Aqua Woman HELP

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6 Years

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Hi

We met a year ago at work. We worked together for a couple of months, in that time i became friends of her friends. Once at work, while sharing lunch with all of our friends, as everyone discussed work related stuff, she blowed up on me in front of everyone, saying nobody cares about my opinion, she was like really angry about it and everyone tried to calm her down.

I understood she was bothered by me for some reason so i stopped talking to her. After a couple of weeks, she slowly approached, didn't apologize exactly but made small talk, letting me know she was sorry. After that, we restarted talking, in a very respectful and diplomatic way mind you, still we kept more distance between us than with other friends of our group. I tried to mend that, cause im a really friendly person and at the time she was the only one i didnt really get along with at work and out of our group of friends. But everytime i tried to get to know her, like asking about her interests and stuff, she would one word answer me.

Once i even asked her to tag along with some friends of ours to a thing, she went all weird and said ok, never showed up and left us all wondering wtf happened. I took it as if she wasnt interested in really burying the hatchet.

After a couple of months she left the company, but we still saw each other at parties and friend's stuff, we barely interacted though. But at least said hi and goodbye to each other, she always ended her sentences(with me) with the word friend haha. I took it as if she knew i was kind of attracted to her and it was her way of letting me know that she wasn't.

In december of the last year, after a couple of months without any communication she messaged me, asking if i wanted to go to a concert(the concert was months away but we had to purchase tickets in advance). It took me by surprise, i was starting to get serious with this other girl and didn't want to even answer her message, so my girl wouldn't think anything bout it.

But because we had a lot of friends in common and what not i said yes, and i bought the tickets online, in advance. We didnt speak till months later, when the concert was due. We went, she brought sex into the conversation a couple of times but i didn't went down that line, even though i do find her attractive, cause i didnt want her to think i was a fuckboi. So we ended up talking about her family and all the stuff weve been up to all this months, never touching dating or romantic topics. It was nice, i felt like we could be at least, friends this time. I wasnt dating the other girl anymore too btw. That night we said goodbye with a kiss on a cheek(common in my country) and as usual she ended it with the word 'friend'. I chuckled on the inside.

After that night i gave it some thought and asked her out, not on a date, just to hang out, go to a theater. She said yes, then rescheduled at least three times, i got tired and said i was going to the theater with my pal.

Didn't talk for like a couple of months.

Btw she is always very dry and short with her texts and sometimes forgets to reply(im ok with it now, but back then i wasn't and always threw me off).

So yeah we didn't talk for a few months then i reached out and ask her to go to another cultural thing, she said yes, did show up, late, very late but she got there anyway. This time we talked even more about our views on relationships and stuff, we had a great time. When we said goodbye, she didn't said the word friend, i noticed, she hasnt said that word to me since either, haha.

Since then we have gone out, consistently once a month, (yeah by now i understand she needs her space, lots of it and so do i frankly). We don't text every day, sometimes weeks, but at the start of every month we go out i always initiate though, but never labeling as a date haha, by now i get her enough to know she gets super weird about this and everything related to emotions, so when i notice her getting uncomfortable i move things to lighter topics and try to make her laugh.

I am sure now that i like her and want her to be my partner, like in a serious relationship, i have a list of everything i admire of her lol. Yeah im fucked.

The thing is, i haven't made a move yet, i have given her subtle signs, but haven't tried to kiss her either. Like when we are about to say goodbye, she keeps it short with a kiss on the cheek. I dont ask her to text me when she arrives home, cause i know she wont(prolly forgets cause she is like that) so i text her and ask her. I dont know if she feels the same or sees me only as a friend.

So, to the aquarius woman in this forum, what do you think?

One more thing, she has never mentioned dating anyone and when she brings her phone out when we hang out(not very often) she always makes it clear she is texting her mom or something like that. Also, on my side i haven't mentioned we are hanging out to our friends in common i dont know if she has on her end.

Fuck it i love her and I'm shitting myself cause i haven't felt this serious about someone in a long fucking time.

Help. Please.

Im a pisces btw :]
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Tinnedglass
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6 Years

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Posted by Aquarelle

I read your story and wondered if you were a Pisces...then came to the last line and read that you are.

She may like you, or she may just see you as a friend who happens to like some of the same things as her. She may also not have liked you in the beginning but now that she sees more of you, she may start to like you. I like to be friends before lovers, and she might be the same.

I know its difficult, but the only way to know for sure is to just ask her. Pisces can seem elusive to Aquarius, we like things verbalised.

Btw, are you ok with her being weird about emotions? Because that won't change. Are you emotional yourself?


I am emotional, very. I have three placements in capricorn though, one in scorpio, taurus and one in aquarius. But i keep it all to myself and let it all out in my free time, doing hobbies i enjoy.

Im ok now, with her getting anxiety out of those situations. I've learned to understand that, besides there are other qualities i admire of her that are beyond that stuff.

And yeah well, i guess i have to risk it or I'll never know.
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Posted by colliding99

stalk her and text her every 5 minutes

@Tinnedglass I strongly don't recommend that. But I would recommend to put more attention-text her more often, ask her out more often. And be more affectionate. You will quickly get if she's interested.

I remember I was daiting one Pisces guy. I really liked him but he didn't like me haha so you have chances 😉
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Ive tried that at the very first and she would get irritated and do the vanishing thing. Since ive stopped demanding anything out of her, she has gotten more responsive, like she stopped flaking on me and replies to my texts most of the times. At the very least i think im gaining a good friend and that is sorth of cool too you know?
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Posted by colliding99

stalk her and text her every 5 minutes

@Tinnedglass I strongly don't recommend that. But I would recommend to put more attention-text her more often, ask her out more often. And be more affectionate. You will quickly get if she's interested.

I remember I was daiting one Pisces guy. I really liked him but he didn't like me haha so you have chances 😉

Ive tried that at the very first and she would get irritated and do the vanishing thing. Since ive stopped demanding anything out of her, she has gotten more responsive, like she stopped flaking on me and replies to my texts most of the times. At the very least i think im gaining a good friend and that is sorth of cool too you know?

Are you sure she is open to a relationship? Personally, if I dont see myself in a relationship with someone (yet), I dont like it if someone comes on to me. The fact that she reacted irritated, tells me she didnt want you to come on strong at that point. When you stopped doing it, she probably felt less pressure. People usually open up easier without pressure. Friendship is so important for us and we take a long time to open up. But you have the patience to hang in there. One of my friends is Aqua too and she had been friends with a Pisces for over 20 years. He asked for a relationship but she declined. ..they remained good friends though. Eventually he became very sick. She took care of him till the end and even married him at his request...I will never forget the spark in his eyes on their wedding day.

So, you never know where life will take you
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That's a beautiful story.

She has mentioned she doesn't have much experience in relationships and ponders what it would be like, and then she does this thing with her nose, makes me melt right there.

I just texted her, asking to go with me to my family's farm outside of town in a couple of weeks. If she agrees thatd be our first trip, yey!

So yeah however our relationship turns out, im just glad to have met her. I will still order my thoughts and ask her about where we stand, so i know if i must move on romantically speaking or not. And yeah there will prolly be a period of adjustment if she declines, but i know how to be a friend too, so it will be ok.

Thanks for your input.
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6 Years

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Posted by Aquarelle
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Posted by Tinnedglass
Posted by ClassyAquarius
Posted by colliding99

stalk her and text her every 5 minutes

@Tinnedglass I strongly don't recommend that. But I would recommend to put more attention-text her more often, ask her out more often. And be more affectionate. You will quickly get if she's interested.

I remember I was daiting one Pisces guy. I really liked him but he didn't like me haha so you have chances 😉

Ive tried that at the very first and she would get irritated and do the vanishing thing. Since ive stopped demanding anything out of her, she has gotten more responsive, like she stopped flaking on me and replies to my texts most of the times. At the very least i think im gaining a good friend and that is sorth of cool too you know?

Are you sure she is open to a relationship? Personally, if I dont see myself in a relationship with someone (yet), I dont like it if someone comes on to me. The fact that she reacted irritated, tells me she didnt want you to come on strong at that point. When you stopped doing it, she probably felt less pressure. People usually open up easier without pressure. Friendship is so important for us and we take a long time to open up. But you have the patience to hang in there. One of my friends is Aqua too and she had been friends with a Pisces for over 20 years. He asked for a relationship but she declined. ..they remained good friends though. Eventually he became very sick. She took care of him till the end and even married him at his request...I will never forget the spark in his eyes on their wedding day.

So, you never know where life will take you

That's a beautiful story.

She has mentioned she doesn't have much experience in relationships and ponders what it would be like, and then she does this thing with her nose, makes me melt right there.

I just texted her, asking to go with me to my family's farm outside of town in a couple of weeks. If she agrees thatd be our first trip, yey!

So yeah however our relationship turns out, im just glad to have met her. I will still order my thoughts and ask her about where we stand, so i know if i must move on romantically speaking or not. And yeah there will prolly be a period of adjustment if she declines, but i know how to be a friend too, so it will be ok.

Thanks for your input.

Hmmm...it could be that she is dropping hints....when she says she ponders about relationships....aw that is so sweet that thing about her nose. ..I think its great you invited her! Her response will tell you at least something. Oh another thing: dont just ask her where you stand. It can make her feel like she has to make the decision about this relationship, putting pressure on her. If she likes you a lot, she may need to hear about your feelings too, for reassurement and to know that you are serious about it.
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She said yes, in her very aquarian way. Its funny, anyone else would understand her yesses as noes.

And yeah, ill write what i want to say and memorize it, it's hard to keep my words to the point. I'll have a hard time getting a word in though, the first couple of times we went out the conversation would go 50/50. Now she has become really talkative, talks about lots of stuff, she is so witty. I don't mind, i find it.. cute.
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Posted by colliding99

stalk her and text her every 5 minutes

@Tinnedglass I strongly don't recommend that. But I would recommend to put more attention-text her more often, ask her out more often. And be more affectionate. You will quickly get if she's interested.

I remember I was daiting one Pisces guy. I really liked him but he didn't like me haha so you have chances 😉

Ive tried that at the very first and she would get irritated and do the vanishing thing. Since ive stopped demanding anything out of her, she has gotten more responsive, like she stopped flaking on me and replies to my texts most of the times. At the very least i think im gaining a good friend and that is sorth of cool too you know?

Are you sure she is open to a relationship? Personally, if I dont see myself in a relationship with someone (yet), I dont like it if someone comes on to me. The fact that she reacted irritated, tells me she didnt want you to come on strong at that point. When you stopped doing it, she probably felt less pressure. People usually open up easier without pressure. Friendship is so important for us and we take a long time to open up. But you have the patience to hang in there. One of my friends is Aqua too and she had been friends with a Pisces for over 20 years. He asked for a relationship but she declined. ..they remained good friends though. Eventually he became very sick. She took care of him till the end and even married him at his request...I will never forget the spark in his eyes on their wedding day.

So, you never know where life will take you

That's a beautiful story.

She has mentioned she doesn't have much experience in relationships and ponders what it would be like, and then she does this thing with her nose, makes me melt right there.

I just texted her, asking to go with me to my family's farm outside of town in a couple of weeks. If she agrees thatd be our first trip, yey!

So yeah however our relationship turns out, im just glad to have met her. I will still order my thoughts and ask her about where we stand, so i know if i must move on romantically speaking or not. And yeah there will prolly be a period of adjustment if she declines, but i know how to be a friend too, so it will be ok.

Thanks for your input.

Hmmm...it could be that she is dropping hints....when she says she ponders about relationships....aw that is so sweet that thing about her nose. ..I think its great you invited her! Her response will tell you at least something. Oh another thing: dont just ask her where you stand. It can make her feel like she has to make the decision about this relationship, putting pressure on her. If she likes you a lot, she may need to hear about your feelings too, for reassurement and to know that you are serious about it.

She said yes, in her very aquarian way. Its funny, anyone else would understand her yesses as noes.

And yeah, ill write what i want to say and memorize it, it's hard to keep my words to the point. I'll have a hard time getting a word in though, the first couple of times we went out the conversation would go 50/50. Now she has become really talkative, talks about lots of stuff, she is so witty. I don't mind, i find it.. cute.

Are you sure it was a "yes" then? Lol. I hope so. Sounds like you are on the right track. Yeah we can be talkative when comfortable...its looking good. I hope you both enjoy your trip!!
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Im confident its a solid yes. I got most of her behavior figured out.

Yeah im happy bout the trip! ive read aquarius woman enjoy to sleep around and keeping it secret, although I dont do that(my views are somewhat traditional) I also don't judge her for that(a couple of her close friends while drunk, told me about that part of her, she wasn't there of course), we all are different and live by different life codes, that's the fun part of life!

Where I'm going with this is, i hope that when we talk about us, she will value what i see in her and what i can offer, more than what her flings and the other people she's been dating give to her.
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Posted by ClassyAquarius
Posted by colliding99

stalk her and text her every 5 minutes

@Tinnedglass I strongly don't recommend that. But I would recommend to put more attention-text her more often, ask her out more often. And be more affectionate. You will quickly get if she's interested.

I remember I was daiting one Pisces guy. I really liked him but he didn't like me haha so you have chances 😉

Ive tried that at the very first and she would get irritated and do the vanishing thing. Since ive stopped demanding anything out of her, she has gotten more responsive, like she stopped flaking on me and replies to my texts most of the times. At the very least i think im gaining a good friend and that is sorth of cool too you know?

Are you sure she is open to a relationship? Personally, if I dont see myself in a relationship with someone (yet), I dont like it if someone comes on to me. The fact that she reacted irritated, tells me she didnt want you to come on strong at that point. When you stopped doing it, she probably felt less pressure. People usually open up easier without pressure. Friendship is so important for us and we take a long time to open up. But you have the patience to hang in there. One of my friends is Aqua too and she had been friends with a Pisces for over 20 years. He asked for a relationship but she declined. ..they remained good friends though. Eventually he became very sick. She took care of him till the end and even married him at his request...I will never forget the spark in his eyes on their wedding day.

So, you never know where life will take you

That's a beautiful story.

She has mentioned she doesn't have much experience in relationships and ponders what it would be like, and then she does this thing with her nose, makes me melt right there.

I just texted her, asking to go with me to my family's farm outside of town in a couple of weeks. If she agrees thatd be our first trip, yey!

So yeah however our relationship turns out, im just glad to have met her. I will still order my thoughts and ask her about where we stand, so i know if i must move on romantically speaking or not. And yeah there will prolly be a period of adjustment if she declines, but i know how to be a friend too, so it will be ok.

Thanks for your input.

Hmmm...it could be that she is dropping hints....when she says she ponders about relationships....aw that is so sweet that thing about her nose. ..I think its great you invited her! Her response will tell you at least something. Oh another thing: dont just ask her where you stand. It can make her feel like she has to make the decision about this relationship, putting pressure on her. If she likes you a lot, she may need to hear about your feelings too, for reassurement and to know that you are serious about it.

She said yes, in her very aquarian way. Its funny, anyone else would understand her yesses as noes.

And yeah, ill write what i want to say and memorize it, it's hard to keep my words to the point. I'll have a hard time getting a word in though, the first couple of times we went out the conversation would go 50/50. Now she has become really talkative, talks about lots of stuff, she is so witty. I don't mind, i find it.. cute.

Are you sure it was a "yes" then? Lol. I hope so. Sounds like you are on the right track. Yeah we can be talkative when comfortable...its looking good. I hope you both enjoy your trip!!

Im confident its a solid yes. I got most of her behavior figured out.

Yeah im happy bout the trip! ive read aquarius woman enjoy to sleep around and keeping it secret, although I dont do that(my views are somewhat traditional) I also don't judge her for that(a couple of her close friends while drunk, told me about that part of her, she wasn't there of course), we all are different and live by different life codes, that's the fun part of life!

Where I'm going with this is, i hope that when we talk about us, she will value what i see in her and what i can offer, more than what her flings and the other people she's been dating give to her.

Well, if people are young, I guess sleeping around happens. Speaking for myself, being a fixed sign, once in a secure, committed relationship I am loyal. She might be the same, who knows.

You can only express what you have to offer her, and give her time to think about it. She will then know if you have more to offer than others and make up her mind. Its not a contest, right?
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She is 33, im 31.

I agree! it is not a contest like that. I ment what a stable relationship can offer vs fwb and flings.
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Posted by Aquarelle

I read your story and wondered if you were a Pisces...then came to the last line and read that you are.

She may like you, or she may just see you as a friend who happens to like some of the same things as her. She may also not have liked you in the beginning but now that she sees more of you, she may start to like you. I like to be friends before lovers, and she might be the same.

I know its difficult, but the only way to know for sure is to just ask her. Pisces can seem elusive to Aquarius, we like things verbalised.

Btw, are you ok with her being weird about emotions? Because that won't change. Are you emotional yourself?


I co-sign this. Btw I find it so cute that you made a list of all the things you admire about her. 😍 That was a total water sign thing. My cancer guy friends did that too.
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Quick catharsis.

I texted her on monday asking for her opinion on a project im working on. She did reply for a bit and then went mia and left me on read. I don't mind this at all, usually, im used already. But this time she seemed annoyed, really annoyed.

When we are together in person im always listening to her and asking her about her days, don't even pull out my phone to check on work emails and stuff, but when i text her i usually just do so, to pinpoint where we are going out next month(lol), to send her any random meme(sometimes she replies to this) and very rarely to ask for her opinion(like this time). And i don't know if it's this pisces intuition i keep reading about, but i sense i can come across as very selfcentered via text, but at the same time i can't text her about how she is doing, cause she will take it as some kind of control over her and cause her to vanish for a big while(been there before).

Im new to this astrology thing and been reading about all sorths of things. Theres this mercury retrograde comming this week i havent read exactly all about it yet, but what i gathered so far is that it can jam communications and cause misunderstandings. So i guess maybe it's a bit of that too.

On the other hand, there's this girl i work with and last weekend on a work event she became very flirty, and ended up sending me nudes on sunday morning, she wants me to fuck her on Halloween lol(ive only been my usual self to her up to now, never flirted back or anything, but am always cracking jokes).

The thing is I haven't slept with anyone since all this friendly dating started with my aqua and although i do feel like having sex asap, my heart tells me not to go on with this. Fuck it, i know she(aqua girl) has been probably sleeping with a few dudes since we started to go out, cause we aren't officially anything yet, but i just can't bring myself to do the same. I just blocked this workgal fuck it i can't, i want to, but i can't. I needed to write about this.

This honor thing i keep adhering to in my life, causes nothing but headaches i swear.

Fuck it. Fuck it. Fuck it.

@aquarelle @classyaquarius i would really like sometimes to know how to make you aquas feel cherished yet not being controlled, seriously.

She(aqua gal) loves this junkfood thing we used to have in my country decades ago(you barely see it on stores this days if at all). The thing is i was buying stuff for next week trip and searched the whole city for them, for her. I found them and want to send her a voice message/photo telling her about this, but i fear she will get more annoyed or take it like some sort of manipulation on my side.

What to do?

Been reading this forums posts lately and it only has served me to doubt about all of this. Ive read when you guys are into someone you don't behave like this and are super direct and well this is anything but that.

Lol i feel stupid doing this things while she probably doesn't care.

I need some tea.
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Quick catharsis.

I texted her on monday asking for her opinion on a project im working on. She did reply for a bit and then went mia and left me on read. I don't mind this at all, usually, im used already. But this time she seemed annoyed, really annoyed.

When we are together in person im always listening to her and asking her about her days, don't even pull out my phone to check on work emails and stuff, but when i text her i usually just do so, to pinpoint where we are going out next month(lol), to send her any random meme(sometimes she replies to this) and very rarely to ask for her opinion(like this time). And i don't know if it's this pisces intuition i keep reading about, but i sense i can come across as very selfcentered via text, but at the same time i can't text her about how she is doing, cause she will take it as some kind of control over her and cause her to vanish for a big while(been there before).

Im new to this astrology thing and been reading about all sorths of things. Theres this mercury retrograde comming this week i havent read exactly all about it yet, but what i gathered so far is that it can jam communications and cause misunderstandings. So i guess maybe it's a bit of that too.

On the other hand, there's this girl i work with and last weekend on a work event she became very flirty, and ended up sending me nudes on sunday morning, she wants me to fuck her on Halloween lol(ive only been my usual self to her up to now, never flirted back or anything, but am always cracking jokes).

The thing is I haven't slept with anyone since all this friendly dating started with my aqua and although i do feel like having sex asap, my heart tells me not to go on with this. Fuck it, i know she(aqua girl) has been probably sleeping with a few dudes since we started to go out, cause we aren't officially anything yet, but i just can't bring myself to do the same. I just blocked this workgal fuck it i can't, i want to, but i can't. I needed to write about this.

This honor thing i keep adhering to in my life, causes nothing but headaches i swear.

Fuck it. Fuck it. Fuck it.

@aquarelle @classyaquarius i would really like sometimes to know how to make you aquas feel cherished yet not being controlled, seriously.

She(aqua gal) loves this junkfood thing we used to have in my country decades ago(you barely see it on stores this days if at all). The thing is i was buying stuff for next week trip and searched the whole city for them, for her. I found them and want to send her a voice message/photo telling her about this, but i fear she will get more annoyed or take it like some sort of manipulation on my side.

What to do?

Been reading this forums posts lately and it only has served me to doubt about all of this. Ive read when you guys are into someone you don't behave like this and are super direct and well this is anything but that.

Lol i feel stupid doing this things while she probably doesn't care.

I need some tea.

Okay, first things first. How you know she's annoyed? Since you can't tell if she's into you or not.

When you are together in person is she more open and talkative than via phone?

Also why you think if you ask her about her day or something, that she will take it as a control attempt?

Why you think she is sleeping with anyone?

I strongly don't recommend sleeping with someone as she will propably find out and then you are lost. No turning back from here.

Is there possibility for you to find out her other chart placements?
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Well when i texted her on monday about my project she replied and little by little went mia. The last thing i wrote to her, was thay id love it if she could go to my project presentation, although i know she will probably be busy with work and then left me on read. So i dont know, it is just a feeling i guess.

Yeah, she is very chatty in person like i can barely say anything haha.

I don't know if she is, but her close friends told me that she does sleep around(that was last year) so i don't know about the very now.

Oh i know that, i can't see myself sleeping with my coworker. I just can't.

Uhm i dont know her birth time but i got this from cafe astrology

Sun Aquarius 29°43'

Moon Gemini 19°38'

Mercury Pisces 13°25'

Venus Pisces 6°57'

Mars Sagittarius 9°35'

Jupiter Aquarius 29°32'

Saturn Sagittarius 9°01'

Uranus Sagittarius 21°47'

Neptune Capricorn 5°12'

Pluto Scorpio 7°20' R

Lilith Taurus 29°07'

N Node Taurus 2°05'

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Tinnedglass
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Quick update.

I texted her yesterday at night, about where we would meet for the trip(tomorrow) and such. Left me on read. Last week i also send her a pic of the junk food thing and a voice msg. Left that on read too.

But I'm pretty sure it's on. She has done this before, it's like she is testing my character lol. When this all started and she would do the ignoring thing, my mind would waver and start texting her tons, demanding for a confirmation. Now I'm cool as an icecube, lol.

Just thought it would be a good idea to post this small details in case anyone out there goes through this with an aqua too.

Ps: Got my speech ready as well.

Thanks everyone for your input, will let you know how things end up.
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Hi

We met a year ago at work. We worked together for a couple of months, in that time i became friends of her friends. Once at work, while sharing lunch with all of our friends, as everyone discussed work related stuff, she blowed up on me in front of everyone, saying nobody cares about my opinion, she was like really angry about it and everyone tried to calm her down.

I understood she was bothered by me for some reason so i stopped talking to her. After a couple of weeks, she slowly approached, didn't apologize exactly but made small talk, letting me know she was sorry. After that, we restarted talking, in a very respectful and diplomatic way mind you, still we kept more distance between us than with other friends of our group. I tried to mend that, cause im a really friendly person and at the time she was the only one i didnt really get along with at work and out of our group of friends. But everytime i tried to get to know her, like asking about her interests and stuff, she would one word answer me.

Once i even asked her to tag along with some friends of ours to a thing, she went all weird and said ok, never showed up and left us all wondering wtf happened. I took it as if she wasnt interested in really burying the hatchet.

After a couple of months she left the company, but we still saw each other at parties and friend's stuff, we barely interacted though. But at least said hi and goodbye to each other, she always ended her sentences(with me) with the word friend haha. I took it as if she knew i was kind of attracted to her and it was her way of letting me know that she wasn't.

In december of the last year, after a couple of months without any communication she messaged me, asking if i wanted to go to a concert(the concert was months away but we had to purchase tickets in advance). It took me by surprise, i was starting to get serious with this other girl and didn't want to even answer her message, so my girl wouldn't think anything bout it.

But because we had a lot of friends in common and what not i said yes, and i bought the tickets online, in advance. We didnt speak till months later, when the concert was due. We went, she brought sex into the conversation a couple of times but i didn't went down that line, even though i do find her attractive, cause i didnt want her to think i was a fuckboi. So we ended up talking about her family and all the stuff weve been up to all this months, never touching dating or romantic topics. It was nice, i felt like we could be at least, friends this time. I wasnt dating the other girl anymore too btw. That night we said goodbye with a kiss on a cheek(common in my country) and as usual she ended it with the word 'friend'. I chuckled on the inside.

After that night i gave it some thought and asked her out, not on a date, just to hang out, go to a theater. She said yes, then rescheduled at least three times, i got tired and said i was going to the theater with my pal.

Didn't talk for like a couple of months.

Btw she is always very dry and short with her texts and sometimes forgets to reply(im ok with it now, but back then i wasn't and always threw me off).

So yeah we didn't talk for a few months then i reached out and ask her to go to another cultural thing, she said yes, did show up, late, very late but she got there anyway. This time we talked even more about our views on relationships and stuff, we had a great time. When we said goodbye, she didn't said the word friend, i noticed, she hasnt said that word to me since either, haha.

Since then we have gone out, consistently once a month, (yeah by now i understand she needs her space, lots of it and so do i frankly). We don't text every day, sometimes weeks, but at the start of every month we go out i always initiate though, but never labeling as a date haha, by now i get her enough to know she gets super weird about this and everything related to emotions, so when i notice her getting uncomfortable i move things to lighter topics and try to make her laugh.

I am sure now that i like her and want her to be my partner, like in a serious relationship, i have a list of everything i admire of her lol. Yeah im fucked.

The thing is, i haven't made a move yet, i have given her subtle signs, but haven't tried to kiss her either. Like when we are about to say goodbye, she keeps it short with a kiss on the cheek. I dont ask her to text me when she arrives home, cause i know she wont(prolly forgets cause she is like that) so i text her and ask her. I dont know if she feels the same or sees me only as a friend.

So, to the aquarius woman in this forum, what do you think?

One more thing, she has never mentioned dating anyone and when she brings her phone out when we hang out(not very often) she always makes it clear she is texting her mom or something like that. Also, on my side i haven't mentioned we are hanging out to our friends in common i dont know if she has on her end.

Fuck it i love her and I'm shitting myself cause i haven't felt this serious about someone in a long fucking time.

Help. Please.

Im a pisces btw :]


I can only talk from my perspective as an aqua... and I act like that with guys that I technically like but I am not 100% sure with. She might not have mentioned other guys because

a) she senses that you like her and she doesn't want to hurt you or

b) she is not sure about another guy and/or about you

Idk if she's one of the aquas that hooks up with guys once in a while. I usually don't so I'm really picky with who I hook up with and while thinking about it I'll be acting like she does.

The best thing you can do in my opinion is you wait until she has a moment of wanting to talk to you/showing interest and then you can try to be a bit more bold with wanting her and just go for it. (Sometimes I lose attraction if guys don't go for what they want in the heat of the moment because of their insecurities). No matter how you look like.. self-confidence is the key in appearing attractive to her 🙂
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Posted by Tinnedglass

Quick update.

I texted her yesterday at night, about where we would meet for the trip(tomorrow) and such. Left me on read. Last week i also send her a pic of the junk food thing and a voice msg. Left that on read too.

But I'm pretty sure it's on. She has done this before, it's like she is testing my character lol. When this all started and she would do the ignoring thing, my mind would waver and start texting her tons, demanding for a confirmation. Now I'm cool as an icecube, lol.

Just thought it would be a good idea to post this small details in case anyone out there goes through this with an aqua too.

Ps: Got my speech ready as well.

Thanks everyone for your input, will let you know how things end up.


Oh and try not to double text 😉
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Posted by Tinnedglass

Quick update.

I texted her yesterday at night, about where we would meet for the trip(tomorrow) and such. Left me on read. Last week i also send her a pic of the junk food thing and a voice msg. Left that on read too.

But I'm pretty sure it's on. She has done this before, it's like she is testing my character lol. When this all started and she would do the ignoring thing, my mind would waver and start texting her tons, demanding for a confirmation. Now I'm cool as an icecube, lol.

Just thought it would be a good idea to post this small details in case anyone out there goes through this with an aqua too.

Ps: Got my speech ready as well.

Thanks everyone for your input, will let you know how things end up.

You must have steel nerves by now, isn't this a little nerve wrecking for you?

It is to me, and I'm only reading it, :-)

Anyway, you sound well prepared, although I think I would have responded to the junk food thing, because it's such a great gesture.

You even got your speech ready, haha. Sounds like you are good to go.

I hope she won't leave you on hold, because that would be plain rude, imho.

Let us know how it went, ok?

My nerves demand to know, LOL

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Just got back. We had a blast. She values friendship, i knew she wouldn't flake on a friend. Actually she arrived on time lol, that was odd.

We did a bunch of fun stuff and people round town kept referring bout us as a couple, she would just smile every time.

I didn't have the talk with her, didn't try to make any moves either. There's a bunch of insecurities i have that i need to work on. If anything changes about us, i ll let you all know.

Thanks.
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You shouldn’t be emotional or tell her how you feel. I think you need to be a man about things, and have a bit more confidence. Your world does not revolve around her. Find your focus elsewhere, tell her about that focus, what you are passionate about. It cannot involve her, it has to be something else.

With the messaging thing, just adapt, if she doesn’t reply to a certain type of message then don’t repeat it. No stupid memes please. No messages directly after a date.

The dates need to be a bit more crazy too, you need to bring out the rebel in her.

Find a common interest or hobby, reason for meeting regularly without you having to chase all the time.

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Yes. How it went?


She is my girlfriend. It's official. We are having a dinner party on sunday, with all our friends. She said she was on the fence because i was taking too much time and she thought i only saw her as a friend? Lol, so she kinda pulled away by bits. Anyhow, im walking everywhere with a big smile on my face and people just stare at me, but i can't help it haha. 😄

Cheers
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Update:

Was having a conversation with one of our common friends(works with my aqua, i don't) a few days ago. We were laughing all good fun and she accidentally slip up, said my aqua arrived late at work the day before cause she went out with this guy, she quickly realized she said too much. She spilled all of it out and apologized for not telling me and covering for my aqua.

My aqua has been seeing this guy for a month or so, they started sleeping together a few weeks ago. I trust this friend(i don't know if i can still call her friend anymore), so i believe her. I asked her to not tell my aqua i know, i need to solve this one on one.

It all makes sense, just a few weeks ago she didnt even bother to reply back to my texts. The last seens on her whatsapp are like at 2 am.

It wasn't space she needed, it was someone else. And i get it, if she likes this guy its ok, but she shouldn't have said yes to starting something with me.

We are supposed to see each other next tuesday, although i don't want to, i have to. Will tell her i know in her face, won't ask her why, don't need to, and will move on.

I think i sensed this all this months, and me delving into astrology and telling myself all this detachment, the coldness and space is only because of her being an aquarius, was a way of keeping hope on my feelings. I was wrong.

When you like someone theres no detachment, no big spaces, its pretty straight forward. Trying to hide shitty behavior inside astrology is a big mistake. Lesson learned.
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Fuck it i love her and I'm shitting myself cause i haven't felt this serious about someone in a long fucking time.

Help. Please.

Im a pisces btw :]


I found it interesting that you care so much about someone who seems like a generally shitty human being, then I seen you're a pisces. I've dealt with a pisces before and he was in love with me and I didn't have any idea he even was. "Subtle" most aquarius dont do subtle. Dude called me an ice queen because I didn't feel the same..

She is probably keeping you at arms length because she has no idea where you're coming from. Hell you barely knew but I'll be honest here, I don't see this sort of thing as worth all the aggravation it's going to cause.

Please do not become a doormat trying to please her and trying to avoid being your mushy self. If she can't handle it, find someone who can. Good luck
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Posted by Tinnedglass

Fuck it i love her and I'm shitting myself cause i haven't felt this serious about someone in a long fucking time.

Help. Please.

Im a pisces btw :]

I found it interesting that you care so much about someone who seems like a generally shitty human being, then I seen you're a pisces. I've dealt with a pisces before and he was in love with me and I didn't have any idea he even was. "Subtle" most aquarius dont do subtle. Dude called me an ice queen because I didn't feel the same..

She is probably keeping you at arms length because she has no idea where you're coming from. Hell you barely knew but I'll be honest here, I don't see this sort of thing as worth all the aggravation it's going to cause.

Please do not become a doormat trying to please her and trying to avoid being your mushy self. If she can't handle it, find someone who can. Good luck
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There's a lesson in your story though. And it just shows how we take these little bits of facts without knowing how they fit into the larger picture. And twist and turn them just trying to make it work. Hindsight is everything and then the facts are loud and clear to that larger truth. It just makes me think of how I've been doing the same instead of letting the facts speak for themselves. Instead of trying to force that wrong piece of the puzzle to make the picture I want to see instead of what it really is.

Yes. And we can definitely see a lot of that, i mean what i did with astrology, inside this forums. Can't blame us for keeping hope, thats what humanity is all about.

We had our last talk today(me and the aqua), we met at a coffee shop. It wasn't a big scene, i told her i knew and kinda said what i just wrote about hope and that it's ok to make mistakes, that's what life is all about, she made one with me and so did i with her. She didn't say a word, was all frozen her face, red. Finally i hugged her, wished her well and walked away.

Im hurt yes, so im taking the last weeks of this year out of work, planning some traveling, somewhere calm and without much people, i need to reboot.
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Sorry to see how this played out. I tend to keep solely to the Leo forum nowadays. I won't comment on the events that have already played out, but I will say in the future don't tiptoe around your feelings with any woman. I've found that while Aquarius women don't like to be smothered by emotion, they still respond to a person who makes the first move. I've found that even those who need to be "friends first" get annoyed when men aren't direct with them. Confusing right?

Every Aquarius is different, but many of them need to have the romance initiated. This is why many Aquarians wind up dating Aries. Aries are extremely direct and fairly transparent people. In fact I had an Aquarius ask me to ask her out because she liked me, but wanted me to initiate it. To me this came completely out of the blue as I had no intention of asking her out at all. However I'm a Leo, and I respect bold steps like that.
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There's a lesson in your story though. And it just shows how we take these little bits of facts without knowing how they fit into the larger picture. And twist and turn them just trying to make it work. Hindsight is everything and then the facts are loud and clear to that larger truth. It just makes me think of how I've been doing the same instead of letting the facts speak for themselves. Instead of trying to force that wrong piece of the puzzle to make the picture I want to see instead of what it really is.

Yes. And we can definitely see a lot of that, i mean what i did with astrology, inside this forums. Can't blame us for keeping hope, thats what humanity is all about.

We had our last talk today(me and the aqua), we met at a coffee shop. It wasn't a big scene, i told her i knew and kinda said what i just wrote about hope and that it's ok to make mistakes, that's what life is all about, she made one with me and so did i with her. She didn't say a word, was all frozen her face, red. Finally i hugged her, wished her well and walked away.

Im hurt yes, so im taking the last weeks of this year out of work, planning some traveling, somewhere calm and without much people, i need to reboot.
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I think you are making a mistake not giving her a chance!

You were not together.....was her right to do whatever she wanted to do! You had no courage to spoke about your feelings before...When you did she Agreed to be with you! Sometimes you are being played by our emotions... Think about it!
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Posted by emeraldgem

There's a lesson in your story though. And it just shows how we take these little bits of facts without knowing how they fit into the larger picture. And twist and turn them just trying to make it work. Hindsight is everything and then the facts are loud and clear to that larger truth. It just makes me think of how I've been doing the same instead of letting the facts speak for themselves. Instead of trying to force that wrong piece of the puzzle to make the picture I want to see instead of what it really is.

Yes. And we can definitely see a lot of that, i mean what i did with astrology, inside this forums. Can't blame us for keeping hope, thats what humanity is all about.

We had our last talk today(me and the aqua), we met at a coffee shop. It wasn't a big scene, i told her i knew and kinda said what i just wrote about hope and that it's ok to make mistakes, that's what life is all about, she made one with me and so did i with her. She didn't say a word, was all frozen her face, red. Finally i hugged her, wished her well and walked away.

Im hurt yes, so im taking the last weeks of this year out of work, planning some traveling, somewhere calm and without much people, i need to reboot.

I think you are making a mistake not giving her a chance!

You were not together.....was her right to do whatever she wanted to do! You had no courage to spoke about your feelings before...When you did she Agreed to be with you! Sometimes you are being played by our emotions... Think about it!
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Hi. She agreed to be with me while still sleeping with someone else.

Look im not mad at her. I care for her, i remain her friend, at least on my side.

But i can't have the relationship i want with her. She likes to play the field, have side flings on the low, and all that stuff that she has been hiding from me, while i am a one woman man. Neither way is bad, it is just different and it's ok.

We both deserve a chance to search for what we want out of life. There is nothing else to say about this.

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He did give her a chance but this immature Aqua woman played him....

Luckily he found out pretty soon and that's why they broke up.


Right, i know...I just thought that she wasnt sure about his intentions....thats why was that guy in her life(her right anyway). Like I wanted to believe the story was different somehow... The day he decides to be with her and confess his feelings, she choose him instead of the other man. Wasnt a relationship till this point..
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He did give her a chance but this immature Aqua woman played him....

Luckily he found out pretty soon and that's why they broke up.

Right, i know...I just thought that she wasnt sure about his intentions....thats why was that guy in her life(her right anyway). Like I wanted to believe the story was different somehow... The day he decides to be with her and confess his feelings, she choose him instead of the other man. Wasnt a relationship till this point..

Yes, I agree.

But the moment she agreed on a relationship with OP she should have said goodbye to the other guy and she should have told OP she was still sleeping with him until then. For some reason she hasn't been honest and that is not ok.
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But he is basing all of this off of second hand office gossip. He needs to confirm with her face to face in order to find out what is real and what isn't.
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@misha77

He did give her a chance but this immature Aqua woman played him....

Luckily he found out pretty soon and that's why they broke up.

Right, i know...I just thought that she wasnt sure about his intentions....thats why was that guy in her life(her right anyway). Like I wanted to believe the story was different somehow... The day he decides to be with her and confess his feelings, she choose him instead of the other man. Wasnt a relationship till this point..

Yes, I agree.

But the moment she agreed on a relationship with OP she should have said goodbye to the other guy and she should have told OP she was still sleeping with him until then. For some reason she hasn't been honest and that is not ok.

But he is basing all of this off of second hand office gossip. He needs to confirm with her face to face in order to find out what is real and what isn't.
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Hi. I did face her, no fighting or anything like that. It was a calm conversation and she did confirm it, didn't give me a clear reason for all of this, i didn't force that question either, it's what she wanted to do, the details and reasons are non of my business.

I posted about it on page 2 or 3 i think.

Anyhow, everything will be ok. No worries.