Do Aqua cope with long distance?

How do you guys relate to being in a long distance relationship

We talk everyday all day and for over 4 hours. Last night I told him I'm going out. I forgot my phone on the charger. came back around 4am and he's waiting outside my flat asleep in his car. I thought something was wrong and he wakes up mad asks me why u wasn't picking up his calls. we got inside my place I go to the charger I find flippen 27 CALLS! !!!! I asked him what's up the real problem he's like he's not coping with the distance. He is scared to ask but he's thinking I quit my job and move back home.

I haven't said anything we just woke up and I'm scared I'm a destruction to him. I'm coping fine since we communicate and I know 2 weeks won't pass without us seeing each other. I'm just trying to understand his mind

Please share your experience. How long with the Aqua guy?

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Posted by SmartOnTheRocks
We talk everyday all day and for over 4 hours. Last night I told him I'm going out. I forgot my phone on the charger. came back around 4am and he's waiting outside my flat asleep in his car. I thought something was wrong and he wakes up mad asks me why u wasn't picking up his calls. we got inside my place I go to the charger I find flippen 27 CALLS! !!!! I asked him what's up the real problem he's like he's not coping with the distance. He is scared to ask but he's thinking I quit my job and move back home.

I haven't said anything we just woke up and I'm scared I'm a destruction to him. I'm coping fine since we communicate and I know 2 weeks won't pass without us seeing each other. I'm just trying to understand his mind

Distance is tough stuff, man. You should talk about future goals and figure out a compromise in order to deal with the distance.

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We planning for a wedding soon. sometime this year I just need to find a date that won't stress us because his baby mama is due in September. At this rate he wants me to be a house wife. I just didn't know that he would bring it up now when I just moved into my new job.

I made a joke that since the baby mama is unemployed why doesn't he make her a house wife I will be the mistress. The killer look I got. He said that most probably she fell pregnant because he always said he's going to give his wife the world and she won't have to ever work again. I said it takes 2 tango he came in her he should also had made sure she drank the bloody morning afters. The killer look I got again. .. Me and my big mouth. .. chuckles

Posted by SmartOnTheRocks
We talk everyday all day and for over 4 hours. Last night I told him I'm going out. I forgot my phone on the charger. came back around 4am and he's waiting outside my flat asleep in his car. I thought something was wrong and he wakes up mad asks me why u wasn't picking up his calls. we got inside my place I go to the charger I find flippen 27 CALLS! !!!! I asked him what's up the real problem he's like he's not coping with the distance. He is scared to ask but he's thinking I quit my job and move back home.

I haven't said anything we just woke up and I'm scared I'm a destruction to him. I'm coping fine since we communicate and I know 2 weeks won't pass without us seeing each other. I'm just trying to understand his mind

Sounds obsessive and controlling.

He is less the controlling part. He always asks for my opinion and never makes a decision without me unless he drives 4 hours and sleeps outside my place. .. I somehow love it. The obsessive part. different strokes for different people but he's perfect for me

Hi my ex gf was aqua and I am gemini. It was really difficult. Plus she was cold and would take hours to respond. Would really kill me. She was different person in real though really funny goofy but always interesting . Infact I sometimes miss her.

yah they do get cold over the phone. I just make sure I make him feel wanted all the time. .. a phone call can't end without laughter or horniness kikikikiki

Posted by SmartOnTheRocks
He is less the controlling part. He always asks for my opinion and never makes a decision without me unless he drives 4 hours and sleeps outside my place. .. I somehow love it. The obsessive part. different strokes for different people but he's perfect for me

Seems like a lack of trust...thus the obsession. Be careful. That kind of obsession leads to controlling behavior. (He's already trying to dictate your career).

27 calls. Ridiculous.
Sleeping outside your apartment. Ridiculous.

I'd suggest you allow much more time to rule out any type of controlling/abusive behavior before you jump into marriage with him.

If you enjoy a relationship where he has his thumb on you, that's your prerogative. It definitely wouldn't be for me. I need a little more freedom in my relationships. You are right, though, different strokes for different folks.

I'm glad you're happy with it.

Thanks my angel. We actually had a heart to heart a few minutes ago and I raised those points. I told him I also think we should get married after he gets a grip on fatherhood because marriage is another different ball game on its own. He disagreed but is thoughtful of my views by I told him in definitely not planning on leaving my job or having another child in the next 3 years...

Also he said he didn't mean to fall for me. 1st week he just wanted to see if I will break down my walls but he noticed I had no walls to break it was just who I was. That's when he fell. .. Oh well. I'm just chilled

Um lessee...

an hour or 2 of phone calls

4-5 texts a day

maybe some Facebook liking

and phone sex.

And I pretty much feel like I'm in a relationship.

Whether or not that floats anyone else.....

Posted by Gennie
Um lessee...

an hour or 2 of phone calls

4-5 texts a day

maybe some Facebook liking

and phone sex.

And I pretty much feel like I'm in a relationship.

Whether or not that floats anyone else.....

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Posted by Gennie
Um lessee...

an hour or 2 of phone calls

4-5 texts a day

maybe some Facebook liking

and phone sex.

And I pretty much feel like I'm in a relationship.

Whether or not that floats anyone else.....

Exactly, same here. Finally someone understands and gets this concept.

Posted by Gennie
Um lessee...

an hour or 2 of phone calls

4-5 texts a day

maybe some Facebook liking

and phone sex.

And I pretty much feel like I'm in a relationship.

Whether or not that floats anyone else.....

I want to like this post 1000 times 2... wow exactly. honestly that's me. We speak for long and I ALWAYS tease him and tell him how much I want him. hence I'm okay with the distance. But I got you. ..

Posted by aquanib
It would have to be one epic prospect at the whole nine yards for me to suffer through a long distance relationship.

Not that i couldn't, just don't see the point when it's only at bf/gf stage. Especially if both meet up like online....and then decide , we'll have a relationship. Ya, sign me out of that please.

Just looking for an opinion here.

What if you both discuss the details first and come to an agreement.

Like for instance, she says that since she knows that she can't meet your physical needs for the time being, she is Ok with you getting them taken care of somewhere else by another woman, as long as you stay emotionally connected to her?
While at the same time, you're helping her mentally in that way since she doesn't want to be physical with anyone else but you, and she stays devoted to only you?

Does that type of situation change your viewpoint on that at all?

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Well, i saw it 😄

Ummm, that's quite a lot of variables to work out lmao. I have never been in such a situation, so idk....really depends on what kind of person he is.
Maybe nothing will come of it or maybe somewhere down the road he would ask for a threesome out of the blue and feel puzzled when you get mad at him suggesting it.

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You are funny, 🙂 Well, Ok I'll unhide it then.

Thank you for answering me Aquanib.

What is your Venus sign, if I may ask?

I'm just curious on a guy's point of view in that type of situation, I'm not in one myself.

I'm so excited. We had a heart to heart AGAIN today because I was emotionally unavailable. I missed my son and he thought it had to do with him. so he opened up that he's worst fear is me saying it's over between us. I told him it's not over I love him to much to take advantage of his love for me. He then said he can't contain his excitement but he wanted it to be a surprise but he's officially opening his business to where I moved. It has been approved and he's been planning it ever since I told him im moving. so from July we will be together all the time like the siamese twins that we are.

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Posted by NostalgicCappy
What if you both discuss the details first and come to an agreement.

Like for instance, she says that since she knows that she can't meet your physical needs for the time being, she is Ok with you getting them taken care of somewhere else by another woman, as long as you stay emotionally connected to her?
While at the same time, you're helping her mentally in that way since she doesn't want to be physical with anyone else but you, and she stays devoted to only you?

Does that type of situation change your viewpoint on that at all?

Took another look at this, i was going from memory when i was commenting before.

Such a weird hypothetical situation, i kept reading it, like i don't get it..........

If the guy loves you (metaphorically), unless you are a total prude or the guy is a total wackjob in regards to sexual desires most of everything can be arranged, talked over, idk.....asking for trouble is my opinion on the situation described above.

Venus aqua, though idk, i'm perhaps not the stereotypical, am more conservative in how i perceive relationships idk, at sex i can be promiscuous af but if i am in love i do not feel particularly keen on open relationships, wife swaps and alike.
More of "what's mine is mine and noone else has any business there" guy. 😄 Ask some other aquarius for a larger opinion sample. Gut instinct tells me not many would be really pleased with above.

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Perhaps I communicated incorrectly. I am the same as you, in "what's mine is mine and no one else has any business there" I do not like the thought of open relationships at all.

However, my scenario is in regards to a LDR, where the woman can not be there physically for the time being, so because she Loves her guy so much and unconditionally she wants him to be happy. So, therefore putting him and his happiness first before her own and making herself Ok with the fact that he will be with other women physically. Of course as long as it was talked about and agreed upon, and he kept it to himself after that. Basically like out of sight out of mind, and he would be dedicated to her in every other way..

But, she would be dedicated to ONLY him in every way including physically. It would not be an open relationship in that sense.

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Posted by NostalgicCappy Perhaps I communicated incorrectly. I am the same as you, in "what's mine is mine and no one else has any business there" I do not like the thought of open relationships at all.

However, my scenario is in regards to a LDR, where the woman can not be there physically for the time being, so because she Loves her guy so much and unconditionally she wants him to be happy. So, therefore putting him and his happiness first before her own and making herself Ok with the fact that he will be with other women physically. Of course as long as it was talked about and agreed upon, and he kept it to himself after that. Basically like out of sight out of mind, and he would be dedicated to her in every other way..

But, she would be dedicated to ONLY him in every way including physically. It would not be an open relationship in that sense.

I understood it the first time okay then 😄

I still don't get it though, the reasoning behind. It is only inviting trouble as out of sight out of mind is...... problems. Idk i feel some sort of relationship strengthening would be needed every two or three months in some location halfway between the two people.
Either that or mad love before separation for foundation Both together work best. 😄

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Ok. Thank you for answering. 🙂

Posted by Gennie
Um lessee...

an hour or 2 of phone calls

4-5 texts a day

maybe some Facebook liking

and phone sex.

And I pretty much feel like I'm in a relationship.

Whether or not that floats anyone else.....

Such a great advice

Posted by Ladyaqua
I was in one with a Taurus. We talked all the time but I was definitely busy with my own life, so it wasn't ever enough for him.

You need to have a plan or timeline on when the long distance will end or you won't have anything to look forward to.

How long? Taurus are the worst in these situations....

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Posted by NostalgicCappy Perhaps I communicated incorrectly. I am the same as you, in "what's mine is mine and no one else has any business there" I do not like the thought of open relationships at all.

However, my scenario is in regards to a LDR, where the woman can not be there physically for the time being, so because she Loves her guy so much and unconditionally she wants him to be happy. So, therefore putting him and his happiness first before her own and making herself Ok with the fact that he will be with other women physically. Of course as long as it was talked about and agreed upon, and he kept it to himself after that. Basically like out of sight out of mind, and he would be dedicated to her in every other way..

But, she would be dedicated to ONLY him in every way including physically. It would not be an open relationship in that sense.

I understood it the first time okay then 😄

I still don't get it though, the reasoning behind. It is only inviting trouble as out of sight out of mind is...... problems. Idk i feel some sort of relationship strengthening would be needed every two or three months in some location halfway between the two people.
Either that or mad love before separation for foundation Both together work best. 😄

Ok. Thank you for answering. 🙂

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Oh wow. . Some insight though. .. But overall it is trouble you just gave the guy power over you because mentally if you agree to such based on unconditional love he will automatically just master cheating and make sure you just never find out about it.

@Tiziani

Sorry, message got cut. In response to your comment,

I think when it comes to Love, we need to be more open minded and try different things to make it work. That is, if we feel the person and situation is worth it.

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Posted by NostalgicCappy
@Tiziani

Sorry, message got cut. In response to your comment,

I think when it comes to Love, we need to be more open minded and try different things to make it work. That is, if we feel the person and situation is worth it.

Definitely. I can't personally relate to what you've written because I've never lived that side of it like that, but it just struck me as a post with a lot of character to it. I don't know if it's your relationship or someone else's but good luck to both people involved.

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Thank you Tiziani. I really appreciate that, as well as you sharing your opinion with me.

It was basically an after thought, and looking for a man's opinion.

Edited- too much vulnerability was showing.

Aqua Venus here as well. I actually did think about what you said @NostalgicCappy and initially I was like, if they agree to it, it's none of my business, I've never walked that walk.

But then something occurred to me. In that kind of arrangement you invite esoteric variables as trouble incoming. The first is, If he is having sex with other people then, once you are with him, you'll be exposed to whatever he was exposed to. Second, what happens when he blows off a set of plans of phone calls or whatnot, because of his side piece? Do you accept that too? I mean, you went this far to give him space to expend his physical needs, but you have emotional ones too so who wins this one out? Secondly, unplanned pregnancies happen all the time, and that complicates things for the open couple.

Just a few random thoughts when I think about investing my eggs in that situational basket.

too many scenarios in this case. But bottom line for me personally is unconditional love does not bring intentional pain or distress. But what she was discussing with @tiziani that's deep. You have to be at a place where you really can't see yourself without that person because you willing to compromise getting his physical needs met yet you remain loyal. That's selfless what what. . Very deep

Posted by SmartOnTheRocks
How do you guys relate to being in a long distance relationship

i deal, it sucks. But sometimes it's not so bad, that's usually when i have a bunch of stuff going on and i don't have to deal with anyone but myself. lol Yes I can be selfish and enjoy my "me" time.

lol you and I be the same. .. I got so many things happening so many catch ups with friends so many things my place needs that when I'm not at work I'm running errands or seeing people. I think its my moon in Aquarius but I love my space. And I love people

Posted by OceanBoy88
Im an aqua rising... idk if I count but im in a LDR. Very long distance !!

Of course you count, and that's awesome and adorable. Best wishes to you both! 🙂

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