Ghosting from an aquarius man

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Piscis_Hominis
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Ghosting is immature. You shouldn't have ghosted him earlier but I'll forgive you. You seem nice and like you have grown out of it. lol

To be serious, previously when you were upset with him you should have simply told him that. But, he did seem to be playing games so I don't blame you for avoiding him, but it does seem like you wanted him to chase you or enjoyed it somewhat, because you didn't find it creepy and you engaged with him again. Now you seem bothered that he's not communicating with you. I would describe you ghosting him as a response to his erratic behaviour, but do try to communicate with someone if you can.

Now back to him. He seems very immature coupled with the inability to communicate properly. He was avoiding things with you before. I read what you wrote about him, it is also hard to take him seriously.

He also seems very inconsistent, which is another red flag.

I think you are putting too much value in what he thinks of you at the moment and wondering "what's wrong with me?" and "why would he ghost me".

You need to move on and find a man with whom you can have an adult relationship with. It could be someone younger, older, or your age, but someone who can talk about things, even things that are difficult. That's what an adult relationship is all about. When you can talk about things that are uncomfortable, that makes you vulnerable. You are literally putting yourself forward to the other person where anything can happen. That's vulnerability at its core.

Him ghosting you says more about him than it does you. When someone ghosts you, you are left filling in the blanks.

But with him, he has filled in a lot of blanks already. He doesn't deserve you and you dodged a bullet.

Forget the drama of this man-boy and find yourself a real man.
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shesasking
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5 Years

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Posted by Piscis_Hominis

Ghosting is immature. You shouldn't have ghosted him earlier but I'll forgive you. You seem nice and like you have grown out of it. lol

To be serious, previously when you were upset with him you should have simply told him that. But, he did seem to be playing games so I don't blame you for avoiding him, but it does seem like you wanted him to chase you or enjoyed it somewhat, because you didn't find it creepy and you engaged with him again. Now you seem bothered that he's not communicating with you. I would describe you ghosting him as a response to his erratic behaviour, but do try to communicate with someone if you can.

Now back to him. He seems very immature coupled with the inability to communicate properly. He was avoiding things with you before. I read what you wrote about him, it is also hard to take him seriously.

He also seems very inconsistent, which is another red flag.

I think you are putting too much value in what he thinks of you at the moment and wondering "what's wrong with me?" and "why would he ghost me".

You need to move on and find a man with whom you can have an adult relationship with. It could be someone younger, older, or your age, but someone who can talk about things, even things that are difficult. That's what an adult relationship is all about. When you can talk about things that are uncomfortable, that makes you vulnerable. You are literally putting yourself forward to the other person where anything can happen. That's vulnerability at its core.

Him ghosting you says more about him than it does you. When someone ghosts you, you are left filling in the blanks.

But with him, he has filled in a lot of blanks already. He doesn't deserve you and you dodged a bullet.

Forget the drama of this man-boy and find yourself a real man.


Aquarius man are inconsistent šŸ˜‚... No seriously, i definitely want to move on but since i taste the relationship with older guy, i canā€™t go back with younger man. The vibe is not the same and iā€™m not ready even if it been a while

Also, iā€™m questioning myself because i want to unblock him from social media, should i? Our situation is old now

About ghosting... he always had his mood. Some times, everything is cool and we communicate. Or, he have personnal issue and isolate himself by ghosting. Maybe it was his way to deal with his issue and didnā€™t feel to elaborate because i was to young to understand + itā€™s a aquarius thing to act like that.. anyway I ghosted because i felt like it was the best way to make him realized but i assume, it was totally immature.

I still questioning my self because i love to understand and go deeper when someone act wrong. I need to understand to move on and i never had explanation about the way he acted. I was young and expecting a lot from a guy older than me ..
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shesasking
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5 Years

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Posted by Aquarelle

It sounds like he is keeping you on hold until you are 25. That is probably why he contacts you now and then, to see if you are still there and available for him.

This behaviour can be exhausting if you are on the recieving end of it. So I think it's basically up to you. Don't wait for him to make up his mind, but think about what you want with your life and if you see him being part of that in the future.

Ghosting an Aqua doesn't always work. We just don't care and ghost you back straight away. Ghosting is a game I personally don't play. If you ghost me, I'm gone, but I hear it's different for the males. They could see it as a challenge of some sort. I get the feeling he still likes you, but is also giving you space to make up your mind. If you are tired of him not following through with dates, just call him out on it. Let him know where you stand.

But in order to do that, you need to know where you stand. And you seem a bit unsure about that........


Itā€™s like a "run from me and I'll chase after you, chase after me and I'll run from you" game for him until i blocked him. A part of me wants to unblock him because itā€™s been a while and i passed by what he did on my birthday but i also feel like it doesnā€™t worth it. He didnā€™t want to settle when i first met him (i was 20), 5 years later is not going to change something. Iā€™m forever the same..

But, I know for a fact that if i unblock him, heā€™ll come back like always