does he love me for real

Im a cancer, So we dated last year but broke up because of my insecurities and him hiding stuff. We became friend in July little after my birthday one night he told me about his relationship with his girl and that he can't be himself when they're together it was weird so I ended the conversation, two nights later we were texting when he said it he said "I can't talk to someone where we both can't be ourselves around each other, thats y I love u because I can be myself around u and u love me too" I was shocked because I do love him but hated him for keeping secrets so since that we started dating again he tell me he loves me regular and when were out he shows a lot of PDA am at his house more than ever but I still think he's lying about something because he's so friendly idk what to really think tbh I don't trust him lately it like I can't get a reply on time like I can't depend on him I told him I felt hurt because he didn't reply on time when I texted and called and he said he never meant to hurt me ?? but idk what to think he says hell never hurt me but I feel like he will

Back up for a little bit and stop with the assumptions. Control your emotions. Give him a little space to himself. Just because he doesn't reply right away. Doesn't mean he went anywhere or forgot about you. You're making a mountain out of a mole hill.

I am a Cancer, recently out of a relationship with an Aquarius, I thought he cared about me because he was sweet at times and knew what to say but he also knew what to say to hurt me...He told me recently all I was good for was sex...he also talked to other girls and hid stuff from me before, swearing up and down he didn't have feelings for his ex but couldn't leave her be...We would go on breaks because I would be fed up with his lack of showing interest and we would end up back conversing 2 weeks later usually because he would message me and my dumb ass took him back each time, showing him he could treat me however but I was finally done with him when I discovered he had told his friend something I confided in him and talked down about me...We broke up prior to this because he put me down personally during a disagreement, he literally put me down for not sharing the same views as him. The loser had the nerve to text me recently saying he thought about me every day my reply was what a shame, cold shoulder that ass....but I get a call from my friend (a mutual friend of ours) asking if I was back with him because she seen him drive by with a blonde in his truck, which was probably his former fuck friend, he denied it but hasn't bothered contacting me since because he knows this time I am gone for good...Not saying all aquarius' are like this but out of cancers least compatible match signs I've dated 2 aqua, gemini and they both turned to complete shit...Now I am with a scorpio and feel pretty secure, maybe not fully but I know he loves me : $

Posted by cancerian_queen
Im a cancer, So we dated last year but broke up because of my insecurities and him hiding stuff. We became friend in July little after my birthday one night he told me about his relationship with his girl and that he can't be himself when they're together it was weird so I ended the conversation, two nights later we were texting when he said it he said "I can't talk to someone where we both can't be ourselves around each other, thats y I love u because I can be myself around u and u love me too" I was shocked because I do love him but hated him for keeping secrets so since that we started dating again he tell me he loves me regular and when were out he shows a lot of PDA am at his house more than ever but I still think he's lying about something because he's so friendly idk what to really think tbh I don't trust him lately it like I can't get a reply on time like I can't depend on him I told him I felt hurt because he didn't reply on time when I texted and called and he said he never meant to hurt me ?? but idk what to think he says hell never hurt me but I feel like he will

Give it up. You don't trust him. A relationship would be doomed before it started

What kind of secrets did he keep from you last time?

Posted by Aquistorm
Back up for a little bit and stop with the assumptions. Control your emotions. Give him a little space to himself. Just because he doesn't reply right away. Doesn't mean he went anywhere or forgot about you. You're making a mountain out of a mole hill.

Yeah we kinda talked about that and I was really overreacting

Posted by aquarius_beauty
Honestly, he is going to hurt you. Not because he's cruel and is doing it on purpose. But, you being an overly emotional being...a cancer, you are expecting him to react to you the way you'd react to him. If this is going to be your mentality, then walk away now. Because eventually he'll end up leaving if he feels like he's being smothered or reprimanded for being himself.

The thing you need to understand (let's break it down). He's a man. Men don't like to be nagged. They don't like being forced or pressured to do something that doesn't come naturally to them. (2) He's an aquarius. What does that mean? He's a FIXED AIR sign. That means he's all about intellect and emotional disconnection (at least it seems that way). Water signs are all about talking about their feelings, in particular Cancers. You guys can express yourselves in an emotional way on cue. Air signs CANNOT. We express our emotions through logic. With little to no emotion.

Thank you for your response really helped a lot and I think it can really work but

You NEED to understand this difference in dynamic. You guys are completely different. Which could be a good thing or a bad thing depending on how you view it and if you accept that you cannot change him. Which brings me to my other point. Aquarius is a FIXED sign and Cancers are CARDINALS. Meaning he's a lot more stubborn than you are. FIXED + AIR = STUBBORN/STUCK THOUGHT. That means his ideals, his beliefs, his ideas, and being will NOT be moved or tarnished by anyone or anything. So you can try and forget to try and 'change' him.

The best thing you can do is express yourself in a clear and concise way without all the emotional drama. He'll listen. He may seem like he doesn't care. Seems to me he does. You just have to understand him. One thing Aquarius feel is being misunderstood continuously. Finding someone who can understand us and get us in touch with our emotional side, by being patient, will surely feel appreciative towards that person.

You just have to give yourself time. ANY relationship can work if BOTH individuals are willing to adapt and work towards a stable and loving relationship.

best of luck!

Thank you for your response really helped a lot unto understanding certain things

Posted by pinkbird03
What kind of secrets did he keep from you last time?

Last time i found some text messages that seems like he was basically still with his ex and when I asked him about it he said that I was basically pushing her out of the picture but the text messages seems as if they were trying to break up but she was trying to hold on so that's y I don't trust him fully but I see he's really trying because even when I get very emotional and moody he trys to handle it and get me out of the mood I think he's just accepting my flaws....some of them