendship. If I were you. I’d be upfront and ask him where his head is and where I am & go from there.

He said he still has feelings for me and is willing to give it another shot, "but not right now". He says I can wait or move on. He said we can be friends and "see what happens". He's currently seeing a girl and just using her for sex

If he cared about you. You would be the only person he had eyes for. Unfortunately he’s choosing to have sex with her.

Yeah, but I think towards the end of the relationship I was becoming too needy and annoying and he felt suffocated. Earlier this year he got his first full time job and he also just finished up school. So, he probably didn't want a commitment anymore and dumped me so he could be free and then have sex with whomever he wants.

The thing is, you probably just need someone who's more compatible with your love style and will appreciate your affection and the way you love them.

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He definitely appreciated it. He fell for me so hard in the beginning and he said I changed his life for the better and loved spending everyday with me. I honestly think the part of us not having sex often mixed with him be stressed from his first full time job made him end the relationship. However, if I show him that I've changed and that the pros outweigh the cons, don't you think he'd give it another shot?

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This is probably just my Cap self thinking this, but why should you have to change who you are for him? Don't you want to be accepted as you are and not as he wants you to be?

Well I do agree that I was too needy and annoying and I even told him that. So, I've been working on that. Also, having more sex isn't a bad change. I think I just got too complacent in the relationship and we saw each other everyday, so I never really initiated sex.

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Hey guys. So I'm back on speaking terms with my Cap ex. We were together for nearly 3 years. Once he got his first full time job everything changed. He broke up with me twice. He said everything was perfect except the sex part and that I was being too annoying/needy. He said I never initiated it and we didn't have it as much. So when we got back together the 2nd time I started initiating it and having it more, but then he said I was faking wanting to have sex just to keep him. So then that's when he broke up with me again. He then started seeing a girl (he's bisexual) and then kept me around as a friend with benefits after I initiated contact 2 weeks later. (even though he broke up with because of the sex part?? lol). Then, an altercation happened between us and he told me that we're done for good. We didn't talk for 5 weeks after that. I reached out first and apologized for my part in the altercation. He said we can speak again as friends when he has the time. Almost 2 weeks later I re-added him on Facebook, he accepted, and we started chatting. We then video chatted 2 days ago and it felt normal and like nothing ever happened. We agreed to hang as friends and I asked about the possibility of it turning into something more and he said maybe (he said the same thing after we got back together the 2nd time). He said we can hangout soon and told me to not act crazy. He then told me he hasn't seen the girl he's talking to in awhile either and that she's just his f*ck buddy. I heard that once Caps are completely done, they're done. They don't give 2nd chances or go back to exes even as friends even if you beg/initiate. So, does my ex keep letting me back in because he knows I'm one of the only people who genuinely loves and cares for him? I was the first person he ever said I love you to and I was the first romantic interest in his life to never leave him, always be there for him, always take an interest in his jobs/work, etc. I definitely know what didn't work out before and I can and will be less annoying/needy especially knowing that he's extremely stressed with work and school. I'm doing my best to be patient and respect his wishes. I know you have to be EXTREMELY patient with Caps. If you were in my shoes, what would you do? Thanks!

Sounds like you want this relationship more than he does. Being friends with exes can get complicated if you add sex to the friendship. If I were you. I’d be upfront and ask him where his head is and where I am & go from there.

He said he still has feelings for me and is willing to give it another shot, "but not right now". He says I can wait or move on. He said we can be friends and "see what happens". He's currently seeing a girl and just using her for sex

If he cared about you. You would be the only person he had eyes for. Unfortunately he’s choosing to have sex with her.

Yeah, but I think towards the end of the relationship I was becoming too needy and annoying and he felt suffocated. Earlier this year he got his first full time job and he also just finished up school. So, he probably didn't want a commitment anymore and dumped me so he could be free and then have sex with whomever he wants.

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Those are excuses if a man loves you or wants you it doesn’t matter how needy you are, they will stick around and not go looking for sex elsewhere.

So I've video chatted him twice in the past month. I haven't seen him in person in over 3 weeks. The first time I video chatted with him we talked for nearly half an hour. He was really nice and talkative and asking me about things and telling me about his work, etc. He said he'd text me later that day and never did. A week went by and I initiated contact again to say Happy Thanksgiving and tried video chatting but he was in a really bad mood and got angry at me. He said he was stuck at work for Thanksgiving and hasn't had time to himself in a month to go paint balling or ride his bike. Plus, he said he was sick. So I let another week go by and I just sent a text saying I hope he's feeling better, got no response. Yet he's still liking my posts on Facebook, but can't text back. That's where I'm at now. I just need to stop initiating contact altogether. I know it's going to be hard, but it's what I need to do. He's obviously stressed and he doesn't need me for anything since he has a girl now that he gets his sexual needs met from, which is all he cares about. His birthday is the 22nd and I honestly don't even think I should hit him up and wish him a Happy Birthday. I think I should go no contact and let him reach out this time. Like I said before, a few weeks ago when I asked him about us he said he still has feelings for me and is willing to give it another shot. Then he said... "but not right now. I said friends and we'll see what happens."