Update - What a head fcuk!

ok well...i ended up spilling how i felt to my gf just then on msn...here's how it went.

gf says:
I don't want us to be over

me says:
hi

me says:
i'm sorry i feel this way too

me says:
but my gut feeling (never failed me before) is telling me you're not 100% into me. it's ok if you're not, i understand. i know there is something going on between you and your boss so i'd rather you just be honest with me instead of just flirting all the time and waiting for something to happen. i can't do it if you're not serious about the relationship. i'm getting to hurt and i really like you and it's not fair on me.

me says:
so i'd rather stop ther heartache now before i get really close to you.

me says:
i kinda feel like i'm just in the background. I have since we been together but i was just getting to know you better. i also read a convo between you and friend on msn and you spilt how you felt about your boss, i had to read it because i know you woulden't be honest with me. i read it today and feel pretty heart broken.

me says:
i don't deserve this, i'm a very faithful and loving guy, i don't give myself away so easily to people but with you, having worked with you for half the year i deeply trusted you because i know you're a good person. but you need to get your shit together if you want to be with me. i don't want us to end but i want you to know how i feel.

gf says:
you have just blown me out of the water

gf says:
you are honestly the sweetest and best guy I have ever been with.

gf says:
didn't know you felt like this

gf says:
I don't have feelings for my boss

gf says:
if I did

gf says:
I would be with HIM

gf says:
and not you

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then we just said by for now and will chat later tonight.

Thoughts?


IM SO CONFUSED as to what to do!

I know that i'll know exactly how i feel when i look her in the eye tonight.

😢

Well good luck with all that.

Hey sb!

Nighty Night all.

so much for my advice....

she's hiding behind chat....anyone of us can hide our emotions that way and she's providing lip service to you...she knows you're upset so she's trying to smooth it over.

if she didn't ahve feelings for her boss, then why did she go as far as she did with what she typed to her friend?

let her goooooooo...........

^^I think so too...

Hopefully she now sees your foreal.

Tauro, you did all the "talking"....something this meaningful would warrant one of you picking up the damn phone and talking it out...

what Aguaaqi said

Nighty Night...once again

i would be willing to bet that you don't see her tonight...

Hmm...look at the pattern...she was your boss and she slept with you....now she's talking about her boss in a sexual way...there's no misunderstanding...what Prime said in another thread holds true ---she's working her way up the ladder.

you said it yourself - what a head fuck...

she tried calling me peach but i didn't pick up because i didn't want to talk about it until tonight because my head has been spinning something massive and i didn't want to potentially end it over the phone.

so i just told her in words, which she would of re-read i imagine because she didn't reply for a good 20 minutes. i think i agree with agi, a misunderstanding on my part and perhaps some carelessness from her in regards to respecting me.

maybe this is what we both needed to become closer.

yeah, nothing like questioning her honesty early in a relationship that will make her change her ways...

good luck tauro

thanks guys, thanks.

it is hard but it is honestly the weirdest and most exciting relatsionship i've been in. never a dull moment. i have lots of libra in my signs and she has quite a bit of fire, i think my taurus and her cancer moon work together.

time will tell, man what a day!

maybe he'll listen to you, branh...

like i said, i'll know tonight. i can see through people when i talk to them. worked in retail for 5 years and could talk to anyone, i could just pick them.

i'll just ask her some questions and go with my gut feeling, it's never failed me before.

she's only been in 3 relationships, she was single for past year. she dosen't need to be with someone and shes told me she dosen't need sex, like most aquas on this board, it's not on their top of the list (for the girls anyway).

my money is still on her not coming to see you tonight...

she will, said she was leaving work early.

"and shes told me she dosen't need sex, like most aquas on this board, it's not on their top of the list (for the girls anyway)."

That's what you get for being square Scorpio.😛

nice insight agi, interesting. aquas are facinating, sometimes my gf runs red lights because her head is a million miles away and we crack up. they think alot. she dreams all the time. so much to learn from their minds.

there's only so much judgement you can without actually meeting and getting to know the person. She worked in a job at the start of the year that she was at pretty much close to 70 hours a week, long hours doing recruitment for a human resource company. I've met many of her friends (being an aqua she is) and i can that from her friends and from past recollections of the stories they had to tell that she is a genuinely good person. The problem i face today is if she is going to be faithful to me and she pretty much she said could be with her boss but chose not too, don't worry, i'm not giving in that easily. I still have yet to talk to her tonight. She isn't the sort of person to use people, she goes out of her way to do things for people and always puts herself last (a primary female aquarian trait, humanitarian).

i respect his opinion but it dosen't match my girlfriend that's all. she's not a user, she would drive in snow, hail or rain to help someone, she's saved me a few times when i was out drinking!

She's a spindoctor....mark mine and branh's words.

well if that's the case she will feel the full wrath of a betrayed taurus!

full wrath of a betrayed taurus? did she commit to you? has she admitted to sleeping with her boss?

you say you face the problem of knowing if she's going to be faithful to you? you're questioning her fidelity so early in this "relationship"? This is a self-fulfilling prophecy...if you keep this up, she will be walking from you with absolutely no regret and then you're back to square one with dealing with getting over her.

cut your losses, babe...seriously.

oh and another thing, you said she said that if she wanted to be with the boss, she could....

come on...what is that? a scare tactic? a guilt trip?

She's spinning you?

if her boss calls her one night i'll just grab the phone and let him know i'm there, he will get the idea.

if her boss calls her one night i'll just grab the phone and let him know i'm there, he will get the idea.



WTF WOULD YOU DO THAT?

"on this board, i hear about aqua men cheating all the time. it seems strange to me, because we love to be loved by only one...but we are picky and we will choose that one carefully."

Are you sure you aren't confusing your Libra self with your Aqua self? That sentence sounds very "Libra".

yes, aqua men are very unfaithful. one of my friends from uni is an aqua and he has been with his gf for years and he cheats all the time, i keep telling him karma will come back to him but he won't listen.

any sign is capable of cheating. the sign is irrelevant i guess.

agree that the complaints about each sign are always consistant.

"I know two Aquarian men, and 1 Aquarian woman who openly cheat during their marriage."

Aquarians are great at rationalizing things, so I can see that happening, but really-it depends on the individual.

You're about to witness one patient heffer get pissed off at one young calf.

Tauro = if you're basing this off of astrology, listen to your fellow Taurus!

Break it off!

i'll know in about 5 hours what i'm going to do.

2 months is TOO SOON for any Aqua to commit to anyone....you pbly freaked her out with your Taurus emotion.

i don't know if it will be chaotic and full of rage, it's only been 2 months.
tomorrow morning i'll wake up knowing that i want to do. I can always think clearer after i wake up. ok what if i said this...

the msn convo i posted before at the start of this thread was from 2 days after we hooked up not 2 weeks, got the dates mixed up.

perhaps she realised what sort of person i was and lost interest in her boss?

correct. nothing was "official" for a week after we hooked up.

guys, you're missing it...she's yet to commit...whether it was 2 days or 2 weeks, this is an Aquarius he's talking about....

they love their unattached independence. the Aqua i was engaged to didn't commit to me until 4 or 5 months of dating and he made the first move.

look at all the posts on this board about people confused over Aquas and wondered what went wrong....

you throw emotional attachment in their face when they're not ready, they run! one thing i learned; it's on their time, not yours.

yep one week...must be a record for the aquas.