double the detachment... (Page 2)

i think i may love her too...i'm just so very afraid of getting involved though...some day i'm over everything and ready to take the chance...some others i want to make sure she was being truthful about everything she said...but there is no way for knowing all things...i will have to either forget everything...forgive and forget and give her my trust once again...or i'll have to forget a chance and not take that risk...

vll...don't let your guard down, at least not so soon...trust me! she will shower you with love for a little while, but once you get comfortable again and become available to her, it will probably fade. i don't mean to let you down...but i can speak from first hand experience. when my aqua and i got back together, he was like my love slave (all on his own will!)...i was even like, "who is this guy? is this my aqua bf, can't be!"...i have never seen him so into me and wanting to do anything just to be near me or look at me, or hear my voice, etc. it was like he hadn't seen me in years, when it had only been a few months.
i am just telling you this so that you don't get hurt again...so, don't be an asshole to her or anything, but also don't let your guard down so easily. be firm with her and let her know how you feel before you let her back in...

vlll...yes, you WILL have to eventually put the past in the past and learn to trust her all over again. if you cannot trust her, do not get back together with her...b/c if the trust is not there, she will become more insecure and frustrated and the relationship will not work. you must take a risk once more if you really love her.

btw...have you ever told her "i love you" —

mc,

hey, totally understand your story. my xaqua has been nothing but fantastic ever since we started seeing each other again. she even put up with the time i needed to figure out things between her and ms. libra...which is not like her at all.

also, she's been nothing but sweet AND very open with the love word...lol...even when she doesn't want to say it...she's like "bye, love ya...eh..or whatever"...🙂

i won't let my guards completely down yet mc, thank you for that, plus is good to hear from you since i feel like you are a few months ahead of the changes ive had with my situation.

starfish who dated an aqua too with a venus in aries like mine recommended me to pay attention to her actions and not only her words, so i'll try to remember that.

i think you better than many here understand the reason why i;ve been so indecisive about it all...and you understand how much i've tried to move on w/o meaning to hurt anyone...i just didn't know i was going to feel something again...

anyhow, i told her that i loved her over the phone some few times and over text messaging...but never in person or by e-mail...yet.
i just want for the moment to be special and also very real...so that my heart can be connected with my head for once and i could look into her eyes without fear if i say it and when i say it...

i'm glad you and your aqua are doing better and that he calls you right back! 🙂

i'm meeting with my lady aqua this weekend...i'm nervous, because no matter how hard i try she makes me nervous when she says that she loves me or she calls me honey...or when she tries to hold my hand when i am not ready :o

i think now that things have been clearly defined in my friendship with the ex cute libra girl...i will have more time to consider everything that could or could not happen with miss aqua...

i think i'm going to take her to see the movie "the state of happiness" with will smith...and then maybe to play some games with my family (sis and brother in law)...i'm not sure about the second one though, since bringing her up with my family again may be a bit too soon...hmmm i don't know.

i do like her very much, but some days i freak out a bit and think maybe i should ended all with her too...is weird...

ahhh...i should have been a celibate monk!