Gemini Woman Stopped Talking

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Hi! I met this gemini woman at the office. She was Always looking at me and I became interested in knowing her, so I arranged a meeting (I really needed to talk to some people from her department, so I just choosen her as one of 4 people).When we met she was delighted to see me, just like "Ooooh it's you!" and gave me a cheerful smile and a big hug. I was amazed and after talking about business we talked a lot about ourselves. She talked about so many things about herself I was amazed.

After our long talk, she said the loved to meet me and we should talk more one day, and I couldn't lose the chance to invite her for a coffee two days later after work. At first, she said she would be working late night and we may try. One hour after the normal working hour she saw me still in the office and sent me a message saying she didn't knew I was there waiting, she was sorry to have let me waiting that much but she would not be able to talk to me that day. I laughted and said her it was ok, we could meet another day and I was leaving, and 2 minutes after my message she asked me to wait, that we could met and she needed just about 5 minutes.

That night we talked a lot, a real intelectual estimulation like I love (I'm a libra man and intelectual and sexual estimulation are a must, and good looking too lol) and it was clear both of us felt absolutely at home with each other. It was amazing as I hadn't experienced for a long time. I was surprised she oppened her personal life and even some details about her daily routine she never said to anyone because she think is weird, and she also said that she broke up with her husband 6 months ago and already met someone who is already talking about marriage and she thinks it's too early. Well, she showed herself absolutely vulnerable to me without any question from my side, she just started talking a didn't stop until I dig deeper into spiritual and personal growth. She was amazed, she loved to hear so many things I know and I felt amazing with her as myself never felt with my 2 years girlfriend.

We said goodbye, she thanked me for our night together, and said about meeting again. We exchanged some texts through the next days and I said her I'll be leaving the company for another challenge, and on my last day I got to the office really very early in the morning (6 am) to let a Lindt under her keyboard, since I've noticed she is very discret at the office, and me too, like a good libra.

I sent her a message saying how much I appreciated meeting her in my life and how she is special, and that I had left a small gift for her under her desktop keyboard, to preserve our discretion in the office. She loved, said she was really very happy to read my message and to have met me in her life too, and right after she arrive at the office she sent me a second message saying she loved the gift and asking me wha time would I leave the office, because she wanted to say goodbye and give me a kiss (not a romantic one, sure).

We met at the hall, we were both clearly without many words to say, just looking and smiling to each other, and she gave me two hugs and kisses, and I said her I would be around to meet her again many times yet, and she agreed smiling.

Well, that weekend something really unexpected happened at the company and I had to stay for undetermined time, so at monday I was back and I said her what happened. We exchanged a few messages about the situation, she laughted and we talked about meeting again after the work. From this day (last week) we exchanged few messages, including one where I said her that I like clear and objective communication and that she could talk to me on WhatsApp without ceremony, and that I was saying that through message just because our encounters at the office are very brief and both of us are very discret, but I'd prefered to say that personally.

She just said she was very, very busy and she was going to answer right when she could give me the attention deserved. I said that's ok and she sent me kisses. I sent her kisses back and she didn't even saw my message. This was last Friday, almost a week ago, and since then I didn't sent any message, neither received from her.

I'm really interested in her and want to take this to another level within the proper time, but I'm not sure she is really interested or just being nice or playing. To be honest, my intuition never failed me before, and it says that she is interested, maybe even confused because she already have a boyfriend (a very anxious one, for what I could notice from her words), and is very busy and maybe thinking about what to do or not with me, and she just can't answer until she's ready or have her mind clear. I'm not sure.

Opinions, please! šŸ™‚
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Posted by libra1982

No one? Really?!

Wait until you're both free from others. Keep it friendly...shes trying to stay loyal to her guy...

I agree. I think this is her attempt to reel it back in.

OP, you're trying to get close, but shouldn't you be taking that effort to become closer to the lady you already have?
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Why? He is falling for another woman and that’s why he isnt married yet to current one so he can still be adjusting his future and find someone he is about...

Not married is free! Otherwise he would be married...but apparently his current lady lacking ignition for him.

Or maybe if Gem will bow him away - he will appreciate his gf more?
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Posted by libra1982

No one? Really?!

Wait until you're both free from others. Keep it friendly...shes trying to stay loyal to her guy...
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Hi, thatlibralife!

Thank you for your message. I understand your point and I think it's cohesive. I definitely don't want her to cheat on her boyfriend, nor will I cheat on my girlfriend.

I think it's better wait and go with the flow. šŸ™‚
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Posted by libra1982

No one? Really?!

Wait until you're both free from others. Keep it friendly...shes trying to stay loyal to her guy...

I agree. I think this is her attempt to reel it back in.

OP, you're trying to get close, but shouldn't you be taking that effort to become closer to the lady you already have?
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Hi, sweetpea2977!

I've being talking to my gf for a while (almost a year) about our relationship issues and she's a really very good partner, just lack some important things to me, she definetely did nothing wrong.

But even after many conversations, nothing changed and I feel it just won't change, ever. And that's ok, no one have to make it happen, it's just how it is, and this gemini woman made me think even deeply about leaving my gf.

That said, my doubt is exactly that: this gemini woman seems to be very interested, as if she's experiencing a similar context with her bf. Is this the reason she's avoiding me?
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Posted by emeraldgem

Ooooo more of those pesky office shenanigans! I work with all men but would never fuck with our office environment and possibly mess things up at work for me or them. Are people just that bored or is it a complete lack of self control. Wth?


I think it's just how we are as animals. We don't differentiate work environment from any other situation, instinctively speaking. And since we spend most of our time in the office, it's natural that we feel attracted or closer to coworkers.
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Posted by libra1982

No one? Really?!

Wait until you're both free from others. Keep it friendly...shes trying to stay loyal to her guy...

I agree. I think this is her attempt to reel it back in.

OP, you're trying to get close, but shouldn't you be taking that effort to become closer to the lady you already have?


Why? He is falling for another woman and that’s why he isnt married yet to current one so he can still be adjusting his future and find someone he is about...

Not married is free! Otherwise he would be married...but apparently his current lady lacking ignition for him.

Or maybe if Gem will bow him away - he will appreciate his gf more?
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Hi, Gemitati!

Thank you for your point of view. In fact, I totally agree with you. I'm not even thinking about cheating my gf, and I think the same about the gemini woman.

I'm concerned because I already had many conversations with my gf about my dissatisfactions, and she heard me and even agreed, but nothing changed. Since I have feelings for another woman, for me it's a red flag for my current relationship, and here is where lies my doubt: this gemini woman is distancing herself from me and I think it's because she also feels something about me and maybe checked her bf emotionally.
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O if a gemini stops talking you better believe something is up


Hi, bumboklatt!

I'm really very curious to know what's on her mind. I sent her a message two days ago and she promptly answered and wished me na amazing week. I didn't answer her yet, not even saw her message (I only saw on notification bar, didn't open the message).

Not sure about what to do. I just noticed she is avoiding me in the office lol
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Posted by blvckphvse

Grass is greener syndrome..

You only know the Gem on a superficial level, yet you are rethinking your relationship with someone who did nothing wrong and you say is a really good partner. No one will be perfect, you'll run into issues when dating anyone. For all you know you could have even worse issues with the Gemini and will have thrown away a perfectly good relationship for nothing.. just to test out the waters. Think about it.. You're playing a dangerous game here and could very likely get burned and end up with no one in the end.


Good point, blvckphvse, I'm thinking exactly about it since I wrote the original post. All those possibilities don't leave my mind alone. 😢
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You have a gf, get your house in order.

Hi, LadyNeptune!

I think since I'm falling for someone else, there's something really very wrong with my relationship. I'm not even thinking about cheating on my gf, I'm just being real about the possibility this gemini woman may be a better partner for me.
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If your falling for someone else you have no business in being in a relationship where your unsatisfied and leading her on/wasting both your time. Its important to be honest with her and MORE IMPORTANTLY be honest with yourself and break things off. Even if the gemini woman doesn't pan out. You will still have your integrity and not be settling for whats comfortable and bland.
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You have a gf, get your house in order.

Hi, LadyNeptune!

I think since I'm falling for someone else, there's something really very wrong with my relationship. I'm not even thinking about cheating on my gf, I'm just being real about the possibility this gemini woman may be a better partner for me.

If your falling for someone else you have no business in being in a relationship where your unsatisfied and leading her on/wasting both your time. Its important to be honest with her and MORE IMPORTANTLY be honest with yourself and break things off. Even if the gemini woman doesn't pan out. You will still have your integrity and not be settling for whats comfortable and bland.
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I agree with you, this is the decision I'm battling with right now. I'm just very curious about what's going on this gemini woman's mind. Do you have any clue?
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Posted by sweetpea2977
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Posted by libra1982

No one? Really?!

Wait until you're both free from others. Keep it friendly...shes trying to stay loyal to her guy...

I agree. I think this is her attempt to reel it back in.

OP, you're trying to get close, but shouldn't you be taking that effort to become closer to the lady you already have?

Why? He is falling for another woman and that’s why he isnt married yet to current one so he can still be adjusting his future and find someone he is about...

Not married is free! Otherwise he would be married...but apparently his current lady lacking ignition for him.

Or maybe if Gem will bow him away - he will appreciate his gf more?

Hi, Gemitati!

Thank you for your point of view. In fact, I totally agree with you. I'm not even thinking about cheating my gf, and I think the same about the gemini woman.

I'm concerned because I already had many conversations with my gf about my dissatisfactions, and she heard me and even agreed, but nothing changed. Since I have feelings for another woman, for me it's a red flag for my current relationship, and here is where lies my doubt: this gemini woman is distancing herself from me and I think it's because she also feels something about me and maybe checked her bf emotionally.
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Whatever will happen with a new woman - finish with an old one. It’ll pay off one way or another. Don’t stay in stagnant rship. It’s destroying!
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Posted by sweetpea2977
Posted by thatlibralife
Posted by libra1982

No one? Really?!

Wait until you're both free from others. Keep it friendly...shes trying to stay loyal to her guy...

I agree. I think this is her attempt to reel it back in.

OP, you're trying to get close, but shouldn't you be taking that effort to become closer to the lady you already have?

Why? He is falling for another woman and that’s why he isnt married yet to current one so he can still be adjusting his future and find someone he is about...

Not married is free! Otherwise he would be married...but apparently his current lady lacking ignition for him.

Or maybe if Gem will bow him away - he will appreciate his gf more?

Hi, Gemitati!

Thank you for your point of view. In fact, I totally agree with you. I'm not even thinking about cheating my gf, and I think the same about the gemini woman.

I'm concerned because I already had many conversations with my gf about my dissatisfactions, and she heard me and even agreed, but nothing changed. Since I have feelings for another woman, for me it's a red flag for my current relationship, and here is where lies my doubt: this gemini woman is distancing herself from me and I think it's because she also feels something about me and maybe checked her bf emotionally.

Whatever will happen with a new woman - finish with an old one. It’ll pay off one way or another. Don’t stay in stagnant rship. It’s destroying!
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I absolutely agree!
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You have a gf, get your house in order.

Hi, LadyNeptune!

I think since I'm falling for someone else, there's something really very wrong with my relationship. I'm not even thinking about cheating on my gf, I'm just being real about the possibility this gemini woman may be a better partner for me.

If your falling for someone else you have no business in being in a relationship where your unsatisfied and leading her on/wasting both your time. Its important to be honest with her and MORE IMPORTANTLY be honest with yourself and break things off. Even if the gemini woman doesn't pan out. You will still have your integrity and not be settling for whats comfortable and bland.

I agree with you, this is the decision I'm battling with right now. I'm just very curious about what's going on this gemini woman's mind. Do you have any clue?

Inside Gemini woman's mind, maybe...

"What exactly the fuck did I just do? Am I crazy?"

"How can I trust him? How can he trust me?"

"This shit is tainted right from the word go. Stupid, stupid stupid!"
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Lol Thank you for being so clear! šŸ˜„
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O if a gemini stops talking you better believe something is up

Hi, bumboklatt!

I'm really very curious to know what's on her mind. I sent her a message two days ago and she promptly answered and wished me na amazing week. I didn't answer her yet, not even saw her message (I only saw on notification bar, didn't open the message).

Not sure about what to do. I just noticed she is avoiding me in the office lol

Well i am not a gemini but i have had a similar situation as yours with a gemini. She is probably feeling guilty for being very friendly with a guy from work while having a boyfriend. Or another thing is she may be hiding her messages from him or he may have already seen them.

Geminis get ahead of themselves and usually dont think things out until after they do them. Their curiosity wins. They can be very friendly and touchy as friends (as can all air signs)

But if she has a boyfriend chances are she will stick by him. Just be careful of becoming just a friend.

In my experience i could be a friend because i accepted she didnt want to be my girlfriend but i would find myself another girlfriend so that i wouldnt have to look for her

Also if i were you i would have been more direct. It makes things go faster.

If youre not sure then she will not be sure either. You have to give her a clear choice.
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Excellent point of view, bumboklatt! I absolutely agree with you, very wise words! Thank you very much!
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Posted by LadyNeptune

You have a gf, get your house in order.

Hi, LadyNeptune!

I think since I'm falling for someone else, there's something really very wrong with my relationship. I'm not even thinking about cheating on my gf, I'm just being real about the possibility this gemini woman may be a better partner for me.
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Relationships get "tested" with this shit all the time.

Don't fail the test, and get that gemini out of your head.
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You have a gf, get your house in order.

Hi, LadyNeptune!

I think since I'm falling for someone else, there's something really very wrong with my relationship. I'm not even thinking about cheating on my gf, I'm just being real about the possibility this gemini woman may be a better partner for me.

Relationships get "tested" with this shit all the time.

Don't fail the test, and get that gemini out of your head.
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Hi, GuardianAnu! Thank you for your words, I have been thinking about relationship "tests" since I first met her, and you“re right, too. In the end, no matter who“s our partner, we“ll always have these moments.
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Also I told my boyfriend a long time ago if he started weighing our relationship against another woman, I would make it easy for him and break it off with him because once someone is in that state of mind, I have already lost them.


I thought about, too. This was my main concern: if I“m interested in someone else, my relationship is in serious trouble. That hurt me a lot.
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Posted by LadyNeptune

You have a gf, get your house in order.

Hi, LadyNeptune!

I think since I'm falling for someone else, there's something really very wrong with my relationship. I'm not even thinking about cheating on my gf, I'm just being real about the possibility this gemini woman may be a better partner for me.

If your falling for someone else you have no business in being in a relationship where your unsatisfied and leading her on/wasting both your time. Its important to be honest with her and MORE IMPORTANTLY be honest with yourself and break things off. Even if the gemini woman doesn't pan out. You will still have your integrity and not be settling for whats comfortable and bland.

I agree with you, this is the decision I'm battling with right now. I'm just very curious about what's going on this gemini woman's mind. Do you have any clue?
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Only she knows whats going on in her mind.

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Grass is greener syndrome..

You only know the Gem on a superficial level, yet you are rethinking your relationship with someone who did nothing wrong and you say is a really good partner. No one will be perfect, you'll run into issues when dating anyone. For all you know you could have even worse issues with the Gemini and will have thrown away a perfectly good relationship for nothing.. just to test out the waters. Think about it.. You're playing a dangerous game here and could very likely get burned and end up with no one in the end.

Good point, blvckphvse, I'm thinking exactly about it since I wrote the original post. All those possibilities don't leave my mind alone. 😢

Think about what is truly important you. Not to anyone else, just to you.. What you want in life, what you want in another person.. Is your partner on that path with you? Do you see your future with them? If so, get your panties on straight and stop sniffing around and flirting with other women. If your current partner is not someone you see your future with then leave because of that, not because you found something seemingly better. That's just sad and low..
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I also find relationship jumpers to be a total turn off.
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Posted by blvckphvse

Grass is greener syndrome..

You only know the Gem on a superficial level, yet you are rethinking your relationship with someone who did nothing wrong and you say is a really good partner. No one will be perfect, you'll run into issues when dating anyone. For all you know you could have even worse issues with the Gemini and will have thrown away a perfectly good relationship for nothing.. just to test out the waters. Think about it.. You're playing a dangerous game here and could very likely get burned and end up with no one in the end.


What no one realizes is this is when a Libra needs to leave respectfully. He is 1yr in and already being swayed. There is something missing in his relationship and he is aware of it. He has to face the reality and decide if what he has is what he truly wants or not.

This has NOTHING to do with the temptation of the Gem. This has everything to do with his mind isn't 100% committed.

I have no doubt if the Gem threw something at him, he would cheat. He isn't bc he is mirroring the energy of what she is giving. Libra82, figure out what you truly need so you don't hurt someone in ways that they don't deserve.

Just my .02.

Best of luck to you. Love and relationships are so confusing at times. Lol
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a gemini... WOMAN— NOT talking!?


Hi, saduwu! Lol geminis are funny. She was avoiding me in the office, then I just sent her a message to know how she's doing and suddenly she is all smiles and open again, she even answered my messages very quickly and accepted a happy hour with me next week. Even me, a libra, find funny and a little confusing gemini's behavior lol
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Grass is greener syndrome..

You only know the Gem on a superficial level, yet you are rethinking your relationship with someone who did nothing wrong and you say is a really good partner. No one will be perfect, you'll run into issues when dating anyone. For all you know you could have even worse issues with the Gemini and will have thrown away a perfectly good relationship for nothing.. just to test out the waters. Think about it.. You're playing a dangerous game here and could very likely get burned and end up with no one in the end.

What no one realizes is this is when a Libra needs to leave respectfully. He is 1yr in and already being swayed. There is something missing in his relationship and he is aware of it. He has to face the reality and decide if what he has is what he truly wants or not.

This has NOTHING to do with the temptation of the Gem. This has everything to do with his mind isn't 100% committed.

I have no doubt if the Gem threw something at him, he would cheat. He isn't bc he is mirroring the energy of what she is giving. Libra82, figure out what you truly need so you don't hurt someone in ways that they don't deserve.

Just my .02.

Best of luck to you. Love and relationships are so confusing at times. Lol
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Hi, WateryGem! Wise words, thank you very much, it even seems you're a libra too lol. I have realised there's nothing to do with the gemini woman and is all about my own feelings about my relationship, exactly like you said. I'm keeping a low profile these days, been very introspective reflecting about all the variables inside myself only, not judging anyone else.

I think the more experience we have, the less we know about ourselves and relationship with others, because even with a lot of experience I found myself right now as lost as a teenager lol šŸ˜„
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a gemini... WOMAN— NOT talking!?

Hi, saduwu! Lol geminis are funny. She was avoiding me in the office, then I just sent her a message to know how she's doing and suddenly she is all smiles and open again, she even answered my messages very quickly and accepted a happy hour with me next week. Even me, a libra, find funny and a little confusing gemini's behavior lol

im glad someone finally thinks decent things about Geminis! From reading your OP she seems like she likes you, and just take things slow keep doing what youre doing... good luck!
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