Question on Aqua

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So I'm seeing a guy Aqua Sun, Virgo Moon, Pisces in Mercury, Capricorn in Venus, Aries in Mars (and falls on the Aqua Pisces Cusp). I am basically the opposite but we get along well because I'm super weird and I guess he loves it. I haven't had a problem with him talking to girls (most his friends/acquaintances he calls friends) but anyways I was dumb and I told him I'd never do this because I usually don't so I don't want to bring it up unnecessarily because he'll see my true obsessive side that comes out once and awhile lol (virgo sun, scorpio moon, mercury libra, venus leo, mars libra and falls on virgo libra cusp). Long story short I looked at his messages briefly but there was this one girl who stuck out he met just before we started dating on vacation. Anyways I found out he talks to her like everyday long messages, which whatever I don't really care I have male friends too, and she was just complaining about life problems. Then he said he wanted to visit her still friendly, and then he said come move in with us (room mates) so thats not to weird cuz im there all the time. THEN he texted her along with me when he was drunk at 4am. Thats what I have a problem with not really anything else. He treats me good and I am happy but sometimes I am suspicious too since my last relationship. I only text people I love or wanna fuck at 4am when drunk. Do you guys or aquarius' think this is normal and I'm over thinking it or nah?
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Posted by RatedX
Then again.. I could be completely wrong. I'm responding to this based off of the information you've told me so far. I know nothing about your boyfriend or what kind of person he is so his hidden motives will be difficult for me to unravel.
Yeah I want to post a long story but I am at work so I'm holding off lol. He treats me as if he is lucky to have me but I think she could be a back up because I told him to find someone else that makes him happy once when we were arguing cuz he has to much energy for me to handle at times so i was being serious at that time and I think he took it to seriously once I decided to try and make it work, and now that I decided I am serious about this maybe hes holding that against me and thats why he is talking to her... the thing is I wouldnt care either if it was a super unattractive girl but she is quite pretty so I'm just going to hold off and keep watching lol and then eventually explode and ruin everything as usual.
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do NOT hold it in until you explode. You just said yourself it would "ruin everything as usual". Why would you wait until that happens?! Confront the issue. I am the backwards version of you. Scorpio Sun, Virgo moon. I am very well capable of doing what you are saying you are about to do: watch until the boiling point of explosive anger. I did this with a Taurus man, and it was...very ugly. I was ashamed of myself. Strangely I found it more difficult to talk to him, which is why I just watched silently until I exploded. I find it is very easy to talk to Aquas about issues you may or may not have, and they are more accepting of you for being you whereas I always felt like I was about to get judged by the grand jury with the Taurus, so I was closed off and cautious. Granted....idk how enthralled he will be at finding out you read his messages...but you pretty much have no choice but to admit it to him. You put yourself in a box. It is really a very unhealthy and bad habit to go through someone's messages. You will never find happiness if you find the need to do things such as that. Always picture yourself in the other person's place: how would you feel if someone was sneaking around behind your back to read your messages? I do understand that people are fully capable of lying when you confront them and you DIDN'T read their messages, but who wants to carry the weight of feeling like they always have to find out what their significant other is up to? That certainly does not symbolize trust.

My advice- tell him you went through his phone - this most likely will not go over well to be blunt with you - and then ask about the problem at hand and your concerns. From what I understand, though I am no expert, Aries in either Venus or Mars like a little turmoil in their relationships to keep things interesting. He might even enjoy the argument you have over this issue. My best friend is an Aries sun with her Aries in Venus and she will start arguments just to rile things up in her relationships. My Aqua friend with his Venus in Aries is similar. He loves to provoke and argue and he appears to get a thrill out of it. He even gets this antagonizing sparkle in his eyes and will smirk at you as he tries to get a rise out of you. I am going to say based on readings that Mars in Aries may have some similarities, though I don't know anyone personally with this placement.
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Posted by degenerate_ingenue
do NOT hold it in until you explode. You just said yourself it would "ruin everything as usual". Why would you wait until that happens?! Confront the issue. I am the backwards version of you. Scorpio Sun, Virgo moon. I am very well capable of doing what you are saying you are about to do: watch until the boiling point of explosive anger. I did this with a Taurus man, and it was...very ugly. I was ashamed of myself. Strangely I found it more difficult to talk to him, which is why I just watched silently until I exploded. I find it is very easy to talk to Aquas about issues you may or may not have, and they are more accepting of you for being you whereas I always felt like I was about to get judged by the grand jury with the Taurus, so I was closed off and cautious. Granted....idk how enthralled he will be at finding out you read his messages...but you pretty much have no choice but to admit it to him. You put yourself in a box. It is really a very unhealthy and bad habit to go through someone's messages. You will never find happiness if you find the need to do things such as that. Always picture yourself in the other person's place: how would you feel if someone was sneaking around behind your back to read your messages? I do understand that people are fully capable of lying when you confront them and you DIDN'T read their messages, but who wants to carry the weight of feeling like they always have to find out what their significant other is up to? That certainly does not symbolize trust.

My advice- tell him you went through his phone - this most likely will not go over well to be blunt with you - and then ask about the problem at hand and your concerns. From what I understand, though I am no expert, Aries in either Venus or Mars like a little turmoil in their relationships to keep things interesting. He might even enjoy the argument you have over this issue. My best friend is an Aries sun with her Aries in Venus and she will start arguments just to rile things up in her relationships. My Aqua friend with his Venus in Aries is similar. He loves to provoke and argue and he appears to get a thrill out of it. He even gets this antagonizing sparkle in his eyes and will smirk at you as he tries to get a rise out of you. I am going to say based on readings that Mars in Aries may have some similarities, though I don't know anyone personally with
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Thanks I am going to tell him its just my libra placement that hates to confrontissues so I need to force it because youre totally right it is unhealthy. I think he did that to me once and started an argument for fun lol thats why we fought in the first place and i told him to find someone else, I find I start arguments to sometimes in relationship but this one he seems to be doing it more lol. He is really accepting though but I think telling him I read his messages will make him cringe a bit, but he gave me his phone for a few hours while he was doing something and I had nothing to do but wait for him so I resisted the urge for a long time.. and then his brother texted him asking where we were so I answered and thats how i saw it which i think it less creepy then grabbing his phone while he was in the bathroom or something which id never do....

Thanks for the replies everyone 🙂
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Posted by AquaMermaid
Here is something about Aries Mars : Aggressive, Creative, Cocky
People born with Mars in Aries have a innate sense of confidence, focus, and drive. They are sexually magnetic and they will have a very high sex drive. They are self motivated and independent. They go after what they want with speed and without hesitation. They are the fiercest competitors. They fight to win and they hate to lose. They can be very aggressive and maybe mean. They have an immense athletic potential. If you ever get in their way, you will get run over.
That sounds just like him lol