Aquarius man

Here are some things might keep Aquarius man interested:

1. play cool, being detached, aloof, don't give him too much attention (maybe not at all). But doesn't mean ignoring him. It's not cat-mouse game. It's more likely owner-cat game. (I'm sorry, I didn't mean to be unrespected). In this case, he'll be the owner, you'll be the cat. He doesn't like girls who give him too much attention like a puppy. All he wants is that when he wants to be or talk to you, he expects a cute, nice, interesting response from you (but still need to keep distance. Don't give out vibe that make he thinks you like him). And when he's busy with his own adventure, or lost in his thought, he doesn't want anyone bother or interrupt his own time. So, you better stay out of his way and enjoy your own time too (mean that you should not contact him at all).
If you are afraid of "out of sight, out of mind" by not talking to him for few days and don't see him contact you, or you miss him too much, you can make an excuse to drop him a message (don't ask how he's been or anything related to him). I'm sure that will remind him about you and he will start conversation and ask about your day.
- if he likes you, he always has a special spot for you. I'm sure he will always come back.
- if he doesn't like you, he's still friendly. but if you come too strong, he will cut you off by telling straight to your face that he's not interested.

2. be patience, be calm: as an Aries I'm pretty hot tempered. Fortunately, my Aquarius man is very patience, and understanding. When I got mad about something not reasonable, I always became more upset since he would not be there for me to be mad on (not because he didn't want to, he was busy with his own world). But i'm sure Aquarius man still notice that you're mad, even if you don't say anything. He will later ask you about it, and you will always get a logic explanation from him. If you're upset something about him (flirt too much,..), you should tell it straight to him. If he likes you, he won't let you suffer it again.

3. be friendly, be nice, be a good person to people around. Even if you're beautiful outside, that doesn't mean anything to an Aquarius if he sees you yelling or talking bad about other people. Don't fake it, you might trick him at first, but he will find out later and all you can get from him is cold-treatment

4. be there for him as a loyal friend. Aquarius man usually distance himself from everyone when he's upset, frustrated, busy,.. I don't think he will tell you about his problem since he wants to fix it himself. Every time, I sense there's something wrong, I give him a big hug and tell him that today seems a bad day but it helps us growth or everything will be just fine. He will be appreciated. When he's sick, take care of him

5. listen. As time goes by, when he decides you a trustworthy friend, he will let you be a part of his world by sharing his thought, dream, plan and memory. But you have to make sure that, things he share, you should keep it to yourself. Don't ever tell it to anyone. He will get hurt, and never trust you again.

6. action louder than word. He doesn't need you to tell him that you miss him or love him. If you love him, prove it. When he's sure about you and about him, he will tell you that he loves you. If you miss him, talk to him, tease him (don't tell him about your feeling).

7. be independence, but caring, walm and vulnerable. Everyone knows that Aquarius man only interested in independent woman. But, he's still a man and a man always want to protect his woman.

If you treat him right, he will do the same. He will make sure that you're happy. He will make you smile every day, every hour, every minute. 🙂

number 6 gets my tick of approval

I am Aries in a relationship with an Aqua man...this is right on.

definitely approve of number 5 just had another one of those betrayals today hooray! I can tolerate a lot of things one thing I cannot tolerate is breaking that trust!

Superglue it all you want but there's always going to be cracks and I will never fully trust you.

I do have a question. When an Aquarius prompts a certain type of talk, such as: 'I miss you' or even 'I really like you', and you're already at the point where you're romantically/physically involved, is it then that one may say something in response that shows some affection? I never prompt contact nor 'mushy' talk, but I'm just wondering, rather.

This was an interesting read. Thank you 🙂

I'd say definitely if you're at that stage where he's gone and said "I really like you" believe in those words, it's not something I think any aqua would say willingly. Know that he probably won't expect it, sometimes without thinking we just voice out our thoughts to those that we care about. You can take the idea and turn it into something interesting like "Oh really what do you miss?" 🙂

Pick the moment obviously, when you feel it say it to him.

Now I'm interested in that funkygal has to say the aquawhisperer!

I totally agree with aquasnoz 🙂

😛 I'm myself not a type of person who's willingly tell others how I really feel about them. Aquarius man is the same. i don't think it's easy for Aquarius man handle his feelings or yours. It will be easier for him if the other person take it easy when he shows affection.
- When he say "I like you a lots" or " I really like you", take it with a smile and a joke probably. I did tell my Aquarius man back as "Yea, I like my dog a lots too" 😄
- When he say "I love you", you probably won't believe it right away (not because you doubt about it, it's because you're so surprised). And i'm sure he already knows how you feel for him at this stage. Let it come naturally. Say it back or kiss or hug or smile happily 🙂

Other signs might tell you those words every day, but it takes Aquarius man a while to spit it out. If you want insurance, don't need to wait for him to repeat those words. You can see it in his action - sometimes stare at you, poke you, tease you, show affection in public,... You'll be surprised he notices every little detail about you.

So, Keep it light, let it come naturally. Aquarius man will be the man you're longing for. 🙂

Posted by aquasnoz
I'd say definitely if you're at that stage where he's gone and said "I really like you" believe in those words, it's not something I think any aqua would say willingly. Know that he probably won't expect it, sometimes without thinking we just voice out our thoughts to those that we care about. You can take the idea and turn it into something interesting like "Oh really what do you miss?" 🙂

Hehehe...I asked my aqua this same question one time and he replied 'your company and the time I get to share with you....' I thought that was a sweet thing to say. He's never out-and-out said the words 'I like you' (well he did, only after I told him first though lol) but generally there's no need in our case because he shows it, which highlights point 6. Points 4 and 5 are bang on...friendship, loyalty, trust and honesty run deep which is right up my sag alley.

I don't think that being aloof is really all that helpful really. I'd say that simply not being clingy and giving space is more helpful. I know I would appreciate emotional honesty even if it could be inconvenient. But of course, too much of anything could be a bad thing when dealing with anyone.

Actually, don't do any thing. Let him do every thing. All the actions above sound reasonable but quite often, it isn't what Aqua men after. Do what you want and don't do what you don't want.

You forgot to add "Stimulate him mentally."

Posted by truecap
You forgot to add "Stimulate him mentally."

As an Aqua, that is so true. It's been so long since I had a GF that really stimulated my mind. Sigh.

@Wings: I read many other astrology site and it mentioned about "Stimulate" too. But when it comes to practice, I'm not so sure which is the right way. Do you have any example? 😛
My Aquarius man once told me that I'm a complicated person which he couldn't get what in my mind.

To me it would mean having an active mind and always learning new things that you're sharing with someone else. Another part that falls within the stimulation area is having well-thought out opinions and being willing to examine those opinions and the effects they could have on the world at large. Discussions, debates, new trivia, basically just being a person that we could talk to and learn something new from everyday.

I can only speak for myself though.

Posted by funkygal
@Wings: I read many other astrology site and it mentioned about "Stimulate" too. But when it comes to practice, I'm not so sure which is the right way. Do you have any example? 😛
My Aquarius man once told me that I'm a complicated person which he couldn't get what in my mind.

Challenge him to intellectually travel to reach uncharted logical territory. If he states something that you are interested in (global topics - not anything relating directly to you or him).. ask him why.. how.. etc. Not only will YOU learn more about him as a human, but possibly, so will he. 🙂

Stimulate his mind and create a space for him to grow as a person. And by stimulate his mind, I don't mean play silly mind games be a woman of substance with the sweet quirkiness of Doris Day.

^^ is true.

My aqua likes my quirkiness. He never knows what I'm going to say. I can tell I surprise him sometimes with thoughts that come out of my mouth! I can be serious one minute and a total goof the next.

Posted by truecap
^^ is true.

My aqua likes my quirkiness. He never knows what I'm going to say. I can tell I surprise him sometimes with thoughts that come out of my mouth! I can be serious one minute and a total goof the next.

My Cappy Mama is like that too. It's 100% endearing.

my Aquarius man and I are fun to be around with. There is one thing concerning me..
We work in same company which caused few argument lately (I picked up the fight). As Aries, I couldn't understand why Aquarius man is so detached, even with work. I do respect him, since he taught me a lot and is really good at what he's doing.

@aquansidenout: hmm.. My Aquarius did offer to buy me expensive stuff, but I refused. I even insisted to pay dinner bill few times, but he did let me. Will this hurt his feeling?

Posted by aquansidenout
From my experience with aqua men they don't mind you being emotionally open when they have feelings for you. Tell them you miss them and watch the love come pouring out. My aqua ex I always knew he missed me when he was touchy feely and sarcastic. If he's touching or teasing you he's in love and can't help himself. True not they're not the most emotionally open people but their actions tell on them. If he's not spending money on you, inviting you out and making marathon love where he ask you to spend the night and aggressively pursuing you then hang it up.

He always takes the lead in pursuing from daily initial contact to telling me to move over so we can cuddle when we're in his room hanging out and spending time together. And I doubt I'll ever be able to explain the animalistic nature we are 'together'; I've noticed that he watches the reaction in my eyes.

In general, I can be a incredibly hard to read and icy - not the bitchy kind; I'm just not an emotional person and don't find the need to open up very much to others.

The other night I opened up a little with him, because I wanted to elaborate on how much a unique attribute he has effects me. I told him, "I probably say this every time I see you, but you're the one person I don't feel judged by, at all. I could feel okay with sharing anything with you. If I didn't say something then its only myself not feeling okay with saying it out-loud'.. that's when I added, 'If that makes sense'.
And of course - as always, he made sense of it.

But I'm definitely never okay with people paying for things that benefit me soooo.. 😛

I'm sorry for rambles; I feel like a young schoolgirl with a crush!

Posted by aquansidenout
From my experience with aqua men they don't mind you being emotionally open when they have feelings for you. Tell them you miss them and watch the love come pouring out. My aqua ex I always knew he missed me when he was touchy feely and sarcastic. If he's touching or teasing you he's in love and can't help himself. True not they're not the most emotionally open people but their actions tell on them. If he's not spending money on you, inviting you out and making marathon love where he ask you to spend the night and aggressively pursuing you then hang it up.

And if you're emotionally open and they don't back off or run away. That's a good sign!

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Posted by aquansidenout

I'm sorry for rambles; I feel like a young schoolgirl with a crush!

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Go for it! I've rambled all over the aqua board!

How is it Aqua's have that effect on grown women? lol!

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Posted by aquansidenout

I'm sorry for rambles; I feel like a young schoolgirl with a crush!

Go for it! I've rambled all over the aqua board!

How is it Aqua's have that effect on grown women? lol!

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Man, I dunno...

its a lovely feeling, though. 🙂

I have a Aqua man in my life, Known him for more than a year now. Even though I know he's distant, doesn't contact me for weeks sometimes 2 months max I still feel strongly drawn towards him. I know what he's like and have figured him out. But sometimes I just wonder what he thinks of me. There would be times where we have a phase where we are continuously chatting and messaging, meet up and after it's a disappearance act from him. Miss him??_ kinda missing him now 😢

I'm starting to think Aquas and Pisces are the two most complicated signs ever. We are either just too awesome or someone needs to beat us with a reality stick.

I'll just go with awesome.

I'll join in and describe my Aquarius for you. : ) A lot of the advice given here wouldn't really work for him and I. Even though he has a lot of air in his chart he also has a lot of water, I think his scorpio moon and pisces venus are pretty active in his personality. Oh, and cancer ascendent.

He is clingy! Can you imagine, a clingy Aquarius? When I went to visit him after some time apart, he would not stop holding my hand, touching me, hugging me, etc. I got pretty annoyed at that, but he was like 'I miss you', with a puppy dog face. He says he has trouble saying how he feels, yet he always expresses himself! Always the first one to say 'I love you' or 'you're the most important person in my life', etc. He was adverse to committment before, but now he has no shame in calling me by my full name...except with his last name substituted. Also, marriage talk! Gosh, I'm a pisces, I should be the one doing all of this, but it feels like he's more the pisces and I'm more the aquarius sometimes. He gets really upset if he says 'I love you' and I don't say it in my response. He also gets kind of sad when I don't express myself, too, or when I don't want to be cuddly. He does not want an independent woman, I'll tell you that!

He has told me that 'All the girls I have dated in the past were pretty stupid. I think I prefer that you're not', or something along the lines. I think he liked dating girls on the less intelligent side because he could manipulate them, but he can't do that with me. I do like to think I can mentally stimulate him. Haha.

We're both dominant people and try to make the decisions, etc, in a relationship, but he usually yields to me. However, his tongue is really sharp, so when it comes to some things (especially things relating directly to anything verbal, like me cutting him off, or saying something he disagrees with), I get brutally put in my place. He has aqua merc and gem mars. Words are his good point!

He also has never disappeared on me. Aquarians are apparently famous for their disappearing acts...but, I haven't seen it, yet. Even before we were dating, when he was interested in me, and I wasn't...I was the one doing the disappearing acts, which pisces are known for sometimes, too.

All in all, I'm kind of glad my aqua is how he is. I would hate him disappearing for long or him not expressing how he feels, etc.

Also, aquasnoz, all your comments and interest about pisces makes me happy! I am not so dissimilar to aquas, myself, so I like hearing about them in relation to one another, since it doesn't seem to happen very often.

🙂 much love scenic. Also caught your status too! Come on spill it! Which mmo do you play haha.

This is the first time I've heard of a clingy aqua too! I'll admit I don't really disappear but I do need time alone to clear my thoughts and in a way my way of separating whatever energies I'm feeling. I'm always a bit shocked to see people are claiming their aquas go cold for months at a time! I'm definitely an affectionate aqua though but I really can't help show it when I love something haha.

Too right about aquas and sharp words, ALL aquas I have met have a way with words that really stings.

The best way so far I can describe the relationship with my fishy is otherworldly and I'll leave it at that 😛 every time I tried to describe it I end up typing essays after essays.

I'm currently playing Aion, though I've probably tried every fantasy mmo under the sun! The farthest I've ever gotten was lvl 60 in Perfect World, and that's a big accomplishment for me! I usually get bored before lvl 30. Haha. That's my fault, though...pvp and working in groups scare me, and that's a major part of mmos, really.

Mhmm. I haven't known very many aquas, but the ones I have, honestly, don't seem like they'd go for the disappearing act. And yes, with the aquas I know, they love to throw verbal assaults around, even if they don't mean it as such. Though, my current aqua is the only one I've known who does it in a way that makes him seem intelligent and like the boss, rather than whiney and immature. Haha! I've known more aqua women to be verbally explosive or rough than men, however. The male aquas I know are quite silly, really!

Well my internet crack of choice is World of Warcraft! It's my fantasy land to retreat to haha!

What are your thoughts on how we think? I've been trying to work out the nature of pisces vs aqua too purely for myself. Do you find their thinking to be tiring no matter how intriguing it is? Do you think it's funny how aquas are able to understand things in such a complex manner YET still fixate on one solution?

Having a flexible mind, I prefer people who do, too. I like civil debating, yet everytime I try that with my aqua he sticks with his idea and makes me feel stupid for thinking mine....so I don't debate with him anymore. He is purely about facts where I'm about imagination and possibilities. One thing I admire is he says if I can prove him him his thinking is wrong, with facts and logic, he'll agree he's wrong. And he has. I have trouble admitting when I'm wrong. His life philosophy is 'it'll all work out'. Idk if that's an aqua thing or not, but I'm a big worrier...I need plans and proof it's going to work out...but he sits there and does nothing and expects it to work out in the end. Honestly, our communication is a rough area in our relationship and I just wish he'd be a little easier with the words!
Also, with the fixed part of it...he expects me to make promises about doing certain things, etc. and I hate making promises. My thinking and opinions change constantly and something I agree I want to do today may not even be that way in an hour. Yet he backs me into a corner until I say yes. He's so stagnant, and I'm always changing. It's comfortable and familiar, but a little aggravating as well. Though, in all honesty, being with fixed signs is probably really good because I never doubt them and they are less confusing. Me, I'm quite likely to decide all in a day that I want to leave, and end up packing my bags without any previous hints of wanting to do so.

I hope that slightly answered your question, at least.

what a lovely convo going on here. So relaxing. 🙂

Anyone want something to drink?

or something cold and a bit of a bite 🙂

Definitely would like a coffee! Been up all night thinking about this I tend to retreat and think when I get some bad news.

What you say ring true for me as well and that is the only reason I dislike debating with aquas that are very 'fixed', some are even so stubborn in thinking they're right they can start to convince me with their words that I was wrong and it makes me feel I should change my way of thinking. Thing is I may not show it because I stick to what I think but inwardly I start to reflect almost doubting my words, feels like my pride had been shattered.

It's interesting for me to see and hear about real interactions between the two signs because it resonates with what goes on in my head. I never found the word before but I think you said it quite nicely... being fixed is being stagnant.

I'll agree in saying I do believe things will work out because aqua is my core. The Pisces lying underneath can't seem to trust it because combined the possibilities are endless that I worry I'll never find a right solution let alone going about proving it. It's as if I need to believe it will otherwise I would just drown.

I think I asked this before but what do you think the attraction between the two signs are? Others can share what qualities Aquas have that attracts them 🙂 General thought and Personal thoughts lol.

There's a lot of physical attraction! Haha. But, also, he makes me feel very comfortable. The first time we talked he felt like an old friend. He makes me feel safe, too. Taking the lead where I'm uncomfortable. He's intelligent and masculine and I like that. : ) some of the things that attract me to him.

Posted by funkygal
Here are some things might keep Aquarius man interested:

1. play cool, being detached, aloof, don't give him too much attention (maybe not at all). But doesn't mean ignoring him. It's not cat-mouse game. It's more likely owner-cat game. (I'm sorry, I didn't mean to be unrespected). In this case, he'll be the owner, you'll be the cat. He doesn't like girls who give him too much attention like a puppy. All he wants is that when he wants to be or talk to you, he expects a cute, nice, interesting response from you (but still need to keep distance. Don't give out vibe that make he thinks you like him). And when he's busy with his own adventure, or lost in his thought, he doesn't want anyone bother or interrupt his own time. So, you better stay out of his way and enjoy your own time too (mean that you should not contact him at all).
If you are afraid of "out of sight, out of mind" by not talking to him for few days and don't see him contact you, or you miss him too much, you can make an excuse to drop him a message (don't ask how he's been or anything related to him). I'm sure that will remind him about you and he will start conversation and ask about your day.
- if he likes you, he always has a special spot for you. I'm sure he will always come back.
- if he doesn't like you, he's still friendly. but if you come too strong, he will cut you off by telling straight to your face that he's not interested.

2. be patience, be calm: as an Aries I'm pretty hot tempered. Fortunately, my Aquarius man is very patience, and understanding. When I got mad about something not reasonable, I always became more upset since he would not be there for me to be mad on (not because he didn't want to, he was busy with his own world). But i'm sure Aquarius man still notice that you're mad, even if you don't say anything. He will later ask you about it, and you will always get a logic explanation from him. If you're upset something about him (flirt too much,..), you should tell it straight to him. If he likes you, he won't let you suffer it again.

3. be friendly, be nice, be a good person to people around. Even if you're beautiful outside, that doesn't mean anything to an Aquarius if he sees you yelling or talking bad about other people. Don't fake it, you might trick him at first, but he will find out later and all you can get from him is cold-treatment

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^^^ daam didnt post properly lol..

*wow this really helps. Thank you for the breakdown 🙂

ok coffee it is for everyone. 🙂

This is such an old thread but I need some answers. I'm an Aries Lady "dealing" with an Aquarius man off and on for the the past 9 years (awful I know). We started out pretty casual because we were both involved in very complicated situations where we were "rebounding" from previous relationships, so our friendship was just that and really didn't have much expectations. We always vibe well when together, we seem to enjoy each others company but then things go silent and we drift apart again until one day he reaches out and we pick up where we left off. He demonstrates all of the aloof, disconnected and dis-attached characteristics of an Aquarius. At first this was kind of sexy and mysterious but now after so long it is frustrating! I am unsure about how he feels about me, what he is thinking etc. So after enjoying a romantic vacation together I just asked. His answer didn't settle me at all. He mentioned that he cares for me a lot and definitely has feelings for me but I just don't feel it. He has never pursued a committed relationship, claiming that he wants to be sure he gets it right and that his next is his last. (blah blah blah) He doesn't do a great job at consistently demonstrating how he feels because well he is an emotionless Aquarian that often performs disappearing acts. We agreed to work on getting to know each other deeper (because after 9 years he still isn't sure?) and strengthening our connection but I felt like that was a tactic to string me along. I just can't understand way. We are rarely physical due to me working out of state and only seeing him about twice a year. Even when we lived in the same city our interactions were inconsistent. I really like him and I'm curious about what we could be but I am so turned off by this aloof behavior. I have communicated to him that I no longer want to play whatever game it is we were playing and out of his unwillingness to "argue"( I called it communication), he took that as me not wanting to speak to him anymore. So now we're not talking, but I miss him. I feel ridiculous for even entertaining this situation for this long but I'm not sure what to do.

Should I Just move on and accept that this was likely just a situation of fun and convenience for him? Should I reach out to him and let him know how I feel again (in a I'm not trying to argue tone)? Or should I just continue the casual aloof situationship. :-/ (probably not that latter though)

Posted by IssaAriesLady87

This is such an old thread but I need some answers. I'm an Aries Lady "dealing" with an Aquarius man off and on for the the past 9 years (awful I know). We started out pretty casual because we were both involved in very complicated situations where we were "rebounding" from previous relationships, so our friendship was just that and really didn't have much expectations. We always vibe well when together, we seem to enjoy each others company but then things go silent and we drift apart again until one day he reaches out and we pick up where we left off. He demonstrates all of the aloof, disconnected and dis-attached characteristics of an Aquarius. At first this was kind of sexy and mysterious but now after so long it is frustrating! I am unsure about how he feels about me, what he is thinking etc. So after enjoying a romantic vacation together I just asked. His answer didn't settle me at all. He mentioned that he cares for me a lot and definitely has feelings for me but I just don't feel it. He has never pursued a committed relationship, claiming that he wants to be sure he gets it right and that his next is his last. (blah blah blah) He doesn't do a great job at consistently demonstrating how he feels because well he is an emotionless Aquarian that often performs disappearing acts. We agreed to work on getting to know each other deeper (because after 9 years he still isn't sure?) and strengthening our connection but I felt like that was a tactic to string me along. I just can't understand way. We are rarely physical due to me working out of state and only seeing him about twice a year. Even when we lived in the same city our interactions were inconsistent. I really like him and I'm curious about what we could be but I am so turned off by this aloof behavior. I have communicated to him that I no longer want to play whatever game it is we were playing and out of his unwillingness to "argue"( I called it communication), he took that as me not wanting to speak to him anymore. So now we're not talking, but I miss him. I feel ridiculous for even entertaining this situation for this long but I'm not sure what to do.

Should I Just move on and accept that this was likely just a situation of fun and convenience for him? Should I reach out to him and let him know how I feel again (in a I'm not trying to argue tone)? Or should I just continue the casual aloof situationship. :-/ (probably not that latter though)

9 years is a long time for someone to still be acting this way with you. Its time to set some boundaries, let him be and move on. If he wants to come back, let him know you want a relationship, if he isnt interested in that. Let him go before you waste anymore years.