Do you guys always misunderstand everything? (Page 2)

Posted by IAmMystified

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but i mean come on...they couldn't have thought I really thought there was a billion cars on the freeway?

I mean really now...

of course not...you said "one billion cars"=extremely many...the other said "really?! one billion?!=really?!was it really that crowded?!"

see...you pretend to be understood when you exaggerate...but you take the other's exaggerations literally...

Haha I get it, he was doing the same thing i was doing. Meaning he was exaggerating, being sarcastic. OMG they are so subtle.

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you got it 🙂

@MZ

But changing someone else's conversation that he wasn't a part of is rude and messed up. It's not always about him ya know 😐

sorry...to him it will always be about him...and don't be surprised if he says "it would be impolite of you to go on with a conversation i haven't been part of till now"....

see? it all depends on the angle...

Posted by mz
sorry...to him it will always be about him...and don't be surprised if he says "it would be impolite of you to go on with a conversation i haven't been part of till now"....

see? it all depends on the angle...

LOL I think he's said that before. Damn these men 🙂

LOL That he was being sarcastic back to you is obviously the most reasonable explanation. Actually, one of my co-workers is Scorp Sun and she often doesn't pick up on jokes. 🙂

Posted by duchesslibro
LOL That he was being sarcastic back to you is obviously the most reasonable explanation. Actually, one of my co-workers is Scorp Sun and she often doesn't pick up on jokes. 🙂

It's because he said it in a serious tone. 60% of the time if he's joking he does that charsimatic, goofy prankster tone...that's what I typically expect when he's joking.

Most of the time I know he's being sarcastic...but I guess I didn't notice this one lol.

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Posted by duchesslibro
LOL That he was being sarcastic back to you is obviously the most reasonable explanation. Actually, one of my co-workers is Scorp Sun and she often doesn't pick up on jokes. 🙂

It's because he said it in a serious tone. 60% of the time if he's joking he does that charsimatic, goofy prankster tone...that's what I typically expect when he's joking.

Most of the time I know he's being sarcastic...but I guess I didn't notice this one lol.

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Oh... Trust me, Aquarius' can tell a joke with a totally serious face, until you learn to know the person well you won't know how to tell. But once you get to know them well, you'll immediately catch on to the subtle sarcasm and they enjoy it if you play along 😉

@Rosy

Well then, I'll pay attention more often. Man they are just like a multi-dimensional present LOL.

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@Rosy

Well then, I'll pay attention more often. Man they are just like a multi-dimensional present LOL.

They are that indeed 😉 I wish I was as lucky as you to have several around me lol

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@Rosy

Well then, I'll pay attention more often. Man they are just like a multi-dimensional present LOL.

They are that indeed 😉 I wish I was as lucky as you to have several around me lol

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Not really. They drive me crazy LOL.

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@Rosy

Well then, I'll pay attention more often. Man they are just like a multi-dimensional present LOL.

They are that indeed 😉 I wish I was as lucky as you to have several around me lol

Not really. They drive me crazy LOL.

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we love to drive people crazy... 🙂 for our own amusement, though...

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@Rosy

Well then, I'll pay attention more often. Man they are just like a multi-dimensional present LOL.

They are that indeed 😉 I wish I was as lucky as you to have several around me lol

Not really. They drive me crazy LOL.

we love to drive people crazy... 🙂 for our own amusement, though...

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This is true of Aqua Mars placement. Rather rude and inconsiderate actually..

I think my biggest difficulty with them especially with the males is I don't know how to be around them.

I mean I give them space as I am an independent person and I'm witty and intellectual person. Funny but yet they seem to always gravitate to super talkative yet clingy people.

As nice as all the aquas are nice and tell the most insane jokes with me, it still feels like I don't have their full attention like others would.

Is it because I'm just not a super talkative individual? I'm chatty but not excessive like everyone else is.

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Posted by duchesslibro
LOL That he was being sarcastic back to you is obviously the most reasonable explanation. Actually, one of my co-workers is Scorp Sun and she often doesn't pick up on jokes. 🙂

It's because he said it in a serious tone. 60% of the time if he's joking he does that charsimatic, goofy prankster tone...that's what I typically expect when he's joking.

Most of the time I know he's being sarcastic...but I guess I didn't notice this one lol.

Oh... Trust me, Aquarius' can tell a joke with a totally serious face, until you learn to know the person well you won't know how to tell. But once you get to know them well, you'll immediately catch on to the subtle sarcasm and they enjoy it if you play along 😉

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Rosy gets it 😉 It's called Deadpanning. I do it at times, can take others awhile before they pick up on the fact that i'm joking around! LOL

Posted by IAmMystified
I think my biggest difficulty with them especially with the males is I don't know how to be around them.

I mean I give them space as I am an independent person and I'm witty and intellectual person. Funny but yet they seem to always gravitate to super talkative yet clingy people.

As nice as all the aquas are nice and tell the most insane jokes with me, it still feels like I don't have their full attention like others would.

Is it because I'm just not a super talkative individual? I'm chatty but not excessive like everyone else is.

You've mentioned this before in a different thread, the not getting their full attention. Is this all the aquas you know or just the guy you like? I am not trying to be harsh but I do tend to be blunt, I asked earlier if this was the guy you always mention and there was a reason I asked. If it is him, are you guys actually dating? Because you come across as someone that is infatuated with a friend whom sadly does not reciprocate your feelings. Which would explain a lot of the misunderstandings, the expectations, the rudeness you see from him. Told you i'm blunt..not asking or stating all this to be hurtful.. just trying to get you to see that when you place expectations on another person to meet your needs of attention, it can fall short. He isn't trying to do things intentionally, he is just being him.

If i'm off the mark and you guys are dating, girl you need to loosen up and realize Aquas are jokesters, serious people but dam we do joke around A LOT! 😆

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Posted by IAmMystified
I think my biggest difficulty with them especially with the males is I don't know how to be around them.

I mean I give them space as I am an independent person and I'm witty and intellectual person. Funny but yet they seem to always gravitate to super talkative yet clingy people.

As nice as all the aquas are nice and tell the most insane jokes with me, it still feels like I don't have their full attention like others would.

Is it because I'm just not a super talkative individual? I'm chatty but not excessive like everyone else is.

You've mentioned this before in a different thread, the not getting their full attention. Is this all the aquas you know or just the guy you like? I am not trying to be harsh but I do tend to be blunt, I asked earlier if this was the guy you always mention and there was a reason I asked. If it is him, are you guys actually dating? Because you come across as someone that is infatuated with a friend whom sadly does not reciprocate your feelings. Which would explain a lot of the misunderstandings, the expectations, the rudeness you see from him. Told you i'm blunt..not asking or stating all this to be hurtful.. just trying to get you to see that when you place expectations on another person to meet your needs of attention, it can fall short. He isn't trying to do things intentionally, he is just being him.

If i'm off the mark and you guys are dating, girl you need to loosen up and realize Aquas are jokesters, serious people but dam we do joke around A LOT! 😆

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I'm blunt too so no need to apologize for anything. Sometimes people can't handle my directness. I think I posted in another thread I told someone to "pull up her big girl panties and grow up and do something by herself for once." or something along those lines. Ha it was too direct but that particular individual needed to hear it because of her being so dependent on people but never did anything for anyone.

Anyway, I was actually referring to all aquas, not so much my aqua sister as she acts different than typical aquas...but i think females are usually different than males for every sign right? Becuase she's outwardly emotional.

But the males are harder for me to comprehend because they are so complex. I don't kn

But the males are harder for me to comprehend because they are so complex. I don't know what it is but whenever I'm around one, I always feel like I'm standing on the border of their circle meaning they are transparent but at the same time they don't fully let you in. But they also seem to contradict their own belief or own moral code sometimes. Like there were times one of them thought that if I was in trouble they'd be the first person I called. But yet, why would you be if you are running around befriending the entire planet without really giving any focus on any one in particular and when I made some comment about that, but in a nice way they got offended.

Also, at work we just hired an aqua male. I was the person that offered to train him when no one else really helped or made time to do so with him...not his boss or peers as most people are just lazy/incompetent/selfish around her. I took time out of my busy days and offered to help seeing as he seemed so worried and etc. not understanding certain things. I wanted things to start off nice on a social level, and I would make sure I made the effort in talking, asking about him, sharing about myself and it goes well. Typical work related behavior but yet for some reason he has seemed to click with colleagues who barely give him the time of day. And although he didn't mean anything by it but when he arrived today he passed by me and another coworker's office to get to his and he made some inside joke to the other person who didn't hear him, so I asked him what he said cause I didn't realize at first who he was talk to and he repeated what he said and I said "Oh I don't understand the joke." and then he said "Oh its cause I was talking to xyz, he'd get it."

He didn't mean anything by it but, it just bewilders me how he has clicked with people he barely talks to and I can't seem to click with a new coworker Lol. Not that I'm trying to force it cause I'm not but it's just so weird.

Posted by IAmMystified
But the males are harder for me to comprehend because they are so complex. I don't know what it is but whenever I'm around one, I always feel like I'm standing on the border of their circle meaning they are transparent but at the same time they don't fully let you in. But they also seem to contradict their own belief or own moral code sometimes. Like there were times one of them thought that if I was in trouble they'd be the first person I called. But yet, why would you be if you are running around befriending the entire planet without really giving any focus on any one in particular and when I made some comment about that, but in a nice way they got offended.

Also, at work we just hired an aqua male. I was the person that offered to train him when no one else really helped or made time to do so with him...not his boss or peers as most people are just lazy/incompetent/selfish around her. I took time out of my busy days and offered to help seeing as he seemed so worried and etc. not understanding certain things. I wanted things to start off nice on a social level, and I would make sure I made the effort in talking, asking about him, sharing about myself and it goes well. Typical work related behavior but yet for some reason he has seemed to click with colleagues who barely give him the time of day. And although he didn't mean anything by it but when he arrived today he passed by me and another coworker's office to get to his and he made some inside joke to the other person who didn't hear him, so I asked him what he said cause I didn't realize at first who he was talk to and he repeated what he said and I said "Oh I don't understand the joke." and then he said "Oh its cause I was talking to xyz, he'd get it."

He didn't mean anything by it but, it just bewilders me how he has clicked with people he barely talks to and I can't seem to click with a new coworker Lol. Not that I'm trying to force it cause I'm not but it's just so weird.

I think it's an air thing, wanting to befriend everyone. However, just because they're friendly to everyone doesn't mean they consider ALL those people their intimate friends. I believe an Aqua will prefer a sincere person regaredles of what they're like. Don't worry about how you SHOULD act, just do whatever comes naturally. Aquas are scientists, everything everyone does is interesting to them, t

Oops, mibad lol everything everyone does is interesting to them.

Oh and don't insult an Aquarius and doubt that they'll be there for you. You can always count on an Air sign to be there for you..

I think what offends me more is the volume of interaction they seem to have with others who don't give a crap about them.

But as sincere as I am and friendly/helpful (like the new aqua coworker situation)...how the hell did he bond with people so easily. He is an internal guy, very hardworking typically keeps to himself. But when he does socialize he bonds with other coworkers about non work related situations. But yet I have the hardest time doing the same thing and I'm the one helping him adjust here!

All of the ones I know are like this. They end up bonding with people and spend most of their time around the ones they have a superficial relationship with.

I don't think its right. Me being a water sign or element I am...I spend my time around the ones who MATTER, who have contributed the most care to my life. It makes no sense spending time around acquaintances.

Hmmm... you seem to expect too much from a person who barely knows you. As you've probably read a thousand times in this forum, aquas hate attachment. They bond with everyone on the surface, but can easily detach when it gets rough. They just... hover Lol. And if they don't find you interesting, it is what it is, you can't force it, no matter what favor you give them.

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Hmmm... you seem to expect too much from a person who barely knows you. As you've probably read a thousand times in this forum, aquas hate attachment. They bond with everyone on the surface, but can easily detach when it gets rough. They just... hover Lol. And if they don't find you interesting, it is what it is, you can't force it, no matter what favor you give them.

I'm not expecting anything and I'm not trying to "attach" myself to him. I don't know the guy, I just have made observations.

It's like, I am nice to them...I help them becuase they are destraught and they gratefully take the help. Try to talk to them so its not always such a formal situation. I'm not always around this new coworker but yet how can he gravitate to those other coworkers readily. It's something I've noticed alot with aqua males...they always seem to gravitate towards the ones most people wouldn't gravitate towards.

Like I said, I gravitate towards those I'm close with. I'm around acquaintances less often. They seem to do the oppsoite..they seem to be around acquaintances more often than those they are close with.

not that we are close cuase we jsut met but still...it seems to happen alot with aqua males that I'm around.

Is it because they are avoiding emotional heaviness so they seek superficial socialization so things stay lighthearted?

Ha Ha.

One of my Aquarius folks saw my keys next to me and it had a Dodgers keychain. Just came up to me and pointed to it and said "That's disgusting" and walked away. Not giving me a chance to banter back.

Such a quirky mean ass 😄

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Posted by IAmMystified
I think my biggest difficulty with them especially with the males is I don't know how to be around them.

I mean I give them space as I am an independent person and I'm witty and intellectual person. Funny but yet they seem to always gravitate to super talkative yet clingy people.

As nice as all the aquas are nice and tell the most insane jokes with me, it still feels like I don't have their full attention like others would.

Is it because I'm just not a super talkative individual? I'm chatty but not excessive like everyone else is.

You've mentioned this before in a different thread, the not getting their full attention. Is this all the aquas you know or just the guy you like? I am not trying to be harsh but I do tend to be blunt, I asked earlier if this was the guy you always mention and there was a reason I asked. If it is him, are you guys actually dating? Because you come across as someone that is infatuated with a friend whom sadly does not reciprocate your feelings. Which would explain a lot of the misunderstandings, the expectations, the rudeness you see from him. Told you i'm blunt..not asking or stating all this to be hurtful.. just trying to get you to see that when you place expectations on another person to meet your needs of attention, it can fall short. He isn't trying to do things intentionally, he is just being him.

If i'm off the mark and you guys are dating, girl you need to loosen up and realize Aquas are jokesters, serious people but dam we do joke around A LOT! 😆

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It sounds like YOU are the one dating/knows him and NOT mystic.

Posted by IAmMystified
Is it because they are avoiding emotional heaviness so they seek superficial socialization so things stay lighthearted?

if that is the case with your aqua guy, then it's better you find another star sign, or at least one with heavy emphasis on earth/water.

because i can't stand jokey jokey laughing laughing giggly giggly all the fucking time.
it will irritate the fuck out of me. Not everything in life has to be jokes.

it's like you're avoiding seriousness in life.

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I think my biggest difficulty with them especially with the males is I don't know how to be around them.

I mean I give them space as I am an independent person and I'm witty and intellectual person. Funny but yet they seem to always gravitate to super talkative yet clingy people.

As nice as all the aquas are nice and tell the most insane jokes with me, it still feels like I don't have their full attention like others would.

Is it because I'm just not a super talkative individual? I'm chatty but not excessive like everyone else is.

You've mentioned this before in a different thread, the not getting their full attention. Is this all the aquas you know or just the guy you like? I am not trying to be harsh but I do tend to be blunt, I asked earlier if this was the guy you always mention and there was a reason I asked. If it is him, are you guys actually dating? Because you come across as someone that is infatuated with a friend whom sadly does not reciprocate your feelings. Which would explain a lot of the misunderstandings, the expectations, the rudeness you see from him. Told you i'm blunt..not asking or stating all this to be hurtful.. just trying to get you to see that when you place expectations on another person to meet your needs of attention, it can fall short. He isn't trying to do things intentionally, he is just being him.

If i'm off the mark and you guys are dating, girl you need to loosen up and realize Aquas are jokesters, serious people but dam we do joke around A LOT! 😆

It sounds like YOU are the one dating/knows him and NOT mystic.

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Wut? that makes no sense whatsoever. LOL Have you read her multiple threads?

nope i haven't but she's trying to understand as best as she can.

and you insinuate by putting yourself into her man's place. As if you are the man, born on that day, with all the upbringing/culture/placements her man has.

i try to stop myself from doing that, because i think to myself, what the fuck?? I'm NOT this person, woman or man. I notice alot of people around here do that. Put themselves in the man's place. Even if they are a woman. Even if it's your brother or cousin you knew growing up, it's still a FAR fetch to put yourself in their place.

Also, she keeps ranting how she doesn't get HIS full attention.

I don't know what she wants, but she needs an Aqua man with freedom loving signs in his placement.

Maybe with a Sag Venus/Gemini Mars (the gemini for intellectual) and the sag for freedom. Maybe Aqua venus/sag mars is also good.

i meant opposite. i dont think she'd like the above.

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Posted by IAmMystified
Is it because they are avoiding emotional heaviness so they seek superficial socialization so things stay lighthearted?

if that is the case with your aqua guy, then it's better you find another star sign, or at least one with heavy emphasis on earth/water.

because i can't stand jokey jokey laughing laughing giggly giggly all the fucking time.
it will irritate the fuck out of me. Not everything in life has to be jokes.

it's like you're avoiding seriousness in life.

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Me neither.

Out of the 3 aquas that I know (male) and 1 female that I know. Actually there's a 4th aqua also male from college but we haven't spoken in about a year.

But their personalities have been like:

Aqua male #1 - Jokey Jokey and excessively 75% of the time 25% leave me alone type of mood --this is the one I typically refer to

Aqua male #2 (buddy of #1) - Jokey Jokey in a balanced way 60% 40% serious -- this is the one that I tend to socialize with more often. Because he's so balanced socially. Even though aquas have a tendency to be "emotionless" seeming, he at least is easier to understand/read/interact with. I think it has something to do with certain aspects of his chart.

Aqua male #3 (new coworker) - 70% serious 30% jokey jokey. Is very calm and collected in his attitude. Very serious and professional. Deep voice. Has this aura of prestige, that you feel in awe of him. But is very nice and friendly. True humanitarian. Involved in the community alot.

Aqua male #4 (from college) - 90% jokey jokey 10% serious. Was only serious when it came to ambitious related situatiations but most of the time it was random goofy behavior that never made sense.

Aqua female (related) - 50% serious 50% jokey. More balance personality wise. Tends to either fly off the handle excessively or is a complete pushover and does nothing about it. Talks to god damn much sometimes.

Posted by IAmMystified
Ha Ha.

One of my Aquarius folks saw my keys next to me and it had a Dodgers keychain. Just came up to me and pointed to it and said "That's disgusting" and walked away. Not giving me a chance to banter back.

Such a quirky mean ass 😄

it sounds well known to me...when i do that is more like a "this is my opinion about X"....not a diologue about it...

why we do that—...hmmmm...to have some fun...
what do we expect the other to do?...to not give a shit or to say sth smart and leave it that way...nothing personal...

Posted by lisabethur8
i meant opposite. i dont think she'd like the above.

I appreciate independence. I need my independence too. I don't like clingy people either.

I guess they just confuse me because they are the OPPOSITE and do the opposite of what most people do?

I mean I get that they are logical, wacky sense of humor, sarcastic, need independence. Can't handle emotional situations and don't trust too easily and all of that good stuff.

But I think because I'm water and I'm an emotionally based sign and all my other aspects that id on't understand chart wise...what's important to me when it comes to human connection regardless of the type of relationship i have with any given person.

If I can't understand them...what is important to them, what makes them happy,w hat makes them laugh...causes they care about...what motivates them....then I don't get them. I don't know how to be...not that I am trying to be what fits them...but my god if I don't get them, I don't know what to say to them.

Aquas are tough for me because although they are direct verbally especially if you ask their opinion they seem to conflict alot with what they say vs what they do, and also what they say about somethign one day...they'll have a different opinion the next day.

I think consistency is what I think is lacking at least from my viewpoint.

Damn, Mystic, you analzye alot.

well, good analyzation skills, you could write a book on observation on people.

you really do feel as if you have a stellium in an air house, or have air moon (analyzing emotions)
or combination of air mars with air mercury in air house aspecting air placements.

you write in ellipses.

you must have Sagittarius or strong 9th house or something.

maybe you are mirroring the ones you know. Water mirrors.

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Damn, Mystic, you analzye alot.

well, good analyzation skills, you could write a book on observation on people.

you really do feel as if you have a stellium in an air house, or have air moon (analyzing emotions)
or combination of air mars with air mercury in air house aspecting air placements.

I am an observer. Which is why I don't say much in general. I mean i do socialize but I'm more of an observer/listener. Even at family gatherings, i like watching people interact and talk ...not so much wanting to participate in the conversation.

Why do I do that? I think it helps me better understand someone. Which isn't always the best way, because I do know the more you spend time with someone the more you know them...but it has always the tactic I use. I could easily change but you know the saying "creatures of habit".

I don't know, but I do seek to understand...that's really all I ever really intended.

This is my chart:

Sun Scorpio 23.42 Ascendant Sagittarius 6.56
Moon Libra 17.57 II Capricorn 9.19
Mercury Sagittarius 1.46 R III Aquarius 16.10
Venus Sagittarius 15.10 IV Pisces 22.14
Mars Leo 28.32 V Aries 22.18
Jupiter Virgo 7.49 VI Taurus 16.26
Saturn Virgo 24.45 VII Gemini 6.56
Uranus Scorpio 21.27 VIII Cancer 9.19
Neptune Sagittarius 19.16 IX Leo 16.10
Pluto Libra 20.29 Midheaven Virgo 22.14
Lilith Virgo 14.27 XI Libra 22.18
Asc node Virgo 4.47 XII Scorpio 16.26

Planet Aspect Planet Orb/Value
Sun Conjunction Mercury 8.04 98
Sun Square Mars 4.49 -31
Sun Sextile Saturn 1.03 207
Sun Conjunction Uranus 2.15 403
Sun Sextile Midheaven 1.28 126
Moon Sextile Venus 2.47 98
Moon Sextile Neptune 1.19 148
Moon Conjunction Pluto 2.32 299
Mercury Square Mars 3.14 -45
Mercury Conjunction Ascendant 5.10 108
Venus Conjunction Neptune 4.06 213
Venus Conjunction Ascendant 8.14 49
Mars Conjunction Jupiter 9.17 22
Jupiter Square Ascendant 0.53 -30
Saturn Sextile Uranus 3.17 25
Saturn Square Neptune 5.29 -5
Saturn Conjunction Midheaven 2.31 120
Uranus Sextile Midheaven 0.46 48
Neptune Sextile Pluto 1.13 42
Neptune Square Midheaven 2.58 -10
2006 -121 1885

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Posted by lisabethur8
Damn, Mystic, you analzye alot.

well, good analyzation skills, you could write a book on observation on people.

you really do feel as if you have a stellium in an air house, or have air moon (analyzing emotions)
or combination of air mars with air mercury in air house aspecting air placements.

I am an observer. Which is why I don't say much in general. I mean i do socialize but I'm more of an observer/listener. Even at family gatherings, i like watching people interact and talk ...not so much wanting to participate in the conversation.

Why do I do that? I think it helps me better understand someone. Which isn't always the best way, because I do know the more you spend time with someone the more you know them...but it has always the tactic I use. I could easily change but you know the saying "creatures of habit".

I don't know, but I do seek to understand...that's really all I ever really intended.

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Exactly!! i was just stating that earlier.

People's nature NEVER changes.

I only believe this is the select few in the world, but only through disease/trauma/ something very traumatic in their life. But even then, you have to TRANSFORM.

the 8th house MAGIC.

😄 😄

ah. you DO have air moon. 😆

and sagittarius. Well. well. 😄

you should "get" your guy very easily.

Posted by lisabethur8
nope i haven't but she's trying to understand as best as she can.

and you insinuate by putting yourself into her man's place. As if you are the man, born on that day, with all the upbringing/culture/placements her man has.

i try to stop myself from doing that, because i think to myself, what the fuck?? I'm NOT this person, woman or man. I notice alot of people around here do that. Put themselves in the man's place. Even if they are a woman. Even if it's your brother or cousin you knew growing up, it's still a FAR fetch to put yourself in their place.

Also, she keeps ranting how she doesn't get HIS full attention.

I don't know what she wants, but she needs an Aqua man with freedom loving signs in his placement.

Maybe with a Sag Venus/Gemini Mars (the gemini for intellectual) and the sag for freedom. Maybe Aqua venus/sag mars is also good.

girl I did no such thing! lol nice try though.

I was trying to not be rude and point blank call her out for the fact that she won't answer the simple question.. Are you dating? It's been asked by more than one person on here and she won't answer. She keeps making threads abut how aqua men (or her aqua) misunderstands her, is rude to her by interrupting her, assumes this and that. Won't take any accountability to her part in any of it. she places expectations on someone else and just won't see it.

I don't see where you got that I placed myself as her man in what I said, I was trying to get her to see that it's never just the other person, as in stop pointing the finger at this poor aqua dude, which again I don't think she is even dating, he is a friend that she is infatuated with. So of course she is getting the reactions from him that she is, he just doesn't see her in the same light! But you do tend to twist what others say.. so have at it.

🙂

I agree.

People never truly change unless they hit some sort of rock bottom that you mentioned. Do I think I need to change? I think I've changed in the past 5 years when something traumatic (in my view) happened back in 2009. not life / death stuff more of a loss situation totally changed who I was. I used to be more shy, coy, naive amazed by anything anyone told me about.

These days I'm more guarded, opinionated, less tolerant, less forgiving etc. Which is probably why I seek to understand people and things that confuse me becuase I'm trying to avoid vulnerable situations now. I don't want another major loss.

The Journey of the Sorcerer. 😄

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Posted by lisabethur8
nope i haven't but she's trying to understand as best as she can.

and you insinuate by putting yourself into her man's place. As if you are the man, born on that day, with all the upbringing/culture/placements her man has.

i try to stop myself from doing that, because i think to myself, what the fuck?? I'm NOT this person, woman or man. I notice alot of people around here do that. Put themselves in the man's place. Even if they are a woman. Even if it's your brother or cousin you knew growing up, it's still a FAR fetch to put yourself in their place.

Also, she keeps ranting how she doesn't get HIS full attention.

I don't know what she wants, but she needs an Aqua man with freedom loving signs in his placement.

Maybe with a Sag Venus/Gemini Mars (the gemini for intellectual) and the sag for freedom. Maybe Aqua venus/sag mars is also good.

girl I did no such thing! lol nice try though.

I was trying to not be rude and point blank call her out for the fact that she won't answer the simple question.. Are you dating? It's been asked by more than one person on here and she won't answer. She keeps making threads abut how aqua men (or her aqua) misunderstands her, is rude to her by interrupting her, assumes this and that. Won't take any accountability to her part in any of it. she places expectations on someone else and just won't see it.

I don't see where you got that I placed myself as her man in what I said, I was trying to get her to see that it's never just the other person, as in stop pointing the finger at this poor aqua dude, which again I don't think she is even dating, he is a friend that she is infatuated with. So of course she is getting the reactions from him that she is, he just doesn't see her in the same light! But you do tend to twist what others say.. so have at it.

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and you know this? Because??

Posted by lisabethur8
ah. you DO have air moon. 😆

and sagittarius. Well. well. 😄

you should "get" your guy very easily.

Wouldn't know how LOL

@justagirl I didn't answer your question because I can't see every single post. geezus 😛

No he's just a close friend (or WAS) that i've known for a long time. We had a major falling out a bit ago that at least I haven't recovered from. If you look at my libra moon you all know it talks about partnership and things like that. Out of all the friends and acquaintances and people i know in my life including family. I have always sought some sort of stability in various areas of my life. That one "rock" that I could count on. In my circle of friends, he has always been that person. He was the one that has saved me multiple times in the past from scary situations, he was the one that i have always connected with intellectually. We have the same perceptions and views on various life topics. But he's also the one person that I argue / fight with the most. He sees me as this source of stability in his life too and has built up expectations on me, but he hasn't totally kept up his half of the bargain as of late and yet he still has his expecations of me. That's the biggest source of issue which led to the other issues i've mentioned on here.

The things she has said... Granted it's her view on their interactions, it's still pretty obvious. Even if they are or aren't dating isn't really the point. Based upon what she has shared on these forums, she places a ton of expectations on others... and that just isn't healthy in friendships/relationships etc.

But the real answer is because I am physic.. 😆

you know it's just my opinion. People can take it or leave it. But kindly do not try to twist what I have said.

IAmMystic, I respect that you are trying to learn and understand.. that's admirable.

Posted by IAmMystified
I agree.

People never truly change unless they hit some sort of rock bottom that you mentioned. Do I think I need to change? I think I've changed in the past 5 years when something traumatic (in my view) happened back in 2009. not life / death stuff more of a loss situation totally changed who I was. I used to be more shy, coy, naive amazed by anything anyone told me about.

These days I'm more guarded, opinionated, less tolerant, less forgiving etc. Which is probably why I seek to understand people and things that confuse me becuase I'm trying to avoid vulnerable situations now. I don't want another major loss.

i understand what you mean, in that perspective, and your interaction with this guy, you want to understand his nature? I'm afraid I dont understand them either. But, some clues can help you besides looking at his chart. You can look at his upbringing/culture/background. Then see how his parents raised him. Were his parents, or are his parents always there for him? that kind of thing.
Maybe gave him too mcuh freedom.

you don't want to put investment into someone and then later on, down the year or two, or more, you are left going why? what?

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Posted by lisabethur8
ah. you DO have air moon. 😆

and sagittarius. Well. well. 😄

you should "get" your guy very easily.

Wouldn't know how LOL

@justagirl I didn't answer your question because I can't see every single post. geezus 😛

No he's just a close friend (or WAS) that i've known for a long time. We had a major falling out a bit ago that at least I haven't recovered from. If you look at my libra moon you all know it talks about partnership and things like that. Out of all the friends and acquaintances and people i know in my life including family. I have always sought some sort of stability in various areas of my life. That one "rock" that I could count on. In my circle of friends, he has always been that person. He was the one that has saved me multiple times in the past from scary situations, he was the one that i have always connected with intellectually. We have the same perceptions and views on various life topics. But he's also the one person that I argue / fight with the most. He sees me as this source of stability in his life too and has built up expectations on me, but he hasn't totally kept up his half of the bargain as of late and yet he still has his expecations of me. That's the biggest source of issue which led to the other issues i've mentioned on here.

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Well hopefully you guys can mend that fence and pick up where you left off.

Can you talk to him about the falling out you had?

Posted by justagirl
The things she has said... Granted it's her view on their interactions, it's still pretty obvious. Even if they are or aren't dating isn't really the point. Based upon what she has shared on these forums, she places a ton of expectations on others... and that just isn't healthy in friendships/relationships etc.

But the real answer is because I am physic.. 😆

you know it's just my opinion. People can take it or leave it. But kindly do not try to twist what I have said.

IAmMystic, I respect that you are trying to learn and understand.. that's admirable.

You two should stop arguing and people should refrain from generalizing my posts and generalizing my character. I can't answer every single post and I don't like to be long winded so I try to paraphrase as much as possible but at the same time being as clear as possible. I obviously failed at that.

Yes, the motivation for most of what I do in life is to understand. So that when I do understand, I can do something worth while to affect change in their life or in the world. That's truly what's important to me. But in order to create change I need stability in my life. If he used to be the stability in my life, I'm going to fight hard to keep it.

Do I make sense to you now?