Aquarius.

Well, now that i have had some time to think about this, and in the wake of recent events, i need to vent on the screwiness of an Aquarian. Have i told you the story? Maybe somebody can make sense of it for me and remind me i am not a bad person. Here goes.

I work in a nightclub and this girl who works there also invites me to stay back for drinks one night, so i say yes. Only because another friend of mine is staying too, as i don't like to mix work with pleasure. Anyway, we get talking and she herds me into this big group of people. We then all proceed to have a conversation and things go quite well, in other words, it was 'fun'. Anyway, i decide to go home. In the meantime she has invited me, and anybody else who is listening, to her party. I say 'ok' i will go. The next weekend few weekends, she basically ignores me, she even gives me a dirty look. She doesn't talk to me at all, so i decide not to go to her party. In the end i go, against my better judgement, and it's a disaster, it's so boring. She is rude to me, and when i get up to leave, she thanks me for coming to her 'party'. I'm like, yeah, whatever. Then she is choosey about when she talks to me at work, and then finally, she starts being 'nice' to me. By this stage i am over it, so eventually i say, "you were so rude to me, blah blah blah". She apologizes, blah blah blah. Now she runs away when she sees me. She kept pointing out to me that she was not gay, like she thought i liked her, which was so embarrassing, because i didn't. I just wanted a friend. She knows i am a lesbian. She just wants everyone to flatter her ego, and people really swarm to her. I don't, but i cannot stand the way she has treated me. What is the deal with this girl? I am going to have to tell her i was not interested in her and to 'get over it'. Why do people have to be so screwy? Where are all the 'normal' people? And don't tell me 'normal' is a relative concept 🙂

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Hi Libragirl,

I don't know why people are the way they are...I have decided to not let that take up my energy. I have learned to accept them just the way they are (this really makes life easier). Sometimes I don't think people know why they are the way they are....a lot has to do with their past and whether they have delt with thier issues or are in the process of. This requires patience from us who have gone before. Anywho...about your friend. Got me. I worked with an Aquarian girl and she was a delight to be around. She found herself getting into a lot of weird situations and then would have regrets later on. She too had a lot of guys swarming all over her but for other reasons then really wanting to get to know her. She told me she had problems with intimacy and wanted to just have fun. I remember I bought her a birthday present and she never took it home. She didn't care. So, one day when she didn't come into work, I took it back. The place where I worked ended up letting her go. She was going through a lot from her past and this is how she chose to deal with it. I have not seen or heard from her in about 6 mos.

Libragirl, they way she delt with you had nothing to do with you but with her issues of herself.

I have to admit...I do not know what "normal" is. Not sure I have been exposed to that yet or ever will.

Are you feeling "blah better" today?

Freebird, feeling a little 'better' today, but only cos I had more sleep than i had had when i wrote my post!

First of all, thank you for your advice. I have thought about what you said and I guess I have to come to the conclusion that the way she is behaving or 'not behaving' is due to her own problems; whatever they may be. I guess I just got confused as to what she was driving at by having to remind me on a few occasions that she is 'not a lesbian', when firstly I had not asked, and secondly, I was not initially 'interested'. The thing is that after talking to her I felt an energy 'click' and looking back on it, that was probably all it was. From my point of view, such 'clicks' can be very confusing, because I may 'click' with someone and, being a lesbian, I think I might be attracted to them when in actual fact I might just like their mind. I know, life's very complicated!

So, with all that aside, I have decided that I need better 'boundaries' with people. I have obviously given her the wrong impression of myself, but well, whatever. I am quite willing to tell her the truth, that i was not interested but i think she is cute. I don't really care either way as there are plenty more fish in the sea. Infact, the more i think about it, the more i can't be bothered!

Well, anyway, i think, in these situations, the only thing you can do is be honest, with yourself, and with the other person. I just found it strange that SHE went out of her way to invite ME back for drinks, tries to get to know ME, when really i didn't give a rats arse about her. So much for the libran/aquarian thing...

Once again, thanks for your wonderful advice. Are you sure you're not a wise ole Pisces?

PS. I thought librans and aquarians were supposed to be famous for their chemistry, both in and out of the bedroom. So much for astrology; sometimes i lose faith.