Overly social as defense

Thought I'd get some views on this. Have you or have you witnessed another person being hyperactive and overly social when facing serious issues they don't want to deal with.

Hmmm that could be one of them. What about bursts of reinventing oneself, overly booking yourself for social settings. Would you consider it as a denial of reality? Keeping oneself busy as means of forgetting? Making new connections (not necessarily romantic ones) for the fear of even temporarily losing someone.

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Posted by aquasnoz
Thought I'd get some views on this. Have you or have you witnessed another person being hyperactive and overly social when facing serious issues they don't want to deal with.

Yep.
Been there, done that, got the t-shirt & seen others engage in the same behaviors. Partying can be an effective, fun distraction from life's various struggles. Said issues need to be addressed directly in some cases, other problems just come & go in the meantime. Wouldn't recommend it as a long-term nor short-term solution, either way.

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Okay I won't lie but I do this all the time. It's just actually amazing to see another person do this. They make use of the term love drunk and I can't help but equate it to that, "fun drunk"? I don't understand this myself but I know I will deal with it but for the moment I'd rather not but is escapism really that bad?

Posted by feb16aqua
Yeah, I'm doing it every day as we "speak" lol

On that part, can you control this action? I try to catch myself but I can't. It's like any sources of distraction is a good thing. How can I put it? Drawing all that energy or converting all that energy into another form so I feel better about myself. Is that what it feels like for you?

Posted by tiziani
Yeah I see people avoiding catching up with themselves when they know they haven't settled an emotional score.

Yesterday we were just talking about it with my friends when this site prompted us to discuss the YOLO effect.

HAHA! Oh I know the YOLO effect pretty well 😛 Well tizi here's something to ponder.

Is this a self-destructive behaviour? Let's say both individuals are fearing this inevitable parting. They both start to utilise this method and guards themselves for what's to come. They're not ignoring each other far from it but there's this tugging force not knowing if they should love harder or love a little less. A discussion about this outcome has already taken place, both knowing full well the consequences.

It makes me think as to whether this is selfish or selfless behaviour. You're not necessarily sending negative vibes but you are somewhat cutting yourself off from that loved one on a mental level. You want to show them you love them but this is a situation where giving love might end up in more pain.

Ultimately, I can't figure out whether this is a good thing or a bad thing or is it possibly the only solution right now.

^ question for everyone 🙂 My apologies my brain goes a bit funny when thinking about things.

Posted by BalmyTigress
I see it a lot in other people, but I don't knowingly do it myself. My need to get to the bottom of the issue and find out the truth exceeds my need to feel comfortable. That doesn't mean I wouldn't run away from some issues. I do. Just not from those I think are important.

I feel you on this one it's the absolute truths part that I cannot reach so far and it does have a tendency to drive me a bit crazy when I can't think or feel my way through a situation.

@SZS: I'm almost relieved to hear a lot of people go through this dilemma lol! Why is it always tougher when you factor in another person! What would you do given these parameters?

@Tizi: On point! It's sort of how I'm viewing the whole situation too so it's a bit touch and go. I can relate to thinking it through but it does feel like both at the same time, my social time = my alone time if that makes sense. Sort of like basking in emotions to work out the right one and what I'm doing right now is getting all viewpoints to have a better understanding. Such a terrible way 😛

Posted by aquasnoz
Hmmm that could be one of them. What about bursts of reinventing oneself, overly booking yourself for social settings. Would you consider it as a denial of reality? Keeping oneself busy as means of forgetting? Making new connections (not necessarily romantic ones) for the fear of even temporarily losing someone.

yup, thats when someone is usually giving themselves a kick up buttocks coz its when theyre feeling the shittest

did that one