The aquaman's very special ever important Friends. (Page 4)

I have to defend Aqua's concerning their seemingly inability to communicate emotions or admit faults. Recently, I confronted an Aqua I'm dating about some undesirable behavior. I wouldn't have done it if I didn't already 'know' that he was better than that and his behavior was a kind of way for him to blow off steam. But, still, I wasn't going to let him get away with it so I told him off.

He hated it. Got deeply angry (like Scorpio angry 😉 . I probably carried it too far and apologized for it, said I was probably being provocative on purpose to elicit a response since he was sooo quiet. That kinda turned him around maybe b/c I was willing to admit my faults. Still he stewed for quite awhile but I let him be. Didn't nag, I had stated my case and I could tell he was thinking about it. When he was ready, he initiated an apology and we went on to have a great evening.

It can be done although, yes, an Aqua's partner will most likely have to make the first move. But they definately listen and will take time to consider all sides, something not too many people do fairly. Especially when emotions are involved. I admire that quality.

and that's my .02

"they just close up when they are stressed out or have a lot on their mind or focused on some project or crisis and you have to kind of wake them up to the rest of the world."

-yes, this is something they definitely do!!! one must be patient in times like this 🙂

UC...honestly i just deal with it when my aqua withdraws or closes off...eventually he comes to me (at his own time) and talks about his feelings. that is the only way i have learned to deal with it when he "emotionally hibernates".
AND, right before he moved across country he did not once discuss with me anything about our relationship or how he felt, or what our status was going to be while we were miles apart. he wasn't ablt to talk about it with me b/c he was too stressed out about the whold thing and he didn't know how to deal with it...so, he shut me out for a while. and it did hurt, and i was little confused...but, i knew in my heart that he would come around and eventually let his feelings come out...and he did.
so, unfortunately it has to be on their time...and you have to just be patient and wait it out.

and, yeah you really have to pry stuff out of them!!! they won't really come out and talk about stuff, but if you are sincere about it and seem like you are genuinely interested or concerned, they will be more open and talk about what is going on. it's all in the approach though...

hmmm, the early days...LOL!!!

well, we weren't friends first and we kinda just jumped right into it...which he was not ready for, and i completely understood. so, after 3 weeks of hanging out, we parted. and then after another couple of weeks, he initiated the phone calls and we started hanging out once again, even though he still wasn't ready...he just couldn't resist me 🙂

anyway, for the first 9 months it was pure bliss, total puppy dog love...we were madly in love with each other, and i was everything to him. then, at about the year mark we started having issues and fighting. and then he started pulling away, distancing, hanging out with his friends all of the time, etc. AND, that probably went on for a good 1 1/2 yrs.

as far as "dates", i think i was the one to initiate it more. we would go out with either my friends or his friends a lot...at that stage, we seemed to work better if we were around a group of people...takes a lot of the pressure off!

yeah, well now that we have been together for 3 yrs. we usually go out alone, just the two of us. we don't do the group thing too much anymore. i guess it comes along with growing up and becoming more of a mature couple 😉

...and yes, i have been through A LOT with my aqua...but, i am happy to say that we are finally at a really good place with each other. and i think it is worth everything i have been through to be where i am with him now!!!