How indecisive are you all?

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Aquaunanswered
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Dating I mean. Every other part of my life, I'm pretty straight to the point. Need something done, given the options, I'll pick one and done.

Regarding woman, I become a kid in a candy store. Thing is I'm at uni, attending parties and pretty well regarded. I can honestly say on a given night I have my one true love interest, 2 potential girls and a few more that I could go there if I wanted to.

I don't want to sound like a jerk as thing is, I haven't entertained any of these girls as such. All I've kept at an arms length as I just cannot make up my damn mind who I actually have real feelings for.

So there lies the question. How do you guys do it? How do you guys make the decision and say once you start dating one, don't let your mind wonder whether you made the right choice - of which I did the last time I blindly entered a relationship?
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I found out who I'm in love with once I have sex with them.

What the fuck does banging someone tell you? How does that clear anything up at all? My brain hurts. Congratulations, that never happens. Whatevs, whatever floats your boat man.
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Firstly one does not simply bang, I am proficient in the exquisite art of sex as I used to work in the sex industry. I learn a lot about a person through sex, its as easy as that. I'm glad in all your 21 years you seem to have cracked the love code, kudos kid hahah.
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I found out who I'm in love with once I have sex with them.

What the fuck does banging someone tell you? How does that clear anything up at all? My brain hurts. Congratulations, that never happens. Whatevs, whatever floats your boat man.



Firstly one does not simply bang, I am proficient in the exquisite art of sex as I used to work in the sex industry. I learn a lot about a person through sex, its as easy as that. I'm glad in all your 21 years you seem to have cracked the love code, kudos kid hahah.
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Posted by LordTerramine
I cannot fathom the stupidity involved with being confused about whether you love someone or not. There's nothing complicated about it, either you do or your don't, get your shit together jackass.



+1. I'm pretty decisive too but then again, I'm a woman and an aqua stellium. Your indecisiveness probably is a result of some weird, confused placement you have like libra. Or the mere fact that you need to have so many lined up or have a back up option is another weak placement that doesn't know how to be alone, which isn't an aqua trait.
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If you don't know which one you you have feelings for --- then you don't have any for any of them! If you're really unsure, it's the one whomever you enjoy most of your time, enjoy their conversation, and you miss them & want to talk/see them when they're gone. And maybe, just maybe, you could see yourself seeing that one girl & no one else? Like maybe that's a possible thought that's crept up in your head? If so, maybe then you know who it is. And if you don't feel that way about a particular one, maybe you just don't have feelings for any of them yet -- and that's okay. Take your time & get to know all of them if you want (esp if you're trying to actually be in a relationship). I think the key to not blindly entering a bomb relationship is taking your time to get to know the person prior & seeing if the questions aforementioned apply. Good luck man!
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Well b/c my personality isn't 1-dimensional, there are several sides to me. And sometimes each side conflicts with the other...example: sometimes I'm introverted & other times I'm extroverted. On the days where I want to be introverted, a person's introverted qualities would stick out & shine to me, whereas the guy who doesn't like or can't understand that side of me would get put on the "Uh oh, he may not be able to handle me" list lol And in that moment, he's emotionally/mentally put on hold with me.

I'm indecisive a lot in my head, but I rarely ever let it show b/c I'm not crazy enough to broadcast all of the inner battles in my racing thoughts/head lol

For the most part though, once I make my mind up about a person, there's no going back, unless the person blatantly does something deal breaking.


The KICKER is that it takes me forever to make up my mind though lol b/c I have to observe a person for a lonnng time before I feel certain that they're worthy of my all. The problem is that 'in the meantime' it's only natural that the person will say/do something that I may take the wrong way or misunderstand, which of course could change how I perceive or feel about them in that moment.

Before I'm called a quack, consider that I'm an Aqua sun, Cancer moon & Pisces rising lol Make sense now? lol
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I found out who I'm in love with once I have sex with them.

What the fuck does banging someone tell you? How does that clear anything up at all? My brain hurts. Congratulations, that never happens. Whatevs, whatever floats your boat man.



Firstly one does not simply bang, I am proficient in the exquisite art of sex as I used to work in the sex industry. I learn a lot about a person through sex, its as easy as that. I'm glad in all your 21 years you seem to have cracked the love code, kudos kid hahah.
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I'm not trying to crack it. I don't need anyone but myself and all I care about is getting on top. Proficiency in something as barbaric as primates sticking their body parts into each other changes nothing about the fact of what I've said. Sex teaches you nothing about a person, it's all in your delusional head.