aquarius man confusing the heck out of cancer gal

we met 4 years ago when he introduced himself to me. chased me for a while. I dated him. he wanted sex only. I didn't give in. we fell apart. he contacted me couple months ago, chased me constantly again. we went out couple of times. he's hot. and I've had the best *** ever. every time I go to his place he is EXTREMELY SWEET and romantic, caring. plays music to me, reads poetry, tells me about his life, asks me about mine. and then I leave. and it's like I'm gone from his mind for ever. he hasn't contact me in almost 3 wks. and ahem... it's a while for me... should I dump him? is this normal aqua guy behavior? am I an idiot? lol. ok... be nice people. anyway. I've spilled my guts here. help.

Posted by janjun
we met 4 years ago when he introduced himself to me. chased me for a while. I dated him. he wanted sex only. I didn't give in. we fell apart. he contacted me couple months ago, chased me constantly again. we went out couple of times. he's hot. and I've had the best *** ever. every time I go to his place he is EXTREMELY SWEET and romantic, caring. plays music to me, reads poetry, tells me about his life, asks me about mine. and then I leave. and it's like I'm gone from his mind for ever. he hasn't contact me in almost 3 wks. and ahem... it's a while for me... should I dump him? is this normal aqua guy behavior? am I an idiot? lol. ok... be nice people. anyway. I've spilled my guts here. help.

My rule of thumb was two weeks with no contact and I moved on. You have to assume he's not interested. If here were interested, he wouldn't go that long without contacting you. I wouldn't make a show of "dumping" him, I'd just move on without addressing it.

From one Cancer to another, I just wanted to share my experience with you and give you some advice... I can't help but notice on this board how many Aqua/Cancer matches seem to get together. It is a very intense match, and one of my best friends who is an Aqua lady is married to a Cancer and had another previous relationship with a Cancer where she was very very happy as well and has been well cared for and fulfilled. But with the men I just don't think they suit us best. Iniaitelly, it's electric, it's magical, and that's mainly on a sexual and physical level I have never had anyone take me where he has..

Anyway, I'm just saying... As Cancer's we need emotional fulfillment to move forward and prolong our relationships and I've always heard don't talk about emotions or feelings with an Aquarius at least the men, they're not good with it. Another thing is the communication, which seems to have a block primarily in those areas. Not to mention they are so so indirect. Never answering a question directly, which often keeps and sends mixed messages thus making you waste time if he's not really interested. As a Cancer a cardinal sign we can't always just read between the lines and if we do we tend to take it the wrong way which can ruin everything altogether. I've just noticed these men very rarely so fully merge their lives with another or are really consistent. I've gone on other boards and many others are stating the same thing about the disappearance, or confusion, or elusiveness. Even the ones who are married to them aren't really happy with the union, at least from what I saw you get more of the same of what you're experiencing now.. It all has to happen on his terms, and his time. All I'm saying is don't waste any more time and move forward.. As Cancers yes we love we love hard and it's hard to let go, it might be awhile before you do but don't put it in any more effort into someone who's not putting effort and energy to you as later on you might feel resentment. The potential is out of this world but we also have to remember it's just potential. And no this is not a diss to Aquas, I love them they are one of my favorite signs. But I think we do better as friends. Very special friendship.

If you let it continue, he can be in and out of your life as he pleases for the next 10+ yrs or so until he decides to put a stop to it altogether.

We both express and show our love differently. I'm just not sure either sign can give each other what they need. And the one I dealt with was about 50 % air 50% water so I thought it was a good chance as I'm 50% water and about 25% fire dominant.