They don't care about kind gestures!

Why do they have to make people feel like douchebags. I gave my aqua friends gifts for their bday and they made me feel bad about being nice.

One said to me that it was a nice gesture but very unnecessary. It made me feel awkward

The other aqua friend didn't even acknowledge it or open the gift or even say thank you.

I swear this just makes me not even want to celebrate someone's existence anymore. These people are the hardest to befriend.

Posted by thisiscrap2
Why do they have to make people feel like douchebags. I gave my aqua friends gifts for their bday and they made me feel bad about being nice.

One said to me that it was a nice gesture but very unnecessary. It made me feel awkward

The other aqua friend didn't even acknowledge it or open the gift or even say thank you.

I swear this just makes me not even want to celebrate someone's existence anymore. These people are the hardest to befriend.

if they dont want to befriend you, why are so EAGER—

you should go for those who want to be YOUR friend.

don't GROVEL.

They are friends but I guess in my experience they are just the ones who simply can't just be normal and say "thank you" so we can move on from the subject.

But no they always gotta do crap to make you feel bad, like making you feel bad for appreciating someone's existence.

I told my other friend if they don't appreciate kindness then this was the last time. So it seems like it's gonna end up that way!

They don't sound like nice people. Why do you want to be THEIR friend?

By the way, I don't see this as typical Aquarius behavior. Most aquas I know are very humble and appreciative of the things people do for them. And I know a LOT of aquas.

That's what I'm saying. They are kind people but I don't know maybe I'm just freaking crazy....

One of my aqua friends did say something eventually about appreciation but that comment and the way they said it about appreciating their existing being unnecessary made it awkward for me especially saying it in front of others.

But later on after talking and them saying it was unnecessary (yet again) I finally said "What do you mean its unnecessary? Is it wrong of me to not appreciate your existence. Of course I am going to, it's important to me."

That got them to shut up and be more appreciative.

It's not just with aquas but it's with people I don't like it when people make you feel awkward or make you feel bad for showing appreciation for them. I shouldn't feel like a weird or bad person for caring.

I don't know what that means

Posted by thisiscrap2
It's not just with aquas but it's with people I don't like it when people make you feel awkward or make you feel bad for showing appreciation for them. I shouldn't feel like a weird or bad person for caring.

Maybe you try too hard.

*shrugs*

truecap, maybe so.

Maybe its best if I become a hardened and uncaring individual. Less disappointment that way right?

Posted by thisiscrap2
truecap, maybe so.

Maybe its best if I become a hardened and uncaring individual. Less disappointment that way right?

You don't have to become hardened. Just let your merits speak for themselves.

Sometimes people try too hard, like they're too eager for attention, will do anything for you, like puppy dogs. I know one guy who will give about 5-10 complements every time he sees someone. Doesn't matter who they are, he does it to everybody. It's too much and comes across as creepy, so no body likes him.

I'm not saying you do this. Not at all. It's just an extreme example of what I meant by trying too hard.

Yeah i'm definitely not creepy. I just do nice things when it matters i.e. special occasions.

It just sucks ass and makes me feel bad when people just shrug off the gesture like its no big deal.

At this rate, I'm just not going to give a crap about anyone anymore if this is how people are.

I blame mercury in retrograde! jus sayin' lol

Posted by VanillaShake
I blame mercury in retrograde! jus sayin' lol

Too bad I can't blame time of the month becuase that already passed.

So have you decided now to befriend people who are strictly not Aquas?

You meet good and bad, across all sun signs. I personally know few Aquas who are not kind and good and many who are good. Probably you have been unlucky with Aquss you have come across.

Btw, do they do that only with you? Then, its time to look somewhere else.

Posted by febaqua
So have you decided now to befriend people who are strictly not Aquas?

You meet good and bad, across all sun signs. I personally know few Aquas who are not kind and good and many who are good. Probably you have been unlucky with Aquss you have come across.

Btw, do they do that only with you? Then, its time to look somewhere else.

No I don't appreciate this with anyone, but it seems all the aquas i know some are relatives seem appreciate things less than others...and are the worst at respecting someone's time.

it seems like the closer they are with someone the more they are taken for granted.

You wouldn't think so looking at how they are completely amazing "supposedly" but nope...not these ones.

But that's okay like i said i already ripped them a new asshole today.

Good you drew a line. Nothing in front of self respect.

"it seems like the closer they are with someone the more they are taken for granted."

Interesting observation. So, you have seen this happening with your Aqua friends?

Good you drew a line. Nothing in front of self respect.

"it seems like the closer they are with someone the more they are taken for granted."

Interesting observation. So, you have seen this happening with your Aqua friends?

Posted by truecap

Posted by thisiscrap2
It's not just with aquas but it's with people I don't like it when people make you feel awkward or make you feel bad for showing appreciation for them. I shouldn't feel like a weird or bad person for caring.

Maybe you try too hard.

*shrugs*

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this.


you're just manipulating the situation so she/he can be your bud. or whoever it is. let go and stop trying. That's why it sounds like you're groveling.

all you're focusing on is the thank you and gratitude for giving gifts when your real reason is so you can cozy up to someone who isn't interested in you.

have some self respect for yourself.

it's honestly a disgusting trait.

if they don't want to be your friend, why do you care so much— love yourself first before thinking that others can fill that VOID you have for wanting to friend them.

Posted by febaqua
Good you drew a line. Nothing in front of self respect.

"it seems like the closer they are with someone the more they are taken for granted."

Interesting observation. So, you have seen this happening with your Aqua friends?

i've seen it with certain people but more recently these aquas.

I guess why its so disheartening is because like i said before they shrug off nice things like its no big deal and yet you see people every day bitching about their boyfriend did this, their gf did this.

Maybe if people weren't douchebags...karma would get back at em!

Posted by thisiscrap2

Posted by febaqua
Good you drew a line. Nothing in front of self respect.

"it seems like the closer they are with someone the more they are taken for granted."

Interesting observation. So, you have seen this happening with your Aqua friends?

i've seen it with certain people but more recently these aquas.

I guess why its so disheartening is because like i said before they shrug off nice things like its no big deal and yet you see people every day bitching about their boyfriend did this, their gf did this.

Maybe if people weren't douchebags...karma would get back at em!

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you better watch out your thoughts and hatred. you're the one cursing people, so you better watch out.

especially if you're living a miserable life.

you gotta look at your own life and see what's wrong with it.

i'm not here to enable you.

Go find someone who will ENABLE you.

its not really hatred or cursing someone... i guess its more disheartening disappointment.

Like I said..it just teaches people to just build walls

Posted by thisiscrap2
its not really hatred or cursing someone... i guess its more disheartening disappointment.

Like I said..it just teaches people to just build walls

you just said karma will get them.


who the hell are you to curse others?? just because things didnt go your way.

no one here is cursing you or telling you you should get karma, YOU DID.

imagine if someone did some heinous crime to you.

instead of gift giving. *smh*


jesus christ. The amount of CURSING you're gonna do.

you know what happens when you curse and you have Scorpio,dont you—

that's right. bad bad things come back to you.

so control yourself. and let go and MOVE ON.

Posted by AquaMermaid
You're a drama queen Mystified.Those Aquarians you keep bitching about nonstop must be from outer space because I don't know a single Aquarian who is ungrateful when people do nice things for them.At least,I never forget to say thank you. May be you make them feel unappreciative or give them negative vibes.I read here multiple times that you yelled at your "special friend" and then you keep wondering why he acts aloof. I mean seriously, don't you have any clues? You keep blabbering and poking fun about how Aquarians don't get a clue but you're the one absolutely clueless about why most of these people treat you the way they do. I don't accept gifts from people who make me uncomfortable,force their friendship on me or act all high and mighty.Loyalty is what impresses me the most. I don't appreciate my so called friends to sit with others and criticise me,yell at me and make fun of me.If I sense dishonesty,I never let them in my inner circle or close to my heart. They'll always get a cold shoulder from me. If you don't get along with Aquarians, make friends with others. Most people don't get us so they don't like us and we are ok with it.

I saw you mention your strength. I like that. I like people who call me out on my own shit but in a nice way 🙂

But in alot of ways you are right. Someone here or somewhere in my life said and maybe it's a part of that too that scorpios especially myself give too much of themselves too deeply too emotionally in ways others don't see or aren't. That when it comes to even basic things they wouldn't understand.

I was thinking about this in the middle of the night because i woke up from a nightmare and I was thinking about why I give gifts to only certain people for example such as these aquas and a close female friend and family but rarely for others is even for a deep and emotional reason.

I'm just too deep and too emotional and sometimes people aren't. Aquas definitely arent.

But anyway my point was, we and/or I rather have deep reasons for everything I do and well that leads to heightened emotions and I had heightened emotions yesterday.

I was talking to a guy friend and he agreed with me and then when i told him that a long time later these aqua folks eventually thanked me profusely (not because i was upset...they just finally thanked me in their own way) I couldn't let it go and I ripped

I was talking to a guy friend and he agreed with me and then when i told him that a long time later these aqua folks eventually thanked me profusely (not because i was upset...they just finally thanked me in their own way) I couldn't let it go and I ripped em a new butthole.

Anyway a guy friend said why was I still upset they finally appreciated the gesture, I told him that wasn't the point. That they didn't appreciate it when it mattered.

But he's right. WHat matters to me wasn't what matters to everyone else.

I don't think I'll be apologizing but I think i will work harder at understanding that people will never perceieve things the way I do and that people will also have areas that they are weak in and i accept them for who they are or I don't.

Anyway, that's the middle of the middle of the night for ya.

Posted by flowingwater
That is weird.. I mean even if I wasn't expecting the gift I would be super happy and say thank you.
It's just good manners but I'm from the south side so we have better hospitality. Lol

Exactly. All I wanted was some sort of thank you or a smile or a glimmer in their eye. God damn something.

But nooo one aqua kept telling me that it was unnecessary over and over. I mean seriously made me feel awkward/bad for honoring his bday. I just wanted to say to him, just say thank you! The whole day was a disappointment but I'm over it.

I probably won't be doing anymore gifts for people around this place anymore. People can't just relax about it.

man you are one clinging vine.

all that said before just went over your head.

you have NO consideration for what people tell you.

i did read about your gift giving. what is YOUR purpose for doing that??

why is it so damned important to you—

it's like you have some kind of hidden agenda.

Usually people who are strongly intuitive would "get" it.

it's like you lack that and just keep going on.

Posted by lisabethur8


i did read about your gift giving. what is YOUR purpose for doing that??

why is it so damned important to you—

it's like you have some kind of hidden agenda.

Well i didn't get into it because its one long damn story. Do you really wanna hear it? I guess you do and I love you anyway.

But seriously, where we are from how me, them and about 10-15 others is in some way a dysfunctional environment. Every god damn day, practically every minute someone is gossiping about someone...venting about someone...someone is boasting about themselves in an arrogant way...someone is being condescending...its just a very negative environment.

Yes I know I just posted about me doing all of those things but it honestly is rare but I'm surrounded by all of those things because i'm surrounded by those 10-15 people every day at some point and it literally is a dysfunctional negative environment LITERALLY EVERY MINUTE. As an emotional person I would go crazy if I didn't find a solution. But out of those 10-15 a gemini and two aquas ...are the ones who relaxed, easy going, full of laughter and fun. I get moments of grace when I'm around them. If it weren't for them and me learning to tune everyone else out...I would have flipped my lid by now.

So once in a while like when it matters (such as birthdays and holidays) I show my appreciation.

That is why I give gifts to people that matter, because they offer great things to my life and it was my way of saying thanks.

Yesterday in particular...

I had a capricorn go on and on at me about the gemini being mad at her and all this high school stuff. I kept telling the capricorn that the whole problem is high schoolish and that she should just get the 5 people involved in that particular drama and go talk about it....but she kept talking about it for eons. Eventually I had to say I wasn't going to listen anymore. She giggled but she'll do it again in a few days. If its not that then its her griping about her biggest fear in life (which is death for most people) is her becoming fat.

Then later I had the gemini grip about the capricorn to me for 10 minutes and I had to go tell her the same thing. Fortunately someone crashed our conversation and she got distracted.

Then i get phonecalls about other people griping about other things. I couldn't deal yesterday because it practically was so frequent that I had to turn off my phone and shut the world out.

well that is very sweet of you. but you just come in here being super negative and talking smack.

that's why i dont get why you are so hell bent, and keep talking bad and even downright cursing.

and why are you mentioning only air suns— you mean only air suns are the only people that can relax you??

it's very suspicious. Because when in a work place, not all are the same.

astrology is not some air sun club hall of fame shit. I liked the air suns at work too, but never got in deeper involvement with them EVER.

it's like you come in here, only suggesting and strategizing that it's an AIR mother fucking sun sign shit club that's in a workplace that relaxes you.
fucking insane.

Posted by lisabethur8
well that is very sweet of you. but you just come in here being super negative and talking smack.

that's why i dont get why you are so hell bent, and keep talking bad and even downright cursing.

and why are you mentioning only air suns— you mean only air suns are the only people that can relax you??

it's very suspicious. Because when in a work place, not all are the same.

astrology is not some air sun club hall of fame shit. I liked the air suns at work too, but never got in deeper involvement with them EVER.

it just happens to be airsuns for me in this particular area.

In other areas, it's probably other signs.

It's honestly not about signs...its just about a certain quality of people that I like being around.

The gemini and the aqua typically are fun people, that are down to earth, lighthearted...positive and humble.

I really love humble people. I need that cause i'm going crazy by the other 12 people.

Posted by lisabethur8
it's like you come in here, only suggesting and strategizing that it's an AIR mother fucking sun sign shit club that's in a workplace that relaxes you.
fucking insane.

I only did that cause I was going crazy.

And it wasn't even my time of hte month yet.

Posted by thisiscrap2

Posted by lisabethur8
it's like you come in here, only suggesting and strategizing that it's an AIR mother fucking sun sign shit club that's in a workplace that relaxes you.
fucking insane.

I only did that cause I was going crazy.

And it wasn't even my time of hte month yet.

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i think you need an Airy person. not just sun there, but AIRY everywhere.

to be honest, i dont feel relaxed around your energy, it's downright negative. i feel really claustophobic with you and sick.

Posted by lisabethur8
to be honest, i dont feel relaxed around your energy, it's downright negative. i feel really claustophobic with you and sick.

If that's your perception then fine.

But you don't see me when I'm relaxed (when i can tune those others out)... you only know what i post here.

Anyway I gotta go. I'll check back in later.

Well I found out one of the aquas talked to the gemini friend about what was going on and she basically told him that he keeps trying to push me away and yadda yadda.

He told her that he was serious with everyone and keeps everyone at bay, and gemini corrected him and said despite what he thinks he's acting like in his head...his actions are coming out as something different. That he goes around and is being charming and helpful and he's misleading people thinking that he considers them friends by getting to know them and hanging out with them and making them laugh. She said he got quiet because he didn't realize that's how it was coming across and she also added but when it comes to me he's done nothing but pushing away "actions" and he got quiet at first because he didn't realize he was being obviously distant.

She also brought up how he told her how he assumed I hated certain gifts he gave me and she brought up that I loved the gifts he gave me and yadda yadda and again he got quiet because he didn't realize that I actually liked them.

He then said that sometimes I make it tough because I put a wall up, and she corrected him and said because of the wall you put up with her since the beginning...again he got quiet and pondered that statement for a bit and then she added that he has to try harder at being aware of how he acts around me because I'm the one person that we all know that he can actually trust.

She couldn't remember the rest of the conversation so I don't know what he will do from here on out. He may not do anything at all or try harder...it depends on him. I haven't heard from him yet so who knows.

That's honestly not an Aquarius trait. We're very appreciative of what's given but most don't like things to be
done for them especially unexpectedly because sometimes it feels like a trap, like you're
going to expect something later. You just have some extent honesty friends, true they could be a little less harsh
you'll either appreciate it later or not at all.

Are you the same one that was asking about what to give your aqua for Christmas and birthday? I told you this already. You probably give them the creeps and your gift giving is off putting and desperate. I can tell when a aqua dude ain't interested an he ain't interested. Giving I welcomed gifts will only work against you.

Don't get me wrong he is an appreciative guy but he's so clueless when it comes to people. He's so very inexperienced when it comes to people. He doesn't think he's attractive, sometimes he'll make comments about putting himself down and is really obsessive when it comes to telling jokes and he clings to people that are security blankets to him. He really doesn't like mingling with people. If that's an indication.

Anyway a mutual friend told him specifically that he needs to realize that the people that truly care about him he tends to overlook and puts so much empahsis on people he doesn't care about. He totally was clueless. He kept telling her that he doesn't put emphasis on them that he's very seperated when he interacts and she kept telling him that, that's not how it looks to everyone else. These people that he doesn't care about assume that their his friend. He was shocked.

She told him specifically that he needs to have a talk to me about this whole thing and resolve it but he never did, and hten few hours later he told her that I wasn't talking to him still and she's like "What? Why are you waiting for her to come to you...YOU need to solve the problem."

He got quiet lol.

Posted by thisiscrap2
truecap, maybe so.

Maybe its best if I become a hardened and uncaring individual. Less disappointment that way right?

NO, stop trying to win people over by buying them gifts. Why are you even expecting a CERTAIN reaction if it's truly a gift? An Aquarian can see right through that and will do the opposite of what YOU EXPECT.

You sound too needy and that would make me feel uncomfortable.

Posted by thisiscrap2
Don't get me wrong he is an appreciative guy but he's so clueless when it comes to people. He's so very inexperienced when it comes to people. He doesn't think he's attractive, sometimes he'll make comments about putting himself down and is really obsessive when it comes to telling jokes and he clings to people that are security blankets to him. He really doesn't like mingling with people. If that's an indication.

Anyway a mutual friend told him specifically that he needs to realize that the people that truly care about him he tends to overlook and puts so much empahsis on people he doesn't care about. He totally was clueless. He kept telling her that he doesn't put emphasis on them that he's very seperated when he interacts and she kept telling him that, that's not how it looks to everyone else. These people that he doesn't care about assume that their his friend. He was shocked.

She told him specifically that he needs to have a talk to me about this whole thing and resolve it but he never did, and hten few hours later he told her that I wasn't talking to him still and she's like "What? Why are you waiting for her to come to you...YOU need to solve the problem."

He got quiet lol.

ah i see.

yeah that would suck for him.


he needs to be around people that love/care for him. Maybe it's just at the work place he has to be nice to people. He's not the boss, so he can't be a jerk you know.

Not saying all bosses are jerks, but yes, they can be real jerks. because they jsut can. no one questions their authority.

but just a worker /employee, he's gonna be kissing ass to people all the time if he's trying to climb the ladder of success.

well that's what happens when you work in a company full of people like that. You're gonna be kissing some BUTT!!!

if he don't like that, he gotta go and do his own business. Or work in a company or workplace that he's alone and doesn't need to interact with people.

my virgo bro-in-law works as a programmer so he doesn't have to interact with people, just through/ via the companies he works for, direct. So he doesn't have to do any ass-kissing. Just to the bosses i guess. but that's not really ass kissing is it? Just do your work and do it right and get paid.