@Purpleaqua01
7 Years
Is this normal? (See last post)
Is Bringing a Child on a First Date Normal in Astrology Context
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Tell him to get a babysitter. So not right for a first date!
I don’t think it’s appropriate
How old is the baby?
How old is the baby?
4 smh
my mind wouldn't immediately jump to it being manipulative but more that he doesn't show very good judgment.
How old is the baby?
4 smh
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Oh no...what’s he thinking of?
I’d tell him “go look after your child and take your mind off dating till you’re free”.
How old is the baby?
4 smh
Oh no...what’s he thinking of?
I’d tell him “go look after your child and take your mind off dating till you’re free”.
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Especially with him and his son being jet lag would seem to make it uneasy to present your best self for a first date. If a lady took me up on this type of situation I would definitely walk all over her and not put her in a top tier category after only a week or two of introducing myself. Ugh major flags but hey if your that desperate best of luck.
How old is the baby?
4 smh
Oh no...what’s he thinking of?
I’d tell him “go look after your child and take your mind off dating till you’re free”.
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Wow I wish I would’ve thought to say that.
Did his wife make him bring his kid on his "business trip"? How is his son coming back with him from it?
How old is the baby?
4 smh
Oh no...what’s he thinking of?
I’d tell him “go look after your child and take your mind off dating till you’re free”.
Especially with him and his son being jet lag would seem to make it uneasy to present your best self for a first date. If a lady took me up on this type of situation I would definitely walk all over her and not put her in a top tier category after only a week or two of introducing myself. Ugh major flags but hey if your that desperate best of luck.
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That’s honestly how it feels & looks. I agree. But it was sprung up on me, it was like first pick him up from the airport, now he’s with his son, now his son is coming with us? & it is kind of manipulative. I just don’t want to be rude. He’s very sweet. But I already told him I have a zoom call so I won’t be able to pick him up. But I think I’m also going to come up with an excuse for tonight as well. I’m going to tell him to look after his son and make a time for me & him.
Did his wife make him bring his kid on his "business trip"? How is his son coming back with him from it?
He doesn’t have a wife lol.
And you're going on a first date with him straight from the airport with his kid? This seems a little rushed IMO
How old is the baby?
4 smh
Oh no...what’s he thinking of?
I’d tell him “go look after your child and take your mind off dating till you’re free”.
Wow I wish I would’ve thought to say that.
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You still can ... tell him you’ve rethought and it doesn’t feel right
I take issue with people putting their kids last
How old is the baby?
4 smh
Oh no...what’s he thinking of?
I’d tell him “go look after your child and take your mind off dating till you’re free”.
Wow I wish I would’ve thought to say that.
You still can ... tell him you’ve rethought and it doesn’t feel right
I take issue with people putting their kids last
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Ok that’s a good one. Thank you !
Did his wife make him bring his kid on his "business trip"? How is his son coming back with him from it?
He doesn’t have a wife lol.
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IDK- This whole scenario seems sketchy as hell 😆
How old is the baby?
4 smh
Oh no...what’s he thinking of?
I’d tell him “go look after your child and take your mind off dating till you’re free”.
Wow I wish I would’ve thought to say that.
You still can ... tell him you’ve rethought and it doesn’t feel right
I take issue with people putting their kids last
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Dick first, kid last! lol
Most men think like this Hahaha
Did his wife make him bring his kid on his "business trip"? How is his son coming back with him from it?
He doesn’t have a wife lol.
IDK- This whole scenario seems sketchy as hell 😆
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He’s only 22. Read my last post. Idk the age difference wasn’t noticeable to me until now. Lol
And you're going on a first date with him straight from the airport with his kid? This seems a little rushed IMO
Some men do this so they can get the cat sooner. I’m woke now lol. There’s no way he’s serious about me trying to bring his son on a first date. & if he is serious than that would mean I’d have to teach him how to be in a relationship & I don’t have the energy for that rn.
Did his wife make him bring his kid on his "business trip"? How is his son coming back with him from it?
He doesn’t have a wife lol.
IDK- This whole scenario seems sketchy as hell 😆
He’s only 22. Read my last post. Idk the age difference wasn’t noticeable to me until now. Lol
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One post at a time! lol I don't multi task well when being told what to do 😛
Hmmm, 22 with a baby. He seems young and inexperienced, You're older correct? I would tell him that it seems like he has his hands full and to plan a proper date once he's settled at home.
I'm still wondering how he toted a kid around on a business trip- seems pretty far fetched to me.
Now he wants lunch and a a ride home. Does he even have a car seat for the kid to go in your car?
I’m about to be a true Aquarian rn. 👻 I was really fighting it lol
How old is the baby?
4 smh
Oh no...what’s he thinking of?
I’d tell him “go look after your child and take your mind off dating till you’re free”.
Wow I wish I would’ve thought to say that.
You still can ... tell him you’ve rethought and it doesn’t feel right
I take issue with people putting their kids last
Dick first, kid last! lol
Most men think like this Hahaha
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Gross
Luckily my ex didn’t ....
Did his wife make him bring his kid on his "business trip"? How is his son coming back with him from it?
He doesn’t have a wife lol.
IDK- This whole scenario seems sketchy as hell 😆
He’s only 22. Read my last post. Idk the age difference wasn’t noticeable to me until now. Lol
One post at a time! lol I don't multi task well when being told what to do 😛
Hmmm, 22 with a baby. He seems young and inexperienced, You're older correct? I would tell him that it seems like he has his hands full and to plan a proper date once he's settled at home.
I'm still wondering how he toted a kid around on a business trip- seems pretty far fetched to me.
Now he wants lunch and a a ride home. Does he even have a car seat for the kid to go in your car?
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I don’t have kids so do they need a car seat at 4 years old? I’ve never even dated anyone with a kid before. But he has 2 houses 1 out here & 1 in his home town. So I’m guessing the child’s mother had his kid now he’s taking him back to where we are
How old is the baby?
4 smh
Oh no...what’s he thinking of?
I’d tell him “go look after your child and take your mind off dating till you’re free”.
Especially with him and his son being jet lag would seem to make it uneasy to present your best self for a first date. If a lady took me up on this type of situation I would definitely walk all over her and not put her in a top tier category after only a week or two of introducing myself. Ugh major flags but hey if your that desperate best of luck.
That’s honestly how it feels & looks. I agree. But it was sprung up on me, it was like first pick him up from the airport, now he’s with his son, now his son is coming with us? & it is kind of manipulative. I just don’t want to be rude. He’s very sweet. But I already told him I have a zoom call so I won’t be able to pick him up. But I think I’m also going to come up with an excuse for tonight as well. I’m going to tell him to look after his son and make a time for me & him.
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It’s not rude standing up for yourself and setting boundaries. If he’s doing things like this now I can only imagine after the honeymoon stage in 3 to 4 months. You are making the correct choice so far in this circumstance.
Did his wife make him bring his kid on his "business trip"? How is his son coming back with him from it?
He doesn’t have a wife lol.
IDK- This whole scenario seems sketchy as hell 😆
He’s only 22. Read my last post. Idk the age difference wasn’t noticeable to me until now. Lol
One post at a time! lol I don't multi task well when being told what to do 😛
Hmmm, 22 with a baby. He seems young and inexperienced, You're older correct? I would tell him that it seems like he has his hands full and to plan a proper date once he's settled at home.
I'm still wondering how he toted a kid around on a business trip- seems pretty far fetched to me.
Now he wants lunch and a a ride home. Does he even have a car seat for the kid to go in your car?
I don’t have kids so do they need a car seat at 4 years old? I’ve never even dated anyone with a kid before. But he has 2 houses 1 out here & 1 in his home town. So I’m guessing the child’s mother had his kid now he’s taking him back to where we are
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Yes they do need a car seat
Did his wife make him bring his kid on his "business trip"? How is his son coming back with him from it?
He doesn’t have a wife lol.
IDK- This whole scenario seems sketchy as hell 😆
He’s only 22. Read my last post. Idk the age difference wasn’t noticeable to me until now. Lol
One post at a time! lol I don't multi task well when being told what to do 😛
Hmmm, 22 with a baby. He seems young and inexperienced, You're older correct? I would tell him that it seems like he has his hands full and to plan a proper date once he's settled at home.
I'm still wondering how he toted a kid around on a business trip- seems pretty far fetched to me.
Now he wants lunch and a a ride home. Does he even have a car seat for the kid to go in your car?
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All valid points you brought up about the kid and business trip. The 22 year old suitor that owns 2 houses can get an Uber..... uummkay
Is this the Leo/Aries moon guy you talked of before?
Did his wife make him bring his kid on his "business trip"? How is his son coming back with him from it?
He doesn’t have a wife lol.
IDK- This whole scenario seems sketchy as hell 😆
He’s only 22. Read my last post. Idk the age difference wasn’t noticeable to me until now. Lol
One post at a time! lol I don't multi task well when being told what to do 😛
Hmmm, 22 with a baby. He seems young and inexperienced, You're older correct? I would tell him that it seems like he has his hands full and to plan a proper date once he's settled at home.
I'm still wondering how he toted a kid around on a business trip- seems pretty far fetched to me.
Now he wants lunch and a a ride home. Does he even have a car seat for the kid to go in your car?
I don’t have kids so do they need a car seat at 4 years old? I’ve never even dated anyone with a kid before. But he has 2 houses 1 out here & 1 in his home town. So I’m guessing the child’s mother had his kid now he’s taking him back to where we are
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He has 2 houses at 22 but wants a ride from the airport lol
I thought you said the kid was 4 months. I don't know about 4 year olds, depends on the size of the kid.
Does he want a date or an uber driver? I is Confucius
Is this the Leo/Aries moon guy you talked of before?
Yes
Does he want a date or an uber driver? I is Confucius
He’s basically just anxious to see me. I feel really bad. He bought me flowers. He says he has a gift for me. But idk something just doesn’t feel right about this 😔 it sucks I really liked him. This is why I don’t ppl with no air placements he doesn’t have any sense just all feelings !!!! Lmaoooo & I have 0 water placements. But I do have a Leo moon so there’s that lol
Put the Aqua placements on the line please. This isn’t even a proper date. This is giving someone a ride home from the airport with a meal in between. How well can you get to know each other with a 4 year old in tow? Their attention span is about 5-10 minutes. Let me tell you, 4 year olds have the audacity. I took my 4 year old niece on a hike and she insisted on being on my back uphill and then had the nerve to ask me why I was sweating. You don’t want to meet any 4 year olds.
I’m curious to see if he will step up if you cancel.
The audacity 😂😂😂 I’m dead. I’m pretty good with kids. But I mean the first date? I asked the universe/god for someone new & this is what I get lololol I mean he is everything I asked for, sending flowers, romantic, kind, attentive. But why so young fml
Imagine you're 4 and you only get to see your dad on the weekends and he goes and gets a baby sitter so he can get some kitty, or worse takes you on the date lol.
Great way to remember your Dad growing up hey? 😬
He could at least wait till the child is with his mum before he focuses on his love life 😐
Does he want a date or an uber driver? I is Confucius
He’s basically just anxious to see me. I feel really bad. He bought me flowers. He says he has a gift for me. But idk something just doesn’t feel right about this 😔 it sucks I really liked him. This is why I don’t ppl with no air placements he doesn’t have any sense just all feelings !!!! Lmaoooo & I have 0 water placements. But I do have a Leo moon so there’s that lol
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If he's anxious to see you and likes you so much wouldn't he also be anxious to make a good impression?
Some of the darkest times in any persons life is circling the airport for pickup ijs. Not the sexy heart eyes filled first date you tell your grandkids about.
I don't know, I wouldn't do it. If it was me I wouldn't want someone to bring his baby on our first meeting. That seems very odd. So he brought the baby with him on a business trip? Who does that?? And when he has meetings who takes care of the child? Where's the mother and why she allowed him to take the child "on a trip"??
One thing that strikes, very odd and not in a good way. Not manipulative but dangerous in a way.
Y’all are right I snapped out of it. I’m going on another date tn with someone older 🤣 sorry baby Leo 😢 lol
Y’all are right I snapped out of it. I’m going on another date tn with someone older 🤣 sorry baby Leo 😢 lol
It’s not his age but weird ways of trying to arrange a first date. TBH he sounds like a fraud. A lot of suspect behavior.
There’s no romance in this relationship if you continue. He’s looking for a mother for his kid. Tell him you’re busy and when he’s free for a as Real date, let you know the details.
Wtf let’s hope they don’t kidnap you or some scam. This wierd as fuck for a complete stranger to even ask u to pick them up. Let alone with ex.
This doesn't sound like a date though, it sounds like he wants to grab some food after the flight and he'll have his son with him. It might not be as serious as you think but a regular part of his life and how he will be when you guys (if you guys) go to the next level in your relationship. This is just a part of his life and you're catching a glimpse of it. I'd just casually bring up that I'm looking forward to our first date and dressing up. lol .
I don't know, I wouldn't do it. If it was me I wouldn't want someone to bring his baby on our first meeting. That seems very odd. So he brought the baby with him on a business trip? Who does that?? And when he has meetings who takes care of the child? Where's the mother and why she allowed him to take the child "on a trip"??
One thing that strikes, very odd and not in a good way. Not manipulative but dangerous in a way.
Perhaps he has sole or majority custody and his job is flexible to allow him to have his kid at work. Or provide child care on site. Keeping your kid close is kinda sweet. That’s not really so much of a red flag IMO.
But I agree with you. I wouldn’t do it.
Imagine how miserable that toddler is after a long flight then add on meeting dads lady friend. Disaster in the making.
I feel sorry for the child, having a child for a father
I wish people wouldn’t do that...
Personally I think 18 is way too young to have a kid. I think I’m about ready now 20 years later… a young adult raising children without worldly knowledge and life experience is tough and potentially damaging. Especially seeing he’s not with the kids mom and the constant push/pull.
It sounds like he wants you to get in where you fit in. It’s cool he’s sweet and attentive, you sound like my aqua with her rebound. But don’t settle. He has some growing up to do and you are past that. Not to mention the love bombing will stop and you will start psychoanalysis and rational deduction(I see it already starting) … and you will regret it down the line.
I don't know, I wouldn't do it. If it was me I wouldn't want someone to bring his baby on our first meeting. That seems very odd. So he brought the baby with him on a business trip? Who does that?? And when he has meetings who takes care of the child? Where's the mother and why she allowed him to take the child "on a trip"??
One thing that strikes, very odd and not in a good way. Not manipulative but dangerous in a way.
Perhaps he has sole or majority custody and his job is flexible to allow him to have his kid at work. Or provide child care on site. Keeping your kid close is kinda sweet. That’s not really so much of a red flag IMO.
But I agree with you. I wouldn’t do it.
Imagine how miserable that toddler is after a long flight then add on meeting dads lady friend. Disaster in the making.
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I have yet to heard companies offer that kind of accommodation.
Added they don't seem to know each other at all and the father bringing his child along the way with strangers is considered as child endangerment to me.
He works in the music industry. Basically for himself. & yes he’s super involved with his child . I respect that actually. When I’m otp with him he’s cooking for him, I mean like a whole meal like he can really cook! But yes I told him about being girls around his son, he claims I’m the only one. I hope me & him can be friends one day cause he’s just 2 young for me.
Personally I think 18 is way too young to have a kid. I think I’m about ready now 20 years later… a young adult raising children without worldly knowledge and life experience is tough and potentially damaging. Especially seeing he’s not with the kids mom and the constant push/pull.
It sounds like he wants you to get in where you fit in. It’s cool he’s sweet and attentive, you sound like my aqua with her rebound. But don’t settle. He has some growing up to do and you are past that. Not to mention the love bombing will stop and you will start psychoanalysis and rational deduction(I see it already starting) … and you will regret it down the line.
I’ve basically now been forcing him to slow down. I’m nit really answering his calls unless it’s what I want to do. I won’t settle. But when it comes to being romantic he’s got it down lol . That’s what I really crave rn. He doesn’t remind me of… anyone I’ve ever dealt with. He literally sends me roses everyday.
This wasn't a "date". It was a ride home from the airport.
"Normal"? no. Laziness and poor judgement at its best.
... I took my 4 year old niece on a hike and she insisted on being on my back uphill and then had the nerve to ask me why I was sweating....
LOL. Gold.
Personally I think 18 is way too young to have a kid. I think I’m about ready now 20 years later… a young adult raising children without worldly knowledge and life experience is tough and potentially damaging. Especially seeing he’s not with the kids mom and the constant push/pull.
It sounds like he wants you to get in where you fit in. It’s cool he’s sweet and attentive, you sound like my aqua with her rebound. But don’t settle. He has some growing up to do and you are past that. Not to mention the love bombing will stop and you will start psychoanalysis and rational deduction(I see it already starting) … and you will regret it down the line.
I’ve basically now been forcing him to slow down. I’m nit really answering his calls unless it’s what I want to do. I won’t settle. But when it comes to being romantic he’s got it down lol . That’s what I really crave rn. He doesn’t remind me of… anyone I’ve ever dealt with. He literally sends me roses everyday.
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Roses every day?
Wow he is very keen 😍
Imagine you're 4 and you only get to see your dad on the weekends and he goes and gets a baby sitter so he can get some kitty, or worse takes you on the date lol.
"Parent of the year" dad right there /s
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I think he’s still figuring things out. He’s a great dad. I’ve actually never seen a man love being a dad so much. But he kind of treats his son like a best friend. If you know what I mean. But he has his son rn & prob doesn’t trust anyone else to watch him, he’s not from here only lives here for work like myself.
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So I haven’t even gone on a date with him yet but we had plans as soon as he gets back from a business trip. He asked me to pick him up from the airport. I said ok, just to show I’m serious about him. Now he’s saying that his baby son will be with him.. I’m like ok that’s cool, so what do you want to do after I pick you up? He says we’ll go out to eat and he will bring his son. Idk how to feel about it, we just met a week ago and he wants to bring his son on a first date? I really like him which is why my aqua placements haven’t decided to RUN yet lmaoooo but how tf do I tell him that I want to slow things down a bit and get to know him before I meet his son. I don’t have any kids but I still understand that if we are to be dating he wants to see if I’m good with his son, but I really wanted to catch a vibe with HIM first.
All this seems kinda manipulative. Red flag?? What do y’all think ? Should I just take a chance, am I freaking out cause this isn’t what I’m used to? I’m picking him up tonight.
Go look at my last post to see the whole story.