Aquarius ex's behaviour is puzzling

Hi

I have posted here before and just want to get an aquas perspective on a situation I have with my ex and we work together.

We broke up about 6 months ago and about 3 months ago she told a close friend of mine she is back with her ex.

She has totally blocked me from social media and I have no way of contacting her besides her work email address. She said previously that we both need to move on.

Recently she has been looking at me and I sent her an email asking if she had something on her mind to which I got a very silly response "You think im looking at you but I may be looking in your direction for work"

A few weeks later I emailed her and told her I found out she is seeing her ex and if they were in dialogue when we were together. I got nothing back.

So I just left it as my ex went back to acting like I don't exist.

We now need to work together and when I approach her for work related stuff, I am being professional and polite where as she is being very short and sharp. Her body language basically says leave me alone.

We in a meeting together and she was behaving unprofessionally and I asked her what her issue is as we need to work together so I don't want it be awkward.

She responded by saying "I know you have moved on and now you are seeing someone. I asked her if she wanted to talk about it and her guard just went back up. I then said what we do in our own personal time shouldn't affect one another and can we just do what we need to do for work.

This has really confused me - I thought once an aqua makes up her mind there is no turning back. Plus I moved on months after she did, so what exactly is her issue?

Her body language shows me that she is hurt or upset but she wont open up and tell me why but does the whole "carrot dangling" thing.

Any advice is appreciated.

I think that in her mind she thinks that you completely forgot about her (she obviously doesn't know about you writing on dxp lol) and she thinks that it's too soon for you to do that. She is obviously hurt by this, but at the same time she is very proud (as all aquas are) to say anything to you about it, coz she will see herself in a weaker position then. And this is just unacceptable for an Aqua.

But I dont know if she is hurt by the fact that you have moved on "easily" and that she did not, or she still has feelings for you.

Hey Bav good to hear from you again lol.

Well lets put this simply... She told a mate of mine she moved on in December. After I asked her about her ex via email and didn't get a response, I posted here (as you know) and took peoples advice and moved on.

I am back to being the happy bubbly person at work, cracking jokes etc.

How can she think ive forgotten about her and have an issue with it considering she blocked me on everything and doesn't even want to talk to me.

So in order to be in a more dominant position, she would happily suffer and cause someone else suffering and or inconvenience. I thought Aqua's were logical people... her actions don't seem logical at all.

I chased that girl for months after we broke up - All she has to do is say "lets talk" when she is ready. I have said it before I just want to clear things up. If we get back together then fair enough, if we don't, then to be fair im not short on options at the moment.

What I fail to understand is the only relationship we have is a professional one - so act professional. How hard is that considering it was her that put the distance between us?

So in order to be in a more dominant position, she would happily suffer and cause someone else suffering and or inconvenience. I thought Aqua's were logical people... her actions don't seem logical at all.

I chased that girl for months after we broke up - All she has to do is say "lets talk" when she is ready. I have said it before I just want to clear things up. If we get back together then fair enough, if we don't, then to be fair im not short on options at the moment.

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Yes, that is true, they are logical, but we don't understand their logic lol. Like I said, I think she is too damn proud to come to you, although she might be suffering, she might be hurt. She wont do that, especially now when she knows you are dating someone.

Aquas input here might help.

Im not actually dating anyone at all. I am just putting myself out there and talking to women.

The funny thing about this situation is that she completely closed the door on us, by telling my mate she is back with her ex.

So if she has moved on what I do shouldn't really matter. I doubt an aqua would lie about such a thing as its quite a low thing to do. I didn't think they were the type of people to hurt someone. Plus once they say move on, its really over so what the issue?

Its really weird for me being indifferent towards her is that Im polite, professional and I talk about what I need to for work, my body language is relaxed and once im done im on my merry way. Her on the other hand, her body language is very defensive and you can see that her guard is up.

We cross paths earlier today and I gave her a half hearted smile and she just stared at me and walks on.

Yeah, I don't get it either. But after what she told you, I really think that she misses you and its not easy for her to see you, especially you being happy. I think that she was trying something with her ex, just to forget about you, but it didn't work out. But I'm 99% sure that she wont do anything towards you.

What do you want? You want to get her back? btw, whats your sign?

Im a leo.

I told the girl I loved her unconditionally and I still do love her. However since we broke up a lot has happened and without a conversation I don't know if its wise to try again.

There are lots of factors to consider.

1.) The way she handled the break up and became extremely distant. I understand the cutting me off on social media for her own personal space, but she is also being very distant with work related stuff. I am doing a group exercise and everyone has engaged except her.

2.) The whole thing with her ex - was he on the scene and why did she tell my mate enough details so it got back to me. A simple answer of "Im seeing someone" is more than enough. Funnily enough since that day she has not spoken to my mate again about anything personal.

3.) Her ability to have an emotional conversation - I can understand it may have been overwhelming for her and she was out of her comfort zone when her folks said No to us. However the fact remains that any type of reconciliation requires a conversation to be had, some of which may be an emotional one.

4.) Either she will need to change and step out of her house or her parents mind will need to be changed - I think emotionally she cant handle this.

5.) She has put up so many barriers and pushed me away to a possible point of no return. If she was to talk now, her credibility and integrity is on the line.

Its been six months since we split and our last conversation about us was in November where she said she hopes she doesn't regret her decision. When I tried to get her to open up all I got was "This is how I deal with stuff" Before that she was the sweetest girl I had ever met.

We had an amazing relationship together and don't doubt we can again. It could be better than the first time. But people need to grow, as life is not constant.

Any relationship will fail if there is no communication and understanding and ours did - miserably.

She acts like I was the one who did the dirty on her. People at work including my boss have noticed and commented. I haven't said much purely because she is a woman and I believe her integrity still needs to be protected.