Clues that she is still interested or just nothing?

So, after 2 months of roller coasting, after she had showed me what she's like when she really likes someone (and it was amazing), after telling a lot of sweet romantic things, but a bit avoiding to see me, because I would melt her more, now (2 weeks ago) she changed almost completely!! I believe it has something to do with my stupid business trip with a girl that is into me, but also with her problem with commitment (she's been single more or less for 4-5 years - my aqua said that I'm the first one that she's thinking about as a potential relationship).

Sooo, from your're Aquas pov, are these signs that she's still interested:

- we chat daily over whatsapp.

- we talk over the phone casually (only when I call her, but I don't want to be pushy, so I don't call her often)

- I told her what I want from her and that I'm really into her, she knows exactly and wants to keep talking.

- I told her that I'll give her time and space to think whether she wants me or not. And waited for her reaction. It came and we still talk.

- we work together, but our jobs doesn't imply seeing each other at all, but we still see each other daily (usually I want to see her and she's ok with that).

- we kissed in the office elevator...

- doesn't want to go on a date, but I think she liked the idea, just that she is "lazy and not in the mood these days".

- she is still sweet with me at times, but not at all as much as she was before.

Her explanation for the last couple of weeks was that she has built up big walls around her, doesn't let anyone in, she has no feelings and that didn't happened before and doesn't really know whats wrong with her.

So, what do you make of this?

I'm like that when I'm trying to suss out a new guy just gradually make your moves don't hound her even don't message one day so she wonders where you are, I have massive walls built around my heart and they are going back up again as it's just been broken, I don't show emotion to the outside world even though I'm struggling inside, I would just take your time don't make it a date make a fun day out just as friends make her laugh etc friends is the way to bring down my walls because we don't trust easy my longest relationship was with a guy that treated me as a friend to begin with and we were best friends through out, hope that helps ?

Posted by Sarah_Smile34
Men love women that treat them like an option and consider this as a chase somehow. I guess it is more fun to feel like you earned her being in your life.

I don't think that's true at all, even though it seems to work that way.

The more I have to work/chase her the less I will appreciate her when I finally got her.

It's like a young boy who wants to have this special toy but his parents won't buy it. He starts crying, begging and working for it. But the more time goes by the less he feels excited about owning it. And one day his parents buys him that toy, when he didn't expect it - he feels excited for like 3 seconds and then realizes, he actually doesn't need it so badly anymore.

Posted by Sarah_Smile34
Men love women that treat them like an option and consider this as a chase somehow. I guess it is more fun to feel like you earned her being in your life.

I know right??

they seem to be masochists for women who don't want them.

well ...

let's be honest,

not all men.

there are men who really appreciate a woman who wants them back.

Posted by TheSag

Posted by Sarah_Smile34
Men love women that treat them like an option and consider this as a chase somehow. I guess it is more fun to feel like you earned her being in your life.

I don't think that's true at all, even though it seems to work that way.

The more I have to work/chase her the less I will appreciate her when I finally got her.

It's like a young kid who wants to have this special toy but his parents won't buy it. He starts crying, begging and working for it. But the more time goes by the less he feels excited about owning it. And one day his parents buys him that toy, when he didn't expect it - he feels excited for like 3 seconds and then realizes, he actually doesn't need it so badly anymore.

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sounds like you need some growing up.

women are not toys though.

Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by TheSag

Posted by Sarah_Smile34
Men love women that treat them like an option and consider this as a chase somehow. I guess it is more fun to feel like you earned her being in your life.

I don't think that's true at all, even though it seems to work that way.

The more I have to work/chase her the less I will appreciate her when I finally got her.

It's like a young kid who wants to have this special toy but his parents won't buy it. He starts crying, begging and working for it. But the more time goes by the less he feels excited about owning it. And one day his parents buys him that toy, when he didn't expect it - he feels excited for like 3 seconds and then realizes, he actually doesn't need it so badly anymore.

sounds like you need some growing up.

women are not toys though.

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lol

Seems like you don't accept reality

Posted by BAV
So, after 2 months of roller coasting, after she had showed me what she's like when she really likes someone (and it was amazing), after telling a lot of sweet romantic things, but a bit avoiding to see me, because I would melt her more, now (2 weeks ago) she changed almost completely!! I believe it has something to do with my stupid business trip with a girl that is into me, but also with her problem with commitment (she's been single more or less for 4-5 years - my aqua said that I'm the first one that she's thinking about as a potential relationship).

Sooo, from your're Aquas pov, are these signs that she's still interested:

- we chat daily over whatsapp.

- we talk over the phone casually (only when I call her, but I don't want to be pushy, so I don't call her often)

- I told her what I want from her and that I'm really into her, she knows exactly and wants to keep talking.

- I told her that I'll give her time and space to think whether she wants me or not. And waited for her reaction. It came and we still talk.

- we work together, but our jobs doesn't imply seeing each other at all, but we still see each other daily (usually I want to see her and she's ok with that).

- we kissed in the office elevator...

- doesn't want to go on a date, but I think she liked the idea, just that she is "lazy and not in the mood these days".

- she is still sweet with me at times, but not at all as much as she was before.

Her explanation for the last couple of weeks was that she has built up big walls around her, doesn't let anyone in, she has no feelings and that didn't happened before and doesn't really know whats wrong with her.

So, what do you make of this?

depends...what's her venus/mars??

if she's Aries venus, she's already chasing you back.

Aqua venus - stimulate her mind and make sure you are BIG in some way. I see some aqua venus like men who are popular. (like a leo popularity) their opposite.

-Cap venus - needs to see your bank account. (just kidding) but there's some thing about security and reliability.

Sag venus -- traveling and adventuring all good in her alley.

you got a horse in your backyard? even better.

I haven't gotten to the mars yet. lol

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Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by TheSag

Posted by Sarah_Smile34
Men love women that treat them like an option and consider this as a chase somehow. I guess it is more fun to feel like you earned her being in your life.

I don't think that's true at all, even though it seems to work that way.

The more I have to work/chase her the less I will appreciate her when I finally got her.

It's like a young kid who wants to have this special toy but his parents won't buy it. He starts crying, begging and working for it. But the more time goes by the less he feels excited about owning it. And one day his parents buys him that toy, when he didn't expect it - he feels excited for like 3 seconds and then realizes, he actually doesn't need it so badly anymore.

sounds like you need some growing up.

women are not toys though.

lol

Seems like you don't accept reality

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are you in a relationship right now—?

if you are in a serious committed relationship then I can see you with someone who is more Trophy wife.

cause how you get bored with someone and they are like a toy?

gross.

Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by BAV
So, after 2 months of roller coasting, after she had showed me what she's like when she really likes someone (and it was amazing), after telling a lot of sweet romantic things, but a bit avoiding to see me, because I would melt her more, now (2 weeks ago) she changed almost completely!! I believe it has something to do with my stupid business trip with a girl that is into me, but also with her problem with commitment (she's been single more or less for 4-5 years - my aqua said that I'm the first one that she's thinking about as a potential relationship).

Sooo, from your're Aquas pov, are these signs that she's still interested:

- we chat daily over whatsapp.

- we talk over the phone casually (only when I call her, but I don't want to be pushy, so I don't call her often)

- I told her what I want from her and that I'm really into her, she knows exactly and wants to keep talking.

- I told her that I'll give her time and space to think whether she wants me or not. And waited for her reaction. It came and we still talk.

- we work together, but our jobs doesn't imply seeing each other at all, but we still see each other daily (usually I want to see her and she's ok with that).

- we kissed in the office elevator...

- doesn't want to go on a date, but I think she liked the idea, just that she is "lazy and not in the mood these days".

- she is still sweet with me at times, but not at all as much as she was before.

Her explanation for the last couple of weeks was that she has built up big walls around her, doesn't let anyone in, she has no feelings and that didn't happened before and doesn't really know whats wrong with her.

So, what do you make of this?

depends...what's her venus/mars??

if she's Aries venus, she's already chasing you back.

Aqua venus - stimulate her mind and make sure you are BIG in some way. I see some aqua venus like men who are popular. (like a leo popularity) their opposite.

-Cap venus - needs to see your bank account. (just kidding) but there's some thing about security and reliability.

Sag venus -- traveling and adventuring all good in her alley.

you got a horse in your backyard? even better.

I haven't gotten to the mars yet. lol

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Her Venus is Cap and Mars is Aqua.

Veeery mixed signals from her side. Have not spoken for 1 day now.

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Posted by Sarah_Smile34
Men love women that treat them like an option and consider this as a chase somehow. I guess it is more fun to feel like you earned her being in your life.

I don't think that's true at all, even though it seems to work that way.

The more I have to work/chase her the less I will appreciate her when I finally got her.

It's like a young kid who wants to have this special toy but his parents won't buy it. He starts crying, begging and working for it. But the more time goes by the less he feels excited about owning it. And one day his parents buys him that toy, when he didn't expect it - he feels excited for like 3 seconds and then realizes, he actually doesn't need it so badly anymore.

sounds like you need some growing up.

women are not toys though.

lol

Seems like you don't accept reality

are you in a relationship right now—?

if you are in a serious committed relationship then I can see you with someone who is more Trophy wife.

cause how you get bored with someone and they are like a toy?

gross.

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I said chasing a woman won't satisfy anybody on a long term. Take it or leave it. 😉

@bav

I'm glad you still trying. I given up on my Taurus man. Breaks my heart. Anyway, you do need to some how have a sexual encounter like another Aqua stated. I think I stated this as well in another post. She doesn't want a fwb! Her walls were built because you went away with that chick trust me! She likes you because she wouldn't have kissed you!

Posted by BAV
So, after 2 months of roller coasting, after she had showed me what she's like when she really likes someone (and it was amazing), after telling a lot of sweet romantic things, but a bit avoiding to see me, because I would melt her more, now (2 weeks ago) she changed almost completely!! I believe it has something to do with my stupid business trip with a girl that is into me, but also with her problem with commitment (she's been single more or less for 4-5 years - my aqua said that I'm the first one that she's thinking about as a potential relationship).

Sooo, from your're Aquas pov, are these signs that she's still interested:

- we chat daily over whatsapp.

- we talk over the phone casually (only when I call her, but I don't want to be pushy, so I don't call her often)

- I told her what I want from her and that I'm really into her, she knows exactly and wants to keep talking.

- I told her that I'll give her time and space to think whether she wants me or not. And waited for her reaction. It came and we still talk.

- we work together, but our jobs doesn't imply seeing each other at all, but we still see each other daily (usually I want to see her and she's ok with that).

- we kissed in the office elevator...

- doesn't want to go on a date, but I think she liked the idea, just that she is "lazy and not in the mood these days".

- she is still sweet with me at times, but not at all as much as she was before.

Her explanation for the last couple of weeks was that she has built up big walls around her, doesn't let anyone in, she has no feelings and that didn't happened before and doesn't really know whats wrong with her.

So, what do you make of this?

Okay, I would be acting different too if you went on a business trip with someone you liked and haven't had sex with me yet. Seriously us aquas like bold men. You need to make more of an effort.

Posted by Himecanitbe

Posted by BAV
So, after 2 months of roller coasting, after she had showed me what she's like when she really likes someone (and it was amazing), after telling a lot of sweet romantic things, but a bit avoiding to see me, because I would melt her more, now (2 weeks ago) she changed almost completely!! I believe it has something to do with my stupid business trip with a girl that is into me, but also with her problem with commitment (she's been single more or less for 4-5 years - my aqua said that I'm the first one that she's thinking about as a potential relationship).

Sooo, from your're Aquas pov, are these signs that she's still interested:

- we chat daily over whatsapp.

- we talk over the phone casually (only when I call her, but I don't want to be pushy, so I don't call her often)

- I told her what I want from her and that I'm really into her, she knows exactly and wants to keep talking.

- I told her that I'll give her time and space to think whether she wants me or not. And waited for her reaction. It came and we still talk.

- we work together, but our jobs doesn't imply seeing each other at all, but we still see each other daily (usually I want to see her and she's ok with that).

- we kissed in the office elevator...

- doesn't want to go on a date, but I think she liked the idea, just that she is "lazy and not in the mood these days".

- she is still sweet with me at times, but not at all as much as she was before.

Her explanation for the last couple of weeks was that she has built up big walls around her, doesn't let anyone in, she has no feelings and that didn't happened before and doesn't really know whats wrong with her.

So, what do you make of this?

Okay, I would be acting different too if you went on a business trip with someone you liked and haven't had sex with me yet. Seriously us aquas like bold men. You need to make more of an effort.

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We had sex 2 months ago one full night 🙂)) she agreed more that me that it was fantastic lol.. And she kicked me out of her place at 4 in the morning because she "can't sleep with someone"

A month ago she wanted me to just sleep together, but no actual sex, because "she was not ready", just some kinky stuff 🙂)) Said it was the first time in years that she actually just sleeps with someone.

what do you like about her so much? been trying to pin down my taurus dude for months. he's such a pain in the ass.

Posted by 4ever_confused
what do you like about her so much? been trying to pin down my taurus dude for months. he's such a pain in the ass.

Except the looks, her independence, her strange way of being, her directness. Also, she knows all the right words at the exact time.. We have a good mental connection. We could chat for hours and not get bored.

She's been trying to pin me down during the entire summer and September. I finally "saw" her in October, after spending a few hours in the car, just chatting. At that moment I think we both clicked. And its been a fucking roller coaster ever since... Right now its the other way around, me chasing her for the past 2-3 weeks.

Posted by BAV

Posted by Himecanitbe

Posted by BAV
So, after 2 months of roller coasting, after she had showed me what she's like when she really likes someone (and it was amazing), after telling a lot of sweet romantic things, but a bit avoiding to see me, because I would melt her more, now (2 weeks ago) she changed almost completely!! I believe it has something to do with my stupid business trip with a girl that is into me, but also with her problem with commitment (she's been single more or less for 4-5 years - my aqua said that I'm the first one that she's thinking about as a potential relationship).

Sooo, from your're Aquas pov, are these signs that she's still interested:

- we chat daily over whatsapp.

- we talk over the phone casually (only when I call her, but I don't want to be pushy, so I don't call her often)

- I told her what I want from her and that I'm really into her, she knows exactly and wants to keep talking.

- I told her that I'll give her time and space to think whether she wants me or not. And waited for her reaction. It came and we still talk.

- we work together, but our jobs doesn't imply seeing each other at all, but we still see each other daily (usually I want to see her and she's ok with that).

- we kissed in the office elevator...

- doesn't want to go on a date, but I think she liked the idea, just that she is "lazy and not in the mood these days".

- she is still sweet with me at times, but not at all as much as she was before.

Her explanation for the last couple of weeks was that she has built up big walls around her, doesn't let anyone in, she has no feelings and that didn't happened before and doesn't really know whats wrong with her.

So, what do you make of this?

Okay, I would be acting different too if you went on a business trip with someone you liked and haven't had sex with me yet. Seriously us aquas like bold men. You need to make more of an effort.

We had sex 2 months ago one full night 🙂)) she agreed more that me that it was fantastic lol.. And she kicked me out of her place at 4 in the morning because she "can't sleep with someone"

A month ago she wanted me to just sleep together, but no actual sex, because "she was not ready", just some kinky stuff 🙂)) Said it was the first time in years that she actually just sleeps with someone.

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I know that might sound bad but it's really good!!! It means that she really cares about you and you're not just a Fwb.

I think I have the answer to my question in this topic... after this evening and also from the last days... but she is weird as hell 🙂))) In the movie 'the accountant' the father of that autistic kid asks a doctor if his son will ever be normal. The doc's answer: 'Define normal'....

So, anyway, on nye she texted me 'happy new year love" and on the phone told me that she wants to spend the first day of the year with me... that didn't happened, cos she ran away, telling me that deep down she wants that, but she is not ready.

next day, almost completely silent. Then came today, when I was in her office and she had to leave to meet her fwb... I got pissed, obviously, and she tried to explain herself after. So we just texted all day, for like 10 hours.. and in the end she snapped and said that she misses me a lot and couldn't hide that anymore. And we were like 1 month ago, deeply inlove lol. Said she wants to spend next weekend together.

At some point I told her that I know she really likes me. 'its more than just like you' she said.....'we have a deep mental and soul connection' - her words...

but we agreed that she will ran away ... again... and the come back again... and I will wait for her until she will be ok with her commitment issues.

Posted by aquanib
Youre an option. As soon as excuses why not go on a date appear.....you should know you are not primary.

I wouldnt pick you. At all. Sry bro, but showing commitment/seriousness like you showed with that vacation....ayyyyyyy, who'd take you?

I just read she had to leave to meet fwb. Dude......cut your losses.

actually... that fwb, is an ex fwb, from what I figured, just friends now and some other obligations thats keeping her attached to the guy.

Probably this is going to be my last post here, but I think that other readers might find this revealing...

Its over for me and the Aqua.

Last week, out of the blue she tells me that she misses me, she misses us and that what we have is more than "just like" and I make her her great and give her a warm feeling inside her. That she is running away from me because otherwise she would "stick with me and not go away". Hey, where the problem in that? "No problem, not at all".....

Next days the same thing goes: she misses me all the time, we are perfect together, she "doesn't know what to do with/without me". Sends me hints that she loves me etc etc. Then, again, she backs away for the weekend, after we decided that we will spend it together. Saturday evening we made clear plans to go shopping on Sunday morning. After 1h she texts me that she needs her time off....

Tuesday, this Tuesday, she says that she is "running away because everything its too good with me"!!! WTF??!! Next day, we both had to go on business trips, mine in Paris, hers in Brussels (my flight was 3h earlier then hers). She came to the airport, a few hours before her flight, JUST to stay with me. And we stayed together for a couple of hours and was amazing, we kissed all the time and kept telling me that she feels great with me. When I was on the plane she texted me that its incredible with me, its almost unreal, like a dream etc etc.

Yesterday, I wanted to surprise her, I went to Brussels in the evening just to have lunch with her, and maybe spend the night with her. I texted her when I was in Uber, to get dressed coz we are going out. Her reply: No!

It was a ferm No, I called her, didn't even bother to come downstairs from her room. She said that I should know by now that she is not like that, and and if she was with someone else? But said she was not. And that maybe she shouldn't have said those nice things to me etc etc. A couple of hours after, she texts me: "Those moments together were an exception, you felt my distance in the meantime. I will back away for a longer period and you will detach yourself more and more. After this we can talk again and be friends. Its the best way. You are not ok with me like this. I have told you that I have walls around me and my single woman world. I will ran away, its best now. Although is late now."

What do you think about this?

I will stop everything, get her out of my system and move on. Words without actions are meaningless...

Posted by aquanib
Lol.....do you know of that picture where a charioteer dangles a carrot in front of the donkeys nose?

Thats what this is. She was trolling you hard style . Probably setting you up with the high so that she can hit you with the low later.

That said, if this is what it took for her to even the playing field with you, then you might still have a shot. But i doubt it.

Why the hell would she need to Even the playing field with me? Or you mean she got scared from the feelings and wants me more detached? Thats an ugly way of showing...

I talked to a very experienced Aqua lady... she said that it was very stupid of me that I went to Brussels to surprise her, in this moment. And that she would have done the same thing, not wanting to come and see me.

But she said that I really should stop everything and see what will happen next.

What do you aquas think? Did I really scared her off or she was just playing?? I mean, wtf... how can you play for months and say hundreds of nice and sweet things and meet me like we are perfect for each other?

Who does that? Except for a sentimentally unstable being...

Doesn't matter anyway.. its bullshit