ashley1734
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Aquarius Man
Aquarius guys in general don't play by any rules, dating or otherwise. They consider a girlfriend as a friend first and foremost, so who does the initiating is irrelevant to them. Do you only wait for your friends to contact you, or is it pretty much give and take?
If you want it, go get it. Particularly in the case of (most) aqua guys. They don't get turned off by that.
If you want it, go get it. Particularly in the case of (most) aqua guys. They don't get turned off by that.
Posted by sultrykittyI"m usually the initiator in romance AND friendships haha I can't help it! I'm impatient and I see no place for wasting time with games when I could be getting to know someone or having fun with them.
Aquarius guys in general don't play by any rules, dating or otherwise. They consider a girlfriend as a friend first and foremost, so who does the initiating is irrelevant to them. Do you only wait for your friends to contact you, or is it pretty much give and take?
If you want it, go get it. Particularly in the case of (most) aqua guys. They don't get turned off by that.
I just don't wanna waste my energy on him if he's been trying to make it clear he's not all that interested. Why ask me when I'm free if he's "booked." If you like someone, you make time for them...period. Just wasn't sure if Aquas play games or not.
Yeah, they do.
Posted by starwarsWhat the hell!
I HAD TO STOP READING BECAUSE
IVE GOT THE SAME COMMENT COMMING FROM AN AQUARIUS FRIEND SLASH CRUSH !
"I think you think I'm a lot cooler than I actually am..."
I haven't put any expectations on him or the situation, but that's almost how it seems he feels by saying that...like he thinks I think he's the king of the world and he could never fill the shoes. So strange, because it's not like I lavish him with compliments or anything remotely close to it.
Posted by starwarsMakes sense. I don't even know if I like him I just thought it was funny he turned my simple "excited to hangout" into that and then now is so slow to make plans.Posted by ashley1734I haven't shown any interest at that time either!Posted by starwarsWhat the hell!
I HAD TO STOP READING BECAUSE
IVE GOT THE SAME COMMENT COMMING FROM AN AQUARIUS FRIEND SLASH CRUSH !
"I think you think I'm a lot cooler than I actually am..."
I haven't put any expectations on him or the situation, but that's almost how it seems he feels by saying that...like he thinks I think he's the king of the world and he could never fill the shoes. So strange, because it's not like I lavish him with compliments or anything remotely close to it.
I don't think when they said that (the aqua im dealing with at least) he meant that I perceive him as cooler. It's more of "don't expect me to be this fun and flirty all the time, I got moods, don't lash on me once I show different behavior" I think they just don't want people to put expectations on them because that what ruin most of aquas relationships.
I've learnt to not think too much and analyze their words and just take it as it is. (which isn't proven by the deep analyzing ive just made^ )click to expand
Posted by ashley1734really? you have alot of aqua women in your life? I have NO gemini women in my life unless if you count my gemini step mother.
Just a sort of general question about Aquarius men...I have many Aquarius women in my life and the men seem to be similar, but I can't quite figure this one out.
We met years ago through mutual friends and were both in relationships, but hit it off well enough that I remembered him and when we came back in touch recently, we hit it off again although we have yet to hang out this time around. Anyway, I just got back from a trip and before I left he was very enthusiastic about seeing me and we made tentative plans to do something when I was back home. Well the day before I left we were texting and I said "I'm excited to hang out when I get back" and he said "I think you think I'm a lot cooler than I actually am..." it came across as insecure obviously, but why can't he just take the compliment?
Anyway, I got back yesterday and we were chatting and he was flirting pretty heavily so I just through it out there and said "soooo when are we gonna hangout?"
He asked when I was free and I said later in the week or this weekend, and he said "I'm pretty booked I'm so popular" and I said "ok no worries, another time then 🙂" and then he says "I might be able to late this week or next" and I just said "Ok, well have a good night 🙂" (I made sure to use happy faces so he knew I wasn't pissed or anything). And then he sends me a welcome back text this morning and I said "thank you!" and that was it.
Should I just sit back and let him come to me if he wants to hang or just take the cues he's giving that he's probably not going to put much effort in and toss his number altogether?
but we see her on holidays and birthdays ect. events.
well what's his placements, ashley??
Posted by ashley1734haha this is very true especially of myself. i know if some one sees my fun side that is pretty much all they will want and its almost impossible to for me sustain it for extended periods of time.Posted by starwarsMakes sense. I don't even know if I like him I just thought it was funny he turned my simple "excited to hangout" into that and then now is so slow to make plans.Posted by ashley1734I haven't shown any interest at that time either!Posted by starwarsWhat the hell!
I HAD TO STOP READING BECAUSE
IVE GOT THE SAME COMMENT COMMING FROM AN AQUARIUS FRIEND SLASH CRUSH !
"I think you think I'm a lot cooler than I actually am..."
I haven't put any expectations on him or the situation, but that's almost how it seems he feels by saying that...like he thinks I think he's the king of the world and he could never fill the shoes. So strange, because it's not like I lavish him with compliments or anything remotely close to it.
I don't think when they said that (the aqua im dealing with at least) he meant that I perceive him as cooler. It's more of "don't expect me to be this fun and flirty all the time, I got moods, don't lash on me once I show different behavior" I think they just don't want people to put expectations on them because that what ruin most of aquas relationships.
I've learnt to not think too much and analyze their words and just take it as it is. (which isn't proven by the deep analyzing ive just made^ )click to expand
our "bad" withdrawn and aloof side is hard to deal with and will push damn near anybody out of the door
aqua men have to believe you are like in love with them before they take you seriously
for me its the only way ive been able to date throughout my life. its strange to say but usually doesnt make sense to us why a woman would pursue a man that she did not consider her best dating option. we want someone we can consider a prize and want to be thought of that way as well
Posted by WaterBearererPosted by ashley1734haha this is very true especially of myself. i know if some one sees my fun side that is pretty much all they will want and its almost impossible to for me sustain it for extended periods of time.Posted by starwarsMakes sense. I don't even know if I like him I just thought it was funny he turned my simple "excited to hangout" into that and then now is so slow to make plans.Posted by ashley1734I haven't shown any interest at that time either!Posted by starwarsWhat the hell!
I HAD TO STOP READING BECAUSE
IVE GOT THE SAME COMMENT COMMING FROM AN AQUARIUS FRIEND SLASH CRUSH !
"I think you think I'm a lot cooler than I actually am..."
I haven't put any expectations on him or the situation, but that's almost how it seems he feels by saying that...like he thinks I think he's the king of the world and he could never fill the shoes. So strange, because it's not like I lavish him with compliments or anything remotely close to it.
I don't think when they said that (the aqua im dealing with at least) he meant that I perceive him as cooler. It's more of "don't expect me to be this fun and flirty all the time, I got moods, don't lash on me once I show different behavior" I think they just don't want people to put expectations on them because that what ruin most of aquas relationships.
I've learnt to not think too much and analyze their words and just take it as it is. (which isn't proven by the deep analyzing ive just made^ )
our "bad" withdrawn and aloof side is hard to deal with and will push damn near anybody out of the door
aqua men have to believe you are like in love with them before they take you seriously
for me its the only way ive been able to date throughout my life. its strange to say but usually doesnt make sense to us why a woman would pursue a man that she did not consider her best dating option. we want someone we can consider a prize and want to be thought of that way as wellclick to expand
That makes total sense actually. I just like to get to the whole "get to know you stuff" quickly so I can decide if it's a match or not. I hate all the lagging and game playing before that point. I just want to be like look dick head, let's have a drink and see if we ever want to see each other's stupid faces again. If not, we only wasted 45 minutes and no stupid cat and mouse text message games.
Posted by lisabethur8Is it odd for Gem and Aqua females to be friends? I do have a lot and my sister is one too and the relationships are very, very complex but important.Posted by ashley1734really? you have alot of aqua women in your life? I have NO gemini women in my life unless if you count my gemini step mother.
Just a sort of general question about Aquarius men...I have many Aquarius women in my life and the men seem to be similar, but I can't quite figure this one out.
We met years ago through mutual friends and were both in relationships, but hit it off well enough that I remembered him and when we came back in touch recently, we hit it off again although we have yet to hang out this time around. Anyway, I just got back from a trip and before I left he was very enthusiastic about seeing me and we made tentative plans to do something when I was back home. Well the day before I left we were texting and I said "I'm excited to hang out when I get back" and he said "I think you think I'm a lot cooler than I actually am..." it came across as insecure obviously, but why can't he just take the compliment?
Anyway, I got back yesterday and we were chatting and he was flirting pretty heavily so I just through it out there and said "soooo when are we gonna hangout?"
He asked when I was free and I said later in the week or this weekend, and he said "I'm pretty booked I'm so popular" and I said "ok no worries, another time then 🙂" and then he says "I might be able to late this week or next" and I just said "Ok, well have a good night 🙂" (I made sure to use happy faces so he knew I wasn't pissed or anything). And then he sends me a welcome back text this morning and I said "thank you!" and that was it.
but we see her on holidays and birthdays ect. events.
well what's his placements, ashley??click to expand
This Aqua guy has his moon in Taurus, cancer rising
Mercury in Capricorn Venus in Capricorn Jupiter in Capricorn Neptune in Capricorn
Uranus in Sag
Saturn, Mars, Pluto in Scorp
Posted by TwodrinksI agree with you. I have no problems initiating, in fact I probably do so more than I should.
I somewhat disagree. Other signs besides aquas have all downplayed their interest in me in the beginning. It's self protection and to test the waters. Not every man is going to go in guns blazing if he's not exactly sure of the womans interest in him and im actually kind of leary of men who do.
Im not in the camp that believes that men should do ALL of the legwork though so maybe Im different. It's a mutual effort. As long as he's not playing games or flaking on her, I don't see the problem. Being beautiful really has nothing to do with it. If she were ugly would you encourage her to settle?
Posted by flowingwaterI suppose that makes sense. I personally, make it clear upfront how much space/freedom I need so I don't have to worry about the other person getting confused or misunderstanding my actions.
I can be fun social a great time but once my aloofness dark side creeps up.. Most people leave or get super clingy. This not only makes it worse on me but I can't breathe and disregards the whole point of needing space for thoughts.
Compared to Scorpio, Aquas need a good amount of freedom.
He's very insecure but considers his own self worth and is balancing you in there as well, isn't getting to know people fun?
If I were you I'd slow down and play more into the friendship side more (genuinely) and stop putting pressure on him to perform as a lover or boyfriend and give him the chance to initiate it and take control, this may take as long as he's ready to lol
If I were you I'd slow down and play more into the friendship side more (genuinely) and stop putting pressure on him to perform as a lover or boyfriend and give him the chance to initiate it and take control, this may take as long as he's ready to lol
Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11Haha we are soooo in the early stages of getting to know each other. The only remotely sweet thing I've even said to him was that I was excited to hangout (or something to that affect). I can tell I'm not super interested, because I'm not initiating, but I'm still curious enough and attracted enough to want to see if there's a spark. It sort of feels like our automatic energy with each other was steering more toward friendship anyway (this is how it has gone with almost every Aquarius male I've encountered). It's like we are too similar in temperament for there to be sexual tension. It's so funny how patient I can be when I'm not super interested, but when I'm interested, I spend hours just overanalyzing everything the other person has said.
He's very insecure but considers his own self worth and is balancing you in there as well, isn't getting to know people fun?
If I were you I'd slow down and play more into the friendship side more (genuinely) and stop putting pressure on him to perform as a lover or boyfriend and give him the chance to initiate it and take control, this may take as long as he's ready to lol
I think I should definitely marry someone who likes me more than I like them initially haha (doesn't everyone's Grandma tell them to do that anyway?)
Posted by flowingwaterSlower than a Capricorn?
For an Aqua, you never move too slow. So get some popcorn ready because your going to be cruising through this one.
Funny, my BFF is an Aquarius and she was dating an Aquarius guy over the summer and they didn't even KISS until their 6th or 7th date. After every single date I would be like "wellllll—" and she would just giggle and say "not yet."
I don't do slow. I like to get the first kiss over with on the first or second date to see if there is any chemistry. Probably not a good match for an Aquarius.
It deoends on chemistry. I hung out with mine for 3 months with a group of people, never a touch or kiss was had during that time. The first night we were alone together we had sex.
Posted by flowingwaterI'm still getting over a Cap Sun/Aqua Moon.Posted by ashley1734Slower than a cap and slower than a Taurus. You're dealing with the least emotional sign. If you want to jump right into romance, hugs/cuddles, official relationship, etc. this is not the sign for you.Posted by flowingwaterSlower than a Capricorn?
For an Aqua, you never move too slow. So get some popcorn ready because your going to be cruising through this one.
Funny, my BFF is an Aquarius and she was dating an Aquarius guy over the summer and they didn't even KISS until their 6th or 7th date. After every single date I would be like "wellllll—" and she would just giggle and say "not yet."
I don't do slow. I like to get the first kiss over with on the first or second date to see if there is any chemistry. Probably not a good match for an Aquarius.
Those two Aquas understand the foundation on friendship because they know each other rules. That's why, no kiss.
There's this Capricorn sun Aqua moon man at my job. I know he likes me, I can tell but do I show it back? Not even close because I don't feel the same exactly. He's tried making moves on me first. Very subtle but obvious enough. I like to take things slow...click to expand
That was a headache.
Posted by flowingwaterCould be why there was so much drama and push/pull for so long with mine. He was constantly trying to put the brakes on and I wouldn't have any of that.
I hate to say this..
It's one of the reasons why I left the Virgo I was dating. Although it was sweet and fun, he was moving too fast for me. He couldn't stand the idea of being with me and "just being friends" first. I decided to go with the motion of the puppy love but my rationality kicked in eventually and it made me understand that how fast we were going wasn't stable. He made open parts of me I wasn't ready to expose.. To an Aquarius this is a big deal. You never force.
Fwb is different that's an agreement to fucq each other NSA. Starting a serious relationship, completely different we like to take our time.
Posted by sultrykittyIt's crazy how much of an impact each individuals pace has on the progression/death of a relationship.Posted by flowingwaterCould be why there was so much drama and push/pull for so long with mine. He was constantly trying to put the brakes on and I wouldn't have any of that.
I hate to say this..
It's one of the reasons why I left the Virgo I was dating. Although it was sweet and fun, he was moving too fast for me. He couldn't stand the idea of being with me and "just being friends" first. I decided to go with the motion of the puppy love but my rationality kicked in eventually and it made me understand that how fast we were going wasn't stable. He made open parts of me I wasn't ready to expose.. To an Aquarius this is a big deal. You never force.
Fwb is different that's an agreement to fucq each other NSA. Starting a serious relationship, completely different we like to take our time.
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Posted by flowingwaterOh girls, that's not even remotely how corny this guy gets haha. The rest of it is just lame jokes, but the two comments I posted were just confusing/irrelevant/immature, etc.Posted by KoniuchaHonestly, those two comments were really corny lol
That comment about being cooler would have annoyed me. I probably would have said, yeah, you're probably right.
And the being popular comment, I wouldn't even reply
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You should probably find out if he's actually booked.
I've been asked out left right and centre (by friends too mind you) and I always have to decline politely and make plans after.
And by after it could be several months down the track.
I've been asked out left right and centre (by friends too mind you) and I always have to decline politely and make plans after.
And by after it could be several months down the track.
Though I guess I'll throw this in here:
I suck at plans... I mean I really suck at planned things.
For anyone to grab my attention it has to be spontaneous, a decision made in that instant. So hey, feel free to catch him sometime after work or whenever and just hangout.
I suck at plans... I mean I really suck at planned things.
For anyone to grab my attention it has to be spontaneous, a decision made in that instant. So hey, feel free to catch him sometime after work or whenever and just hangout.
Posted by KoniuchaExactly. And he was the one perusing me from the get-go.
To me, you either want to hang out or not.
How old is he?
He's 31 I'm 30.
ashley my dear its too bad more leos don't think/act like you because there would likely be a decline in stressed aquamen. i digress
if you want something to happen then trash the usual approach, as someone else said you're basically handing him a hat that he may or may not want to be wearing.
the western style of dating with its many unspoken rules definitely feels like confinement and a put-on, so catch him in a good mood and let things proceed naturally. Once he gets the sense of you as a friend then inviting him out will become easier because the social pressure to be a date or act out a role with rigidity is gone.
Us dodging women is not out of spite or games, we are putting up walls because he may like you more than you perceive, but if we're feeling like shit (moody anyone?) then how could we possibly go out and give you a dose of downer making us worse off.
just be spontaneous and forget the usual modus operandi, you're both old/mature enough.
and bonus points for approaching, we love that shit. thats a quick way to lock us down
if you want something to happen then trash the usual approach, as someone else said you're basically handing him a hat that he may or may not want to be wearing.
the western style of dating with its many unspoken rules definitely feels like confinement and a put-on, so catch him in a good mood and let things proceed naturally. Once he gets the sense of you as a friend then inviting him out will become easier because the social pressure to be a date or act out a role with rigidity is gone.
Us dodging women is not out of spite or games, we are putting up walls because he may like you more than you perceive, but if we're feeling like shit (moody anyone?) then how could we possibly go out and give you a dose of downer making us worse off.
just be spontaneous and forget the usual modus operandi, you're both old/mature enough.
and bonus points for approaching, we love that shit. thats a quick way to lock us down
Posted by bhakti7But you can't resist us! 😉
ashley my dear its too bad more leos don't think/act like you because there would likely be a decline in stressed aquamen. i digress
Posted by bhakti7Great advice! I'll follow it and let you know how it goes.
ashley my dear its too bad more leos don't think/act like you because there would likely be a decline in stressed aquamen. i digress
if you want something to happen then trash the usual approach, as someone else said you're basically handing him a hat that he may or may not want to be wearing.
the western style of dating with its many unspoken rules definitely feels like confinement and a put-on, so catch him in a good mood and let things proceed naturally. Once he gets the sense of you as a friend then inviting him out will become easier because the social pressure to be a date or act out a role with rigidity is gone.
Us dodging women is not out of spite or games, we are putting up walls because he may like you more than you perceive, but if we're feeling like shit (moody anyone?) then how could we possibly go out and give you a dose of downer making us worse off.
just be spontaneous and forget the usual modus operandi, you're both old/mature enough.
and bonus points for approaching, we love that shit. thats a quick way to lock us down
OP i love your honesty & i would wanna be your friend in real life. Well aquas only play games to test out potential mates. For friends no games & bullshit its genuine most of the times.
Posted by AngmodurianHaha! I don't have the capability, time or memory to not be honest 🙂
OP i love your honesty & i would wanna be your friend in real life. Well aquas only play games to test out potential mates. For friends no games & bullshit its genuine most of the times.
Well funny enough, I started just treating this Aquarius as a friend and now he is SO attentive and locked me down for plans on Thursday and just this morning texted me "is it Thursday yet?"
Men are so silly I swear, but also they have to be some kind of alien because they can sense, even without a change in my temperament, that I am eye rolling them into another dimension, because once they feel that through the airwaves they start shaping RIGHT up.
I think ya"ll are taking that.comment way too seriously. It was just to hear a "I think youre one of the coolest guys Ive met" comment back. You probably wouldve had a date already had you said that.
Haha so we went on a date and although he was very sweet, overall I would call it a total disaster. He got SO drunk.
Nope.
Nope.
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We met years ago through mutual friends and were both in relationships, but hit it off well enough that I remembered him and when we came back in touch recently, we hit it off again although we have yet to hang out this time around. Anyway, I just got back from a trip and before I left he was very enthusiastic about seeing me and we made tentative plans to do something when I was back home. Well the day before I left we were texting and I said "I'm excited to hang out when I get back" and he said "I think you think I'm a lot cooler than I actually am..." it came across as insecure obviously, but why can't he just take the compliment?
Anyway, I got back yesterday and we were chatting and he was flirting pretty heavily so I just through it out there and said "soooo when are we gonna hangout?"
He asked when I was free and I said later in the week or this weekend, and he said "I'm pretty booked I'm so popular" and I said "ok no worries, another time then 🙂" and then he says "I might be able to late this week or next" and I just said "Ok, well have a good night 🙂" (I made sure to use happy faces so he knew I wasn't pissed or anything). And then he sends me a welcome back text this morning and I said "thank you!" and that was it.
Should I just sit back and let him come to me if he wants to hang or just take the cues he's giving that he's probably not going to put much effort in and toss his number altogether?