Confused...aqua man/Virgo girl

So it's my first post. I've read so many posts in Virgo and Aquarius forums...but still feeling lost about the intentions/feelings an aqua may or may not have for me. I hope y'all can help a gal out.

He's Feb 11 & I'm Aug 29. We've been buds for almost 1yr. Which is when I started working at my job. Our friendship has grown to the point I think we are like best buds...at least to me. So over the past few months it seems like "buds" has turn into attraction for one another but neither is making a move. It started with casual conversations, then 15 min walks, then invites to lunch w/the guys (me the only girl), then to walks in the am & pm. We always talk about whatever but hardly ever about work. We have very intellectual conversations about anything & we joke about everything. More recently talks have moved to general relationship chit chats and now not so "PC" talks (like sex & male/female differences). Through all of this slowly he has invaded my personal space getting closer & closer. I've become more & more accepting of it because its him (and I like him). We've never kissed but on several occasions now he's hugged me. The first because my dog died (acceptable reason) and now almost weekly (that's what started making me go "hmmm"). When I don't go walking or to lunch it seems like he craves more attention. Then he changed his lunch schedule with "the boys" to be just he & I one day a week. Also on our walks I noticed he tends to be more touchy, like "accidentally" hitting my hand or bumping into me. I'm not going to play that I don't like it cuz I do...I am attracted to him. During the day, besides walks & lunches, he frequents my desk...often, sometime 4 or 5 times. Always joking or asking me miscellaneous questions (personal). Now, the Virgo analytical side of my brain is in full effect wondering "what is he doing"? Then he went on va-cay but before he left he left me a copy of his full iTunes playlist and his 2wk travel itinerary. He knows I love music & I thought it was funny how he left me a detailed list of where he would be the entire 2wks. No word from him the whole time until the last part of his trip which was the drive home. I did miss him big time but I can't tell if he missed me or not. Plus I had 2wks to analyze the playlist he left me. He came back & all is as it was b4 he left. Plus I put my specially selected iTunes playlist on his jump drive. As of now (2wks since he got back) he hasn't said a word about my playlist although I've

As of now (2wks since he got back) he hasn't said a word about my playlist although I've mentioned several times to him that I liked his. Then he asked me to dinner after work at the last minute and I went. He hugged me twice when leaving to go home. No kiss.

Additional details is I'm in a casual dating relationship with someone (nothing serious & no sex). I believe his relationship is the same. And he has a son he has custody off. I'm in my 30's & he's in his 40m's.

Every time I think he has the hots for me he seems to play the "friend" role like he knows I know. So I back off. Then he comes back stronger only to do the same thing. What the heck is going on?? Am I over thinking? Does he want? Help!! I know this is long winded but I wanted to put as much out there as I could. I need your thoughts & advice. What do I do?

Can't someone help this poor girl out— Please

Yes, we are both aware we are dating. The person I've dating is just a casual dinner here and there. Again not serious. His, from what he says is the same. We even talk about our dates. He only sees her every few weeks. I'm really not sure what to do or what he is doing. Thoughts?

I'm just a tad nervous about making the first move. I may just stop dating and see what happens. He just gives mixed signals. I don't want to run him off by making the move as I value our friendship very much and would hate to loose that. But at the same time it's been a year and we "just hug".

Try this... Tell him you are liking the hugs you both share and it feels like you are beginning to love him - in a joking manner then observe his reaction... (drum roll please...)

Anyways... When I was confused by my aqua, I asked him if he loves me then he was lost for words so I distance myself. he has Venus in Cap, mines Venus in Virgo and it both sucks lol!
If you can't make the first move (suffer in silence hahaha! ) then just let things go as it is, stop yourself from over analyzing everything. Just enjoy every moment you spend with him and see where it goes but I think he likes you... Well aquas males are known for that...

*we're a couple now and I couldn't ask for anything but my aqua... He was so perfect for me 😉

Thanks all. I will try and be bold. Thursday is my bday & a bunch of us are going out after work. I might make my move then...I know he'll hung me goodnight. That will be my in...

Hmmm he's a touchy feely guy. That's a nice one you got there. When they want to just be all over you. LOL

Sounds like you are doing whatever it is right. And he likes you for you.

He is touchy..and on his terms lol. I think I'm a challenge to him & I'm not in face..he comes to me. Plus I let do the majority of the talking...you know aquas can talk about anything. It's really funny to me.

Feby...I just might! That would shock him for sure! Hehehe

PS: today he started calling me sunshine...like 8 times!

Until he tells you he's single and asks you out, you're best bet is to cool off the contact and do your own thing. He's got a GF. That should mean back off. I'm not trying to be mean here but there's another woman in the picture and you wouldn't like it if you were that woman. See, this is the problem with getting too close to men as friends. Good fences make good neighbors. I get that you REALLY like this guy. But waiting in the wings for him to ditch his GF is kind of creepy. Back off. If he likes you, he can ask you out. He's not asking you out b/c there's still the GF in the picture and he likes having you waiting in the wings. See, if he really REALLY dug you, he would have ditched the girl and busted a move. Most people who wait in the wings, wait in vain.

Posted by Este8
Until he tells you he's single and asks you out, you're best bet is to cool off the contact and do your own thing. He's got a GF. That should mean back off. I'm not trying to be mean here but there's another woman in the picture and you wouldn't like it if you were that woman. See, this is the problem with getting too close to men as friends. Good fences make good neighbors. I get that you REALLY like this guy. But waiting in the wings for him to ditch his GF is kind of creepy. Back off. If he likes you, he can ask you out. He's not asking you out b/c there's still the GF in the picture and he likes having you waiting in the wings. See, if he really REALLY dug you, he would have ditched the girl and busted a move. Most people who wait in the wings, wait in vain.

Hmmm why do I feel like posting this?

He may very well just be a friend or he might want more. God who knows... I know I do this too and I dislike it but the romantic and friendship feeling comes hand in hand and your description of the said events seems to echo my own experience with my very cool virgal friend.

Thing is I just wasn't sure at the time, but that didn't really stop me from exhibiting romantic gestures. In a way it was almost to test the waters see if they bite, as bad as that sounds... sort of fishing for that response from them and if too much time has elapsed I'd make the move.

He's definitely interested in you. If you're not the type to ask or assert these questions directly back at him then you'll just have to wait and see.

Also just to add...

maybe just irking me a bit is the idea of having someone waiting... I don't think any part of what BeautifulVirgo said suggested the girl he's currently seeing is his girlfriend.

I too have a daughter and jumping into relationships isn't what I do though the idea of being a highschool kid and falling in love all over is enticing. Being picky about a partner and making sure no longer only applies to my own selfish needs but to my child as well.

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Posted by Este8
Until he tells you he's single and asks you out, you're best bet is to cool off the contact and do your own thing. He's got a GF. That should mean back off. I'm not trying to be mean here but there's another woman in the picture and you wouldn't like it if you were that woman. See, this is the problem with getting too close to men as friends. Good fences make good neighbors. I get that you REALLY like this guy. But waiting in the wings for him to ditch his GF is kind of creepy. Back off. If he likes you, he can ask you out. He's not asking you out b/c there's still the GF in the picture and he likes having you waiting in the wings. See, if he really REALLY dug you, he would have ditched the girl and busted a move. Most people who wait in the wings, wait in vain.

Hmmm why do I feel like posting this?

Hey, I love that song! Just fyi, I don't think she's a creep for waiting in the wings. I just think waiting in the wings turns you into the guy in that song. And most of the time, you end up alone. Or you date for a spell and then break up. Like 90% + of the time. Bottom line and this is a hard one for women to hear: if a guy really likes you, he busts the move.

I actually like that "bust a move" song. it's catchy!

But I agree. They will chase you, hunt you down if they want you.

Thank you to all of you for your comments and words to the wise. I appreciate you taking the time.

I'm not "waiting in the wings", I just want the right man and if he's it then the growth of friendship that leads to a long term relationship is worth nurturing. I'll know when enough is enough and to move along.

Tonight in our talks we both confirmed that the people we where going on dates with are over. I'm thinking in the coming weeks I should know if he wants to be with me. His actions have always spoken louder than his words. In the mean time if hugs that last more than two seconds, and have real meaning behind them, is where we are at I'll take it and enjoy every moment we share together. He's a wonderful person and father. I feel blessed just to be the person he wants to be around.

Again thank you.