Do you guys always misunderstand everything? (Page 3)

Posted by justagirl
The things she has said... Granted it's her view on their interactions, it's still pretty obvious. Even if they are or aren't dating isn't really the point. Based upon what she has shared on these forums, she places a ton of expectations on others... and that just isn't healthy in friendships/relationships etc.

But the real answer is because I am physic.. 😆

you know it's just my opinion. People can take it or leave it. But kindly do not try to twist what I have said.

IAmMystic, I respect that you are trying to learn and understand.. that's admirable.

i wasn't trying to twist anything. I saw what i saw. It's nothing more than that.

but it's i agree that i haven't read even half of what she wrote.

If she has high expectations, then she does. I'm not the type to have "high" expectations on my man. I prefer my husband to be the most imperfect. because i too am imperfect. I don't want perfection.

it might be her libra part that wants to elevate this guy (high expectation); and if he can't fit the bill, she'll be very disappointed.

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Posted by IAmMystified
I agree.

People never truly change unless they hit some sort of rock bottom that you mentioned. Do I think I need to change? I think I've changed in the past 5 years when something traumatic (in my view) happened back in 2009. not life / death stuff more of a loss situation totally changed who I was. I used to be more shy, coy, naive amazed by anything anyone told me about.

These days I'm more guarded, opinionated, less tolerant, less forgiving etc. Which is probably why I seek to understand people and things that confuse me becuase I'm trying to avoid vulnerable situations now. I don't want another major loss.

i understand what you mean, in that perspective, and your interaction with this guy, you want to understand his nature? I'm afraid I dont understand them either. But, some clues can help you besides looking at his chart. You can look at his upbringing/culture/background. Then see how his parents raised him. Were his parents, or are his parents always there for him? that kind of thing.
Maybe gave him too mcuh freedom.

you don't want to put investment into someone and then later on, down the year or two, or more, you are left going why? what?

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I never see getting to know someone even if they turn into an a.sshole as a total loss. I do believe there's good in everyone. His parents? He has said in the past that his dad was hard on him and his brother. Which I can see becuase he's hard on himself. I think his parents had a strong work ethic as they've been business owners his whole life and had him, his brother and sister work in the family business until they graduated college.

When I went to some of his family events his parents all said to me when he introduced me for the first time...they all said "I feel bad for you. I don't know how you do it." In a joking way of course. Cuase his jokey nature is too much to handle sometimes.

i have bad news for you, but men fart, smell bad, have underarm odors, forget to put down the toilet seat, have bad tempers when the bill is too high, demanding, beer belly, grows a beard if he wants, scratches between his balls, fart again,

if you are expecting prince tutu and handsome joe to come rescuing who smells like giorgio armani,
then you're gonna be disappointed.

and man, they fart like a doozy.

@justagirl

I have talked to him about it multiple times. Yelled at him even (yes too much for someone of his sun sign to handle) and for the most part he's been tolerant of my emotional "spewing" at him but there have been a couple of times where I said something that hit him at the core and he got pissed which is rare for him and he said a few harsh words that were true. Didn't help fix the situation though. In alot of ways we are just too different. Its mostly becuase I'm more of a human connectedness kind of person and he's more a human serivce kind of person.

It's going better but I have my inner demons to deal with that is still affecting the dynamic of our friendship. I am still angry at him and he still has his perceptions of my character that isn't exactly true but my actions caused him to have those perceptions.

It's a work in progress but he's a forgiving person so hopefully time will heal things.

Posted by lisabethur8
i have bad news for you, but men fart, smell bad, have underarm odors, forget to put down the toilet seat, have bad tempers when the bill is too high, demanding, beer belly, grows a beard if he wants, scratches between his balls, fart again,

if you are expecting prince tutu and handsome joe to come rescuing who smells like giorgio armani,
then you're gonna be disappointed.

Oh I've known that. I do have exes after all. That stuff doesn't bother me.

Reliability and communication is the most important to me.

Everything else is 2nd nature.

i know, they sound like gorillas don't they?

it reminds me of this:



i love my gorilla. 😄

"I told you to stop farting"

"Grunt."

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Posted by lisabethur8
i have bad news for you, but men fart, smell bad, have underarm odors, forget to put down the toilet seat, have bad tempers when the bill is too high, demanding, beer belly, grows a beard if he wants, scratches between his balls, fart again,

if you are expecting prince tutu and handsome joe to come rescuing who smells like giorgio armani,
then you're gonna be disappointed.

Oh I've known that. I do have exes after all. That stuff doesn't bother me.

Reliability and communication is the most important to me.

Everything else is 2nd nature.

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i honestly can't help you there. If only we could know, but only you know yourself if you love him enough to take all the crap.

I only know how to take care of my own, so it's very hard to express what you yourself should do. You and him have your own "dynamic".

Yeah i mean guys are fantastic beings.

I don't like seeing when people bash their gender. Every person is different than the other.

But it will be tough to break through to him seeing as this is his mars (capricorn)

With fiery Mars in the more orderly sign of Capricorn, natives with this position have a subdued and controlled style of approaching life. Most don't come across as particularly enthusiastic; rather, theirs is a low-key but determined energy. Mars in Capricorn natives like to be on top of things. They are generally goal-oriented and focused people who are not afraid of hard work. Most are achievers by nature, and many possess well-defined ambitions--well-defined to themselves more than anything. They're not particularly flashy people, but their drive to succeed and to make their lives secure is strong, even if it's not right out there for the world to see. Anger is expressed in a rather cool, level-headed way with this position of Mars. Self-control is strong when it comes to expressing anger, drive, energy, and sexuality. Capricorn is a sign that detests waste of any kind. It also fears disorderliness and "letting go". With Mars in Capricorn, there is generally a powerful need to stay in control.

Sorry I just disappeared earlier! I forgot I had a hair appointment! Luckily my hair dresser sent me a text saying she was running behind! LOL

Also, was never trying to argue with Lisa, we just see things from different perspectives. It felt it was more of a debate 😄

all that aside, hope things can get sorted for you, IAmMystified.

Sooo.. my mars is cap and it takes A VERY LONG TIME for me to change habits. Years.

Posted by justagirl
Sorry I just disappeared earlier! I forgot I had a hair appointment! Luckily my hair dresser sent me a text saying she was running behind! LOL

Also, was never trying to argue with Lisa, we just see things from different perspectives. It felt it was more of a debate 😄

all that aside, hope things can get sorted for you, IAmMystified.

Tis alright, I don't really take online chatter, bickering or etc. too seriously BUT its fine anyway cause I ran off cuase we were celebrating thanksgiving at work. Some of the guys @ work went and picked up lasagna, salad and soda.

Priorities priorities...

ANyway I was saying if you see what i posted about a capricorn moon it oozes "control"...it didn't really talk about emotions but i wouldn't be surprised if it was referring to that as well. It makes sense why he's so i guess hesitant. THat's not even the right word but it's the only thing I can come up with.

I would like to weigh in here as an aqua. I have trouble with sarcasm and exaggeration. One of my exes(Gemini) used to exaggerate a lot when speaking to other peeps and I would call her out. This would annoy her. I didn't do it to put her down, however I believe in stating facts as they are. Also a capi ex of mine was pretty much always sarcastic and I could never tell when she was being serious and would take everything literally which used to also bother her. We tend to believe what you say bc that's how we would communicate. Tell an aqua something with a straight face that isn't so obviously exaggerated and they will believe it. However I would not believe there were a billion cars on the road. If you said it was literally a billion cars you should learn to correct your own way of speaking as literally should mean exactly that.
In saying all that I will have to agree with a few of the other posts out there. We take one thing you say and within seconds we are pulling it apart and analyzing ever my detail. From what you said, to the tone in your voice, body language, etc. That's just how our mind works. Say what you mean and mean what you say.

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Posted by justagirl
Sorry I just disappeared earlier! I forgot I had a hair appointment! Luckily my hair dresser sent me a text saying she was running behind! LOL

Also, was never trying to argue with Lisa, we just see things from different perspectives. It felt it was more of a debate 😄

all that aside, hope things can get sorted for you, IAmMystified.

Tis alright, I don't really take online chatter, bickering or etc. too seriously BUT its fine anyway cause I ran off cuase we were celebrating thanksgiving at work. Some of the guys @ work went and picked up lasagna, salad and soda.

Priorities priorities...

ANyway I was saying if you see what i posted about a capricorn moon it oozes "control"...it didn't really talk about emotions but i wouldn't be surprised if it was referring to that as well. It makes sense why he's so i guess hesitant. THat's not even the right word but it's the only thing I can come up with.

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oh he has a capricorn moon? Alot of reserve with that moon.

the couple i remember in celebrity world with a Cap moon/Aquarius sun paired with Scorpio sun female is Rebecca Romijn and Jerry O'Connell, they have twins.

And she's similar to you, Mystic, she has dominant libra in the chart. With Mars in libra /stellium Libra in the 9th house (so lots of sagittarius energy)
with a Scorpio Moon along with her Sun in the 10th house (Capricorn energy) so she understands and gets her husband's Capricorn energy.

He, on the other hand has libra as his top three dominant as well. So does she. Although he has cap moon/taurus mars/cap venus, his 7th house is strong. Her ex was a Leo sun, who she never had babies with/had a family with. The capricorn theme is strong with these two, wanting a family/tradition.

hm random astro curiousity: John Stamos's chart, because he's still single, and doesn't seem like a commitment guy, i mean he wants partnership but he's a commitmentphobe (the feeling i get from him) like not want family ect, the works.

then saw he has a virgo moon, with virgo stellium in 6th house. O_O wha? the virgo commitment phobe is in the works again! he's got libra mars though which is why he gets his ex too. and being in 7th he likes partnership. But that stellium in 6th. damn guy. It is reminding me again of when Michael Sheen and Racheal McAdams split because he couldn't do the marriage/commitment/family thing with her. So he let her go, and she was devastated. For her Gemini moon, his Virgo moon/Scorp mars would be heaven.

And Underworld actress Kate Beckingsale couldn't get Michael Sheen to the altar either. But at least she got a baby between them, and still likes him. She is now married to a Pisces sun, who i don't know his chart. Probably doesnt have a virgo moon/virgo stellium in the 6th house. What's up with men like this?

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Posted by IAmMystified
@MZ

But changing someone else's conversation that he wasn't a part of is rude and messed up. It's not always about him ya know 😐

Yeah I can be very rude. Interrupting people, jumping in, changing subjects to talk about something else.
I tend todo it when I feel like I know what they're going to say already or I'm excited to tell them something and I can't wait....

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I am guilty of this too.. ESECIALLY when i'm excited. I literally bounce up & down. 😛

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Posted by justagirl
Sorry I just disappeared earlier! I forgot I had a hair appointment! Luckily my hair dresser sent me a text saying she was running behind! LOL

Also, was never trying to argue with Lisa, we just see things from different perspectives. It felt it was more of a debate 😄

all that aside, hope things can get sorted for you, IAmMystified.

Tis alright, I don't really take online chatter, bickering or etc. too seriously BUT its fine anyway cause I ran off cuase we were celebrating thanksgiving at work. Some of the guys @ work went and picked up lasagna, salad and soda.

Priorities priorities...

ANyway I was saying if you see what i posted about a capricorn moon it oozes "control"...it didn't really talk about emotions but i wouldn't be surprised if it was referring to that as well. It makes sense why he's so i guess hesitant. THat's not even the right word but it's the only thing I can come up with.

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I forgot he has a cap moon...UGH dealing with someone myself with a cap moon. So dam frustrating at times, but it's getting easier to understand and they are just big pussy cats on the inside but heaven forbid you figure that out!!

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Posted by IAmMystified
@MZ

But changing someone else's conversation that he wasn't a part of is rude and messed up. It's not always about him ya know 😐

Yeah I can be very rude. Interrupting people, jumping in, changing subjects to talk about something else.
I tend todo it when I feel like I know what they're going to say already or I'm excited to tell them something and I can't wait....

I am guilty of this too.. ESECIALLY when i'm excited. I literally bounce up & down. 😛

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this is why the internet message board system is easier. In real life, around the dinner table with family i'm a church mouse and never get a word in at all. Everyone is talking, and have so much to say. I just listen and listen. But on a messageboard, it's a different medium. Not in real life though, even after dinner, we sit around the sitting room having desserts, coffee, tea, ect and still, everyone is talking, but not me. I'm glad though, i can just listen and listen to everyone's stories.

Guarded is the word I use to describe cap moons! TrueCap has this placement, perhaps she can weigh in 🙂 They have to trust, trust and did I mention trust, to let their true self's out even though outsiders can usually see who they are, but again you aren't supposed to figure them out. LOL It's hard to explain. At least that has been my experience so far.

not just in my family circle which is BIG, but also in my husband's family circle, everyone is talking, but there's not much to talk about on my end. What? Astrology? Gardening? Cooking? Boooorrrring.

Everyone else is talking about their adventures in other lands, or something happened exciting, or some gossip or something. One time, my father in law talked about the man who died in France, while bicycling the Tour De france. that was a sad story. So he explained in detail, as a double virgo would, what happened, then clicked to the internet to show me. All the details of where he died, to the monument there, and of course, later in the years. My husband's father is a very special person, who has a load of information overload to just help out. 😄 😄

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Posted by IAmMystified
@MZ

But changing someone else's conversation that he wasn't a part of is rude and messed up. It's not always about him ya know 😐

Yeah I can be very rude. Interrupting people, jumping in, changing subjects to talk about something else.
I tend todo it when I feel like I know what they're going to say already or I'm excited to tell them something and I can't wait....

I am guilty of this too.. ESECIALLY when i'm excited. I literally bounce up & down. 😛

this is why the internet message board system is easier. In real life, around the dinner table with family i'm a church mouse and never get a word in at all. Everyone is talking, and have so much to say. I just listen and listen. But on a messageboard, it's a different medium. Not in real life though, even after dinner, we sit around the sitting room having desserts, coffee, tea, ect and still, everyone is talking, but not me. I'm glad though, i can just listen and listen to everyone's stories.

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In big groups that is me. Quiet mouse in the corner, people watching, taking everything in.. one on one or just a few, I won't stop talking! LOL What's your Merc in? mines cap, 2nd house. Blunt, dry and to the point!

Happy thanksgiving all of you!

I'm a church mouse mostly everywhere as I said earlier. Part of it is because I'm observing but sometimes also I feel like what's the point in talking when someone eventually will try and dominate the conversation and make it only about them or someone will always end up arguing. Especially my family. Whenever something hints at being negative or an argument, I usually just leave the room. I decided a while back that I wasn't gonna hear other people's issues lol. I don't leave the room usually during my own arguments but I don't like hearing other people's arguments.

Yep I agree with guarded being a better word with the Cap Moon/Aqua Sun. He's pretty open about being annoyed by certain things/people although he won't say it to that exact persons face. Makes me wonder if he ever said stuff behind my back haha, but I know he's still hestitating.

One thing I did notice last nite, when a bunch of us were hanging out and I was talking to one of my closest friends who I spend most of my time around. Anyway whenever I was talking to someone he'd eventually crash the conversation like always, but he has this habit of always turning towards the OTHER person (his side view is facing me) and he will look and speak directly at the other person. Even though in his head he's talking to the both of us. It was every single conversation I was in. I would chime in and he'd like half answer but would be active if the other person was talking. I think that's rude.

At one point he was in his own conversation with someone and I was in my own and all of a sudden he comes up to me looked directly at me and said we need your help. So I went over to them, they had some iphone issue and I typically know how to trouble shoot but they asked me because Aqua Man couldn't figure it out and they wanted to see how i would fix a little glitch thingee. SO I walked the other friend through it. Everyone was talking at the same time, and everytime anyone would say something he'd joke/banter/be all social but if it was me I could almost see the change. The shut down, the not wanting to look...etc.

Wtf is that. It doesn't really bother me, but I swear on god i'm not reading to much into this. It's like how you would act if you were pissed at someone.

Aquas you are the worst 😢 Air doesn't deserve to be with water! Why? Because air people don't understand our needs 😢 😢 😢

Tired of Aqua and their weirdness. Really I am. Tired of this on/off bullshit.

Yes I said B U L L S H I T.

They take people they need the most for granted. They are soooooooooooooooo nice to people they don't give a rats ass about and yet they have this whole lengthy process before they trust someone.

What about people being able to trust them. What about them deserves trust!


Disclaimer: This post in no way is directed at all Aquas. Just my specific MORON! Sorry I'm just venting.

Posted by IAmMystified
Aquas you are the worst 😢 Air doesn't deserve to be with water! Why? Because air people don't understand our needs 😢 😢 😢

Tired of Aqua and their weirdness. Really I am. Tired of this on/off bullshit.

Yes I said B U L L S H I T.

They take people they need the most for granted. They are soooooooooooooooo nice to people they don't give a rats ass about and yet they have this whole lengthy process before they trust someone.

What about people being able to trust them. What about them deserves trust!


Disclaimer: This post in no way is directed at all Aquas. Just my specific MORON! Sorry I'm just venting.

it's ok venting on here...

and i know it has little to do with aquas...why? because water or not...this is what any girl involved with a loser who doesn't know what he wants or who doesn't want what he has says regardless of that man's sun sign..

what about you moving on...or, better said, letting him behind?!

Being such a grounded individual. I can't understand him sometimes.

The way he jumps from thought to thought. The speed at which he walks. The speed at which he talks. The fact that unless he does something at that exact moment, then he'll forget about it a minute later.

It's his ADHDness that drives me up the wall, add in his air like qualities and being a cap moon.

He's such a friggin mess. But when he focuses and actually talks about how he friggin feels then he's a blessing. I guess that's why he likes me being around because I'm so focused and grounded. I'm like an anchor to his speedboat. Anyone that ends up with him long time will have to put a leash on him and teach him how to slow himself down and to process.

Thank god he doesn't drink coffee or sodas or eat candy. God, that would be such a crazy adventure.

When I met his parents for the first time, they both laughed and said "I don't know how you do it."

If his own parents say it, then my god...what chance does rest of the world have?

LMAO. I just read my post...its actually funny.

well.. a little bit of work is maybe needed BUT i would never want to intentionally change a man. My aquarius is too very all-over-the-place kind of gal sometimes but i respect him and i adore him so much. I am too very much a grounded person, which much pride and dont allow myself to be this drastic, zig zag person but thats why i like him. He is everything im not and i accept him for who he is. He cannot change me and i dont want him to change too because we fell in love with the way the other was so lets keep it that way.

Watch your man like he is magic because he is :-)

Posted by taurusinsane
well.. a little bit of work is maybe needed BUT i would never want to intentionally change a man. My aquarius is too very all-over-the-place kind of gal sometimes but i respect him and i adore him so much. I am too very much a grounded person, which much pride and dont allow myself to be this drastic, zig zag person but thats why i like him. He is everything im not and i accept him for who he is. He cannot change me and i dont want him to change too because we fell in love with the way the other was so lets keep it that way.

Watch your man like he is magic because he is :-)

I'm not trying to change him and I do like in some ways his odd ball ways cuase its funny and its not always predictable but it is frustrating becuase it sometimes creates this partial unreliability. Not that he's doing anything on purpose but he forgets easily cause he's thinking about a billion things a minute. I guess to ease my frustrations I have to figure out a way to find a way to kind of grab hold of his zoom zoom zoom and use it to my advantage or something lol.

By the way a part of the influence of my original rant was becuase its T.O.M time 🙂

That but everything i stated is true so TOM is not completely to blame.

for me, the aloof mind and forgetting things are so sweet. because im in charge all the time and i like that (meetings etc) and i just know that i cannot rely on him so much. But im ok with that because im independent and i like my grounded nerdy on-point attitude lol.

When he says he goes out for 3 hours, what does that mean? This means he will return to me maybe in 5-6am lol. When he says that we will go out on friday at 8pm, well.. this means actually a spontaneous meeting at the forest 9pm on monday night. never know with this guy, this thing really screws up my "i will brush my teeth at 9am sharp" attitude.

Posted by taurusinsane
for me, the aloof mind and forgetting things are so sweet. because im in charge all the time and i like that (meetings etc) and i just know that i cannot rely on him so much. But im ok with that because im independent and i like my grounded nerdy on-point attitude lol.

When he says he goes out for 3 hours, what does that mean? This means he will return to me maybe in 5-6am lol. When he says that we will go out on friday at 8pm, well.. this means actually a spontaneous meeting at the forest 9pm on monday night. never know with this guy, this thing really screws up my "i will brush my teeth at 9am sharp" attitude.

That's exactly how he is and I think some days its funny becuase I know even though he won't say it out loud to my face he doesn't rely on me being a rock as I've mentioned in other posts somewhere but I wish he'd be my rock like he used to when he used to try so hard and focused and was more reliable. I don't want to be in "charge" all the time. I'm always the one in charge, but for once i'd like to be able to depend on someone or have someone take care of me. I'm more like you, semi-nerdy...on point, take charge grounded kind of person. But like I said...I need help sometimes. I'd like for him to help me as much as I'm a safety blanket for him.

He's like your time analogy too. He said to me tonight, "I'll be back in a bit" and I said okay I'll see you later. What he meant was, he was going home. 😐

Posted by feby
For me if someone can make me feel like they love me just as I am, that's enough. If he feels that way with you then you may get more than you've bargained for, but you'll definitely get everything you've asked for.

I don't know what he thinks exactly as he is always on the go. Zoom zoom zoom. He never says exactly what he means, he never does what he wants to do as he's always jumping into a billion things.

When he needs help, he doesn't ask...he just makes a statement. Time is relative to him and while I accept his quirks and all, not having a way to balance or handle him is frustrating.

It makes me go coo coo x(

Honestly, your Scorpio obsession is showing. You need to chill and lay off trying to understand him. My Venus understands.. but you simply cannot pin air down. You just have to accept it and enjoy the ride or else move on. Build a boat, catch the airy breeze, & set sail. Or ya know, don't and keep feeling coo coo.

As for being your rock, I completely understand.. my chart is very airy with one major water and one major earth placement. I deeply craved stability and someone more grounded than myself. Husb chart is all earth with Mars Aquarius & Libra Asc.

However, Cap Moon would mean now that You can perhaps satisfy His emotional needs.. but does he have anything to offer you?

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Honestly, your Scorpio obsession is showing. You need to chill and lay off trying to understand him. My Venus understands.. but you simply cannot pin air down. You just have to accept it and enjoy the ride or else move on. Build a boat, catch the airy breeze, & set sail. Or ya know, don't and keep feeling coo coo.

As for being your rock, I completely understand.. my chart is very airy with one major water and one major earth placement. I deeply craved stability and someone more grounded than myself. Husb chart is all earth with Mars Aquarius & Libra Asc.

However, Cap Moon would mean now that You can perhaps satisfy His emotional needs.. but does he have anything to offer you?

It's not exactly an obsession its more like he's driving me nuts. I don't know where I said it, but its like he has this weird double standard fauxness thing. It's like I said before on the rare occasion he talks about this "We" this and "We" that as if whereever he goes I'm automatically going. If he has these goals he wants to achieve, its as if I'm going to be there along the way. Whenever he's going home makes sure he tells me before he goes home (the words he uses is as if he's asking for permission?!) and if I don't react the right way he gets pissy. We aren't together! But if he wants to treat me like some faux partner in crime, then act like it 100% ! There's no halfsies or whenever it suits him. While I think its cute that he has labelled me this confusing thing that he doesn't want to admit he's doing, then fine. But whatever he's doing, he needs to be consistent with it. Not the...I'm going to treat you like a faux partner in crime and then not say anything when we're all hanging out. It's not fair for me.

But his wishy washy ness drives me up the wall because I never know where I stand with him. He's not a dirtbag but he just needs to lay off the ritalin or something.

But its mostly me just venting because i'm on my period. He's usually my target during these times of the year 😄

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For me if someone can make me feel like they love me just as I am, that's enough. If he feels that way with you then you may get more than you've bargained for, but you'll definitely get everything you've asked for.

I don't know what he thinks exactly as he is always on the go. Zoom zoom zoom. He never says exactly what he means, he never does what he wants to do as he's always jumping into a billion things.

When he needs help, he doesn't ask...he just makes a statement. Time is relative to him and while I accept his quirks and all, not having a way to balance or handle him is frustrating.

It makes me go coo coo x(

I think venting about it here is just fine. I know I need to vent and talk it through, sometimes until it's smashed up into little bits, just so I can move forward with it.

I know that stability and having my own rock is very important to me. I have earth venus though and supposedly I'm supposed to like that security. So I understand what you mean. I'm sure I drive my bf crazy.

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It says under my Libra moon I have an innate need for partnership and stuff like that. It's true, I need a rock in every avenue of my life. If he doesn't want to be it, then he needs stop making me his. There's no halfsies like I said. Half the time he talks to me (when he eventually does) its like he thinks I know what he's talking about i.e. he'll say something like "He was at xyz location?" and I'll say "who's he?" I get that all the time. Or the making sure he tells me he's gonna go home. Which is all good and fine but don't be a buttface when other people are around.

It's not fair for me. I need consistency with my partner in crime whomever it is. And and the other day it kind of was offensive but in the past when he was referring to exes he mentioned before he would get yelled at. The other day we were with a mutual friend and he said to her..."Yeah if you go and do that then Mystified will yell at me to, and I'll have to yell at you."

I'm like WTF? I was about to say "Don't equate me with your experience you had with your exes." But I didn't say anything.

Posted by feby
Hi. I have a libra moon as well 🙂
If it was me I would just have called him out on it, either publicly or privately...every time.
Of course there are times when I bite my tongue but i find that if it's something that's going to bother me emotionally then if I don't release it it will just fester more and more.

That's exactly why I didn't say anything re: his yelling at him comment. I'm not one to embarrass people publically. Plus, I have confronted him many times in the past about this limbo stuff and every single time I swear he acts like he doesn't know what I'm talking about. When he knows damn well what I'm talking about. It's just a waste of time confronting him. That's not to say I can't have a discussion with him ever, but I guess when it comes to this "limbo"ness that's the one thing I have yet been able to get him to even give his opinion on. Except one time where he truly let me down and it was bottom of the barrel and it was the final straw. We actually did talk, it was mostly me venting at him but I was open and honest probably a little too heavy for him but he was good and stayed and listened. Said us having that talk was important to him. But he knew by the end of it what hurt, where he went wrong, what I missed. yadda yadda but most of the time he clams up when it comes to this void/limbo thing.

It's either the guarded aspect or he's in denial. The only way I truly will know or maybe he will truly admit it to himself is if I disappear or something happens to me (god forbid) then he'll do something about it. But I think right now he's comfortable not admiting but still doing it kinda

Posted by feby
And I will get angrier and angrier. Why are you holding back?

In that specific instance? or just in general?


I hold back about the dynamic between him and I and discussing it or acknowledging it becuase of the past and all the times where I'd talk to him about it and he'd always act like he wouldn't know what i as talking about and I'd always end up feeling like a moron who imagined things when I know I didn't imagine him freaking out all the times where I wasn't around, or all the times where he got jealous when I was talking to some male, or all that blah blah ness.

Part of why I sometimes act like I don't give a crap about him to his face becuase I'm afraid that he'd think I'm weird becuase of the aformentioned paragraph. All those times where I confronted him only for my understanding of the situation most of the time I'd end up walking away feeling no sense of closure or feeling like a moron and it hurt. It hurt my esteem. It made me feel like I was reading too much into a situation and I will swear on everything I own he's creating the limbo he won't admit to.

As a result of feeling like a moron, I have a wall up. I mean the other day he was no where to be found I was slightly worried. I was talking to his buddy (Also an aqua) and I said "wheeeeeeeeeeeere is he!" and he's said "I don't know, what time did he say he was coming?" "XYZSID" Aqua friend said "Why are you worried?" and I said "Uh yeah...aren't you? It's raining heavily." His aqua friend said "Okay I'll text him." So me and aqua friend talked for a good bit and then his aqua friend said "He didn't text me back."

Anyway, I felt like a moron worrying cause he showed up 10 minutes after that.