Gemini girl losing interest or too early to tell?

Hi, thanks for taking the time to read. A bit of background; I started talking to a gem girl around the start of this year. We'd seen each other before but never talked.

We initially talked over a group conference. I remember her first impression of me, it was me making a bad joke that she liked. She PMed me and we chatted abit, said we are now besties. We shared socials and the first thing she sent me was a valentines day post. She'd always address me as baby or love even from the start.

I wasn't interested at first, but was slowly hooked. Every morning she'd send me a text, i'd always tell her she didn't need to, but she did anyway because she wanted to. I knew she was constantly busy but its like she always made time to even just say hi. If I didn't instantly respond she would tell me she misses talking to me.

We listened to each other rant and then joke about it. She expressed how she's never felt as comfortable talking and opening up as she had been to me. It flattered me and I slowly opened up to her. She always seemed so up front about liking me, and I was always the one joking about how being single isnt so bad. She'd always say "maybe someone will change your mind" and always express the desire to hug me one day.

She asked for my sign and i jokingly said we weren't compatible. She told her friends i was a libra and they just outright said how much of a f-boy and player a libra man is, but she poked fun and said we are so compatible and were "soulmates".

Fast forward to recently, we were both busy with work. She posted on her social about feeling down and depressed, that love hurts and maybe she's better off alone. I asked if she was ok and that I was always willing to listen, to which she responded that she was fine.

I gave her space, i know how annoying it is to be bugged when u just want to be alone. Yes, we aren't a thing but I can't help but feel guilty. I feel like it was my fault but I didn't respond to her for two-three days. It's like we made each other feel distant (unintentionally?).

It just went downhill from there. She no longer texted, called, told me how she was tired from work. No random "hi" s. She'd usually be the first one to text me but now, if I didn't start the conversation, we wouldn't talk for days.

I invited her to get grab a coffee with a mutual and she said, "no, but come over after to hang out" (she lives with the friends i mentioned earlier). We met but it was as if we were both too shy. Occasionally catching each other look but only talking to anyone else but each other.

I don't know if she just needs time to collect her thoughts, is it too early to judge? Are we on the same boat, unsure if the other really likes them back?

If anyone manages to read through all this, please tell me what you think. Thank you

Gemini and Libra shy....? What is this word coming to!?🙀

Meet your chaser alone, without any distractions, and see if there is any chemistry. Unless something put her off already. Like expecting a 6’4 guy and you are only a 5’4?

Posted by Wizardz

I'm a Gemini male but I have no idea whether she likes you or not

I wouldn't try to guess how she is feeling

Ask her on a date.. like a real one, not with a friend

I think she mightve been too busy then but this was also around the time she no longer reads my texts despite being (semi) active on her socials. she probably liked me before but not anymore and honestly if thats the case, ig thats one thing out of my mind. Don't wanna be preoccupied with something that couldve been tbh.

tbf we are both terrible texters but at first not between each other. when she stopped addressing me with nicknames, i stopped too because I didn't want it to lead to the wrong thing.

Posted by Undine

Gemini and Libra shy....? What is this word coming to!?🙀

Meet your chaser alone, without any distractions, and see if there is any chemistry. Unless something put her off already. Like expecting a 6’4 guy and you are only a 5’4?

I'm actually very shy especially towards people I've never interacted to (in person) more than once. We talked once when it was just us two and I could really feel a shy air. She works part time in the weekends, went to her work place once and she complimented my looks and just showered me with free food.

That was early on. Did that another time after the talking slowes down and she said hi, complimented my outfit, then just started chatting with her workmates for a good 5 minutes while I was left standing there. Place wasnt busy at the time. Idk what to make of that tbh, so i just told her I'm going to go and that was followed by sparse to no interaction for a good few days

Posted by bmoon8

Seems that she was talking about you and you were oblivious about it. 🧐

On the contrary, all that was so early on.. at that point I knew but wasn't sure if I was mentally ready for a relationship.

I think whats funny is that its like our interest shifted. When she liked me, I was unsure. Now its the other way around. Kinda feels like being blue-balled tbh haha, I had a feeling smth like this would happen. Emotional striptease maybe? haha no idea what to make of it

meh. no great loss.

you didn't respond for three days and she stops communicating with you?

it makes me tired just thinking about it.

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Posted by ObafemiMartins

Posted by bmoon8

Seems that she was talking about you and you were oblivious about it. 🧐

On the contrary, all that was so early on.. at that point I knew but wasn't sure if I was mentally ready for a relationship.

I think whats funny is that its like our interest shifted. When she liked me, I was unsure. Now its the other way around. Kinda feels like being blue-balled tbh haha, I had a feeling smth like this would happen. Emotional striptease maybe? haha no idea what to make of it

You should have struck while the iron was hot.

Since you didn’t, it’s now up to you to make your moves on her.

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This

“Would you like to go out with me”

Simple!

Posted by ObafemiMartins

Hi, thanks for taking the time to read. A bit of background; I started talking to a gem girl around the start of this year. We'd seen each other before but never talked.

We initially talked over a group conference. I remember her first impression of me, it was me making a bad joke that she liked. She PMed me and we chatted abit, said we are now besties. We shared socials and the first thing she sent me was a valentines day post. She'd always address me as baby or love even from the start.

I wasn't interested at first, but was slowly hooked. Every morning she'd send me a text, i'd always tell her she didn't need to, but she did anyway because she wanted to. I knew she was constantly busy but its like she always made time to even just say hi. If I didn't instantly respond she would tell me she misses talking to me.

We listened to each other rant and then joke about it. She expressed how she's never felt as comfortable talking and opening up as she had been to me. It flattered me and I slowly opened up to her. She always seemed so up front about liking me, and I was always the one joking about how being single isnt so bad. She'd always say "maybe someone will change your mind" and always express the desire to hug me one day.

She asked for my sign and i jokingly said we weren't compatible. She told her friends i was a libra and they just outright said how much of a f-boy and player a libra man is, but she poked fun and said we are so compatible and were "soulmates".

Fast forward to recently, we were both busy with work. She posted on her social about feeling down and depressed, that love hurts and maybe she's better off alone. I asked if she was ok and that I was always willing to listen, to which she responded that she was fine.

I gave her space, i know how annoying it is to be bugged when u just want to be alone. Yes, we aren't a thing but I can't help but feel guilty. I feel like it was my fault but I didn't respond to her for two-three days. It's like we made each other feel distant (unintentionally?).

It just went downhill from there. She no longer texted, called, told me how she was tired from work. No random "hi" s. She'd usually be the first one to text me but now, if I didn't start the conversation, we wouldn't talk for days.

I invited her to get grab a coffee with a mutual and she said, "no, but come over after to hang out" (she lives with the friends i mentioned earlier). We met but it was as if we were both too shy. Occasionally catching each other look but only talking to anyone else but each other.

I don't know if she just needs time to collect her thoughts, is it too early to judge? Are we on the same boat, unsure if the other really likes them back?

If anyone manages to read through all this, please tell me what you think. Thank you

Let me tell you something I am with a Gem gal I am still finding out about her myself and her about me also.

From experience what I have learnt and while I have been listening to my gem.

Your lady friend has basically put the effort in in her eyes to show you she is interested and now she is fed up and is basically saying its down to you to make the effort now and if you don't its your loss.

Look if you are into this lady then text or call her saying I am really sorry we haven't been in much contact lately I feel stupid for not contacting you sooner and communicating with you I have had my own problems to deal with and I hope you can accept my apologies as I would love to take you out just us if possible if things go further then explain to her that you wasn't sure if you was mentally ready for a relationship and you didn't want to hurt her or yourself.

Posted by bmoon8

You should have struck while the iron was hot.

Since you didn’t, it’s now up to you to make your moves on her.

Here's one thing that threw me off, I was on the phone when she was taking to her friends once and we were al chatting together. They were talking about relationships and she said the biggest NO is guys who she thought were just friends but they wanted more. I didn't think much of it early on but when she slowly grew into me it was off putting to say the least

Posted by Centaur12

Let me tell you something I am with a Gem gal I am still finding out about her myself and her about me also.

From experience what I have learnt and while I have been listening to my gem.

Your lady friend has basically put the effort in in her eyes to show you she is interested and now she is fed up and is basically saying its down to you to make the effort now and if you don't its your loss.

Look if you are into this lady then text or call her saying I am really sorry we haven't been in much contact lately I feel stupid for not contacting you sooner and communicating with you I have had my own problems to deal with and I hope you can accept my apologies as I would love to take you out just us if possible if things go further then explain to her that you wasn't sure if you was mentally ready for a relationship and you didn't want to hurt her or yourself.

I'm not the most experienced with this but I remember reading that gems dont like to rush into things, and tbh neither do I. I know I should probably take it with a grain of salt but at this point I'm worried about hurting any chances

Posted by ObafemiMartins

Posted by bmoon8

You should have struck while the iron was hot.

Since you didn’t, it’s now up to you to make your moves on her.

Here's one thing that threw me off, I was on the phone when she was taking to her friends once and we were al chatting together. They were talking about relationships and she said the biggest NO is guys who she thought were just friends but they wanted more. I didn't think much of it early on but when she slowly grew into me it was off putting to say the least

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Well you should open your mouth, ask, and find out if you are in that category. Easy enough.

Posted by saggurl88

Well you should open your mouth, ask, and find out if you are in that category. Easy enough.

Yea you're probably right, would be pretty weird to do it out of nowhere tho I think so I'll find the right moment

Posted by saggurl88

Well you should open your mouth, ask, and find out if you are in that category. Easy enough.

Yea you're probably right, would be pretty weird to do it out of nowhere tho I think so I'll find the right moment

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Posted by saggurl88

Well you should open your mouth, ask, and find out if you are in that category. Easy enough.

Yea you're probably right, would be pretty weird to do it out of nowhere tho I think so I'll find the right moment

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Well you should definitely wait until she contacts you, but try to fit it into casual conversation.

It's easy enough to do,

"Hey remember when you said blah blah blah? Do you see me in that category?"

Geminis aren't much of a liar when it comes to this type of thing, so she will most likely say "yay or nay" and you will have your answer without waiting a long time and wondering. Geminis are loving and kind of sensitive, but they don't string people along and will be friendly but truthful when it comes to feelings.

Basically, she will go back to acting like a normal friend, if she's not interested, and then you can decide on what to do from there. It won't be a big deal to ask her this type of question.

It's probably a bigger issue for you to ask, then it is for her to answer.

Posted by PurpleskyYou just stopped calling her "baby"...back to first names?

not even, just heys.. tbf ive always been too hesitant (and pussy) to use baby so i never did, but always anything else like pretty face or sweet stuff. she stopped so I was hesitant to continue too

Posted by saggurl88

Well you should definitely wait until she contacts you, but try to fit it into casual conversation.

It's easy enough to do,

"Hey remember when you said blah blah blah? Do you see me in that category?"

Geminis aren't much of a liar when it comes to this type of thing, so she will most likely say "yay or nay" and you will have your answer without waiting a long time and wondering. Geminis are loving and kind of sensitive, but they don't string people along and will be friendly but truthful when it comes to feelings.

Basically, she will go back to acting like a normal friend, if she's not interested, and then you can decide on what to do from there. It won't be a big deal to ask her this type of question.

It's probably a bigger issue for you to ask, then it is for her to answer.

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Met her and her roommates today with a friend, it was as if she'd talk to anybody but me and do everything but was still always in my general vicinity. I can be very shy sometimes and I have been told that I just disappear and noone knows what to do. I think the shyness is mutual so it was impossible to even talk even if we traded glances once in awhile.

For some reason tho, I get the air that its like her roommates know enough about me already and arent surprised at the things I do or say that would usually (if not always) surprise people ive only just met. When me and my friend were leaving (hes very huggy), I just said see you guys and one of her roommates just said "oh yeah no he doesnt so hugs". like ok, i haven't told you that yet?

Idk, maybe its also on me for giving off mixed signals. Either way, feels like im rushing but also dragging at the same time.

Youre showing her you have no other options by giving her attention, even after she pulled back. Which is turning her off imo. Run & make sure you leave tread marks. Focus on you

Posted by Lib1994

Youre showing her you have no other options by giving her attention, even after she pulled back. Which is turning her off imo. Run & make sure you leave tread marks. Focus on you

If anything, I give anyone but her attention

Posted by ObafemiMartins

Posted by saggurl88

Well you should definitely wait until she contacts you, but try to fit it into casual conversation.

It's easy enough to do,

"Hey remember when you said blah blah blah? Do you see me in that category?"

Geminis aren't much of a liar when it comes to this type of thing, so she will most likely say "yay or nay" and you will have your answer without waiting a long time and wondering. Geminis are loving and kind of sensitive, but they don't string people along and will be friendly but truthful when it comes to feelings.

Basically, she will go back to acting like a normal friend, if she's not interested, and then you can decide on what to do from there. It won't be a big deal to ask her this type of question.

It's probably a bigger issue for you to ask, then it is for her to answer.

Met her and her roommates today with a friend, it was as if she'd talk to anybody but me and do everything but was still always in my general vicinity. I can be very shy sometimes and I have been told that I just disappear and noone knows what to do. I think the shyness is mutual so it was impossible to even talk even if we traded glances once in awhile.

For some reason tho, I get the air that its like her roommates know enough about me already and arent surprised at the things I do or say that would usually (if not always) surprise people ive only just met. When me and my friend were leaving (hes very huggy), I just said see you guys and one of her roommates just said "oh yeah no he doesnt so hugs". like ok, i haven't told you that yet?

Idk, maybe its also on me for giving off mixed signals. Either way, feels like im rushing but also dragging at the same time.

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Geminis are ruled by mercury. It's best to talk if you want to get anywhere with them.

Shyness can be boring.

There is only so much mystery a person can have before the shyness ends up seeming like non interest.

Be more friendly or at least invade her space a little, to get her to come talk to you. Have some forward body movement since your too shy to talk.

honesty fok it, too often she's hot then cold.

Sometimes she responds instantly, other times days even when shes highly active on social media. She's made it a point that she "sees" them too. Texts can be super nice or now just mean.

Also just always sounds mad when were talk-talking too. Always exclaims a person name when she sees them approaching but with me its like im non-existent.

it is what it is

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honesty fok it, too often she's hot then cold.

Sometimes she responds instantly, other times days even when shes highly active on social media. She's made it a point that she "sees" them too. Texts can be super nice or now just mean.

Also just always sounds mad when were talk-talking too. Always exclaims a person name when she sees them approaching but with me its like im non-existent.

it is what it is

You taking yourself out the game and bowing out, huh?

You say this on DXP but can't say it to her? Tell her what an asshole she's being. She'll enjoy it. It's not gonna ruin anything. Put yourself out there, be seen.

Posted by saggurl88

You taking yourself out the game and bowing out, huh?

You say this on DXP but can't say it to her? Tell her what an asshole she's being. She'll enjoy it. It's not gonna ruin anything. Put yourself out there, be seen.

she was being mean to a mutual too. I told her to cut it out, if she doesn't like me she doesn't have to be rude to him too. Received it fine i guess? no weird response or anything

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Posted by saggurl88

You taking yourself out the game and bowing out, huh?

You say this on DXP but can't say it to her? Tell her what an asshole she's being. She'll enjoy it. It's not gonna ruin anything. Put yourself out there, be seen.

she was being mean to a mutual too. I told her to cut it out, if she doesn't like me she doesn't have to be rude to him too. Received it fine i guess? no weird response or anything

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Did she tell you she didn't like you? If she did then believe her.

Posted by saggurl88

Did she tell you she didn't like you? If she did then believe her.

no she didnt. I just told her its fine if she doesnt like me just dont be mean to him

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Posted by saggurl88

Did she tell you she didn't like you? If she did then believe her.

no she didnt. I just told her its fine if she doesnt like me just dont be mean to him

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Why would you say that if you don't know? That's a silly thing to say to a women. But I agree, just treat her regular and move on in pursuit of someone else.