Pattern for heartbreak

I'm an aqua female and I have this pattern for heartbreak which I want to break, but don't know how. I fall in love very slowly so of course it consumes alot of my strength. Then when I'm disappointed, it hurts and I build this wall so no one can come close. And then it's more difficult to fall in love and of course it hurts more (when I get disappointed). I want to break this pattern. I wish I was more casual about relationships and would take matters of the heart more lightly.
Any tips? Advice? Anyone have the same problem?

I am similar to you by the sounds of it. But I think the tip for me and you both is to not go out of our way to fit in with the guy in question. Be yourself and always put yourself first. This doesn't mean be selfish but certainly don't try to change yourself to fit the man's expectations.

I feel this is the way we should go in order to find a man that's best suited to us and vice versa. Otherwise you're just setting yourself up for disappointment. Be yourself, enjoy being with yourself and then the right man will fall in step with you.

Hi Bestwoman-

What I can do, is share my thoughts with you of what I have learned about life. Our THOUGHTS create our reality.

What I see in your post is: "I have this pattern for heartbreak" first comes awareness (which is needed to break a habit) Awesome! Now, change that thought to something like - "I have wonderful and meaningful relationships in my life."

"When I am disappointed." we become disappointed because we have set an expectation of someone else and when they do not meet that expectation (our thought...not really who they are only what we THINK they are and how they "should" be) we feel let down and hurt - we take it personally. This is where we need to learn to accept others for who they are without judgement.

"I wish I was more casual about relationships" okie, there ya go! "I am more casual about relationships and accept everyone for who they are."

find enjoyment in your moments with others and you will know peace

Smiles

Freebird your upbeat positive words of wisdom are always a treat to read 🙂