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A High Level View Of The Aqua Disappearing Act
Posted by firewaterearthpiscesvenus
I have experienced the Aqua disappearing act in both significant others and in platonic friends.
In my observations, the Aqua disappearing act occurs during the following times:
1) The Aqua is extremely stressed out about something and needs to go up in their proverbial spaceship/mad scientist laboratory.
2) The Aqua feels as though they are under attack by a particular person and/or group.
3) The shelf life of a particular relationship and/or friendship has expired.
I have observed that Aquas always come back to a person whom they view as stable and kind. However, they don't come back in the same form as they left.
What are some of the reasons why you have disappeared?
hmmm it really depends on what TYPE of aqua you are dealing with. You might be dealing with an "AIRY" aqua, which is your typical. You can be dealing with a super "fiery" aqua, who is more strong-willed and courageous and will CHASE and pursue the one they love/want.
I dont know my reasons for disappearing but space is a main factor. And also, I get so sick and tired of people sometimes, even if they were rocking just minutes ago. I have no real reasons other than being sick and tired for no apparent reason. I'm a watery aqua (a lot of scorpio in my chart) so I'm VERY moody and half the time I dont even know why I feel a certain way so with solitude i get to figure out the "whys" and whatnot. I LOVE lonely-time and I LOATHE being disturbed when I choose to be away- it makes me stay away longer (out of spite).
Lisa, im smiling here because you remembered my placements, you taurus moon you. Good point there about me not knowing what people's needs are and to be fair i dont even know mine tbh so i dont get why i get called selfish all the time. Its true thou, im as selfish as they can get. This is me, take it or leave it. What are your other planets, Lisa? You seem to be SO balanced sometimes. I wish balance upon myself every single day. Whats your secret? Lol, im serious.
Posted by WaterCup
Lisa, im smiling here because you remembered my placements, you taurus moon you. Good point there about me not knowing what people's needs are and to be fair i dont even know mine tbh so i dont get why i get called selfish all the time. Its true thou, im as selfish as they can get. This is me, take it or leave it. What are your other planets, Lisa? You seem to be SO balanced sometimes. I wish balance upon myself every single day. Whats your secret? Lol, im serious.
Thanks, WC 🙂
Naw I'm just DOMINANT taurus but it's not my moon. I'm quite mutuble, but because astrology is DEEPER than Sun & Moon, and you got the house placements ect. Actually, WC, you can find it on my profile, but i'm still learning. Tbh, I was surprised that earth was my dominant element. That's probably why you get the sense of STABILITY from me, but to be honest, in my personal life i NEED a stable man, which is my husband, because i'm quite unstable at times. I will get very unstable if I do not have my stability. It's an IRONY. Like how I get your energy is very very MARS and how you are attracted to Venusians. You need that Peace.
Sun & Mars is usually what you are attracted to in a man.
http://www.cafeastrology.com/articles/idealmanforawoman.html<BR>
However, the position of Mars by sign in a woman's chart does tend to offer some clues as to what she will find attractive in a man. This is because Mars reveals what turns us on to some degree, and represents traditionally masculine qualities. (Venus helps to round out the picture in terms of sexual attraction and style ). If you don't know the sign position of Mars, look it up in these tables--all you need is a birth date!
If a woman's Mars is in Scorpio, a complicated, dark, powerful, and passionate man is the biggest turn-on. This woman wants a man with "layers"--one who has depth and is complicated enough to intrigue her. She is especially attracted to men who ooze sensuality, who are perhaps a little dark and mysterious (even brooding), and who have a magnetic and powerful aura. Intensity is a turn-on for these women--flighty, superficial, and indifferent types need not apply! These women generally do enjoy a certain level of possessiveness in a man
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that's probably why you LOVE complicated relationships. Why your ex husband is a Mars man, and your ex-libra has dominant scorpio in his chart. But you hate him because he is FLIGHTY...because scorpio mars women hate flightiness!! so odd, and your aries rising wants to have it? So weird, must be conflicting in your chart.
Sorry dont mean to be all Dr.Phil.
http://www.cafeastrology.com/articles/idealmanforawoman.html<BR>
However, the position of Mars by sign in a woman's chart does tend to offer some clues as to what she will find attractive in a man. This is because Mars reveals what turns us on to some degree, and represents traditionally masculine qualities. (Venus helps to round out the picture in terms of sexual attraction and style ). If you don't know the sign position of Mars, look it up in these tables--all you need is a birth date!
If a woman's Mars is in Scorpio, a complicated, dark, powerful, and passionate man is the biggest turn-on. This woman wants a man with "layers"--one who has depth and is complicated enough to intrigue her. She is especially attracted to men who ooze sensuality, who are perhaps a little dark and mysterious (even brooding), and who have a magnetic and powerful aura. Intensity is a turn-on for these women--flighty, superficial, and indifferent types need not apply! These women generally do enjoy a certain level of possessiveness in a man
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that's probably why you LOVE complicated relationships. Why your ex husband is a Mars man, and your ex-libra has dominant scorpio in his chart. But you hate him because he is FLIGHTY...because scorpio mars women hate flightiness!! so odd, and your aries rising wants to have it? So weird, must be conflicting in your chart.
Sorry dont mean to be all Dr.Phil.
Thanks, lisa... I'll check your profile for your chart. I instantly developed a crush on the man described on the mars thing lol, i honesly adore "annoying" men. Forget my aries ex lol, the libra is the man! And he is libra dominant (sun, mercury, venus, mercury and pluto... scorpio moon & leo mars), but he is plutonian which is what i crave. He is not psycho about it thou like your typical scorp, which is a bonus. The aries didnt have any pluto contacts and he had an aries stellium to boot... too readable. I need complex irritating people and not open books so to speak. Me and the aries are in good terms for our son... we even spent the weekend all 3 of us together here at my place.
Posted by WaterCup
Thanks, lisa... I'll check your profile for your chart. I instantly developed a crush on the man described on the mars thing lol, i honesly adore "annoying" men. Forget my aries ex lol, the libra is the man! And he is libra dominant (sun, mercury, venus, mercury and pluto... scorpio moon & leo mars), but he is plutonian which is what i crave. He is not psycho about it thou like your typical scorp, which is a bonus. The aries didnt have any pluto contacts and he had an aries stellium to boot... too readable. I need complex irritating people and not open books so to speak. Me and the aries are in good terms for our son... we even spent the weekend all 3 of us together here at my place.
Alyssa Sharpe's husband has an Aries Rising, and she said he LOVES libras, and look he married her:
this thread is 'disappearing aquas' so i guess we'll do some disappearing 🙂
Gonna go grocery shopping and go cook dinner!
Gonna go grocery shopping and go cook dinner!
Go on and do your stuff, girl. I have nothing better to do with whats left of my sunday... I'll return to my book now- Hell hath no fury by Weasley Clarkson. Im indulging my scorp planets by reading about death on the hands of killer women, lol. See you when you return, Lees.
I like this you put it pretty straight forward and case you listed I thought anyone would've done, Logically and emotionally. GIVEN if there's no special 'bond' between me and the other person.
Don't know much about disappearing acts or so much as calling it detachment but I suppose it doesn't help when we use that word ourselves. I think all signs need to emotionally recharge and this so happens to be typical of Air or Water signs. I see it in myself and I see it in my friends.
When there's a lot of emotional turbulence I refuse to talk about it because frankly there's not much to talk about, talking doesn't help me see logic behind anything and talking about it while under the pressure gets me more annoyed than anything because it's not allowing me to 'settle'. This is why I 'detach' you could say but only because it's my form of working out the issue and getting things back in control. I appreciate help but I will remove myself permanently from anyone who forces their opinion on me even if they are right, I just need the time to recollect myself.
Not quite sure I agree with being under attack as a form of detachment. I will surely defend myself but if there is conflict isn't the obvious deduction is that they simply don't like me or disagree with what I did or said or whatever? By not investing as much into things or in fact just not talking to the said person or group... wouldn't that help them and wouldn't it help me to remove ourselves from each other?
Thirdly, I think friendship expiring is a bit blunt. I have friends that I don't speak to for months at a time but they are still my friend. What I can factor is that perhaps the other person thought more of it and considers this a disappearing act? Regardless of sign I think we all have people that we just aren't that interested in.
I'm somewhat similar to WaterCup, I'm a very watery aqua. Difference with me are my pisces influence. Can't really pin it on disappearing but sometimes I do forget to keep in contact. Something else could be shinier or simply I was just 'in' the moment and well sometimes... I don't know I just do it.
Don't know much about disappearing acts or so much as calling it detachment but I suppose it doesn't help when we use that word ourselves. I think all signs need to emotionally recharge and this so happens to be typical of Air or Water signs. I see it in myself and I see it in my friends.
When there's a lot of emotional turbulence I refuse to talk about it because frankly there's not much to talk about, talking doesn't help me see logic behind anything and talking about it while under the pressure gets me more annoyed than anything because it's not allowing me to 'settle'. This is why I 'detach' you could say but only because it's my form of working out the issue and getting things back in control. I appreciate help but I will remove myself permanently from anyone who forces their opinion on me even if they are right, I just need the time to recollect myself.
Not quite sure I agree with being under attack as a form of detachment. I will surely defend myself but if there is conflict isn't the obvious deduction is that they simply don't like me or disagree with what I did or said or whatever? By not investing as much into things or in fact just not talking to the said person or group... wouldn't that help them and wouldn't it help me to remove ourselves from each other?
Thirdly, I think friendship expiring is a bit blunt. I have friends that I don't speak to for months at a time but they are still my friend. What I can factor is that perhaps the other person thought more of it and considers this a disappearing act? Regardless of sign I think we all have people that we just aren't that interested in.
I'm somewhat similar to WaterCup, I'm a very watery aqua. Difference with me are my pisces influence. Can't really pin it on disappearing but sometimes I do forget to keep in contact. Something else could be shinier or simply I was just 'in' the moment and well sometimes... I don't know I just do it.
^^paragraph 3 is so correct. Well said, aquasnoz.
Posted by WaterCup
^^paragraph 3 is so correct. Well said, aquasnoz.
Aquanoz really has a way with words. He needs to write self=help books. He'd make a killing 🙂
that Pisces Mars of his makes it so much softer too.
Posted by WaterCup
Go on and do your stuff, girl. I have nothing better to do with whats left of my sunday... I'll return to my book now- Hell hath no fury by Weasley Clarkson. Im indulging my scorp planets by reading about death on the hands of killer women, lol. See you when you return, Lees.click to expand
Those Femme Fatales *tsk tsk* I recall the one I posted on, Lucrezia Borgia. (Her chart is like 70% earth, the rest fire)Basically NO air, and NO water.
oh she does have some air, very little according to astrotheme, with that being Aquarius lilith.
I was going to write but i just changed my mind.. ive just decided to remain dissapeared lol
My aqua moon is doing my nut in! i need lurring out!
My aqua moon is doing my nut in! i need lurring out!
aquasnoz u made a lot of things clear for me with my ex aqua. i noticed whenever we argue he stops replying. I also noticed he would disappear as he gets very busy and attached to his car business (which he never gets bored of btw) i really dont mind that as long as he commits to making time for me at some point. Im not asking for too much attention.
I guess u guys just dont know y u disappear. or maybe ur bad at multitasking. U prefer doing ONE thing at a time. Either business or ur partner?
But leme tell u y i disagree with this act. When it comes to relationships U need to "TRY" ur best to comfort ur partner in return for getting comfort from that person. So in an argument if ur partner is arguing a good thing to do if u want to "detach" is say "ok I think we both need a break and give ourselves a chance to think then we will talk later when we r both calm" Trust me if my ex did that with me and told me that he needs "space" i would have given him his ALONE time.
If u know ur rong apologize nd have some break frm eachother 4 bit.
I never complained about the whole aqua disappearing thing when it came to my ex. However, when it comes to OUR time to spend together i would appreciate it if he starts browsing the internet, speaking to his mates, or watching tv as we talk. This is rude cuz i never would do that to him.
Sometimes facing a problem really improves things. I dont like how aquas just walk away. sometimes i want an explanation or a small quiet talk and get over the problem! ignoring things and hiding only build up the problem it doesnt solve it. u need to SPEAK UP..tell ppl u dont like to be pushed tell them u want some alone time. DONT JUST DO IT AND EXPECT PPL TO UNDERSTAND U..ppl that love u will b patient and give u time off. They will realize they need to stop pressuring/arguing with u. stop hiding.
Dont decide to just leave ur loved ones..even u urself need to b patient. Bonding is the key.
Personally If I knew my ex is bothered by something I do i will automatically change it to make him happy. All I needed is to know when hes bothered. But all that happened is that my aqua just left! out of the blue.
My advise is..get urself used to speaking about what bothers u especially with ur loved ones. its ok to have some ALONE time but just u need to improve ur communication skills with others.
Thank u >> i just wanted to give u my opinion hope u dont take anythin as an attack!
I guess u guys just dont know y u disappear. or maybe ur bad at multitasking. U prefer doing ONE thing at a time. Either business or ur partner?
But leme tell u y i disagree with this act. When it comes to relationships U need to "TRY" ur best to comfort ur partner in return for getting comfort from that person. So in an argument if ur partner is arguing a good thing to do if u want to "detach" is say "ok I think we both need a break and give ourselves a chance to think then we will talk later when we r both calm" Trust me if my ex did that with me and told me that he needs "space" i would have given him his ALONE time.
If u know ur rong apologize nd have some break frm eachother 4 bit.
I never complained about the whole aqua disappearing thing when it came to my ex. However, when it comes to OUR time to spend together i would appreciate it if he starts browsing the internet, speaking to his mates, or watching tv as we talk. This is rude cuz i never would do that to him.
Sometimes facing a problem really improves things. I dont like how aquas just walk away. sometimes i want an explanation or a small quiet talk and get over the problem! ignoring things and hiding only build up the problem it doesnt solve it. u need to SPEAK UP..tell ppl u dont like to be pushed tell them u want some alone time. DONT JUST DO IT AND EXPECT PPL TO UNDERSTAND U..ppl that love u will b patient and give u time off. They will realize they need to stop pressuring/arguing with u. stop hiding.
Dont decide to just leave ur loved ones..even u urself need to b patient. Bonding is the key.
Personally If I knew my ex is bothered by something I do i will automatically change it to make him happy. All I needed is to know when hes bothered. But all that happened is that my aqua just left! out of the blue.
My advise is..get urself used to speaking about what bothers u especially with ur loved ones. its ok to have some ALONE time but just u need to improve ur communication skills with others.
Thank u >> i just wanted to give u my opinion hope u dont take anythin as an attack!
Posted by lisabethur8
this thread is 'disappearing aquas' so i guess we'll do some disappearing 🙂
Gonna go grocery shopping and go cook dinner!
Hi Lisabethur8 Ive noticed u know a lot about the whole birth chart thing. I know just a little bit. But since u know..i was wondering if u can help me with this
Sun:27?? 49' in Aquarius
Moon:10?? 52' in Cancer
Mercury:01?? 30' in Aquarius
Venus:16?? 01' in Aquarius
Mars:16?? 16' in Taurus
Jupiter:27?? 24' in Taurus
Saturn:10?? 34' in Capricorn
Uranus:04?? 13' in Capricorn
Neptune:11?? 33' in Capricorn
Pluto:15?? 02' in Scorpio
U dont have to go through every single one i wouldnt ask u that..but if u can pin point the most important parts of this person's personality for me please? I would appreciate it. Im not sure what sign is dominant for this person is it aquarius or capricorn or taurus??
All I know is that we had a lot in common. But he suddenly changed and dramatically.
umm this is my birth chart
Sun:27?? 48' in Taurus
Moon:19?? 30' in Sagittarius
Mercury:13?? 01' in Taurus
Venus:20?? 44' in Taurus
Mars:09?? 38' in Aries
Jupiter:05?? 06' in Virgo
Saturn:18?? 17' in Aquarius
Uranus:17?? 45' in Capricorn
Neptune:18?? 47' in Capricorn
Pluto:21?? 12' in Scorpio
I guess we have loads in common dont u think??
I'm an Aquarius moon with a lot of water influence, mainly in Scorpio. I, in fact, just moved an hour away from the town my family and friends live in to live by myself. Granted, I am writing, but I did it also for the much needed alone time I always need. I am introverted, and I get all my energy from my self-time. I enjoy interacting with others and being social on occasion, but when I am in a social mood I'm always up for meeting new people, having conversations on anything and everything, trying new things- I want to be immersed. If I'm not being immersed in the social aspect I feel like I'm wasting my time and would rather be alone. The exception is one-on-one hang outs- these in fact are my favorite with a close friend.
If I go into town for the weekend, such as this weekend! I end up driving back to my house, curling up on the couch, and letting out a big sigh of relief that I am blissfully alone and not to be bothered. I can relax and do whatever I fancy without having to worry about making time for others or upsetting them by not wanting to hang out.
I think Aquarians are misunderstood. I love my friends and my family with everything I have and would do absolutely anything for them, but often times the expectations are too much. When someone starts getting too pushy or upset when I don't feel like hanging out it's a real damper on everything- I feel like the person is mad at me, and then I get self-conscious thinking there's something wrong with me for just wanting to be alone! I treasure my alone time. I value it, enjoy it, but that doesn't mean I don't enjoy hanging out with others. Other people give me a new kick of energy after alone time. I like to study, read, write, research, lay around, start projects, go to the cafe by myself to draw or observe, etc. This stuff often flows through me in a moments notice, meaning that if I'm with people I'll often feel pulled to go be by myself in order to satisfy my intellectual pursuits. It's just how I am.
I love making real connections with people and once I make a connection with someone, I consider them a friend and think of them often even if I don't vocalize it. I'm a Scorpio, so sometimes my obsessive thinking goes a little overboard and it makes me uncomfortable to let you know I'm thinking about you that often. And if I let you know...you may want to hang out with me, and we all know that causes problems because I'll have to be the one to want to hang out or I'll feel caged.
If I go into town for the weekend, such as this weekend! I end up driving back to my house, curling up on the couch, and letting out a big sigh of relief that I am blissfully alone and not to be bothered. I can relax and do whatever I fancy without having to worry about making time for others or upsetting them by not wanting to hang out.
I think Aquarians are misunderstood. I love my friends and my family with everything I have and would do absolutely anything for them, but often times the expectations are too much. When someone starts getting too pushy or upset when I don't feel like hanging out it's a real damper on everything- I feel like the person is mad at me, and then I get self-conscious thinking there's something wrong with me for just wanting to be alone! I treasure my alone time. I value it, enjoy it, but that doesn't mean I don't enjoy hanging out with others. Other people give me a new kick of energy after alone time. I like to study, read, write, research, lay around, start projects, go to the cafe by myself to draw or observe, etc. This stuff often flows through me in a moments notice, meaning that if I'm with people I'll often feel pulled to go be by myself in order to satisfy my intellectual pursuits. It's just how I am.
I love making real connections with people and once I make a connection with someone, I consider them a friend and think of them often even if I don't vocalize it. I'm a Scorpio, so sometimes my obsessive thinking goes a little overboard and it makes me uncomfortable to let you know I'm thinking about you that often. And if I let you know...you may want to hang out with me, and we all know that causes problems because I'll have to be the one to want to hang out or I'll feel caged.
Omg, i agree with everything the aqua moons have said except the part about feeling like something is wrong with me for needing space... I dont care. Something is wrong with THEM for not needing time alone every now and then. I get cranky without breathing room. I may even end a friendship if the friend is too all up in my face all the time... I want to miss people and not have them on tap. I also agree with the saying hello to people and suddenly they think ur their adoptive mom, lol. Noooo!
smiles @WC
two peas in a pod:
"Where you going? Don't leave!!!"
"Wha? I'm just gonna be right here."
two peas in a pod:
"Where you going? Don't leave!!!"
"Wha? I'm just gonna be right here."
Lol @ "where are you going? Dont leave!!". Seriously annoying, God!
Thanks Nouran, it takes a great deal to offend me or for me to view anything as a personal attack.
I will say that or I would LIKE to think it is an innate ability for aquas to view all realms of possibilities. We may not talk about our thought processes but we do shuffle through them. To say we fixate on one thing might be right because that's the path we've chosen and yes it might lead to 'ignoring'.
This may be misinterpreted as being having a tunnel mindset or the inability to multi-task but far from the truth. As you can see Aqua suns and moons here agree there's just something that drives us to shut things out due to self-preservation. Now for me I see it as the best possible neutral act to avoid conflict when people are at their most irrational.
I can't say for certain that's how Aquas fight for their loved ones. Personally I fought to the bitter end and some more until that flame was completely extinguished, something to be said about lunar pisceans, we love very strongly and when we decide to love and when it ends we make sure it does end with no possibility of ever going back. So I think you may be basing this Aqua trait very personally and comparing it to your own Aqua but please see that whatever truth might lie in what I say it's not a definitive answer as to how your Aqua thinks and how I personally would fight for love.
Allow me to say one thing about your charts though, I'm not an expert as such but as my understanding you two have very different energies and I think deep down it is the differences that may have attracted you guys to each other. You will definitely find similarities when you look at the outer planets because I consider them to be generation planets. Neptune and Pluto takes a LONG time to complete a full orbit.
I will say that or I would LIKE to think it is an innate ability for aquas to view all realms of possibilities. We may not talk about our thought processes but we do shuffle through them. To say we fixate on one thing might be right because that's the path we've chosen and yes it might lead to 'ignoring'.
This may be misinterpreted as being having a tunnel mindset or the inability to multi-task but far from the truth. As you can see Aqua suns and moons here agree there's just something that drives us to shut things out due to self-preservation. Now for me I see it as the best possible neutral act to avoid conflict when people are at their most irrational.
I can't say for certain that's how Aquas fight for their loved ones. Personally I fought to the bitter end and some more until that flame was completely extinguished, something to be said about lunar pisceans, we love very strongly and when we decide to love and when it ends we make sure it does end with no possibility of ever going back. So I think you may be basing this Aqua trait very personally and comparing it to your own Aqua but please see that whatever truth might lie in what I say it's not a definitive answer as to how your Aqua thinks and how I personally would fight for love.
Allow me to say one thing about your charts though, I'm not an expert as such but as my understanding you two have very different energies and I think deep down it is the differences that may have attracted you guys to each other. You will definitely find similarities when you look at the outer planets because I consider them to be generation planets. Neptune and Pluto takes a LONG time to complete a full orbit.
Dont you just hate it when people ask that? Or when they say "is everything ok, is everything ok?"- makes me wanna pump a bullet to my brain. Stfu! Its like you are paralysed with a pencil taped to your forehead. Ugh
Posted by WaterCup
Lol @ "where are you going? Dont leave!!". Seriously annoying, God!
😢 but i'm like that in my personal life, with all my family close to me. I am very intent and very noisy!!! and i will get very pouty or CRY if i dont get an answer. I wanna know the INS and OUTS of where everyone is going!! 😢 I am very annoying allright.
thanks for answering nouran, aquanoz. Lol I am not an astrologer or even close to one. Just some astro junkie learning small steps. So, nouran, can't help you there. Depending on the day and mood i'll throw out something, but i'm like...hmmmmmmm
Lisa, i have scorpio moon lol so i know all about wanting to know the ins & outs of people i care about. I got my ways of finding out thou, i just dont ask where people are going etc, sounds annoying. Haha. And i definitely WILL blow my top off if somebody asks me where im going since im not insane or blind and am aware of my surroundings. Its a dumb question lol. Btw you are too cute, lisa and your people are lucky to have you, seriously.
Posted by WaterCup
Lisa, i have scorpio moon lol so i know all about wanting to know the ins & outs of people i care about. I got my ways of finding out thou, i just dont ask where people are going etc, sounds annoying. Haha. And i definitely WILL blow my top off if somebody asks me where im going since im not insane or blind and am aware of my surroundings. Its a dumb question lol. Btw you are too cute, lisa and your people are lucky to have you, seriously.
I guess it depends on how they ask u where r u going? Dont think they mean to make u feel like ur blind or dont know where ur going. Maybe its just a casual question of showing that they care about ur safety. As long as they dont over nag about it or cause arguments and b toooooooo protective then its fine. dont u think?
Posted by Mercurysharmoniums
I love making real connections with people and once I make a connection with someone, I consider them a friend and think of them often even if I don't vocalize it. I'm a Scorpio, so sometimes my obsessive thinking goes a little overboard and it makes me uncomfortable to let you know I'm thinking about you that often. And if I let you know...you may want to hang out with me, and we all know that causes problems because I'll have to be the one to want to hang out or I'll feel caged.
omg u remind me so much of my ex aqua guy. I guess he just wanted some alone time. I didnt get it. But when i noticed that I tried to give him some time. like we wouldnt text much anymore for like 4 days. But then I would wait for him to come speak to me but sometimes it takes too long that i feel abandoned somehow it made me upset. He would feel bad nd say sorry I know i been not keepin up with u much..then im like oh he feels bad now hes gona start talkn to me a little and make it up to me. but BAM! nothing!!!! he would say one or two things then ohhhh i gota go do blah blah..
Y cant u aquas ever understand that being too selfish isnt essential in any relationship. I mean i would wait till ur done with ur "alone time" I would go off do something else nd give u time to b alone to regain ur energy or whatever. But eventually u gota "SHOW" and "TRY" to satisfy ur partner by giving them some "SPECIAL" time.
Otherwise If u lots wana spend most of the time alone and whenevr ur with someone u wana rush bk home then WHATS THE POINT OF HAVING A RELATIONSHIP IF I DONT FEEL YOU AROUND ME, NOT EVEN A LITTLE!!!
MAn!!!!!!!!!!! u r so complicated like u wana make friends but u wana b alone most of the time..wow!
Nouran, NO! Safety? What safety? Safety from whom/what? I dont own a cane so i find it annoying having to answer to "where are you going? Blah blah blah". I just dont like questions like that, im not on parole. I prefer if i disclose my comings and goings on my own. Explains why im single and cant hold down a steady relationship lol.
Last week during lunch at work i was going out and this girl i work with asked where i was going... that irritated me and i turned & asked "why?". She said nothing. Its just one of my pet peeves.
Posted by WaterCup
Nouran, NO! Safety? What safety? Safety from whom/what? I dont own a cane so i find it annoying having to answer to "where are you going? Blah blah blah". I just dont like questions like that, im not on parole. I prefer if i disclose my comings and goings on my own. Explains why im single and cant hold down a steady relationship lol.
your makin it such a huge deal. take it easy
No what i meant is if just anyone asks u where r u going ,then it doesnt make sense cuz its non of their business. But im talkin about ur husbnd/bf/loved ones when they ask u gently and politely like not constantly but just sometimes then u shouldnt really make a big deal cuz those ppl care for u and they have the right to ask u that just like u would wana know sometimes where ur husbnd is going. right? its not an invasion to ur freedom when it comes frm someone whos really close and cares.
And the world is not a safe place. u could step out of ur doorstep and get shot or kidnapped. really everything is possible. im not saying something bad HAS to happen. U just gota take it slow and calm down so u can control a relationship. taking everythin like its an invasion to ur freedom wont get u anywhere
Lol @ being kidnapped. As if! Well, whatever, i still dont like it. Its a huge deal to me and something i dont appreciate very well. 2 of my exes were controlling in one way or another and thats how it started- "where are you going?" etc, until you are left gasping for air. Its so cute and flattering at 1st, but it gets old and annoying pretty fast. Hearing that irks the hell out of me. Good if you like it, but guess what... I dont. A perfect match for me would be someone who lets me be without the 99 Qs. Still havent found him which is why I'm single. Why am I explaining this, again?
^^^^ LOOOOOL!
People that moan at me for falling off the face of the earth... Oh yawn, and actually no do we really disappear? im in the same place as where i always am just doing my thing, its just that they never came to find me 🙂
People that moan at me for falling off the face of the earth... Oh yawn, and actually no do we really disappear? im in the same place as where i always am just doing my thing, its just that they never came to find me 🙂
Posted by WaterCup
Lol @ being kidnapped. As if! Well, whatever, i still dont like it. Its a huge deal to me and something i dont appreciate very well. 2 of my exes were controlling in one way or another and thats how it started- "where are you going?" etc, until you are left gasping for air. Its so cute and flattering at 1st, but it gets old and annoying pretty fast. Hearing that irks the hell out of me. Good if you like it, but guess what... I dont. A perfect match for me would be someone who lets me be without the 99 Qs. Still havent found him which is why I'm single. Why am I explaining this, again?
LOL I didnt say i like being controlled. Remember im a Taurus. We really dont like being controlled either. We have that in common. But yeah ur right partners that r too controlling is an annoying thing..good luck finding someone more flexible
Posted by WaterCup
Nouran, NO! Safety? What safety? Safety from whom/what? I dont own a cane so i find it annoying having to answer to "where are you going? Blah blah blah". I just dont like questions like that, im not on parole. I prefer if i disclose my comings and goings on my own. Explains why im single and cant hold down a steady relationship lol.
Where are you going!!! I hate that line. My scorp ex hit me with that one alot. My reply to half of them were "the bathroom i think i'll be ok"
Posted by ElleSeCache
^^^^ LOOOOOL!
People that moan at me for falling off the face of the earth... Oh yawn, and actually no do we really disappear? im in the same place as where i always am just doing my thing, its just that they never came to find me 🙂
+1
Posted by Nouran20Posted by WaterCup
Lol @ being kidnapped. As if! Well, whatever, i still dont like it. Its a huge deal to me and something i dont appreciate very well. 2 of my exes were controlling in one way or another and thats how it started- "where are you going?" etc, until you are left gasping for air. Its so cute and flattering at 1st, but it gets old and annoying pretty fast. Hearing that irks the hell out of me. Good if you like it, but guess what... I dont. A perfect match for me would be someone who lets me be without the 99 Qs. Still havent found him which is why I'm single. Why am I explaining this, again?
LOL I didnt say i like being controlled. Remember im a Taurus. We really dont like being controlled either. We have that in common. But yeah ur right partners that r too controlling is an annoying thing..good luck finding someone more flexibleclick to expand
Trying to Control Me thats fighting words to me. The first thought i get that someone is trying i see red!
Posted by EvilTurtlePosted by WaterCup
Nouran, NO! Safety? What safety? Safety from whom/what? I dont own a cane so i find it annoying having to answer to "where are you going? Blah blah blah". I just dont like questions like that, im not on parole. I prefer if i disclose my comings and goings on my own. Explains why im single and cant hold down a steady relationship lol.
Where are you going!!! I hate that line. My scorp ex hit me with that one alot. My reply to half of them were "the bathroom i think i'll be ok"click to expand
This is funny because it's quite opposite my way. My aqua ask ME that all the time!! lol!!
We'll be sitting on the couch and I'll pull away about six inches to reposition, he'll go "where ya going" I'm like "uh, no where, my arm was falling asleep".
That was probably just totally off the wall from the subject, but the irony struck me to mention it.
Posted by EvilTurtlePosted by Nouran20Posted by WaterCup
Lol @ being kidnapped. As if! Well, whatever, i still dont like it. Its a huge deal to me and something i dont appreciate very well. 2 of my exes were controlling in one way or another and thats how it started- "where are you going?" etc, until you are left gasping for air. Its so cute and flattering at 1st, but it gets old and annoying pretty fast. Hearing that irks the hell out of me. Good if you like it, but guess what... I dont. A perfect match for me would be someone who lets me be without the 99 Qs. Still havent found him which is why I'm single. Why am I explaining this, again?
LOL I didnt say i like being controlled. Remember im a Taurus. We really dont like being controlled either. We have that in common. But yeah ur right partners that r too controlling is an annoying thing..good luck finding someone more flexible
Trying to Control Me thats fighting words to me. The first thought i get that someone is trying i see red!click to expand
Ok first of all u aquas can b v controlling urselves. U just dont c it. My aqua used to ban me frm having facebook. He used to go insane when a guy comments on my status or says hi to me on facebook or face to face.
He always wants me to give him details of where i been who i met and what i did.
He hated the idea of goin to mix parties. And he hated the idea of me having other male friends.
I hate to b controlled just like u but i knew he just was uncomfortable with other males talking to me so I used to do what he wants to stop problems and to make him comfortable/less angry cuz I loved him. When u love someone u will accept their negative behavior no matter what. Nobody is perfect anyway.
I believe a little control is healthy (of course no body wants to b with someone who doesnt give a damn) Too much control is not healthy.
If your the type of aqua that wants to be alone most of the time then PLEASE dont start a relationship ever!
Aquas are controlling. I have observed that Aquas are way more subtle about it than your typical in your face Aries. They do the puppetmaster thing of pulling strings until they get their desired outcome from people. I call my Aqua friends and even boyfriend on it in a playful manner. I start dancing around and singing the Pinocchio song "I got no strings..." Then, I start laughing.
They usually join in the laughter and the song. 🙂
They usually join in the laughter and the song. 🙂
Posted by firewaterearthpiscesvenus
Aquas are controlling. I have observed that Aquas are way more subtle about it than your typical in your face Aries. They do the puppetmaster thing of pulling strings until they get their desired outcome from people. I call my Aqua friends and even boyfriend on it in a playful manner. I start dancing around and singing the Pinocchio song "I got no strings..." Then, I start laughing.
They usually join in the laughter and the song. 🙂
i dont think anyone would like to be controlled. that's not cool at all. If i go stay at my parents or my mother in laws or my father in laws, of course you have to obey their rules. well, my in-laws dont really have many rules, just proper etiquette. My parents however are a bit wee-controlling but we dont live with them and that's all good. Visiting is very nice.
Posted by EvilTurtlePosted by Nouran20Posted by WaterCup
Lol @ being kidnapped. As if! Well, whatever, i still dont like it. Its a huge deal to me and something i dont appreciate very well. 2 of my exes were controlling in one way or another and thats how it started- "where are you going?" etc, until you are left gasping for air. Its so cute and flattering at 1st, but it gets old and annoying pretty fast. Hearing that irks the hell out of me. Good if you like it, but guess what... I dont. A perfect match for me would be someone who lets me be without the 99 Qs. Still havent found him which is why I'm single. Why am I explaining this, again?
LOL I didnt say i like being controlled. Remember im a Taurus. We really dont like being controlled either. We have that in common. But yeah ur right partners that r too controlling is an annoying thing..good luck finding someone more flexible
Trying to Control Me thats fighting words to me. The first thought i get that someone is trying i see red!click to expand
oohhhhh me slow...put 'em up! put 'em up!! Lol.
This topic is funny cos I dont do disappearing acts... I do no shows. 🙂
Posted by truecapPosted by EvilTurtlePosted by WaterCup
Nouran, NO! Safety? What safety? Safety from whom/what? I dont own a cane so i find it annoying having to answer to "where are you going? Blah blah blah". I just dont like questions like that, im not on parole. I prefer if i disclose my comings and goings on my own. Explains why im single and cant hold down a steady relationship lol.
Where are you going!!! I hate that line. My scorp ex hit me with that one alot. My reply to half of them were "the bathroom i think i'll be ok"
This is funny because it's quite opposite my way. My aqua ask ME that all the time!! lol!!
We'll be sitting on the couch and I'll pull away about six inches to reposition, he'll go "where ya going" I'm like "uh, no where, my arm was falling asleep".
That was probably just totally off the wall from the subject, but the irony struck me to mention it.click to expand
Lol...my Aqua is even worse. If I try to wriggle out of his arms to go to the restroom, he'll whimper "no!" and hug me even tighter.
me: "Okay, I'll just take a crap right here on your lap then."
Lol!
Posted by steponscorpionsCRUNCHPosted by truecapPosted by EvilTurtlePosted by WaterCup
Nouran, NO! Safety? What safety? Safety from whom/what? I dont own a cane so i find it annoying having to answer to "where are you going? Blah blah blah". I just dont like questions like that, im not on parole. I prefer if i disclose my comings and goings on my own. Explains why im single and cant hold down a steady relationship lol.
Where are you going!!! I hate that line. My scorp ex hit me with that one alot. My reply to half of them were "the bathroom i think i'll be ok"
This is funny because it's quite opposite my way. My aqua ask ME that all the time!! lol!!
We'll be sitting on the couch and I'll pull away about six inches to reposition, he'll go "where ya going" I'm like "uh, no where, my arm was falling asleep".
That was probably just totally off the wall from the subject, but the irony struck me to mention it.
Lol...my Aqua is even worse. If I try to wriggle out of his arms to go to the restroom, he'll whimper "no!" and hug me even tighter.
me: "Okay, I'll just take a crap right here on your lap then."click to expand
lol +1
Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
This topic is funny cos I dont do disappearing acts... I do no shows. 🙂
lol i try to call at least ten minutes before hand lately.
Posted by steponscorpionsCRUNCHPosted by truecapPosted by EvilTurtlePosted by WaterCup
Nouran, NO! Safety? What safety? Safety from whom/what? I dont own a cane so i find it annoying having to answer to "where are you going? Blah blah blah". I just dont like questions like that, im not on parole. I prefer if i disclose my comings and goings on my own. Explains why im single and cant hold down a steady relationship lol.
Where are you going!!! I hate that line. My scorp ex hit me with that one alot. My reply to half of them were "the bathroom i think i'll be ok"
This is funny because it's quite opposite my way. My aqua ask ME that all the time!! lol!!
We'll be sitting on the couch and I'll pull away about six inches to reposition, he'll go "where ya going" I'm like "uh, no where, my arm was falling asleep".
That was probably just totally off the wall from the subject, but the irony struck me to mention it.
Lol...my Aqua is even worse. If I try to wriggle out of his arms to go to the restroom, he'll whimper "no!" and hug me even tighter.
me: "Okay, I'll just take a crap right here on your lap then."click to expand
Wow i do that teaseing of course but yes i am guilty that.
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