Posted by boxcarmirntaIf I close a door, it remains closed. If I don't make it clear, I might reconsider. I also remain friends with most of my exes but that doesn't mean I want them back. I'm hopelessly attached to people I once loved.
My ex has recently contacted me, after moving away and some other drama with other folx...why do i always go for aquas ?!? Anyway...he said he missed me, and i miss him. I'm not desperate i'm not hoping..i'm just curious......do you consider your exes, or close the door forevs...?
Posted by boxcarmirntaUr Aqua miss ur Aqua moon nature... what do u truly want from him dear?
My ex has recently contacted me, after moving away and some other drama with other folx...why do i always go for aquas ?!? Anyway...he said he missed me, and i miss him. I'm not desperate i'm not hoping..i'm just curious......do you consider your exes, or close the door forevs...?
Posted by waterbearer_femMy ex lady Aqua closed the door a month ago saying that we will never be together. Yesterday she contacted me after chatting friendly (although she asked me if Im single lol) and said she missed me. there must have been something in the stars these days lol.Posted by boxcarmirntaIf I close a door, it remains closed. If I don't make it clear, I might reconsider. I also remain friends with most of my exes but that doesn't mean I want them back. I'm hopelessly attached to people I once loved.
My ex has recently contacted me, after moving away and some other drama with other folx...why do i always go for aquas ?!? Anyway...he said he missed me, and i miss him. I'm not desperate i'm not hoping..i'm just curious......do you consider your exes, or close the door forevs...?
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Posted by BAVYeah, something's obviously in the air these days.. 😄 Do you want her back?Posted by waterbearer_femMy ex lady Aqua closed the door a month ago saying that we will never be together. Yesterday she contacted me after chatting friendly (although she asked me if Im single lol) and said she missed me. there must have been something in the stars these days lol.Posted by boxcarmirntaIf I close a door, it remains closed. If I don't make it clear, I might reconsider. I also remain friends with most of my exes but that doesn't mean I want them back. I'm hopelessly attached to people I once loved.
My ex has recently contacted me, after moving away and some other drama with other folx...why do i always go for aquas ?!? Anyway...he said he missed me, and i miss him. I'm not desperate i'm not hoping..i'm just curious......do you consider your exes, or close the door forevs...?
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Posted by saweetz1988I kinda want him back. Or at least a friendship, i miss that the most. He was my best friend.Posted by boxcarmirntaUr Aqua miss ur Aqua moon nature... what do u truly want from him dear?
My ex has recently contacted me, after moving away and some other drama with other folx...why do i always go for aquas ?!? Anyway...he said he missed me, and i miss him. I'm not desperate i'm not hoping..i'm just curious......do you consider your exes, or close the door forevs...?click to expand
Posted by waterbearer_femYes! Any suggestions on how to? 🙂))Posted by BAVYeah, something's obviously in the air these days.. 😄 Do you want her back?Posted by waterbearer_femMy ex lady Aqua closed the door a month ago saying that we will never be together. Yesterday she contacted me after chatting friendly (although she asked me if Im single lol) and said she missed me. there must have been something in the stars these days lol.Posted by boxcarmirntaIf I close a door, it remains closed. If I don't make it clear, I might reconsider. I also remain friends with most of my exes but that doesn't mean I want them back. I'm hopelessly attached to people I once loved.
My ex has recently contacted me, after moving away and some other drama with other folx...why do i always go for aquas ?!? Anyway...he said he missed me, and i miss him. I'm not desperate i'm not hoping..i'm just curious......do you consider your exes, or close the door forevs...?
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Posted by BAVPosted by waterbearer_femMy ex lady Aqua closed the door a month ago saying that we will never be together. Yesterday she contacted me after chatting friendly (although she asked me if Im single lol) and said she missed me. there must have been something in the stars these days lol.Posted by boxcarmirntaIf I close a door, it remains closed. If I don't make it clear, I might reconsider. I also remain friends with most of my exes but that doesn't mean I want them back. I'm hopelessly attached to people I once loved.
My ex has recently contacted me, after moving away and some other drama with other folx...why do i always go for aquas ?!? Anyway...he said he missed me, and i miss him. I'm not desperate i'm not hoping..i'm just curious......do you consider your exes, or close the door forevs...?
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Posted by boxcarmirntaYes, I do want her back. But will play it cool this time, no deep feelings, and time will tell. Any other suggestion?Posted by BAVPosted by waterbearer_femMy ex lady Aqua closed the door a month ago saying that we will never be together. Yesterday she contacted me after chatting friendly (although she asked me if Im single lol) and said she missed me. there must have been something in the stars these days lol.Posted by boxcarmirntaIf I close a door, it remains closed. If I don't make it clear, I might reconsider. I also remain friends with most of my exes but that doesn't mean I want them back. I'm hopelessly attached to people I once loved.
My ex has recently contacted me, after moving away and some other drama with other folx...why do i always go for aquas ?!? Anyway...he said he missed me, and i miss him. I'm not desperate i'm not hoping..i'm just curious......do you consider your exes, or close the door forevs...?
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Posted by BAVNope. Playing cool works with an Aqua. Give us something we can puzzle out. Don't throw yourself at our feet.Posted by boxcarmirntaYes, I do want her back. But will play it cool this time, no deep feelings, and time will tell. Any other suggestion?Posted by BAVPosted by waterbearer_femMy ex lady Aqua closed the door a month ago saying that we will never be together. Yesterday she contacted me after chatting friendly (although she asked me if Im single lol) and said she missed me. there must have been something in the stars these days lol.Posted by boxcarmirntaIf I close a door, it remains closed. If I don't make it clear, I might reconsider. I also remain friends with most of my exes but that doesn't mean I want them back. I'm hopelessly attached to people I once loved.
My ex has recently contacted me, after moving away and some other drama with other folx...why do i always go for aquas ?!? Anyway...he said he missed me, and i miss him. I'm not desperate i'm not hoping..i'm just curious......do you consider your exes, or close the door forevs...?
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Posted by bumboklattI havent talked to him in a year. He said our love was passionate consuming scary etc..he doesnt take sex lightly. Or love for that matter.
Yeah we revisit our exes if possible, but you have to remember that aqua sun and aqua moon are different
Aqua moon being detached is STILL an emotional placement
Aqua sun will usually be more detached in general (our philosophy/goal) is to be detached enough that we can observe and serve without bias , especially males since we are hardwired to be like this in general
since we are opposite the Leo we have very good introspection and we just are very passive
Aqua moon is reactive, it's sensitive and your Pisces sun is calling you out,
Basically beware of what you ask for, this aqua can just be looking for some friendly sex or just friendship in general. Yes we like to keep friends everywhere regardless of the past , it's a tough concept to grasp for some
Posted by BAVYea just be aloof, detached give just enough...never go over board feelings wise.Posted by boxcarmirntaYes, I do want her back. But will play it cool this time, no deep feelings, and time will tell. Any other suggestion?Posted by BAVPosted by waterbearer_femMy ex lady Aqua closed the door a month ago saying that we will never be together. Yesterday she contacted me after chatting friendly (although she asked me if Im single lol) and said she missed me. there must have been something in the stars these days lol.Posted by boxcarmirntaIf I close a door, it remains closed. If I don't make it clear, I might reconsider. I also remain friends with most of my exes but that doesn't mean I want them back. I'm hopelessly attached to people I once loved.
My ex has recently contacted me, after moving away and some other drama with other folx...why do i always go for aquas ?!? Anyway...he said he missed me, and i miss him. I'm not desperate i'm not hoping..i'm just curious......do you consider your exes, or close the door forevs...?
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Posted by boxcarmirntaJust curious, what do you make of her actions?Posted by BAVYea just be aloof, detached give just enough...never go over board feelings wise.Posted by boxcarmirntaYes, I do want her back. But will play it cool this time, no deep feelings, and time will tell. Any other suggestion?Posted by BAVPosted by waterbearer_femMy ex lady Aqua closed the door a month ago saying that we will never be together. Yesterday she contacted me after chatting friendly (although she asked me if Im single lol) and said she missed me. there must have been something in the stars these days lol.Posted by boxcarmirntaIf I close a door, it remains closed. If I don't make it clear, I might reconsider. I also remain friends with most of my exes but that doesn't mean I want them back. I'm hopelessly attached to people I once loved.
My ex has recently contacted me, after moving away and some other drama with other folx...why do i always go for aquas ?!? Anyway...he said he missed me, and i miss him. I'm not desperate i'm not hoping..i'm just curious......do you consider your exes, or close the door forevs...?
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Posted by BAVWhat's the back story? How long were you together?Posted by boxcarmirntaJust curious, what do you make of her actions?Posted by BAVYea just be aloof, detached give just enough...never go over board feelings wise.Posted by boxcarmirntaYes, I do want her back. But will play it cool this time, no deep feelings, and time will tell. Any other suggestion?Posted by BAVPosted by waterbearer_femMy ex lady Aqua closed the door a month ago saying that we will never be together. Yesterday she contacted me after chatting friendly (although she asked me if Im single lol) and said she missed me. there must have been something in the stars these days lol.Posted by boxcarmirntaIf I close a door, it remains closed. If I don't make it clear, I might reconsider. I also remain friends with most of my exes but that doesn't mean I want them back. I'm hopelessly attached to people I once loved.
My ex has recently contacted me, after moving away and some other drama with other folx...why do i always go for aquas ?!? Anyway...he said he missed me, and i miss him. I'm not desperate i'm not hoping..i'm just curious......do you consider your exes, or close the door forevs...?
What transpired? Do you want her back?
She said a month ago we don't talk personal stuff anymore, we will be together. Next week she texts me daily with pretexts to chat (something work related, but unnecessary; we work together). I replied friendly and casual, didn't asked her anything about her life. And then she stopped with those pretext. We went no contact for 10-12 days. Then, again, something work related (unnecessary again) and all of a sudden she is interested in how Im doing, we meet, I was a bit distant, more like friendly. She was really interested, including if Im single and how Im holding up.... Said she can see that Im doing ok, not like her lol.
Then texts me if I had missed her. I avoid the answer, but she she says she can feel that I have missed her 🙂)) Asked her the same, she said 'yessss'. Then told her Im busy with something.
This was yesterday. No contact since then.
Push and pull again.. tired of it, but will play along, casual, very detached this time.
I can sense now that the problem with us were the deep feelings from both of us (not just me), very consuming shit. But she still wants something or what?click to expand
Posted by boxcarmirnta(EDITING again...got confused)Posted by BAVWhat's the back story? How long were you together?
Just curious, what do you make of her actions?
She said a month ago we don't talk personal stuff anymore, we will be together. Next week she texts me daily with pretexts to chat (something work related, but unnecessary; we work together). I replied friendly and casual, didn't asked her anything about her life. And then she stopped with those pretext. We went no contact for 10-12 days. Then, again, something work related (unnecessary again) and all of a sudden she is interested in how Im doing, we meet, I was a bit distant, more like friendly. She was really interested, including if Im single and how Im holding up.... Said she can see that Im doing ok, not like her lol.
Then texts me if I had missed her. I avoid the answer, but she she says she can feel that I have missed her 🙂)) Asked her the same, she said 'yessss'. Then told her Im busy with something.
This was yesterday. No contact since then.
Push and pull again.. tired of it, but will play along, casual, very detached this time.
I can sense now that the problem with us were the deep feelings from both of us (not just me), very consuming shit. But she still wants something or what?click to expand
Posted by aquarius09Mine? Aqua sun, Aries moon I think and Pisces Venus.
What is your guy's sun, moon and venus?
Posted by boxcarmirntaI don't see someone with that combo revisiting an ex. Fire moons are not nostalgic and neither are Aquas. Past is the past. They may come back just to check up on you to catch up/hook up for old time sake, but not to get in a relationship again if it ended badly.Posted by aquarius09Mine? Aqua sun, Aries moon I think and Pisces Venus.
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Posted by aquarius09It didn't end badly.... There was a lot involved as to why it ended it's complicated and I don't wanna rehash details but.. He seems happy we are talking again..Posted by boxcarmirntaI don't see someone with that combo revisiting an ex. Fire moons are not nostalgic and neither are Aquas. Past is the past. They may come back just to check up on you to catch up/hook up for old time sake, but not to get in a relationship again if it ended badly.Posted by aquarius09Mine? Aqua sun, Aries moon I think and Pisces Venus.
What is your guy's sun, moon and venus?
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Posted by boxcarmirntaComplicated = headache. Ain't nobody especially easy breezy placements got time for that.Posted by aquarius09It didn't end badly.... There was a lot involved as to why it ended it's complicated and I don't wanna rehash details but.. He seems happy we are talking again..Posted by boxcarmirntaI don't see someone with that combo revisiting an ex. Fire moons are not nostalgic and neither are Aquas. Past is the past. They may come back just to check up on you to catch up/hook up for old time sake, but not to get in a relationship again if it ended badly.Posted by aquarius09Mine? Aqua sun, Aries moon I think and Pisces Venus.
What is your guy's sun, moon and venus?
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Posted by aquarius09Trust me dude I know what's happening... But thx for chiming inPosted by boxcarmirntaComplicated = headache. Ain't nobody especially easy breezy placements got time for that.Posted by aquarius09It didn't end badly.... There was a lot involved as to why it ended it's complicated and I don't wanna rehash details but.. He seems happy we are talking again..Posted by boxcarmirntaI don't see someone with that combo revisiting an ex. Fire moons are not nostalgic and neither are Aquas. Past is the past. They may come back just to check up on you to catch up/hook up for old time sake, but not to get in a relationship again if it ended badly.Posted by aquarius09Mine? Aqua sun, Aries moon I think and Pisces Venus.
What is your guy's sun, moon and venus?
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Posted by boxcarmirntaSo then why are you asking?Posted by aquarius09Trust me dude I know what's happening... But thx for chiming inPosted by boxcarmirntaComplicated = headache. Ain't nobody especially easy breezy placements got time for that.Posted by aquarius09It didn't end badly.... There was a lot involved as to why it ended it's complicated and I don't wanna rehash details but.. He seems happy we are talking again..Posted by boxcarmirntaI don't see someone with that combo revisiting an ex. Fire moons are not nostalgic and neither are Aquas. Past is the past. They may come back just to check up on you to catch up/hook up for old time sake, but not to get in a relationship again if it ended badly.Posted by aquarius09Mine? Aqua sun, Aries moon I think and Pisces Venus.
What is your guy's sun, moon and venus?
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Posted by aquarius09Curiosity. We cant stop talking so i believe it is going well.... Im not expecting anything so i won't be dissapointed.Posted by boxcarmirntaSo then why are you asking?Posted by aquarius09Trust me dude I know what's happening... But thx for chiming inPosted by boxcarmirntaComplicated = headache. Ain't nobody especially easy breezy placements got time for that.Posted by aquarius09It didn't end badly.... There was a lot involved as to why it ended it's complicated and I don't wanna rehash details but.. He seems happy we are talking again..Posted by boxcarmirntaI don't see someone with that combo revisiting an ex. Fire moons are not nostalgic and neither are Aquas. Past is the past. They may come back just to check up on you to catch up/hook up for old time sake, but not to get in a relationship again if it ended badly.Posted by aquarius09Mine? Aqua sun, Aries moon I think and Pisces Venus.
What is your guy's sun, moon and venus?
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Posted by boxcarmirntaWell, I hope it works out because aqua sun with an aqua moon lady is pure hotness.Posted by aquarius09Curiosity. We cant stop talking so i believe it is going well.... Im not expecting anything so i won't be dissapointed.Posted by boxcarmirntaSo then why are you asking?Posted by aquarius09Trust me dude I know what's happening... But thx for chiming inPosted by boxcarmirntaComplicated = headache. Ain't nobody especially easy breezy placements got time for that.Posted by aquarius09It didn't end badly.... There was a lot involved as to why it ended it's complicated and I don't wanna rehash details but.. He seems happy we are talking again..Posted by boxcarmirntaI don't see someone with that combo revisiting an ex. Fire moons are not nostalgic and neither are Aquas. Past is the past. They may come back just to check up on you to catch up/hook up for old time sake, but not to get in a relationship again if it ended badly.Posted by aquarius09Mine? Aqua sun, Aries moon I think and Pisces Venus.
What is your guy's sun, moon and venus?
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Posted by waterbearer_femYou are hopelessly attached to people you once loved?Posted by boxcarmirntaIf I close a door, it remains closed. If I don't make it clear, I might reconsider. I also remain friends with most of my exes but that doesn't mean I want them back. I'm hopelessly attached to people I once loved.
My ex has recently contacted me, after moving away and some other drama with other folx...why do i always go for aquas ?!? Anyway...he said he missed me, and i miss him. I'm not desperate i'm not hoping..i'm just curious......do you consider your exes, or close the door forevs...?
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Posted by aquarius09Aw thx!! I must say i'm in shock. totally unexpected. I guess i can be the poster child for the ex that comes back. See it wasnt complicated between us, it was outside influences that destroyed it. And it is HOT! 😉Posted by boxcarmirntaWell, I hope it works out because aqua sun with an aqua moon lady is pure hotness.Posted by aquarius09Curiosity. We cant stop talking so i believe it is going well.... Im not expecting anything so i won't be dissapointed.Posted by boxcarmirntaSo then why are you asking?Posted by aquarius09Trust me dude I know what's happening... But thx for chiming inPosted by boxcarmirntaComplicated = headache. Ain't nobody especially easy breezy placements got time for that.Posted by aquarius09It didn't end badly.... There was a lot involved as to why it ended it's complicated and I don't wanna rehash details but.. He seems happy we are talking again..Posted by boxcarmirntaI don't see someone with that combo revisiting an ex. Fire moons are not nostalgic and neither are Aquas. Past is the past. They may come back just to check up on you to catch up/hook up for old time sake, but not to get in a relationship again if it ended badly.Posted by aquarius09Mine? Aqua sun, Aries moon I think and Pisces Venus.
What is your guy's sun, moon and venus?
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Posted by GemitatiCircumstances get in the way a lot.. But i get this statement very much.Posted by waterbearer_femYou are hopelessly attached to people you once loved?Posted by boxcarmirntaIf I close a door, it remains closed. If I don't make it clear, I might reconsider. I also remain friends with most of my exes but that doesn't mean I want them back. I'm hopelessly attached to people I once loved.
My ex has recently contacted me, after moving away and some other drama with other folx...why do i always go for aquas ?!? Anyway...he said he missed me, and i miss him. I'm not desperate i'm not hoping..i'm just curious......do you consider your exes, or close the door forevs...?
What kind of crappy statement is that?
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Posted by ChuckcemThanks for the answer, interesting 🙂 Will try to explain the whole story as short as possible:Posted by boxcarmirnta(EDITING again...got confused)Posted by BAVWhat's the back story? How long were you together?
Just curious, what do you make of her actions?
She said a month ago we don't talk personal stuff anymore, we will be together. Next week she texts me daily with pretexts to chat (something work related, but unnecessary; we work together). I replied friendly and casual, didn't asked her anything about her life. And then she stopped with those pretext. We went no contact for 10-12 days. Then, again, something work related (unnecessary again) and all of a sudden she is interested in how Im doing, we meet, I was a bit distant, more like friendly. She was really interested, including if Im single and how Im holding up.... Said she can see that Im doing ok, not like her lol.
Then texts me if I had missed her. I avoid the answer, but she she says she can feel that I have missed her 🙂)) Asked her the same, she said 'yessss'. Then told her Im busy with something.
This was yesterday. No contact since then.
Push and pull again.. tired of it, but will play along, casual, very detached this time.
I can sense now that the problem with us were the deep feelings from both of us (not just me), very consuming shit. But she still wants something or what?
@BAV
Agreed the full story would add more incite. Though my main question is, who ended it first originally? You or her?
Basically she's now making herself available to you. This is confusing because of the push-pull Aqua dynamic you've been dealing with, but she's clearly interested. One thing to remember is, she may be an Aqua, but she's also a woman as well. Meaning like all women she's going to expect you to "make a move" when she reaches out (even after a break up). It's pretty cut and dry at this point. Here are some clues:
1. She's initiating contact. Women DON'T talk to guys they want nothing to do with. The fact that she's contacting you, given your history points to SOME interest on her side. It may not mean she wants to get back together, but interest IS there. She however is expecting you to set a date with her (more on this later).
2. She texts you unnecessarily. This is just to reinforce the first point. She tried talking to you about inconsequential work topics, then when you didn't bite she made the topics more personal. This is showing that her interest for you has grown and she is hoping you open the door. It's up to the man (or the more masculine person if you're a lesbian) to initiate something physical (meeting up/dating, kissing, sex, etc). She's probably not going to say, "HEY ASK ME OUT ALREADY" and is hoping you get the hint(s).
3. She's asking if you are dating anyone else. Women are subtle folk generally and this is as overt as it gets. This Aqua is literally trying to gauge if there is room in your life for her. She's trying to see if there is any competition for your affection. Women generally will not ask you this question if they are not interested in you (or at least trying to get the information for someone else).
4. She's asking you about her feelings for her. I mean...this is self explanatory. I'm sure your fear is that she just wants that information to boost her ego/esteem (and to some degree you're correct), but really it's her way of trying to elicit and emotional response from you. She's literally asking you, "Do you still like me?"
So what do you do with this information? Well it depends if you want her back. If you do, then invite her to come and see you. If SHE ended thing then make sure she comes to you. Don't spend a bunch of money on her, literally have her come over to your house and do something fun there. Basically she must come to you. If you ended things, then feel free to take her out. Either way at no point should you bring up the past or old hurts. That's her department if she chooses to do so. Let her know through your actions that you enjoy her, but your life doesn't stop when she's gone. Be charming, but not a doormat.
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Posted by BAVPosted by ChuckcemThanks for the answer, interesting 🙂 Will try to explain the whole story as short as possible:Posted by boxcarmirnta(EDITING again...got confused)Posted by BAVWhat's the back story? How long were you together?
Just curious, what do you make of her actions?
She said a month ago we don't talk personal stuff anymore, we will be together. Next week she texts me daily with pretexts to chat (something work related, but unnecessary; we work together). I replied friendly and casual, didn't asked her anything about her life. And then she stopped with those pretext. We went no contact for 10-12 days. Then, again, something work related (unnecessary again) and all of a sudden she is interested in how Im doing, we meet, I was a bit distant, more like friendly. She was really interested, including if Im single and how Im holding up.... Said she can see that Im doing ok, not like her lol.
Then texts me if I had missed her. I avoid the answer, but she she says she can feel that I have missed her 🙂)) Asked her the same, she said 'yessss'. Then told her Im busy with something.
This was yesterday. No contact since then.
Push and pull again.. tired of it, but will play along, casual, very detached this time.
I can sense now that the problem with us were the deep feelings from both of us (not just me), very consuming shit. But she still wants something or what?
@BAV
Agreed the full story would add more incite. Though my main question is, who ended it first originally? You or her?
Basically she's now making herself available to you. This is confusing because of the push-pull Aqua dynamic you've been dealing with, but she's clearly interested. One thing to remember is, she may be an Aqua, but she's also a woman as well. Meaning like all women she's going to expect you to "make a move" when she reaches out (even after a break up). It's pretty cut and dry at this point. Here are some clues:
1. She's initiating contact. Women DON'T talk to guys they want nothing to do with. The fact that she's contacting you, given your history points to SOME interest on her side. It may not mean she wants to get back together, but interest IS there. She however is expecting you to set a date with her (more on this later).
2. She texts you unnecessarily. This is just to reinforce the first point. She tried talking to you about inconsequential work topics, then when you didn't bite she made the topics more personal. This is showing that her interest for you has grown and she is hoping you open the door. It's up to the man (or the more masculine person if you're a lesbian) to initiate something physical (meeting up/dating, kissing, sex, etc). She's probably not going to say, "HEY ASK ME OUT ALREADY" and is hoping you get the hint(s).
3. She's asking if you are dating anyone else. Women are subtle folk generally and this is as overt as it gets. This Aqua is literally trying to gauge if there is room in your life for her. She's trying to see if there is any competition for your affection. Women generally will not ask you this question if they are not interested in you (or at least trying to get the information for someone else).
4. She's asking you about her feelings for her. I mean...this is self explanatory. I'm sure your fear is that she just wants that information to boost her ego/esteem (and to some degree you're correct), but really it's her way of trying to elicit and emotional response from you. She's literally asking you, "Do you still like me?"
So what do you do with this information? Well it depends if you want her back. If you do, then invite her to come and see you. If SHE ended thing then make sure she comes to you. Don't spend a bunch of money on her, literally have her come over to your house and do something fun there. Basically she must come to you. If you ended things, then feel free to take her out. Either way at no point should you bring up the past or old hurts. That's her department if she chooses to do so. Let her know through your actions that you enjoy her, but your life doesn't stop when she's gone. Be charming, but not a doormat.
The real question is do you want that? If so, can you DO that? Did she hurt you to the point where having her back still makes you angry?
1. We work together, gave me a couple of hints she likes me 2 years ago, I was married then. SHE chased me for 4 months after I told her I separated from my wife. She was very supportive around the divorce, very good friends. But I was trying something with an old crush of mine, didn't work out, but remained friends with that one. The Aqua also was thinking getting back with her ex husband. She also has a fwb.
2. We both fell in love with each other (don't know how exactly, just happened lol), began dating (2 months), she would back away when things were going too deep. But overall, things went in the good direction.
3. I went on a business trip with my ex crush, as friends. The aqua didn't like that (of course.. bad mistake from my side, i know now better). End December she backed away more and more, saying that she doesn't want a RS,she likes being single (she has been single for 5 years, after her divorce, she also has a kid).
4. Started chasing her, told her I want to be with her, but to take is slow and casual. Day by day she would seem to give in. Until Jan 12th, when I surprised her by going from Paris to Brussels (we were both on business trip in those cities), and she didn't like that at all, she didn't wanted to see me. Just like that.
5. I stopped contacting her (upset at her rejection), she was the one angry with this. Chased her a bit more after this, but a month ago she said that we will never be together and that we don't talk personal stuff anymore, she doesn't ask me personal questions anymore. What happened after that you know.
So basically we were just dating, no a real RS. Everything with her is very intense, very consuming... for both. I think this is what scares her. And me in a way. I have a different mindset now, I won't let my emotions get the best of me again.click to expand
Posted by boxcarmirntaGot it, so this actually makes a bit more sense. My advice remains the same, but in case you want some insight I'll run through it:Posted by BAV
Thanks for the answer, interesting 🙂 Will try to explain the whole story as short as possible:
1. We work together, gave me a couple of hints she likes me 2 years ago, I was married then. SHE chased me for 4 months after I told her I separated from my wife. She was very supportive around the divorce, very good friends. But I was trying something with an old crush of mine, didn't work out, but remained friends with that one. The Aqua also was thinking getting back with her ex husband. She also has a fwb.
2. We both fell in love with each other (don't know how exactly, just happened lol), began dating (2 months), she would back away when things were going too deep. But overall, things went in the good direction.
3. I went on a business trip with my ex crush, as friends. The aqua didn't like that (of course.. bad mistake from my side, i know now better). End December she backed away more and more, saying that she doesn't want a RS,she likes being single (she has been single for 5 years, after her divorce, she also has a kid).
4. Started chasing her, told her I want to be with her, but to take is slow and casual. Day by day she would seem to give in. Until Jan 12th, when I surprised her by going from Paris to Brussels (we were both on business trip in those cities), and she didn't like that at all, she didn't wanted to see me. Just like that.
5. I stopped contacting her (upset at her rejection), she was the one angry with this. Chased her a bit more after this, but a month ago she said that we will never be together and that we don't talk personal stuff anymore, she doesn't ask me personal questions anymore. What happened after that you know.
So basically we were just dating, no a real RS. Everything with her is very intense, very consuming... for both. I think this is what scares her. And me in a way. I have a different mindset now, I won't let my emotions get the best of me again.
Man she does not know what she wants!! yes they do not like competition so the trip with your crush was bad.... But why didnt she wanna see you when you surprised her?? Weird... She is clearly on the fence about it. Dont get ruffled. act totally casual, always stand your ground dont bend to her whims. Maybe she sees you as wishy washy. Be strong honest real and detached.
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Posted by GemitatiOh my gosh, no, you got me totally wrong. Maybe I didn't put that properly..Posted by waterbearer_femYou are hopelessly attached to people you once loved?Posted by boxcarmirntaIf I close a door, it remains closed. If I don't make it clear, I might reconsider. I also remain friends with most of my exes but that doesn't mean I want them back. I'm hopelessly attached to people I once loved.
My ex has recently contacted me, after moving away and some other drama with other folx...why do i always go for aquas ?!? Anyway...he said he missed me, and i miss him. I'm not desperate i'm not hoping..i'm just curious......do you consider your exes, or close the door forevs...?
What kind of crappy statement is that?
If you had a chance you would had them all at the same time? But there is no hope? What—click to expand
Posted by ChuckcemWow im coming to you next time i need advice. Clear and concise!Posted by boxcarmirntaGot it, so this actually makes a bit more sense. My advice remains the same, but in case you want some insight I'll run through it:Posted by BAV
Thanks for the answer, interesting 🙂 Will try to explain the whole story as short as possible:
1. We work together, gave me a couple of hints she likes me 2 years ago, I was married then. SHE chased me for 4 months after I told her I separated from my wife. She was very supportive around the divorce, very good friends. But I was trying something with an old crush of mine, didn't work out, but remained friends with that one. The Aqua also was thinking getting back with her ex husband. She also has a fwb.
2. We both fell in love with each other (don't know how exactly, just happened lol), began dating (2 months), she would back away when things were going too deep. But overall, things went in the good direction.
3. I went on a business trip with my ex crush, as friends. The aqua didn't like that (of course.. bad mistake from my side, i know now better). End December she backed away more and more, saying that she doesn't want a RS,she likes being single (she has been single for 5 years, after her divorce, she also has a kid).
4. Started chasing her, told her I want to be with her, but to take is slow and casual. Day by day she would seem to give in. Until Jan 12th, when I surprised her by going from Paris to Brussels (we were both on business trip in those cities), and she didn't like that at all, she didn't wanted to see me. Just like that.
5. I stopped contacting her (upset at her rejection), she was the one angry with this. Chased her a bit more after this, but a month ago she said that we will never be together and that we don't talk personal stuff anymore, she doesn't ask me personal questions anymore. What happened after that you know.
So basically we were just dating, no a real RS. Everything with her is very intense, very consuming... for both. I think this is what scares her. And me in a way. I have a different mindset now, I won't let my emotions get the best of me again.
Man she does not know what she wants!! yes they do not like competition so the trip with your crush was bad.... But why didnt she wanna see you when you surprised her?? Weird... She is clearly on the fence about it. Dont get ruffled. act totally casual, always stand your ground dont bend to her whims. Maybe she sees you as wishy washy. Be strong honest real and detached.
1. Aqua was a bit all over the place, but also so were you. You guys basically beat around the bush for a bit while she contemplated getting back with her husband and you were looking to get with your crush. Nothing too crazy here, all pretty normal.
2. Sounds like you guys started dating and things got hot and heavy fast. She needed to figure out her emotions which is why she would back off from time to time. Women's feelings take time to grow, so this makes sense. Another thing to realize is some romances can burn hot fast and snuff out. So this may have been your situation. I'd guess you two spent a lot of time around each other in those 2 months and she may have become a little overexposed to you.
3. The trip with the ex crush made the Aqua jealous, which is a clear sign that she was into you by that point. Her emotions got the better of her and because Aquas are not the best at dealing with their deeper feelings, she backed off and said she didn't want a relationship (instead of communicating like a mature adult). She got scared and ran basically. This lets me know in general that she may not be a strong person emotionally.
4. This is where you messed up. When someone backs away, never chase them. Give them the space to come back to you and initiate communication. It's your job to go on with your life in the process which shows you are a man with a purpose. Women want/need to know that nothing they does will hinder or deter you. She wants to know her man is internally/emotionally strong to handle anything she or the world throws at him. By chasing her, you appear emotionally weak (which I'll explain below).
Also know that Aquas tend to detach and go to their bat cave to think. When you surprised her, she was still in her thoughts and she was not ready to communicate with you yet. Also popping up like that made you come across a little stalker-ish (she probably wouldn't say this, but its the feeling/image the action conveys). Granted I know you had the best intentions, but she felt like you were physically chasing her, which again made you seem emotionally weak. This is why she got pissed when you popped up. Granted she could have been more mature about it, but the point still stands. Another sign may have let you down more gently, but the result would have still been the same. When a woman backs off, you have to give her the space to miss you and come back.
5. You continued to chase her which turned her off even more. It gave her validation for dumping you in the first place. She became more annoyed and backed off more while stating she didn't want you anymore. After that you backed off and gave her the space to MISS you.That's the thing, the fact that you were out of the picture meant she had time for her feelings to grow for you again. Now she's back.
So IF you want this woman back, which it seems that you possibly do, you need to remain cool and collected. Know that her reaching out to you is just her way of saying, "I'm interested in you." She she's not initiating communication and contact, leave her alone. She's the one who dumped you remember. It is not 100% on her to make this work. In reality you really don't have to do anything but plan dates when she calls.
(Side note: Seeing that you've been deflecting her advances recently, you may need initiate contact ONCE to get the ball rolling. Let her know you'd like to see her and invite her to hang out at your place. DO NOT spend money on her. She dumped you and doesn't deserve that much effort. She may still be trying to coerce you, but eventually a woman will move on if you seem entirely uninterested).click to expand
Posted by leolassWhy did it end?? Love of his life but fickle as shit ick.
I was with my last Aqua for 2.5 years. We broke up because he wasn't sure about things.
He came back 3 months later and we tried again, because I was the love of his life. That lasted about 3 months and we we ended again, horribly, painfully, ugly.
He told me he won't be back and I believe him.
Posted by boxcarmirntaHahaha, thanks. I'm no expert, just constantly studying human behavior.Posted by ChuckcemWow im coming to you next time i need advice. Clear and concise!Posted by boxcarmirntaGot it, so this actually makes a bit more sense. My advice remains the same, but in case you want some insight I'll run through it:Posted by BAV
Thanks for the answer, interesting 🙂 Will try to explain the whole story as short as possible:
1. We work together, gave me a couple of hints she likes me 2 years ago, I was married then. SHE chased me for 4 months after I told her I separated from my wife. She was very supportive around the divorce, very good friends. But I was trying something with an old crush of mine, didn't work out, but remained friends with that one. The Aqua also was thinking getting back with her ex husband. She also has a fwb.
2. We both fell in love with each other (don't know how exactly, just happened lol), began dating (2 months), she would back away when things were going too deep. But overall, things went in the good direction.
3. I went on a business trip with my ex crush, as friends. The aqua didn't like that (of course.. bad mistake from my side, i know now better). End December she backed away more and more, saying that she doesn't want a RS,she likes being single (she has been single for 5 years, after her divorce, she also has a kid).
4. Started chasing her, told her I want to be with her, but to take is slow and casual. Day by day she would seem to give in. Until Jan 12th, when I surprised her by going from Paris to Brussels (we were both on business trip in those cities), and she didn't like that at all, she didn't wanted to see me. Just like that.
5. I stopped contacting her (upset at her rejection), she was the one angry with this. Chased her a bit more after this, but a month ago she said that we will never be together and that we don't talk personal stuff anymore, she doesn't ask me personal questions anymore. What happened after that you know.
So basically we were just dating, no a real RS. Everything with her is very intense, very consuming... for both. I think this is what scares her. And me in a way. I have a different mindset now, I won't let my emotions get the best of me again.
Man she does not know what she wants!! yes they do not like competition so the trip with your crush was bad.... But why didnt she wanna see you when you surprised her?? Weird... She is clearly on the fence about it. Dont get ruffled. act totally casual, always stand your ground dont bend to her whims. Maybe she sees you as wishy washy. Be strong honest real and detached.
1. Aqua was a bit all over the place, but also so were you. You guys basically beat around the bush for a bit while she contemplated getting back with her husband and you were looking to get with your crush. Nothing too crazy here, all pretty normal.
2. Sounds like you guys started dating and things got hot and heavy fast. She needed to figure out her emotions which is why she would back off from time to time. Women's feelings take time to grow, so this makes sense. Another thing to realize is some romances can burn hot fast and snuff out. So this may have been your situation. I'd guess you two spent a lot of time around each other in those 2 months and she may have become a little overexposed to you.
3. The trip with the ex crush made the Aqua jealous, which is a clear sign that she was into you by that point. Her emotions got the better of her and because Aquas are not the best at dealing with their deeper feelings, she backed off and said she didn't want a relationship (instead of communicating like a mature adult). She got scared and ran basically. This lets me know in general that she may not be a strong person emotionally.
4. This is where you messed up. When someone backs away, never chase them. Give them the space to come back to you and initiate communication. It's your job to go on with your life in the process which shows you are a man with a purpose. Women want/need to know that nothing they does will hinder or deter you. She wants to know her man is internally/emotionally strong to handle anything she or the world throws at him. By chasing her, you appear emotionally weak (which I'll explain below).
Also know that Aquas tend to detach and go to their bat cave to think. When you surprised her, she was still in her thoughts and she was not ready to communicate with you yet. Also popping up like that made you come across a little stalker-ish (she probably wouldn't say this, but its the feeling/image the action conveys). Granted I know you had the best intentions, but she felt like you were physically chasing her, which again made you seem emotionally weak. This is why she got pissed when you popped up. Granted she could have been more mature about it, but the point still stands. Another sign may have let you down more gently, but the result would have still been the same. When a woman backs off, you have to give her the space to miss you and come back.
5. You continued to chase her which turned her off even more. It gave her validation for dumping you in the first place. She became more annoyed and backed off more while stating she didn't want you anymore. After that you backed off and gave her the space to MISS you.That's the thing, the fact that you were out of the picture meant she had time for her feelings to grow for you again. Now she's back.
So IF you want this woman back, which it seems that you possibly do, you need to remain cool and collected. Know that her reaching out to you is just her way of saying, "I'm interested in you." She she's not initiating communication and contact, leave her alone. She's the one who dumped you remember. It is not 100% on her to make this work. In reality you really don't have to do anything but plan dates when she calls.
(Side note: Seeing that you've been deflecting her advances recently, you may need initiate contact ONCE to get the ball rolling. Let her know you'd like to see her and invite her to hang out at your place. DO NOT spend money on her. She dumped you and doesn't deserve that much effort. She may still be trying to coerce you, but eventually a woman will move on if you seem entirely uninterested).click to expand
Posted by leolassMakes perfect sense to me. What a fool 😢Posted by boxcarmirntaIt ended because I called him out on everything he put me through. I think he wanted me to be grateful for his love. His ego was his downfall.Posted by leolassWhy did it end?? Love of his life but fickle as shit ick.
I was with my last Aqua for 2.5 years. We broke up because he wasn't sure about things.
He came back 3 months later and we tried again, because I was the love of his life. That lasted about 3 months and we we ended again, horribly, painfully, ugly.
He told me he won't be back and I believe him.click to expand
Posted by leolassPosted by boxcarmirntaIn retrospect, I was the fool.Posted by leolassMakes perfect sense to me. What a fool 😢Posted by boxcarmirntaIt ended because I called him out on everything he put me through. I think he wanted me to be grateful for his love. His ego was his downfall.Posted by leolassWhy did it end?? Love of his life but fickle as shit ick.
I was with my last Aqua for 2.5 years. We broke up because he wasn't sure about things.
He came back 3 months later and we tried again, because I was the love of his life. That lasted about 3 months and we we ended again, horribly, painfully, ugly.
He told me he won't be back and I believe him.
I dont think I really knew him. I think so much of our relationship was a lie...who he wanted to be vs who he is.
It can't be love when it's not the truth.
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Posted by boxcarmirntaWhoa, that was my experience exactly with an Aqua woman. We had a bunch of interests in common (to the point that it was EERILY creepy), then her friends told me that she was a completely different person. There are some interests we shared that I know are real but it still freaks me out how different her personality actually wound up being. I've been told that her Libra Moon is the source for her manipulative behavior.Posted by leolassPosted by boxcarmirntaIn retrospect, I was the fool.Posted by leolassMakes perfect sense to me. What a fool 😢Posted by boxcarmirntaIt ended because I called him out on everything he put me through. I think he wanted me to be grateful for his love. His ego was his downfall.Posted by leolassWhy did it end?? Love of his life but fickle as shit ick.
I was with my last Aqua for 2.5 years. We broke up because he wasn't sure about things.
He came back 3 months later and we tried again, because I was the love of his life. That lasted about 3 months and we we ended again, horribly, painfully, ugly.
He told me he won't be back and I believe him.
I dont think I really knew him. I think so much of our relationship was a lie...who he wanted to be vs who he is.
It can't be love when it's not the truth.
Amen to that!! My ex, not this one, was a total phony. They pretend to be what you want and then dump you when you hold them to their words.click to expand
Posted by ChuckcemPosted by boxcarmirntaWhoa, that was my experience exactly with an Aqua woman. We had a bunch of interests in common (to the point that it was EERILY creepy), then her friends told me that she was a completely different person. There are some interests we shared that I know are real but it still freaks me out how different her personality actually wound up being. I've been told that her Libra Moon is the source for her manipulative behavior.Posted by leolassPosted by boxcarmirntaIn retrospect, I was the fool.Posted by leolassMakes perfect sense to me. What a fool 😢Posted by boxcarmirntaIt ended because I called him out on everything he put me through. I think he wanted me to be grateful for his love. His ego was his downfall.Posted by leolassWhy did it end?? Love of his life but fickle as shit ick.
I was with my last Aqua for 2.5 years. We broke up because he wasn't sure about things.
He came back 3 months later and we tried again, because I was the love of his life. That lasted about 3 months and we we ended again, horribly, painfully, ugly.
He told me he won't be back and I believe him.
I dont think I really knew him. I think so much of our relationship was a lie...who he wanted to be vs who he is.
It can't be love when it's not the truth.
Amen to that!! My ex, not this one, was a total phony. They pretend to be what you want and then dump you when you hold them to their words.click to expand
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