aqua guy hot & cold & hot & cold &....

Hi everyone 🙂

Im a bi guy who's been friends with an aqua guy for about 7 mths. He's gay, well not out and kinda i denial a bit to. We've gotten closer over the months and we have been intimate a few times. The first time we were intimate he became cranky and moody for a few weeks but i didn't know to back off and leave him alone so just ignored his distance and treated him normally. he eventually came out of it after 3 weeks. We get closer then he backs off for a bit but didn't go more then 2 or 3 days without checking in with me how i am etc. He can be a bit mean sometimes and pushy and lately I've been putting my foot down and not taking his butter. He seems to like that.

Anyway we got intimate before xmas then he went all distant and grumpy. deleting me from FB etc a few times then readding me. I didn't question it cause thought he was going thru something.

Anyway he went on holidays for 3 weeks then came back and started msging me and wanting to hang out and waking me up every day and stuff and really clingy and hot. that lasted 2 weeks. We were really bonding as friends and becoming very close He stayed over and i was hesitant about being intimate cause it seemed to always ruin the friendship and make him disappear. i told him this and he said that he would be fine. I said that if he turned nasty again I can't handle it and the friendship is over. He said he wouldn't be silly and al would be fine.

So we got intimate and it was more touchy feely and close than ever before, he stayed the night and then the next day he msged me once and then eventually he stopped sending msgs. Its been 6 days now and he hasn't initiated a convo. I haven't either as i kinda knew he'd do this but this is the longest he's ever gone without contacting me.

I did text him yesterday to ask how he was and ask him something and all i got was "who is this..."
I said me. All he replied with was "Oh."
I replied again asking how he was and he ignored me So i left it and assumed he wasn't in the mood to talk But it seems he has deleted my number from his phone yet kept me on FB. Why would he do that?

We work together so ill have to see him sometime this week but...we got on soooo well. Ive done so much for him over the last 7 months and we get on so well. Do you think he'll be back? Usually in the past he would have msgd me something rude or nasty when in distant mode but he hasn't even done that.

Any ideas would be great. He seemed quite

Haven't you been here before—_..I swear this topic is familiar somehow??_.Typica,l meeting an Aqua through work and falling for him??_.I hate nasty queens, if he's gonna be like that then tell him to go fuck himself??_Don't play into his little games either, he likes you or he doesn't??_..though If a guy is being too nice to me I tend to stir him up a bit because I don't like being sappy??_.I remember going home with a guy and he was just too much....like on the verge on how a woman talks to her doggy Woggy??_..he eskimo kissed me, like rubbed noses and I was like get me the fuck out of here??_

The way I need to be approached as a gay aquarian male is to be tamed and broken like a wild horse??_.or like a wild kid that craves discipline??_we always like to feel that we are in control but we like the feeling that someone is trying to tame us and make us give up even though were so stubborn we will never submit??_its like a cat and mouse game that goes on forever sometimes??_..I know its like that with my first boyfriend, he's in love with me and I fuck him whenever we are in town but I openly tell him I don't love him and that we will never be back together, but he's fine with that he's a cancer and he's completely insane??_.I've realised now to understand the full capacity of my love I need to put the childish shit behind me and just go steady with someone.

how old are u guys?

actually Ive got the best idea on how to approach him??_..the first guy I ever fell in love with was the guy I lost my V to in high school??_.the reason I was so in love with him was because we were friends??_??_as soon as I got old enough to meet gay guys and have relationships I tested the whole relationship game to see boundaries and understand what it meant to be in a relationship and i was really childish in the way I approached it and didn't take peoples feelings seriously and saw it like a game??_..so maybe if this is new to him it could be what he's doing to you??_.if you started talking about chicks and lusted towards them to him it would show that your not overly into him and could make him want you more??_.I know when the first guy I was with talked about hot chicks It would drive me crazy and get angry at the girls he was fantasising about lol but made me like him more.

I'll try your suggestion and see - I don't wanna make him think I don't care about him and then just give up. Reckon he'll come back tho? It's been a week now and he's not made any effort to contact. Except the msg I sent a fee days ago

Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11

The way I need to be approached as a gay aquarian male is to be tamed and broken like a wild horse??_.or like a wild kid that craves discipline??_we always like to feel that we are in control but we like the feeling that someone is trying to tame us and make us give up even though were so stubborn we will never submit??_

Don't think this is exclusive to just gay Aquarians... it's rings true a bit for me as well.

I think what you fail to realise is that the game you been playing and play is ended before its only just begun, you have evaded personal responsibly for way too long and now due to circumstances beyond your control can finally get what you want and if that doesnt tame you or break you than I dont know what will.

Congrats to you soldier boy

Katy Perry tune comes to mind